so 3 days ago my friend told me that she smoked weed that day. i pretended to be all cool about it and laughed along with him but i'm worried. he also told me that he got a months worth on cigs. what do i do? do i just let him or try to stop him or what??
Tell him he should stop now. Sooner the better. Because eventually he is just going to lose interest in everything and will fade away because of it. If he continued for some time and you still happen to keep in contact with him, he won't be the same guy that you knew before. Weed is just as bad as smoking cigarettes if not slightly worse. If you want to save his life, get him to stop now, or eventually your going to lose him...
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have you ever lost a friend? What did you feel like? Do you still miss him or her? I think I'm on the verge of losing my friend, and i just wanted to know what you have gone thru. Thanks.
Its not a fun feeling, of course. You feel like a part of you was just ripped apart from you if they were a really good friend. After awhile, you might forget about them for some time, but when you get nostalgic, it hurts to know you lost a good friend. If you are on the verge of losing a friend, you should stop try to stop it. Losing a good friend can hurt worse than breaking up with a significant other. Though you might not think it like that, it will feel that way after awhile.
I've lost too many. Simply because I move around too much. Heck, my fam isn't even a part of the army. So I've never had any childhood friends, or best friends I've known for years on end. I've never had that in a long shot.
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i know after hearin this u will surely say me to forget her.she told to one of my friend that she said yes to me becuse her friends forced her to,then she said to my mom that she said yes because she observed that i will lose my carrer by ending up with bad results in my 10th standard and she did not wanted herself to be the reason of it.she also said that i had been wasting my time behind her.actually we had decided to think about extending this relationship after 30th of april,2006.but one day when we were talking she suddenly took out the topic that i never asked that whether i she loves me or not.i means that she wanted me to ask her that ''do you love me''to which she wanted me to say yes,it wasn't supposed to be 2nd december , but 30 th april.and that same day itself she wrote to me that ''sorry it will take time to say that i love you''. now you only tell wat should i do.every question which is made to her that proves she had loved me and she still loves me,she answers that her friends had forced her to do it.even in a letter where she expressed her grief about how terrible her life is she said that she loves me more than her mom and her sister.i am really confused to myself too,please advice-i need your precious advice
Shes obviously having a hard time with something. If you love her and know she loves you, you ought to go to her. Show her you love her more than she loves you, she will like that very much. It doesn't matter if her friends forced her into anything or what your mom says or anything like that! If you two love each as much as I can read in this question, then she will understand that you want her back.
Love has no boundaries. It doesn't matter if your failing at a job or suck at life. It doesn't matter if your a winner or a loser. Whether time is a completely ordeal or not. By her some flowers or something and go see her.
Shes really confused as well,and is probably having trouble with friends and/or family. She doesn't know what to do with you and might even wonder if you care for her. And see, that where I'm getting at. She wants to know that you love her before she will say she loves you. And if you show her, then she will show you. Though I can't make total promises, I can say that if you can show her you love her no matter what, she will love you back just as much.
I hope this help you and maybe brought your spirits up a little if at all...
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well im getting spacers in like 5 hours and i am very scared i wont to know how long will they hurt?
They hurt for a few days. And you wont want to eat anything for a week. But you gotta keep in mind it will help through the process of straightening your teeth. Without it, they can't help you. Im really sorry to say, but you gotta suck it up and take it until the pain subsides. Take Ibuprofen if you have to, but dont over do it...
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i want to live longer and feel heilthier and become stronger i feel as if im just going down when i need up so my question is what can i do to live longer?
and im scared to quit smokeing because i heard when you quit your more pron to get sick is this true?
thank you very much for helping me :)
During the process of getting over nicotine, your are most likely to feel worse. But its actually better to quit now than to keep going. By continuing to smoke, your basically shaving off years by every puff(exaggeration). The sooner you quit, the longer you can live for.
But after you quit, its all on you again. You have to eat healthy, exercise at least weekly, and continue to not smoke. Its a life choice, and a very hard one at that. But it will be worth it all in the end when you know you don't have to live with any lung diseases or lung cancer. When you don't have to rely on a product that destroys your body. When you know you made the choice, instead of not doing anything at all...
But its all up to you...
