Well today my school went on a field trip and well like first off it was 6th 7th and 8th went and im in 8th but the bus was full so we had to go on the 7th grade one, and well on the way back I had to pee really bad and we were and hour and a half away from home. I got so sick because I had to go so bad, I finally had to get my friend get a treacher to ask if the bus could stop and i could use the bathroom, and my friend had to go and ask because I couldnt get up it hurt so bad. Well the bus pulled over at a gas station to let me pee and it was really embarrasing because when I got off the bus to go, this loud mouth girl heard my friend tell her and screamed to the whole bus that I had to go pee. I was so embarrased mainly because the guy I like was on that bus and he likes me too. Do you think me having to do that is embarrasing because i'm so embarrased! and my friend said when I was gone the boy i liked said I hope shes ok and then tried to look for me. I hope she wss telling the truth I asked five times lol (because I was so embarrased) but do you think he still likes me. Because Im so embarrased and people were laughing. Please help thanks(: P.S. my mom said its nothing to be embarrased about and that I couldn't help it.
It really is nothing at all to be embarrassed about. Everyone pees, obviously. I've been in situations similar to this one plenty of times and I've never even been a little bit embarrassed by it. If anyone actually makes fun of you for it or thinks you're "weird" or something, then they're the ones who have the problem, not you. No need to be embarrassed at all.
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It's me again i'm the girl that doesn't want to go back to school. I have some friends but somtimes at lunch a bunch of boys come and tell my friends to leave. They ask me questions like: why don't you come over for a little studying of the human body or another will ask me lets have sex i've got condems.The guy literly had a condem with him. I'd tried to leave but one them says stay you didn't get your kiss then he grabs me then kisses me on the lips.I push away and I slap him and ran out of the cafeteria. Even though you gave me advice i'm still to scared to go back to school. The stories of these boys harassing me still haunt me.
That is horrifying. These guys are way out of line. Are there never any teachers in your cafeterias? At the school I went to, the cafeteria was always monitored. You really need to tell someone. If you haven't told your parents yet, you may want to tell them before you go back to school, that way they'll know why you're worrying and might be able to help you figure out what to do.
As for the guys, I'm not sure where you're located so I don't know the laws there, but you might still be able to report what they did to the police. I don't know what kind of trouble they'll get in, but it'll at least show them that you're not going to put up with their behavior.
The key thing you need to do in this situation is tell someone. A teacher, parent, school counselor, the police, anybody. You shouldn't be dealing with this alone.
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I'm to scared to go back to school.All the boys are amolst bullies to me. They sexually harass me and touch me.One day when I was walking home from school and a bunch of boys surrounded me and saying hey babe your hot why don't you come to my house to smush I say please let me go I want to go home. I take out my cell phone to call my dad and one of them takes my phone and throws it in the street. I try to run but one of them grabs me and slaps me then pushes me to the ground.They all run away. I'm so scared to go back to school how do I deal with the boys harassing me?
What these boys are doing is not acceptable. In fact, sexual harassment is a crime. If these boys start doing the same things again, you definitely need to tell someone. If it's happening at school, tell a teacher. And tell your parents, too. And if you can, try not to walk home alone. See if you can find a friend to walk with you, or if it's possible, try to get a parent to come pick you up.
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How do I start from scratch? as in a job? make money and become independent?
college experience has taught me nothing but anxiety and dread of bills. i lived paycheck to paycheck so no savings...
I am talking no money to my name, no place, about 5000$ credit card debt, recently lost my scholarship (which payed for home, pocket money, school, food...etc), and no job prospects.
I just finished my masters in media but can't find a job that would hire me... somehow everything I've found related to "media" comes up as information technology, programming, or journalism. Which is nothing close to what I do... My BA background is in Art (conceptual, and photography)... I had something in mind like art director or photo or media director but I lack the experience, and don't know where to start to get into that feild...
Everything i've taken delves in theory, i need practical skills... so how do i get that if the jobs that offer it want "experience" first?
I can't even get a job at my local dunkin... and how exactly will that help me develop in my field? should i get something like to earn income then figure it out or what? wing it vs plan it? how?
my temp solution is to go back to my hometown and live with my parents for a while (i know very embarrassing for a 23 yro)... 'cept i don't know where to go from there... any ideas?
how do I plan this???? My dad is freaking out and butting into my business... and since he pretty much is going to be feeding and housing me i am sort of stuck listening to what he approves of and what he doesn't... (which ultimately i have to listen to if i were to keep things civil living with my 'rents)
Help!
