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So ive been with this kid for 2.5 years and its def been rocky. I know i should have left him for a while cause he was involved in drugs. But now hes been in rehab for a month and was calling me everynight and telling me how much he loved me. It was amazing cause it was the guy ive fell in love with and i began to trust him again.
But now 2 days ago he told me he just wanted to take things really slow and just be my friend so that i can meet the real him and build a strong foundation. Now it all mKes sense but its really hard for me to trust hes meaning what hes saying. And i love him a lot but im really unsure if hes just trying to be nice and break up with me or if he really does love me and want to be with me. Cause why say it...
Well last night he called me and i was half asleep so we only talked like 5 mins till i told him i was gonna go. Ans hes like okk ill call you tomorrow. Paused and said well ill call you. Maybe not tomorrow. Then said im just trying to keep things unromantic between us. I mean i still wanna talk to you your my best friend. I was like okay. Bye and hung up.
Then i proceeded to cry for the next hour instead of sleeping. This just broke me cause first of all...he soundes miserable. But i just want to know what you guys think i should do. I really love him and was trying to think of what to do last night so that i wouldnt have to lose him. But if its what i have to do to be happy and this guy is just leading me on then i will. I just feel like this is the time i should be understanding cause hes in rehab...but i dont want to be his friend forever...i want to be more than that. :/ i mean wouldnt he just leave if he disnt want me? Please help :(
You need to be patient with him. Rehab is not easy and he needs to focus on getting better, and having a relationship at the same time is probably too much for him right now. He has probably been advised by his counselors to put a hold on anything romantic while he sorts out his other issues. He is being open with you about what he needs to do, and it's awesome that he wants to share the real him with you. It sounds like he loves you a lot, and wants to do things right this time. Wait for him, he'll come back to you!
is it leading on if i continue to talk to my guy friend even though i know hes trying to get with me? i know i shouldnt talk to him at all but i want to still be friends uk!!
You might not be doing it intentionally but he will see it as interest from your side. You're going to have to tell him that, while you appreciate his friendship, you don't want anything more than that. It's hard putting someone in the friend zone, but you have to do it sooner rather than later so his feelings don't get hurt. Be very clear that you are not interested in anything more than friendship: guys don't do subtlety very well!
Can you get pregnant from fingering youself? I'm really scared I finger myself everyday and I've gotton my period already
No, you can't. You would need to have sex with a man in order to get pregnant. I disagree with the first poster - self-exploration at your age is completely natural. But maybe ask your mom or someone at school to tell you about how it all works. If you have your period already, you need to know how babies are made!
I know this is really long but please just read it. I used to have a perfect life. I was pretty, popular(not trying to sound conceited), and had great friends. My best friend I was especially close to, she was practically my sister. A couple weeks ago, she texted me saying she didn't want to be friends anymore. I have no idea why. I kept asking her and saying like "can we just try?" but she didn't respond. I tried talking to her at school but she just walks away. Now all of my other friends hate me and don't talk to me anymore. They all found this group of new friends and I always see them laughing and having fun. About a week ago, they video chatted me and started saying mean things to me. I asked them why they all hated me and they said, "because you f*cking pyscho" and "you try and act all cool, but it doesn't really work", and " we hated you from the beginning you f*ucking slut". God, I cried so hard that night. Anyways, I've been cutting lately... A lot. I have cuts going down my left arm, one on my neck, and 2 on my hip. I have attempted suicide 2 times. One time I took like 4 advil(it wasn't enough) and the other time I tried choking myself. Also, a couple days ago this guy told everyone I told him I was gonna give him head, which is not true at all! So everybody is calling me a slut last night I made myself throw up for the first time. I just fell alone, and confused, and I'm crying so hard right now. Just give me some advice on what to do please. I feel like I can't take another day of this torture. I'm 13 by the way.
This happened to me too. When I was 12, my group of friends first got rid of one girl (they made me tell her she was no longer welcome in the group), and then a few months later they got rid of me. I don't know why they did it, and you may never know why your crowd are doing this to you. People are just horrible and mean sometimes, especially around that age.
As some others have said, forget about these people - they are not your friends. Cut them out of your life completely. Also, the more you react to what they are saying about you, the more you encourage them to continue. So please please please stop cutting yourself and throwing up. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is hold your head high and know that you are better than them. Nothing will irritate them more than to see you happy and moving on.
