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Do I love my bf and just like my friend? Or like my bf and l
In my past question(the really really long one, sorry if it had many shortcut words, i had to because of the length), I forgot to say my age and gender: 13/f
For a 13yr old, I think deep in these situations, so please don't tell me I'm too young.
I asked about how i might feel towards my close friend and the difference between that feeling and the feeling i have towards my current bf.
Typing that long question and seeing how people replied helped me realized much more.
They replied how my bf, "Shiro", cares for me much more than my close friend, "Kuro".
I agreed.
But I also typed another question before: How can I tell if it's love and not just really REALLY like?
People replied how i can tell, how it's selfless, and how you can tell if he's all you think about.
I agreed.
Until someone replied a list of feelings.
I realized how my palms sweat, heart races, voice and eyes caught, want to be with him, loving his hugs, heart skipping a beat, pardoning his faults, and willing to give things was how I usually felt towards "Shiro".
But it said it's just just like, lust, luck, loneliness, loyalty, low confidence, pity, infatuation, friendship, and charity.
And I realized how my heart aches when he's sad, how I cry for his pain, how he sees my heart, how i accept his faults, and how I would give him everything was how I felt towards "Kuro".
And it said it's love.
I remember how I decided to be "Kuro"'s friend because nobody wanted to be with him.
I got more attached to him, noticing how everyone says they think he's annoying yet I don't, and how I tell people how it's messed up when they make fun of him.
Now it's like saying "Shiro" loves/likes me much more than "Kuro", yet it's stilling saying the things I've done for "Kuro" makes me love him more than "Shiro".
This was the reply with the list of feelings, tell me if it's true or not, and if it's true, does that mean I love "Kuro" much more than I love "Shiro", even though "Shiro" loves me more than "Kuro"? If so, what do I do?:
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
Sorry if I'm hard to deal with >.<
but please do help me understand! thank you (=
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Hey its me again, i answered you're last question. Well like i said, i think shiro loves you, and kuro likes you. I dont know how you feel, noone can tell you or us that, but you should never leave the one you love, for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one THEY love. I cant tell you how you feel, and neither does the things the person who left the list did, even though it was very good. I think you are in love with shiro, but you love kuro. Theres a difference. Being in love with someone is like "i love you with all my heart. I want to be with you". Loving someone is like a friend or a brother, but you love kuro, but like a brother, but you also really like him. I know this is confusing, but i tried.
Hope i helped, and didnt confuse you more! :]
P.S. i like that you dont have as many shortcutted words :]
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first may i say all those things u listed are really cool and great things to really consider, ponder, think about, and all that which i love! i absolutely love to think, ponder, wonder, imagine, etc. haha and i, too, am only 14 but i am very different from most, which i hold dear, and tho some dont understand i think very deeply. you and i seem a lot alike in that regard. anyway i would looove to help but im afraid i cant figure out the question! haha can you please state it? or state i more clearly? thanx!
HiChick :]
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