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Moving in together?
18/Female. (sorry if its long)
I am 18 years old and I have a boyfriend who is 17 years old. And I live in my own 2 bedroom apartment. I used to have a roommate but she decided she didn't wanna live with me anymore. So i am currently living alone. My boyfriend says that once he turns 18 he wants to move in with me. He will be 18 in March. I would love it if he moved in with me but I am wondering if moving in together could ruin our relationship? I honestly don't think it will but I want others advice. For example, one of my best friends started living with her boyfriend at age 17, and they were together for a long time but they did fight. Eventually they ended. I am still friends with that guy and he says that it might ruin my relationship if we live together? Do you think that could happen? We both love each other and want it. So advice back would be great! thank you
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I guess I'm the exception in this case, because I moved in with my now-fiance when I was 19. We've been together for 4 years now and are planning on getting married next year!
It all depends on the relationship. Moving in together doesn't so much ruin the relationship as it does amplify any problems you may have had. So, if your boyfriend was lazy, you'd see more of it and be really cranky about it. That, and it's also really hard to sort out the "who buys what, who does what chores" thing. Then again, those are all issues that you'd need to confront anyhow when you did move in together later in your relationship.
Fighting in a relationship isn't the end of the world. I fight with my guy all the time. It's what kind of fighting and how it ends that matters. If you have fights because you're confronting an issue, and the fights end with both of you coming away with a better understanding, then you're golden. If you're bickering constantly and refusing to listen to each other, not so good.
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Moving in with a boyfriend, especially at such a young age, can definitely put a strain on the relationship. I'm 20, and I've lived with three of my exes, and none of them ended well. The big problem is that you're around each other almost all the time, and it's pretty easy to start getting on each others nerves. The way I see it is, though, if you guys can't live together without it causing problems, then the relationship probably wasn't meant to be. If you do let him move in, just make sure you two each get your alone time, trust me, it's important.
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