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Okay, why do guys ALWAYS freak out when they hear their girlfriend ask them this question: "Do you love me?" I don't see what the big issue is. It doesn't mean the end of our relationship, does it?
It makes some people feel insecure, especially if they aren't the settling down type. Not all guys will freak out per say though. But its also a very discouraging question. Because its basically saying you don't completely trust that they love you, which can hurt a lot. If you have told your BF this, then you should apologize and tell him your intentions. If you didn't, then don't. Its a very hurtful question to ask within a relationship. Though it may not seem like it, you could be saying more than you intend to...
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14/f
Hi! Ok, I am a BIG Christian and I want to stay a virgin until I am married. That's one of my goals. Well, I don't have a boyfriend right now, even though I have had dork ones in the past, and I get... how should I say it... sexual desires. Like I'm afraid that I want to have sex SO bad and that I'll do it before I'm married. I don't want that! TO reduce these, I can't masturbate or any of that shit, and I don't know anyting else. What could I do to reduce sexual desires? Because it seems sooo hard! I mean, come one! It's just aaah! I want to have sex and stuff, but I want to stay a virgin until I'm married (I mentioned that before too many times, lol, sorry!) So, what do you say I do? Anything to reduce sexual desires?
This is a serious question------ please don't delete!
I find it great that you don't want to have sex until your married. Its a a gold star for you in my book b^_o
But the best way to avoid any sort of lust for sex is simply to avoid situations where those desires will show. Such as if a BF tries something or asks. You have to firmly say no and mean it. Pray to God to help you through this if you think praying helps. It helps give you hope and keep you in focus. Plus you can always keep your mind occupied through things like school work or church events. Hobbies and other things like that will also help.
Its understandable that it will be hard, but you have to be determined and work at it. Eventually, it will all come natural to you and you won't even sweat something like this. Because you have a long way to go at your age, and though you want to have sex now, guys are going to push you on more and more as you and they get older. But if you practice abstinence and don't get caught up in any situation that puts you in things that lead you astray, you will find life much easier. And keep praying, if you think it will help. God will always be there to help you if you believe he will.
I still think its great your choosing to wait. Its a choice too many people I know didn't make and now have a lot to deal with...
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My mom wants me to be a total conformist and I flat-out refuse, but she yells at me because I don't wear make-up or spend years on my hair or dumb myself down for boys. Then she yells at me for not doing my schoolwork and stuff that just contradicts everything she said 5 minutes ago she wants me to do. I usually have really good control over my temper but she simply will not allow me to remain calm when we argue, so I yell at her (she's the only person I've ever had to yell at in my entire life) and she smacks me! Do you see a way out of my predicament, because I don't. 15/f
I'm glad that your not trying to be some conformist thats described as a street corner prostitute. Though school work actually is important, not trying to agree with your mom or anything...
Ever tried working a compromise? Though I'm not asking you become a prostitute librarian or anything like that, I mean, a little make is okay and school work is important for anyone's future. Maybe you can try to work it out with your mom, instead of trying to be the complete opposite of what she wants.
Now I still want you to be you, and that seems to be a smart person, but you have to see to it that no matter what your going to conform to something, even if its not what your mom wants. You really only have three choices that I can come up with, and I usually have a lot more to offer.
You can:
1] conform
2] still flat-out refuse
3] find a way between
I don't expect great respect for what I came up with, but its better than going with option 1 or 2.
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This is a very strange question, I'm sure. I'm 14 years old, and most people I meet for the first time outside of my family and friends think that I'm at least 17 years old, because of my appearance and general demeanor. I met a guy who I thought was 17, and he thought that I was that age as well... but he turned out to be 19 years old. Anyway, nothing really happened but I still think of him after a year, and I haven't spoken to him in at least half a year. I'm upset because this happens a lot; people think I'm much older than I actually am. I get emotionally attached to some of these people, and vice versa, but consequently nothing ever works between us. I'm not sure what I should do in these circumstances, because I've been through lots of emotional trauma because of it.
Then don't do it. Go for people your own age, no matter how out of place it might seem. Your better off dealing with problems your age has to deal with than with people's problems that are much older than you.
Though it is much better to look older than how you are. Adults respect your more because they think your much more mature. People tend to trust people who seem older. Your going to get a lot over time, so its better to give up on people who guess your age and be with people who know your age. If you get carried away with hanging out with people older than you, you will find yourself in more problems than you need, especially at 14.
