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I'm going to the doctor tomorrow for a virginity test. I don't want to break my mom's heart. Is there anyway I can make it seem like I'm a virgin? They are checking physically..any advice?
im not sure what you mean by a virginity test cause i ddint know there was one. i know doctors can see if your hymen is broken but that can happen from sports like horseback riding or tampons and other things too. plus your virginity isnt a real thing-its not something you can see, etc. its something that means your first time. idk if you want to lie but if they say something you could just say oh ya i think it broke when i was putting in my tampon this one time... or when i was horseback riding last summer but i dont think they would say something
15/Female
I've recently got a new room which is very bland so I decided to make it over.
Since the walls are white I figured I need wall stickers or art-a-peel. [Painting is off limits] I have no idea where to get them. I saw some sort of wallpaper that you can stick it on the wall and remove it if you please. It was on I Want That. Where can I find this?
It would have to match this http://store.delias.com/browse.do?categoryKey=roomwares.room.victorian&splashTrack=room&cmpid=RoomMid but instead of this color pillow; http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=1351&itemID=46014&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter= it is going to be a cranberry red color.
hey! omg try Upper case living!! its soo cool the designs go on any surface! glass, windows, cars, doors, anything! i have made cadle votives with words on the glass. you can pick from the designs/pics and sayings of make your own saying and its in an assortment of colors! including a nice red i think you would like!! for more info ask me cause my mom sells the stuff :)
I am asked to write about thsi girl and one of th things i'm supposed to include is her dialogue. What does that mean? doesn't dialogue means what the character says? Does that mean that i have to type every single thing she said in the story?
i think it means that when your writing about her use direct quotes from the dialogue to back up what your saying. If you say something about how she felt on a certain subject or idea or w/e then include dialogue that leads you to beilieve this, Ex: She feels strongly about _______, and I gathered this from when she said, "_________." hope i helped! :]
HiChick
im 14/f, and i really like a few guys. So:
guy 1- he is nice, sweet, funny, has a job (DJing) easy to talk to and hes adorable. I liekd him for a year and asked him out before, but he said no, but that was like two years ago. Well i was crushed by him, but i got over it and now were really close but im starting to like him again and my friend tells me he likes me but idk because he always liked this girl, but wont admit it.
Guy 2- Hes sooo cute, funny, fun to flirt with and be around, and he just takes my breath away. The problem is my friend told me he told her he likes her, but i dont believe my friend because shes always lieing but i dont want to be a bad friend and be like wtf i bet he didnt.
Guy 3- He is cute, funny, and called me beautiful. He doesnt really hang out with my group and i'd be his first gf, but hes adorable!
Guy 4- hes funny, but kinda annoying and really lieks me, everyone thinks so, and he is cute.
so those are the reasons i like ALL these guys.
I dont want to like 1 because im afraid to get hurt. I dont want to like 2 because of my best friend. I dont want to like 3 because i would never see him (dif friends and classes). I dont want to like 4 because a lot of my friends hate him. Which one should i use all my attention to, and try to get to go out with? i know you dont know them, but i really want a bf, and dont want to spend all my time thinking about 4 guys and losing them all. THanks!!
Hey! i agree with the girl below me-your bff isnt that much of a bff and you should really take a chance with the first boy! Dont be afriad you can only get something if you put something out ;) good luck!!
16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated.
Please dump him. NOW! He is just using you and doesnt respect you at all! What he is doing to you is terrible! Hes making you feel bad for standing up for yourself! You are worth sooo much more so get rid of the idiot and find a boy whos worth you! hope i helped :)
HiChick
2 years ago i went out with this guy for 5months and after 5months i lost the "beginning relationship spark" but i thought i didn't like him anymore but i knew i still loved him. anyway i didn't know what i was feeling and i broke up with him. he was my first love and i was his. not too long after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and has been with her ever since but now two years later i miss him ALOT. last night i was crying hysterically. like screaming crying because i missed him so much and i want him back. i havent cried over a guy...ever! just when we broke up. we started going out on the day before valentines day (today) so im not sure if valentines day is bringing these emotions but last valentines day i was fine without him. we've been texting for about 2 months now but not talking about me liking him. just boring conversations but now his phone broke so we havent talked in a week and i can't call his house, that would be wayyyy too akward. i did request him on myspace though last night so im hoping to talk to him on there. BUT, these feelings for him aren't going away and i havent felt like this or missed him in 2 years but now all of the sudden i can't remember why we broke up. i really really really want to tell him that i'm still in love with him but he's been going out with this other girl for almost 2years. i need to get this off my chest but even though i would rather him be with me than her, i don't think im quite mean enough to tell my ex i like him right before he celebrates valentines day with his girlfriend.
what the heck do i do about this???