If you have to move back in with your parents for a little while, that's nothing to be embarrassed about. Everyone struggles from time to time, trust me. I know from experience. I saw on the news a while back that it's been really hard lately for recent college graduates to get a job in their chosen field when they're right out of college, so you're definitely not the only one going through this. If I were you I would continue looking for a job in your chosen fields, but you may want to take another job in something else just to make ends meet for a little while until a better opportunity comes along.
If you have the time, you may also want to consider trying to get an internship somewhere. They're usually not paid, but it'll give you some experience in your field for when you start applying for jobs. Also, if you can, maybe you could try to find a "starter" job (can't think of the word I'm looking for) in your field, and try to work your way up from there.
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Hi I'm going to be a sophomore and I want to attract guys more instead of being just that girl. I'm not saying I want to be a slut I just want a guy to like me to boost my confidence. I'm not the most attractive girl I'm "5foot7" and I weigh about 175 which is a little on the heavy side so guys probally don't like that ecspecially in my school it's all about judging. I just want to get some attention Im allways myself but I don't get it I'm not good at this whole flirting thing I've never had a boyfriend or my first kiss which I want bc I allways feel alone at home noone to text please give me some good tactics
As cliche as it sounds, confidence is key. Whenever you feel good about yourself, it shows. I know tons of guys who say the most attractive thing a girl can do is be confident about herself. If you have a hard time feeling good about yourself naturally, try wearing clothes or fixing your hair in ways that make you feel good. Don't worry about what you think the guys will like, focus on what makes you feel like you look good. The confidence will show.
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I'm 13/f,and have a crush on my friend who's 17/m.He went out with my bestfriend Chloe,and when he broke up with her,she was devistated.She became sick all the time,and depressed.She didn't get over him,until she found another boyfriend last week.
I really like my bestfriend,but I don't know if I should ask him out,after that happened between him and Chloe.Chloe was asleep for a total of 3 weeks.And I don't wanna ruin me and Chloe's friendship.And then,I also don't know if he'd go out with me,because when I told him I date older guys,he said that could be dangerous.And I even drop hints.I tell him he's cute,and he laughs and says thanks.Shouldn't that let him know something?Should I ask him out,or shouldn't I?
Even though your friend seems like she's over her ex, it's still probably not a good idea to try to date him. It sounds like your friend didn't take the break-up very well, and just because she has a new boyfriend doesn't mean she's completely over her ex. If you do ask this boy out, you run a huge risk of losing your best friend. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. Put yourself in her shoes and imagine how you would feel if she did the same thing to you.
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I'm a female,35, and my boyfriend's 32. We started going out 4 years ago and things were good and he said he loved me, then after about 8 months he broke up with me saying the last couple of months had felt more like a friendship and the spark had gone. I was devastated as I really loved him. We stayed in contact then about 4 months later things happened and although he had some reservations, we gave it another shot. Anyway it worked out and he said he loved me again, he didn't know what had been going through his head before. He moved in with me about 2 years ago. Our sex life over that time has got less frequent. About 3 months ago we decided to buy a flat together (my idea and I did have to persuade him a bit), but the purchase fell through and he's now just ended our relationship again for the same reason as before. He's been thinking this for the last 4 months or so, thought that buying the flat might help, but now that's fallen through he's not willing to try to inject a spark back into the relationship as he says that for him it's over. I really love him and don't know if I should let things go or if not how I can try to get him back.
I've been in a fairly similar situation before, and from experience I can tell you the best thing you can do is let him go. It's definitely hard, I know, but the sooner you do it the easier it's going to be for you. You deserve someone who's going to love you as much as you love them, not mess with your head because they have no idea what they want.
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Well, first of all, the boy I'm talking about is this guy: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) that I talked about in that question.
In answer to that question, I decided to just be friendly. Today, I was talking to him online and I had finally had a chance to talk to him at school and he was friendly and all. Online, I said, "so how old are you?" Because I just wanted to make sure he was actually 12.