So trust me, your much better off just being you and not trying to be someone older.
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since drinkging red bull makes your heart race really fast...would that be counted as excercising?
Ah, no. Exercise is different from just increased heart beats. It acts as a stimulant and thats one of its effects. Its actually quite bad for you if you drink a lot. The crash will seriously suck and you'll just get lazier. Sadly to say, your better off with protein shakes and running in the morning than thinking a red bull will help you.
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My best friend in the whole world is flurting wih my boyfriend.What should i do
Nothing.
Starting something will make things worse than its worth, even if she is truly flirting with him.
Your most likely being a little protective of your relationship and are jumping to conclusions. Its totally natural, especially if you really feel something for the guy. You simply don't want to lose him. But that doesn't mean you should think your best friend is flirting with him.
Just keep an eye on them, and watch what he does. Hes the one you should be more worried about than your friend, just cause hes a guy, if you know what I mean.
Though if it leads to unmistakable signs of him cheating, go ahead and jump to any conclusion you want and pray you can hold yourself back enough not to kill him.
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what do i do? i feel so alone and i'm doing stupid things. i feel like i have no friends. and that everyone hates me. i'm so insecure and i relly hate life right now. i hate being me. i hate who i am, and who i have been.
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Its a totally normal feeling. I'm most certain it will eventually pass, but in the mean time, you should try to spend as much time with friends or people you know will acknowledge you. Maybe even tell them how your feeling. Attention and encouragement are great cures for loneliness, especially if your friends want to help you through it. It tends to show whose really there for you and whose not.
Best thing to do is actually tell someone. Face to face. As hard as that might sound, its worth it. It will help you get out that negativity and you will feel slightly if not much better. Maybe you just need to feel like you exist to someone, like you actually have a purpose. Trues friends will always tell you your worth having around and wont point out anything you have done wrong. It could be time you change certain habits and ideas. What those are I couldn't tell you, but you can fix it all by not doing them and finding better, more productive if you can, things to do over those bad habits or ideas.
But know you are never alone in any situation. You have friends that care for you. Life will always suck but its always worth the crap it throws at us in the end. And you should never hate who you are, but forget who you have been. Negative nostalgia can lead to more insecurity. Just be around company you trust and let them help you, because they will care for you and how you feel. You are always important to someone...
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ok guys wat is ur opinion of chics who have a tattoo?
Depends on the tattoo and where it is. anything on the lower back just yells whore. Same with above the chest. Anything that looks feminine tends to be alright. Religious tats are cool, but only if you abide to that religion. though what it is and where it is may seem insignificant, it can say a lot if you pick the wrong thing and put it in the wrong places...
If you already have them, be aware of what they might be saying to others. If you plan on getting any, be sure of what you want and where your putting it.
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15/f.
Ok, so i've been goin out with this guy for about 10 or 11 months, he's my best friend as well as my boyfriend, we've known each other since we were 8 years old. so its a really strong bond we have. But just recently things have like started to heat up abit, he told me he wants to go further with me, and that he loves me so much. He said he knows we could go further and I want to. But I'm not to sure anymore as he's been doing really minxy gestures and it feels good, i won't deny that but I'm just feeling this doubt.
Should I Go For It ?
Or Not ?
Help ?
Signed, Lou.
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Your young still. Don't push it. Because soon you might go a little too far and have dire consequences. I personally say no, even if you want to and you think it feels good. Plus be warned he's going to try really hard to get you to do it, he's a guy and testosterone levels rise at his age, making him really want to have sex, consequences or not.
I say wait. No matter what happens, just wait.
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I have a sister who is in college. In a close state. She is really into fashion. So is my mom. When she comes home, my mom actes like I am a piece of poop! They have something in common, shopping. So I am forced to go to these 'shopping' trips. I do not like to go shopping, unless I am with my bestfriend. I hate baithing suit shopping everything else. It tires me out soooo easily. If I do not go I will be criticized by my sis. I used to look foward to her homecoming. She sucks out ALL the attention. She makes me treated like crap. And when I try to say something in deffense, I will for a fact be yelled at. No one understands. I tryed to tell my mom when my sister went back to college but she still yelled. My mom acts very takky when around my sis. What should I do for my sisters next homecoming?