i think you dont really miss him i think you missing having him as a bf. im sry but i dont think you really want him back bcause i think if you had a bf you couldnt even be thinking about him! Kepp your mind busy and try checking out some new guys ;] im sure you will find someone great soon!
ok well i understand where your coming from but i can tell you that if you guys broke up for whatever reason he wasnt the right one. There WILL be other guys!! I know it might not seem like it but there is a guy out there for you and you will find him-its just not going to be your ex! Just wait some more-the right guy is worth waiting! i know you might not want to hear this and think im full of crap but i have several friends that went until like there jr year NEVER having a bf and then meeting this amazing guy from for my one friend a completely different school. You will fing him-JUST WAIT! I promise a guy is there for you waiting for you like your waiting for him. Hope i helped :)
Is it wrong not to go out with somebody because of their religion? I like this guy, but he doesn't believe in God, and it pisses me off! I don't want to force him to believe in what I believe in, but at the same time I would like somebody to have the same views as me. I'd probably even prefer to find a boyfriend in the church. Is that wrong?
I, personally, think that dating a boy of another religion is just a bad idea! Because he doesnt have the same morals and values as you and thats bound to cause a lot of problems! plus that seems like something really important to you and dear to your heart. It seems like its a good part of you and to date someone who doesnt understand that is very difficult. I think you should just wait for the right boy and im sure you can find someone in the church! my bf and i go to the same church and its so great because we volunteer together and go to service together and go to the youth group together. plus God says not to marry someone who is not a Christian and i know you probably wont get married but the whole point of dating is to find out who you will one day marry so that seems kinda pointless. I have dealt with this before so if you have any other questions i would be so happy to help you! and just wait for that guy-he will come! God will provide you with the perfect boy just for you if you trust Him and wait!! :] hope i helped
~HiChick~
15/f
okay,so way before i even knew what it was i was attracted to girls.ive been attracted to guys,but a lot more girls.So i was pretty sure i was bi-sexual.But i had sex and done everything with a guy,and didn't get any enjoyment whatsoever.not because it was my first time,because even after that.i just am not attracted to a penis.touching it grosses me out unless im drunk or something.but i still think a lot of guys are hott and thought i was like in love with one.but its just so wierd now,cause when i did everything with a girl it just seemed right and everything(of ocurse the first time was kinda awkward tho)
but yeah so now im really confused
idk about if your bi or not but i just wanted to add that most girls think penis' are gross at that age. its totally normal. im 14 and i have a bf but i still think his penis is gross. your so young! idk if you should be all into them this early in life! hope i helped and i hope you figure everything out! :]
Are there any dances like the Soulja Boy dance or the Cupid Shuffle? They have to be appropriate for kids cause im doing this kids night out things and its really just baby sitting a bunch of 10 year olds and we need some fun dances to rap songs. Thanks to anyone who answers.
also Girlfriend and Fergie songs r popular like Glamorous and Fergalicious-my sis is 10 and loves them :) and London Bridge hope i helped :) im not that talented when it comes to music-my selection is very limited haha
Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Since before we started dating, we've been saying "I love you" and I thought I did love him. But now I really know, I think I really love him. I mean it's so hard to describe. How can I really tell? And if I AM sure, how can I tell him that I REALLY DO MEAN IT. Some things he does makes me mad, but then when I think I'm mad at him I start crying because he's perfect. I never truly am mad at him. He's not like everyone else. I really am at a loss for words here. How can I tell if I really love him / if I'm in love with him. Thanks. I'd be willing to talk on email if you could really help.
idk if your in love with him. tahts huge and only you can figure it out for yourself. i think of being in love with sumone as them being a part of you. you think about them all the time and cant imagine not seeing them and being with them and thay are really part of you. i think it takes a good while before your in love with someone but thats just me. Just say you know how we have alays said i love you? he will say ya. then say well i dont think i really knew what that meant then. and he will be like ok and then say but now i really love you. and i just wanted to tell you that and how much you mean to me. or sumthing like that. i hope i helped :]
~HiChick~
ok im christian also and mt mom is a very strong christian. my sisters and brothers talk about being "saved" at the age of like 8 or 9. i havent been "saved" yet and i want to believe in god as everything in my life but i just dont understand the whole concept. im worried that something may be wrong with me. im so unsure of what to think.