He said, "I have to go, bye :) see ya :) " .. but he was still online ages after that. Is it because I asked him how old he was? I know that I might be overreacting, but I HATE having people annoyed at me or angry with me even though they say their fine.
So what do I do now? He's still online . . should I be like, "your still online..." But I don't want to be mean or rude! Or should I just pretend that I don't see him online, or something?
Unfortunately I can't see your link, so I'm gonna answer this the best I can without it. It does seem a little weird that he said that instead of answering your question, but maybe he was just in a hurry. I would just wait until the next time you two talk and then try to ask him again, and then if he avoids the question for the second time then something's definitely up. I wish I could help more, but like I said, I can't see your link. If you need any more advice feel free to message me again.
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are cigars addictive like cigerattes? are they AS addictive? will one have me hooked? thanks
Cigars can be addictive. They contain nicotine, like cigarettes, and even though you may not inhale the smoke, the nicotine can be absorbed through the lining of the mouth. I highly doubt one cigar will have you hooked, but if you don't want to get hooked then you'd probably be better of not smoking at all.
This site has more info about it: http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Tobacco/cigars
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17/female:
so I have a problem with cutting, and I haven't for like a couple months but recently ive started to get worse and worse urges and I really want to cut again, I've tried coloring,listening to music but usually I listen to depressing song. I don't talk to my parents and I don't go to a counselor anymore, i tried to tell my mom that I wanted to go back to counseling but she told me to write in my journal but I hate doing that, any suggestions other than talking to people? I feel selfish and I am so sorry this is long i have also started working out more than I have before because I am fat, and I want to puke most times I eat anything. What is wrong with me? I don't have bulimia but I have symptoms of it and yeah I will shut up now I am so sorry.-McKenna-
Thank you for your question. You don't have to apologize, I'm here to give advice, and the longer the question is the better because that means I get more information.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I personally have suffered from both of those issues growing up. I know how tough quitting can be. The first thing you should do is remove any sharp objects that you have used before or could use to harm yourself. Put them away somewhere because leaving them out in the open can make you more tempted to cut. When you get the urge to cut, take a deep breath and relax. Tell yourself that you're not going to cut yourself.
I understand the diary thing not working. Although it does help to get it out, a diary doesn't always work. Sometimes we just need people to hear us, and sometimes we need a response, which are things a diary can't do.
I really do think you should try to see a counselor. Is it possible for you to talk to a school counselor, maybe? But I think the best solution would be to sit your mom down and tell her everything. Tell her about your urges to cut, and that writing in a diary isn't helping and you really need to talk to someone who can help you. You might also want to tell her about your bulimia urges, too. Hopefully she'll be a little more supportive and try to get you the help you need.
If that doesn't work, try calling a support hotline. S.A.F.E. Alternatives is a support center specifically for self injury. You can visit their website here: http://www.selfinjury.com/ and you can call them at 1-800-dontcut. There are also a number of suicide hotlines you can call if you need to talk to someone.
I hope this helps. You seem like a very intelligent girl, and self harming is definitely not something you need to be doing.
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im still a virgin 17/male ive never had a girlfriend im a bit nervous getting close to girls my penis is really small im embarrassed
im not sure if any girl would stay with me im nervous about getting intimate with a girl
do girls care about penis size? will i be able to satisfy a girl?
Although I can't say that all girls don't care about size, I can say that a lot of girls don't. Every girl is different, but in my opinion, size really isn't a huge issue. It's all about how you use it. It's normal to be nervous, but if a girl can't accept you for you, then is she really worth your time? Wait until you're 100% comfortable with getting intimate before you do anything, and then just have confidence.
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Hi! So my mom started a new business on a business site called 'Etsy':
http://www.etsy.com/shop/SentimentsShoppe?ga_search_query=sentiment+&ga_search_type=seller_usernames
It's all about different types of jars with little notes inside. there are one's for friends, boyfriends, the holidays, ones to personalize, scriptures, and the like. She's had it up for only a month now but she's really generating some interest. She's been working on it for so long and so hard, and it's everything to her, so I wanted to surprise her with something special for Christmas. I thought it would be amazing if I could get her a little spot on a tv station to talk about her product. She did it before with a different business, but the contact found her I believe.