Seems like your basically stuck in a no option. But, just try to make the best of what you can. If it means putting up with everything then you might have to do things you don't like to do. Another thing you can do is try to get yourself out of it by either asking if you can just stay home or planning something with a friend that gets you away from it.
If your sister tries to criticize you, ignore it. Just turn your back and walk away, because not only is it saying you've had enough but it will also get to her that your not affected by her criticism. Eventually and hopefully she'll just give up on it or try to make right, though I can't really make promises on that. Your mom, on the other hand, you'll have to just go along with. Not much you can do about her, shes your mom.
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im 14, 5'7" weigh 165, athletic, mature for my age. Im going into high school and so far my summer has been okay. i think that being able to wear a bikini to pool parties or on vacation would make my summer great. so i need to loose 15 to 20 pounds. i am very strong and willing so im up for any suggestions BUT it is very hard for me to diet trust me im always sneaking something and i never stick to plans. And when i try it doesnt last long at all. So please help me with an exercise plan that doesnt require a change of diet AND WORKS. Thank you!
Sadly to say, there isn't just a way to excercise pounds off. Though you can probably shape up whatever part you think needs to, like your abdominals if you must. Its about diet too. I personally cannot tell you what to eat and when to. And I definitely don't want anyone to start eating disorders. But you should avoid eating lots of carbs, like noodles or any grain product. And eat until your full, but not bloated.
That, and never set your goals too high. 15-20 pounds is pretty devistating, especially at your age. Besides, losing weight won't give a better body. Your athletic right? Than you should just keep your body at least toned(enough so its not bulging muscle but looks nice), and you'll be fine. Low self esteem kicks in around your age, so learn to be comfortable with what you have and what you can do.
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i cant really decide between these two guys, i like then alot (i think) but i dont know which one to go for. steve is one of my best friends guys friends and has never had a real girlfriend but he is so funny and adorable, but not overly cute (which i dont mind).i dont know if he likes me, ive been hinting but he never really seems to notice but we have alot of fun together. the secand guy is jeff, he follows me around and likes staring at me in the hallways and talking to whoever is close to me, but never talking to me. hes cute and i think i could like him if hed stop being so creepy. Hes on the basketball team like me and runs track. lilly, age 16 and a girl
You should go with the one you like more, know more about, and are more likely to trust more easily. There's not much to base off of so not much can really be said. But I hope it helps...
BTW if steve really doesn't notice, that doesn't mean you should stop trying. He'll catch on eventually. And Jeff just seems stalker-ish...
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15/f
ive talked to this kid on the computer for around 2 years he lives around 5 sts over from me we talk online and stuff and im wondering if he likes me hes always calling me when he gets a chance which is like everyday and online hes always like call me he;'ll say something that someone didnt say online about me cuz im fighting with this girl so he'll be like she called u a "**nt " then hes like im ****ing joking then he pretends hes gonna call this other girl that i dont like .. i think he calls her after i hang up and tells her everything that i say to him because sometimes on her away it says "phone" then a lil later it says "lmaoooo " also what do i talk to him about on the phone im all confused about talking to him he always says to me ill call you tomorrow when i get home im starting to think he likes me & then in a picture in the yearbook he saw me because of his brothers yearbook he said i lookedl like a witch then i asked him the other day and he said i was just kidding then he called me pretty because i said im a mess because i overwaxed my eyebrows i asked why he called me pretty he said what do you want me to call you ugly? i said well i must be? and he says ok you said it to me i said huh ? he said i dont know you confuse me you said that you ewre ugly but i said you were pretty and you questioned me then i said well you never saw me and he says online "k well i gotta go bye" and he says are you gonna call me tonight so i called him but i run out of things to say [any suggestions?] then tonight on the phone i said i'm bored and he says your not having a great time with me are you? i said yeah i am and hes like it dosent sound like it since you said you were bored he said im having fun or something like that im all confused someone please help ! thanks also i rate.=D
He lives 5 streets over from me not 50 states.
He sounds like a jerk to me. Not because he confuses you or anything, but because he never seems to try to recover from when he says something wrong. He either says just kidding or goes with what you say by question which isn't a very polite thing to do. Plus he's very assuming, which is a quality everyone hates in anyone. That is according to what is above.
