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boy trouble
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ok i have a huge problem and its been on my mind for ages basically theres this boy i really like but he doesnt know me. he doesnt even know i exist. i see him sometimes but he hasnt ever seen me. ive had a crush on him for 5 and a half years now and i really want to meet him i hardly ever see him now only sometimes, and im always with parents when i do see him. i think im in love please help i need to find a way to speak to him, hes been on my mind a lot lately and i cant eat, think or study please help
thanks in advance (im 19)
xxx
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You really just need to start with saying "hi". I know it's pretty simple advice, but it's really all you can do. Next time you see him just say "Hi" and introduce yourself. If he acknowledges you for a few minutes he'll remember you next time. Small things work. It'll be better than sitting around waiting for him the rest of your life. Get to know him, even just a little bit. It might be a good thing or a bad thing.
Hope I helped. :/ It's a sticky situation.
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Maybe you could find him on facebook or something of that matter and then gradually start talking to him. Then you will get comfortable with talking to him and maybe when you see him in public you will be able to go up to him and talk to him. Hope this helps!
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Is there any way you can get away from your parents for a second when you see him? I'm not sure where you see him at, but if it's at a store or something, is it possible for you to tell them you're going to the bathroom and then go talk to him? If you know his name, you could try seeing if he has a myspace or facebook and message him on one of those. If nothing else, write your name and number on a piece of paper and hand it to him as you walk past him.
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Hi there!
I honestly been there before. I was twelve when I met him. He knew who I was because of a mutual friend, but we kind of talk, but nothing more. I had the biggest crush on him, but we were never more then anything. Then as we got into high school he ignored me. But I really wanted him. Like I wanted him to talk to me and get to know each other. He was always in my head. It been like this till Junior year in high school. I dated around and stuff, but like I really wanted him. Then finally one day, I had enough. There are other guys, who are great guys, who talked to me, listened to me and made me laugh. Now we are in college, we do our own thing. This is what I learned, don't waste your time on someone who don't give you the time of the day. There are other great guys out there who would give you time of the day. See, the way I see it is, he missed out not me. I now have a guy who I am talking to and getting to know who respects me, likes me for who I am. He treats me so well. So the point is, don't waste your time pinning over a guy who don't give you a time of a day. You deserve someone who will give you their time, and you deserve someone who pays attention to you, and truly respects you.
But, if you really want to go talk to him, then go up to him and introduce yourself. Or if you both are in a place somewhere, just start a conversation, like if you see him wearing a t- shit of a band you like, say something like hey, I see you like (Name of band). I love them. or something along those lines to start a conversation. And hey maybe you guys might have some connection. So I hope my advice to you helps. But if after the conversation and nothing comes out of it, then move on. Don't waste your time.
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I'm going to give you a warning before I give you advice, so bear with me. Here's the thing about a crush. Crushes are often terribly disappointing. Crushes are superficial and therefore usually doomed to failure as anything more. You can't be in love with someone who doesn't know you exist. One cute guy isn't the be-all and end-all of the world. He's not worth losing ground in school and life in general over, because he's a stranger.
That said, if you want to meet him you need to find out where he is. Does he do any activities? Have a job somewhere you can get to? Strategically bump into him and strike up a conversation. Even something as simple as "You look awfully familiar... do I know you from somewhere?" will help to break the ice. From there, if he shows receptiveness, go ahead and ask him out! If he's cold or seems weirded out by your approach, hold off. Just flash him a smile next time you see him to cement yourself in his memory.
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Hi there, thanks for the question!
You need to make a move. I'm telling you, guys love girls who make the first move. Even if your a little embarrassing and awkward about it at first, he will really appreciate that you made the move first. Because believe it or not, guys are scared to make the first move too. He doesn't know you like him. He can't read your mind. You need to just talk to him, and keep talking to him. Once you start talking to him, I think you will feel better.
*EDIT* Does any of your friends know him? Maybe you can go with that approach and do it through a friend. Hangout with both of them. Or maybe your friends with one of his friends? Take that approach.
Start off with a simple "Hi!" in the hallway, maybe he will think about you all class. :) If you have any classes with him, drop him a facebook message or text asking him what the homework was. And if your not, drop him one anyways :)
Hope I helped! Drop me another inbox to tell me how it goes! Good Luck!
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