So my main question: How do I contact someone about my mom getting a little segment to talk about her product? I don't know who to contact or what t say and really need some help. I want to make this work for my mom! Thank you so much, you don't know what it means. Happy Holidays
I would check to see if there is a phone number listed for the news station in your area. Most news stations have web sites now, too, so you could check there and look for any phone numbers or even email addresses and email someone working for the station about it.
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I have a friend we've been friends for ages. He's got a baby on the way, but the babies Momma is in Jail. He's so afraid that he won't be able to get custody over his son, if his babies Momma is still in jail, when his son is born. Which should be in a couple of Months.
What can I do? He lives with me, and he doesn't have a job, but he's looking for one. He wants to do all he can possibly do to get custody of his kid, because he doesn't want the babies Momma's family to get custody because he's afraid he'll never see his kid. Her family hates him, and he doesn't like them, because they hate him.
The Babies Momma's grandma is who put her in jail, because she felt Babies Momma wasn't taking care of her present child properly. So apparently she has to do anger management and parenting classes, and she can't really get out of jail with out paying her bonds, and no one can do that for her.
What can I do to help him get custody of his baby?
What should I be doing to help him?
Someone please help me.
There's really not much you can do to help. He can try to talk to the child's mother to see if she'd be willing to let him have custody. If that doesn't work, he'll need to file a petition with the court to try to get custody of the child. He should do his best to get a job before that time so that he can show the court that he has a steady income and can support the child.
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18/Female. (sorry if its long)
I am 18 years old and I have a boyfriend who is 17 years old. And I live in my own 2 bedroom apartment. I used to have a roommate but she decided she didn't wanna live with me anymore. So i am currently living alone. My boyfriend says that once he turns 18 he wants to move in with me. He will be 18 in March. I would love it if he moved in with me but I am wondering if moving in together could ruin our relationship? I honestly don't think it will but I want others advice. For example, one of my best friends started living with her boyfriend at age 17, and they were together for a long time but they did fight. Eventually they ended. I am still friends with that guy and he says that it might ruin my relationship if we live together? Do you think that could happen? We both love each other and want it. So advice back would be great! thank you
Moving in with a boyfriend, especially at such a young age, can definitely put a strain on the relationship. I'm 20, and I've lived with three of my exes, and none of them ended well. The big problem is that you're around each other almost all the time, and it's pretty easy to start getting on each others nerves. The way I see it is, though, if you guys can't live together without it causing problems, then the relationship probably wasn't meant to be. If you do let him move in, just make sure you two each get your alone time, trust me, it's important.
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Hi 8)
ok i have a huge problem and its been on my mind for ages basically theres this boy i really like but he doesnt know me. he doesnt even know i exist. i see him sometimes but he hasnt ever seen me. ive had a crush on him for 5 and a half years now and i really want to meet him i hardly ever see him now only sometimes, and im always with parents when i do see him. i think im in love please help i need to find a way to speak to him, hes been on my mind a lot lately and i cant eat, think or study please help
thanks in advance (im 19)
xxx
Is there any way you can get away from your parents for a second when you see him? I'm not sure where you see him at, but if it's at a store or something, is it possible for you to tell them you're going to the bathroom and then go talk to him? If you know his name, you could try seeing if he has a myspace or facebook and message him on one of those. If nothing else, write your name and number on a piece of paper and hand it to him as you walk past him.
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So I saw your advice column and was hoping maybe you could help a bit, but it'll be long..
I'm 16/f
So I had broken up with my boyfriend awhile ago. He's still not over me and all that but during our relationship I liked one of my best friends. He's older, 18, just graduated high school. I guess two years isn't that big of a difference but you know, he has college and all that.
Well I like him again, alot. We would text all the time and we would pretty much tell each other everything. I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm at their house alot. He was into me, like I would never think he would like me but he always told me I was cute and would flirt with me, ect. So about a week ago we were texting till like 1:30 and we were just talking like normal and he had said he wanted to call me but I couldn't cause if my parents heard me up then I'd get in trouble lol so we kept texting and I don't remember what we had said but he said, "Oh cause you only see me as a friend?" So I said, "Well what do you see me as?" He told me he saw me as a friend but was also attracted to me. So I was confused about that one. I really didn't want to tell him that I liked him but he asked what I saw him as so I just said a friend to a little bit more than that. Then he said, "Me too. It's weird" I told him I thought it might be weird to end up liking him cause I'm best friends with his sister. She knows I like him and she doesn't mind at all. So that's not even a problem.