What I did was find a new group of friends. They were not the cool kids, or the most popular, but they were a genuine groups of girls who accepted me for who I was. Look for friends in places you wouldn't have before, maybe join some of the clubs at school. But most of all, stop communicating with these other 'friends' - they don't deserve your time or energy.
My gay relationship has recently ended and now I don't know which sex I want to be with. I'm male and I'm attracted to girls physically but not for sex and I'm not attracted to lads but like the sex. This was my first gay relationship now I don't know what I want. I'm so lonely and really confused please help .
You could be bisexual.. It is entirely possible to like both guys and girls, be turned on by different things visually and physically. Don't try to pigeon hole yourself into one or the other. If you like someone or think they are hot then go for it; who cares what gender either of you are? :) You could tell people you are bi if they ask, it covers all the bases.
I'm 12 years old and I really want a facebook so I can socialize with friends and see pics of my friends I no longer get to see since they live somewhere else. They say they dont want me to have a facebook but for no good reson. How can I convince them to let me getba facebook what are some good things about it and what can i say to them that will let me get a facebook. I really want one! ALL my friends have it. I need help. Tthanks I rate 5s
Facebook requires you to be 13 or older, it is one of their terms of service: https://www.facebook.com/help/?faq=210644045634222
Wait until you turn 13 and then ask them again.
19/f
my boyfriend moved in with me and my parents in August. My parents gave him 6 months to save money and find a place of his own (his mother left him homeless, some mom!) so he is suppose to move out on Valentines Day.
Well finding an apartment he can afford is hard. There are some low income apartments behind my house, BUT he is first on the waiting list; she just said its rarely people move out, or get evicted so it could be a while before a place opens up. My mom told me that my dad isn't kicking him out, so he can stay here until an opening happens. My dad plays mind games. He's verbally abusive; he says that he is kicking him out after his 6 months are up, and it isn't his problem. Which I understand. But my boyfriend hasn't looked anywhere else because of what my mom has told him.
Well, Valentines Day isn't that fiar away, and there are apartments for 575 a month and he cannot afford that on his own. We have looked at trailors, and other apartments and that is the cheapest.
I'm in college to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse, and I have a parttime job, but at my job there is no way I could even help him out with everything. I refuse to let someone i love and care about be homeless again. We have been together for a year and a half; and if I have to I will get a second job.
I am just so stressed; idk what to do! He is so scared of being homeless again; and i hate seeing him hurt.
I'm so sorry its so long, but I need some advice. I just am at a dead end, and idk where to go from here.
Thank you.
Has your boyfriend considered a flatshare? It would be much more affordable than his own place. I know you love him but 2 jobs + college is too much for you to take on. I know you love him but this isn't your responsibility (nor is it that of your parents). Maybe your folks could go and talk to his mom about it. Or perhaps your boyfriend could offer to pay rent to your parents while he sorts himself out.
I am in a complicated relationship.
I slept with my flat mate and two years later we are still together... fight, fight, love. fight, fight, love etc. I moved out too ease the strain, but its still the same pattern.
He treats me like shit. Lies, talks down too me, cancells plans, and contradicts everything he says. His friends and family have all said he is lucky to have me, which just makes things worse.
I am confident, bubbly and a happy young lass, but he just makes me feel sad.
any advice??
Break up with him!
Can a person lose 10 pounds in 2 weeks if they eat healthy, workout and run etc?
Can I lose 10 pounds by January 5th?
Probably not. You may lose a lot of water weight if you clean up your diet, but unless you eat unhealthily or very low calories, you will not lose weight this fast. If you do manage to drop 10 pounds in 2 weeks (and good luck with doing that over the holidays), it's very likely you will put it straight back on and then some when you stop restricting your intake.
I am 23 and my you get is nearly 17.