What you do with him is up to you. You can choose to try and fix everything that seems to be taking you on a downhill run, or do something else. I can't really say what that something else is, but its probably something he isn't going to like.
Sugestions for chit chat on the phone.
1: how his day was
2: recent events that you need to tell someone about
3: things on TV
4: anything really
Topic starters are hard to come up with, during or even before talking. But if can find things within the coversation that goes with the topic, then it will continue no matter how far away from the beginning you've went...
But what you do is up to you.
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My friends think I'm going insane because I had a strange, but very true, spiritual experience. I was home alone, getting ready for a school dance. I came out of the bathroom and there was a ghost standing right there in front of me. I couldn't see or hear her, but I knew she was there. She had long brown hair and a ragged white dress on. I just stood there silently, as did she, and I was slightly frightened, but I didn't get and 'evil' vibe off her, so I just stood where I was. After a moment, she asked me where Wall Street was. I described it to her and pointed in the in the direction, since Wall Street is the street that is right by my house. I felt foolish, but for some reason I knew she really needed to know, so I told her. After I was done, she left silently and I went about my business. Three days later, there was a car accident on the corner of Wall Street, and someone was hurt I think, but no one died. I was freaked out because I felt taht the angel had asked me so she could watch over the corner and make sure no one died. Or something like.
My friends were rather uncomfortable when I told them, and they changed the subject after that. For awhile they treated me like I was mentally unstable or something. Do you think I'm going crazy? My father also got angry when I told him, he said something like, "You know ther angels are there, there's no need to talk about them!" My mom was the only one who didn't think Iw as crazy and comepletely believed me. Do you have any say on this?
Thanks for your time-
Its not about what others believe, its what you believe. Other people have influences, seen or hidden, that will divert them away from what is. If you truly belive it was an angel, then maybe it was. None of us can know for sure, because we weren't there. But I can tell you different people have different experiences or insights of anamolies that occur all over the world.
Really, all you have to do is remember what happened and know it happened to you. Since you already told people and they obviously don't want to listen, there might be something special about you. But don't get the idea you can see angels now. Because...
1: even though there was nothing evil felt 'spirit', it does not mean it didn't have evil intentions
2: the fact there was a car crash gives me this theory, even if no one was hurt
3: its somewhat doubtful an angel would take on some invicible form and ask for directions
But know that I don't think your crazy and I mostly believe you. And I don't want to ruin the feeling of amazement, but it seems like there's a lot of negative influence around where you are, so though I feel its unlikely, its possible...
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F/15
I'm going to be a sophomore this fall. I've had boyfriends before. A guy I sorrta like says I'm a scene kid. I disagree. That's him.
A good few people say I'm sooo pretty, absolutely amazing. I guess I'm straightedge? I don't even curse.
I have a friend. Neither of us have kissed a guy. Since we came into highschool she's changed soo much. It breaks my heart! A few close friends of mine warn me that she seems a little 'familiar'. She's trying too hard to be like me.
She just got a boyfriend over a week ago and only told me now.
So, If I'm so great, why can't I get a guy? I am pretty shy and don't like school activities, picky, and no one understands me [in a good way].
I have high selfesteem but not so much to come off as being cocky, if you know?
But I do get jealous of others easy.
I'm willing to out with a boy, kiss him, as long as he does first.
but..is it okay to be upset with my friend? She's pretending to be me and got a guy first. I find this so odd. Oh! NOWW Shes sorta 'cool'. Her boyfriend is quarterback of class clowns.
Hah, shes such a prep
Well, I must say, your still going to see this for as long as your in highschool. Maybe even longer. Most girls are like that. Why? No one seems to know...
Though, you shouldn't think much about it. It will happen, and if it was a mistake, your most likely to hear about and then you can avoid doing the same thing. If any girl wants to try to be like you, you oughta just let them. Because you should know they aren't going to even close to you, no matter how close they seem to get.
And don't worry about who gets aguy first. Highschool is actually a terrible time. Because in the end, everyone tends to leave their seperate ways for different areas of work through colleges. Its not really worth it all unless you and your partner know it will last. You have loads of time ahead of you, and its really about that time and age plus a few more year where guys will only think of one thing and one thing only...
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