But he said, "So should we like each other?" I'm not quite sure what that meant but maybe he was asking if we should confirm that we like each other? I have no idea. I said, "Do you want to?" He said, "Well I'm going to college in the spring and you're a little young so idk if it'd work?" So in the end we decided we would talk the next day about it. We never did. We haven't talked at all about it. I see him about twice a week but it was just casual. I know he likes me but I guess it's his way of saying we're just gonna be friends.
But at this point I don't know what I'm supposed to do or act.
I know he's gonna go to college and I've liked him for over a year but there is some hope but I'm not going on that side cause I know it'd be harder. I just don't know what to say to him and if I should text him. If I do I don't wanna be annoying and bugging him so I'm very lost. Sorry it was long but I would love it if you could help!!
He told you that you all could talk about it the next day, so he sort of owes you that conversation. I would just be honest. Tell him that you do like him, and then see what he says. It would be hard to maintain a relationship with him in college, but it's not impossible, especially if you're both committed to it. Just initiate the conversation with him and see where it goes.
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I want to get a corset off the internet but I dont know what size to wear? how can I get the right size? IM 5'5" and 148 if that helps.
Most clothing sites will have a size chart. When I need to know what size to order, I read the size chart to look at what areas I should measure (like waist, bust), then take a string and wrap it around the area, and put my finger on the string where it meets. Then I take a tape measurer and measure how long that part of the string is. It's always been pretty accurate for me, but going to a lingerie store and getting a professional fitting would definitely be more accurate.
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i'm 18 a freshman in college and my boyfriend is 20 a junior, our we on the same level? like is he too old for me?
You're both legal adults, and he's only two years older than you. I don't see anything wrong with the age difference at all. My boyfriend is six years older than me, and I don't see anything wrong with that, either. As long as you're both adults (for legal reasons), then age is just a number. It really depends on what you mean by being on the "same level", though. Are you happy with him? Do you feel like you're both on the same level? If so, then there's nothing wrong.
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hi i had sex with a guy i was dating like two or three months ago and i was taking the pill but the day after i ran out and then im just now like a week ago getting back on it but im always tired i get the hickups all the time i fee weak i feel sick i was eating dinner with my mom it was this stuff i use to like and as soon as i smelled it it made my belly turn and i hjust couldnt eat but i took a test a week after we had sex could it be the pill doing that to me ? i hada miscarriage before when i1st started taking the pill but i didnt know i was pregnant until it was too lated and im getting sharp pains that start at my belly button and it shoots all the way down my vag i have no idea what it is but i had the pain before but i was also on the pill before when i got the pain to so idk if im pregnant the test said i wasnt so i didnt stop taking the pill and i dont want to talk to my mom about it she would get mad that im on the pill she got mad when she found out my 35 year old sister was on it she doesnt like it cause what can happen when you on it and she also got pregnant with my brother on it so please help thanks alot
megan
If you didn't stop taking the pill until after you two had already had sex, then you're probably not pregnant. There's always a small chance, though, so I wouldn't completely rule it out yet. The pains in your stomach don't sound normal, though. Unfortunately, I can't offer much advice on this except that you should really see a doctor. If your mom has to take you to the doctor, just tell her you're having bad pains in your stomach. You don't necessarily have to mention anything about the birth control. But if it comes down to it, your health and safety are much more important than not upsetting your mom by being on birth control, so go to a doctor as soon as possible.
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soo me and this guy had a thing at the end of the summer it was only for a few weeks but i was really starting to fall for him. then he just stopped texting me and told me he's kinda with this girl now. i work with him and i kinda want to make him realize like "wow thats what i missed out on". i don't like being played and messed with..how can i do thiss?
Trust me, you don't want to be "that girl". You could try to make him want you, but it could also fail, and then you'll just look desperate. I'm not trying to be rude, I've just seen this situation enough times to know that trying to make him jealous usually isn't a good idea. He's in a relationship right now, so don't interfere. Go out, have fun, and don't think about him. Don't let him know that his "game" got to you. Honestly, the best way to drive a guy crazy is by acting like you're perfectly happy without him.
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