I'm irresponsible, I know this, it's something I would like to change but I am having a hard time with it, I feel like my parents do nothing but pick on me, they are constantly telling how I disappoint them with the things I do, the things I don't do, how I handle my money, the people I hang out with, they are constantly telling me how I never do anything around the house, yea, I'll admit that my room is a total disaster area but it doesn't bother me right now and I keep my door closed so they don't have to see it. When I wanted to quit school I was told I would have to get a job immediately, my brother on the other hand hasn't gone to school in over a year, sleeps til 5 or 6, and does NOTHING but sit on the computer, but somehow this is acceptable. My mom makes a big deal about his Christmas and birthday gifts but never seems to put the same kind of excitement into mine, we used to do this thing where we would get a gift on the others birthday but it seemed like she put more thought into his gift, one year getting an expensive game while for his I got a replacement retainer. I have tried to tell her this hurts me but she turns it around saying I hurt her all the time in turn making me feel guilty about the way I may treat her. She yells at me when I cry and gets so angry and says I'm being awful, how do I show her that it's slowly killing me inside and ruining our relationship?
This probably isn't what you want to hear, nevertheless: 23 is too old to have a messy room, or to be worrying about what gifts your brother received and you didn't. Comparing yourself to your siblings is something teenagers do - not someone who by now is quite capable of looking after themselves, picking up after themselves, etc. Your mother sounds like she is frustrated that you seem to have no drive - of course she will be upset if you drop out of school but don't get a job. Or did you want to live at home forever? Show her that you are willing and able to take on responsibilities in your life, and she will respect you in turn.
I am having trouble going to sleep nowadays.
It takes me a lot of time to fall asleep and i keep waking up many times in between,rolling on the bed etc.I used to sleep well before but from the last few months i am having trouble sleeping.
Am i developing insomnia??Please help.
What has changed in your life recently, have you got more stress? Are you eating well? "Insomnia" is just a word, it simply means you have difficulty sleeping.
If you are having trouble falling asleep, as opposed to staying asleep, you could try any number of the following:
- Try to calm down before bed time with a bath, stretching or deep breathing exercises
- Don't eat high glycemic index carbs before bed, stick to things like starchy carbs (beans, lentils etc)
- Don't do cardio late at night as this increases your cortisol levels and keeps you awake longer. Do weight training instead
- Do mental exercises to help you drift off. One that has helped me is to simply tell myself what I see in my head ("I see a red ball. I see an apple. I see a box" - whatever pictures your brain forms in your mind)
- If there are things you need to remember for the next day, write them down before you turn out the lights
- Don't watch TV, be on the computer or your phone for 1 hour before bed
- Take all electrical things out of your bedroom, i.e. TV, laptop etc
- Read for a bit before you turn out the light, light fiction is good
- Make sure you get up at the same time each day, regardless of what time you fell asleep. Don't sleep in to "catch up".
- Don't have caffeine, nicotine, or other stimulants after 2pm
- Make sure your bed is comfortable & warm, and that your room is slightly cool
- Possibly investigate a magnesium supplement if none of the above works, choose magnesium glycinate over magnesium oxide
Hope one of those helps you!
I think im pregnant with a person that ive been seeing for a year. He has been married to someone else for 11 1/2 out of 12 months.. Does he have the right to know or can I just not tell him and get rid of it?
You don't have to tell him anything. Get rid of it, take the lesson about getting involved with married men (i.e. don't!), and move on. Don't let this one mistake affect your whole life.
Im a wild girl, but when it comes to makin the 'first moves' i get kinda shy. My boyfriend isnt that experienced so he's not really into making the first move either. So heres the problem: How can we get stuff one if were both like that bc its not like i dont want to make the first move its just more so that i dont want to get rejected or anything. Like im sure that he wouldnt or anything but still. Plus i HATE it when girls throw themselves on guys and that is how i would feel if i did that. So i guess that i just dont want to come off as that kinda person. Please give me advice!
Hang on, this guy is already your boyfriend? There is no chance you are throwing yourself on him when he is already yours, you can jump him whenever you want! (within reason of course) I can pretty much guarantee he will not reject your advances. Sounds like one of you needs to start making the first moves, and he could be holding back because you might get the idea that he only wants you for one thing. Go for it! The more you do it, the more confident he will become about initiating things with you also.
I'm a 21 girl and I have developed a thing for my coworker. We work in the same area of the store and we often talk in passing or share little comments and jokes. We share common interests and he has even told me that himself. I don't know if he is just being a nice and making friendly chat or if he has any interest. After the holiday I'm moving to another section of the store and I won't see him as much, so lately I've come close to asking him to hang out outside of work. I fear rejection and making our relationship awkward. Should I just ask, wait for him, or just do nothing? Any suggestions?