Nothing is wrong with you! People are ready when there ready and thats all to it. I personally think its cooler if your older when you accept Him cause you really understand it and remember it. What you have to do is accept Him in your heart. If you already have but havent really committed your life to Him i suggest you think about doing it again. Its a big responcibility but its amazing. Also the same thing goes with Baptism-babies and little children are baptised at birth sometimes but its very big for when they are older to get baptised again cause they know what it means and are aware of it. Being 'saved' means you have asked God into your heart and become His servant. You are saying im ready to serve you and commit my life to you God-because I love you and i know Your everything. Also to start being a good Christian and live your life for God try reading the Bible and praying. If you dont already. It can be hard at first but once you commit your life and give all your problems to Him and only worry about living the right way and for Him and serving Him and the people around you it is so amazing. Little things dont matter anymore and your so much more content and life is so much more peaceful. I really hope i helped and if you have ANY more questions please ask! I was so happy you asked me for advice and really hope I helped! Good luck and God is rejoicing that you want Him to be your life. :]
~HiChick~
your advice was really helpful and i liked it.i dont think that would work cause well its a story so here it goes...
my skool has a dance EVERY friday. i would like to go to have fun with all my friends, but my mom wont let me cause there are guys there! i dont think that she understands that anywhere i go, tere are going to be guys there.and when i have b-day parties, i cant invite most of my friends cause they are mostly guys. i dont understand why she doent trust me! i get straight a's on every reportcard, i follow all of her rules, i help out around the house and she saysi am "the perfect child". so if i am so "perfect", why cant she trust me?
i have felt exactly the same way. i dont know why she doesnt trust you but ask her about it. tell her you understand where shes coming from and ask her if you can slowly start being allowed to hang with guys. shes just worried but she has a right to be with all those creeps out there. explain they are your friends too and ask what would she feel comfortable with and thats acceptable. like having a couple friends over at your house with her there girls and guys. you may have to take it slowly but hopefully she will allow you more and more freedom. i hope i helped! i know how frusterating it can be! good luck and if you have more questions im always here! :]
HiChick
is it normal or okay to have to wear a tampon bc the discharge is so heavy??
im not sure but it says not too because u can get that disease thing im sorry i cant think or the name but to answer ur question: no, it isnt safe but you can wear pads :)
ok so i have a problem...im 13 and my parents say im not allowed to date until im 16! this is a HUGE problem for me because every1 i know has been on a date before and i havent.also i really want to ask thiis 1 guy out and im not sure if i should because im not allowed to date. HELP PLEASE!!
(im a girl)
dating and having a bf are completely different things...unless they said no bf. just tell them you cant date you can only go out together with friends. its probably better and less awkward that way anyway. so get some friends together for dinner and a movie and invite him along. jope i helped :]
HiChick
ok, this is really random, but my dad is a VERY republican/political/history person. He was talking to me when the pressident was giving the state of the union address. well anyways
we were talkin about who could win as president.
heres my few questions
1. COULD a midget win the presidency
2. WHICH do you think would come FIRST? A woman president, black president, or a jewish president?
I am just wondering, please answer these! THANKZ!
AngleofMercy i think you give good advice but i think your very wrong about this. Right now there are people running who arent Christians like a Morman is running as a Republican. And a black guy and woman is running right now and actually both have very high chances of making it into office. I think a Jew could make it into office just like a Christian as long as they had good points and everything. Hopefully i helped :]
HiChick
I desperately need a way to get things out of my mind. I replay bad memories or moments in my head millions of times a day, I obsess over boys/friends, I can't handle being yelled at, I strive for order, and I get overly stressed all too often.
I have good grades, play sports, and eat healthy. Still I can't help but feel like everything is always going crazy in my head.
What can I do to get my emotions and this stress under control. I can never let go of grudges or let anything just 'roll off my back' Any ideas?
Well frankly i believe people can only find true rest and peace with God and themselves. I will just listen to music and think about things and myself and i just let go of all of it. The hard thing is you have to train yourself to stop caring about things that dont matter. Its hard but once you do it is great. You feel relaxed and at ease.
If you know God pray! and read the Bible. if you feel weird talking to Him cause hes not actually there (my friend feels like that) then try writing a letter to Him. explain whats going on in your life and ask him for help, peace, guidance, etc. if you dont know God maybe look into it if your interested.
If not then just try reading or listening to music, just laying there and thinking about things (but not stressful things!) and just relax. Learn to let go and say its ok. Thats the key. You could try yoga or something but i just stretch. i turn on music, stretch, read, pray, write, think, etc.
Once you learn to let go and become comfortable with yourself you will feel so much better! and everyday take time to go and do whichever works best for you. and make sure to get lots of sleep! sleep is amazing and my best friend and she can be yours too lol
Well i hope i helped and if you have any more questions please ask! :]
~HiChick~
for some reason, it never fails, after sex i get a bad urinary tract infection. my mother is beginning to wonder why i keep getting these out of the blue. is there anything that can prevent this?
well i dont know too much about this but if you are using spermacide or however you spell that you could be allergic to it. That happened to my friend. if you are using some other special condom them idk maybe your allergic to that so try another condom and go see a doctor. and btw that random doctor idea is good! try that if you are afraid of being judged. hope i helped :]
In my past question(the really really long one, sorry if it had many shortcut words, i had to because of the length), I forgot to say my age and gender: 13/f
For a 13yr old, I think deep in these situations, so please don't tell me I'm too young.
