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Why do I always feel alone?
16/f
I don't know what's wrong with me.Lately I feel alone all the time.I don't have a lot of friends,but the ones I have are a gift from God and they are always there to help me and hear me out.But it seems it doesn't matter,I still feel alone.I don't have a boyfriend right now,which really bothers me...and I know it shouldn't...but since I'm single I feel unattractive,invisible,as if I'm boring...I also know it's stupid that I only feel beautiful when I have a boyfriend,even though people tell me I am and I don't need a bf to prove me that.I feel as if no one is ever going to notice me and I'm gonna end up single for the rest of my life.This makes me sound shallow,I am aware of it.But that's just the way it is and the way I feel...
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I understand. it's hard being a teenager. I personally don't have a lot of friends, and the one i do have happens to be my fiance. Be thankful that you have friends to talk to and that will listen, its a gift that most people take forgrannit. It shouldn't matter if you are beautiful. everyone has something beautiful about them. IF you get a boyfriend because he thinks your beautiful, then you won't know whether or not he likes you for you. I'm not saying that beauty is a bourden, but when you are beautiful, people tend to be around you for just that reason. your 16 sweetie. Your not going to find that guy who is perfect for you. Love will find you when the time is right. I know that sounds like a bunch of bull, but i had the same thought process when i was your age, and i turned 19 and found the woman that i have always been searching for. It will find you.
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Heh first of all, stop being so hard on yourself! :) Don't worry so much about what others think about you, and don't excuse yourself for expressing your true feelings! Though since this is easier said than done, and believe me I know, I'll jump to the next part.
Although I'm sure you're a very attractive girl, it is normal to feel like others don't see you that way, especially if you feel like you're ready to have a boyfriend but are left feeling unwanted.
Put yourself out there! Realise your worth and get on the market. Try to be more sociable at school. Are there any boys you like or are interested in? Even if it's only as friends at first, get to know them!
It's great that you have good friends. Talk to them and let them know how you feel. You need to communicate with the people around you, especially those you can trust. Having people to trust is already a huge blessing, so embrace it and let out your true feelings. The only thing people on advicenators can offer is indeed advice, not a solution. YOU are the only one with power to change your attitude, self, or lifestyle, and if you really want a change, then get cracking!
Maybe you want to make a gameplan, maybe you're still too shy to jump into action and want to start out slow. Either way, the only way to get forward is to start moving.
Try to think and focus on any specific time of day you feel alone. Are there any patterns or is it a constant state of being? Be as honest with yourself as possible. Some self analysis here could probably go a long way. Are you feeling alone during, before or after a particular event? Do you feel most alone when you're at home, at school, where?
Finally, everybody's different and everyone has different needs when it comes to being happy. Each person has to work and take an active approach towards satisfying their own. Get active, make what YOU want, HAPPEN.
Are you envious of others around you who maybe have boyfriends? Of course there is nothing wrong with being single, at all, but if you seek that special bond with someone then look for it. Don't be afraid of boys rejecting you.
Not feeling alone can also come from many sources in your life. Try to keep your mind open and try new things, maybe get involved in new activities or take up a new hobby. Keeping active around other people is sure to take away some of the blues. I feel alone when I'm away from my comfort zones, and my main comfort zone is my boyfriend, who's also my best friend. Lately however, we haven't been able to see each other that often and seeing my friends and watching an uplifting movie really cheers me up.
Feeling alone isn't a constant state which you're going to have to live with. Keep that in mind, and find out what you want and love. You need to have someone you can trust and lean on, and speak to when things get rough. Wanting that isn't unusual, it's human.
P.S. Sorry for being so scattered. Hope to have helped a tad :) You seem like a great girl
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