Ask him out! If he says no then so what, you are moving to another area of the store anyway, so you won't have him around all day making things awkward. If you want you could ask him out with a group of your colleagues instead so it's not such a big deal - make it like an end of year drink or something. Then if you get the right signals you could follow with an invitation to hang out, just the 2 of you. Loads of co-workers date, and it's only a problem if one has authority over another in some way, which doesn't seem to be the case with you guys. Just keep it professional at work, and do your chatting outside of the store.
If people didn't ever ask each other out for fear of rejection, there would be a lot of lonely people in the world... Good luck!
how do u get rid of the "pooch or paunch" from under ur bellybutton...are there any specific excersises targeting that area?
You can build up your abdominal muscles by doing any number of ab exercises, mostly variations on crunches. This will help your stomach look firmer, however to get rid of that pouch of fat you will need to look at your diet more than your training. You will lose body fat all over from tidying up your diet, including from your stomach.
i have really thick hair, is there any way to make straightening it not as long so i can get up later but still have time to make it stick straight?
You could try a Brazilian blow dry http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brazilian_hair_straightening They last 2-3 months but are quite pricey. You could also use your straighteners the night before so you have less to do in the mornings.
21 female. Boyfriend 19
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 and a half months. We've known each other for a long time though. Well after about 2 months of officially being together he told me he loved me. He said he is in love with me and that it might be kind of soon but no girl has made him ever feel this way before. The thing is, I'm not in love with him yet. I told him for me it takes time and he understands that. I love him, but not in love with him yet to the point where i can say 'i love you' to him. It doesn't scare me off that he said it to me early because everyone is different. The thing is, I never know what to say to him when he says he loves me! Because I'm not ready to say it back. And I know he is being 100% genuine about it.
He already knows that you are not ready to say it back, so it sounds like he keeps saying it to you to see where you're at. You could start replying "Thanks!" to indicate that you're not ready to exchange the words yet. Say it in a light-hearted, affectionate way. Maybe you could tell him that you care for him on other occasions, *before* he prompts you for a response. Pay him lots of compliments and say things like "I love it when you... blah" so he doesn't get discouraged.
Hello.
My name is Armine, I`m 23.I am from Armenia.
It is my third month that I am working at an office where I have met a guy who is more than just a colleague for me....Some of my friends have noticed that he likes me too.He is texting to me nearly every day, sometimes calling,He was always saying that doesnt have a girlfriend, but recently he accepted the existance of his girlfriend, as she had sent him an open letter, which i had read...Some of our colleages had told me too about his girlfriend..I deleted him from the list of my penfriends, because I could feel the jealousy of his girlfriend who had blocked my site.But he got very angry and said that he wants to be my penfriend inspite of his girlfriends jealousy...Now I am so disappointed and dont understand why he had covered the fact of hvaing a girlfriend and why doesnt take into consideration his girlfrends point of view? And at lastdoes it worth to continue my contact with him???
I am really confused and need your advice...
Looking forward to Your answer...
He wants to have both you and his girlfriend, which is obviously not going to work. Don't contact this loser again, he's not worth it.
Well after school one day i went to my locker (that is right next to my crushes)and it was jammed so i kept trying and trying to open it but it wouldn't give then my crush came down and saw me dropped his stuff and said "i will help you whats your combo i swear i wont steal anything" so i told him it and he couldn't get it to open ether so i got the custodian and my crush stayed after school with me for like 10 more minutes trying to help out but then he had to go - so what do you think ?
He may or may not like you, but I don't think you can read anything from this encounter. It sounds like he's a nice guy who wanted to help someone in need. Hopefully you can build on this interaction now - thank him for helping you out when you bump into him again and who knows where it will lead.
Can a person lose weight by exercising 30-40 minutes a day and eating healthy?
Can a 145 pound person lose weight by exercising 30-40 minutes and eating healthy? How long do you think it might take?
It depends what you mean by "eating healthy". Do you mean eating different types of food, or different food and also less food? It is possible to stay at the same weight or even put on weight by eating too much healthy food! If you keep your caloric intake the same but start doing exercise, then the weight should come off. "Eating healthy" will probably help you to not overeat, but you should still have some awareness of your overall calorie intake per day.
If you want to lose weight in a healthy way, i.e. not too quickly with minimal impact to your metabolism, you are looking at losing 1-2lbs per week. You may have a higher initial loss (mostly water) which will settle down after a few weeks.