I asked about how i might feel towards my close friend and the difference between that feeling and the feeling i have towards my current bf.
Typing that long question and seeing how people replied helped me realized much more.
They replied how my bf, "Shiro", cares for me much more than my close friend, "Kuro".
I agreed.
But I also typed another question before: How can I tell if it's love and not just really REALLY like?
People replied how i can tell, how it's selfless, and how you can tell if he's all you think about.
I agreed.
Until someone replied a list of feelings.
I realized how my palms sweat, heart races, voice and eyes caught, want to be with him, loving his hugs, heart skipping a beat, pardoning his faults, and willing to give things was how I usually felt towards "Shiro".
But it said it's just just like, lust, luck, loneliness, loyalty, low confidence, pity, infatuation, friendship, and charity.
And I realized how my heart aches when he's sad, how I cry for his pain, how he sees my heart, how i accept his faults, and how I would give him everything was how I felt towards "Kuro".
And it said it's love.
I remember how I decided to be "Kuro"'s friend because nobody wanted to be with him.
I got more attached to him, noticing how everyone says they think he's annoying yet I don't, and how I tell people how it's messed up when they make fun of him.
Now it's like saying "Shiro" loves/likes me much more than "Kuro", yet it's stilling saying the things I've done for "Kuro" makes me love him more than "Shiro".
This was the reply with the list of feelings, tell me if it's true or not, and if it's true, does that mean I love "Kuro" much more than I love "Shiro", even though "Shiro" loves me more than "Kuro"? If so, what do I do?:
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
Sorry if I'm hard to deal with >.<
but please do help me understand! thank you (=
first may i say all those things u listed are really cool and great things to really consider, ponder, think about, and all that which i love! i absolutely love to think, ponder, wonder, imagine, etc. haha and i, too, am only 14 but i am very different from most, which i hold dear, and tho some dont understand i think very deeply. you and i seem a lot alike in that regard. anyway i would looove to help but im afraid i cant figure out the question! haha can you please state it? or state i more clearly? thanx!
HiChick :]
I am a 20 year old college girl. I am very athletic and I have a very fast metabolism and an absolutely enormous appetite. I often eat 7500+ calories a day. Even my athlete friends think I am a total pig. I have seen several doctors and none has found a cause - except maybe an unusually fast metabolism. Sometimes my friends find my appetite entertaining, sometimes weird, and sometimes down right annoying. I often find it awkward or even embarrassing. If I'm staying at a friends house, it's not too uncommon for me to get hungry and clean out their fridge. Sometimes I can still be hungry again 3 or 4 hours later. No matter how understanding they are I still feel awkward. Sometimes people don't seem to realize that I can't help it when I'm hungry and that makes it worse. Other awkward things include going to an overnight church retreat and spending the weekend with my roommates family. I want to know how I should handle these things.
BRING YOUR OWN FOOD!!! im sorry but r hunger isnt their problem and they will get extremely annoyed if you eat all there food! food costs a lot of money! solution: bring your own food and apparently a lot of it haha.
Also you will be hungry less if you eat less. in the beginning you will be hungry but after a while your body adjusts so just eat less-have smaller meals and dont snack as much or often or on unhealthy foods. eat lots of fruits and veggies even if they dont seem to fill you. hope i helped :] and im sorry but i think its kinda weird-why dont you just stay hungry and not eat so much? people need food but you dont need to eat to your fill! if you feel embarrassed by the excessive amount you eat then with others JUST DONT AS MUCH AS YOU CAN! eat what is neccessary not what you want to eat or would normally.
HiChick
Well awhile ago before me and my girlfriend were going out, we were talking about sex and our sex lives and whatnot. Well i told her i had sex with 2 girls before, when i'm actually a virgin. I guess i didn't want to feel like a loser or something and she might not have believed that i was a virgin anyway. Well me and my girlfriend haven't had sex but we've fooled around quite a bit. And now that we are going out we might get into an argument or something and she'll bring up "how i had sex with two girls before." And i'll be like whatever, but i'll feel bad because i really haven't been with those girls and she doesn't know the truth. I mean i want to be able to tell her but i dont want her to get mad at me for lying to her in the first place. Also, she probably won't believe me on top of it because one time i was like and i'm a virgin and she was like "lol yeah right." so i dont know what to do about it. i feel like if i were honest everything might get a little wierder because i'm a virgin and she's not. Because i sometimes come off as a horny sex freak sometimes lol. Please help me and give me some suggestions of what i should do. Btw, i'm 16/M and my girlfriend is 15/F.
tell her the truth! she will be sooo much more upset and hurt if you dont! and you dont want to hurt her do you? cause if my bf ever lied to be i would be so upset and sad! its that simple just tell her! good luck! :]