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a horrible thing to do near valentines day
2 years ago i went out with this guy for 5months and after 5months i lost the "beginning relationship spark" but i thought i didn't like him anymore but i knew i still loved him. anyway i didn't know what i was feeling and i broke up with him. he was my first love and i was his. not too long after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and has been with her ever since but now two years later i miss him ALOT. last night i was crying hysterically. like screaming crying because i missed him so much and i want him back. i havent cried over a guy...ever! just when we broke up. we started going out on the day before valentines day (today) so im not sure if valentines day is bringing these emotions but last valentines day i was fine without him. we've been texting for about 2 months now but not talking about me liking him. just boring conversations but now his phone broke so we havent talked in a week and i can't call his house, that would be wayyyy too akward. i did request him on myspace though last night so im hoping to talk to him on there. BUT, these feelings for him aren't going away and i havent felt like this or missed him in 2 years but now all of the sudden i can't remember why we broke up. i really really really want to tell him that i'm still in love with him but he's been going out with this other girl for almost 2years. i need to get this off my chest but even though i would rather him be with me than her, i don't think im quite mean enough to tell my ex i like him right before he celebrates valentines day with his girlfriend.
what the heck do i do about this???
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i think, maybe he still has some interest in you if he was texting you back. i mean he has a girlfriend for 2 years, i think that girl would probably be a bit jealous that he was TEXTING you, his ex-gf. so if hes texting you for about 2 months, then hey thats a start :)
and since his phone died, when he accepts you on myspace, i think you should message him. dont strait up say I MISS YOU I LOVE YOU, because ehh that might be a little too straitforward, you dont want to scare him...
but just hint it. flirt a bit, and after talking for awhile, once you get a big more comfortable, and he gets a bit more comfortable with you, tell him you really do miss him..
also when you talk to him, ask him questions about the relationship hes in. if he really loves this girl or not. maybe hes just been waiting for you :D
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i think you dont really miss him i think you missing having him as a bf. im sry but i dont think you really want him back bcause i think if you had a bf you couldnt even be thinking about him! Kepp your mind busy and try checking out some new guys ;] im sure you will find someone great soon!
ok well i understand where your coming from but i can tell you that if you guys broke up for whatever reason he wasnt the right one. There WILL be other guys!! I know it might not seem like it but there is a guy out there for you and you will find him-its just not going to be your ex! Just wait some more-the right guy is worth waiting! i know you might not want to hear this and think im full of crap but i have several friends that went until like there jr year NEVER having a bf and then meeting this amazing guy from for my one friend a completely different school. You will fing him-JUST WAIT! I promise a guy is there for you waiting for you like your waiting for him. Hope i helped :)
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I think you should just wait it out and the feelings might go away after valentines day. i remember a year ago one of my ex's broke up with me 5 days after valentines day. Though he was cheating anyway so yea.. but i still remember that and you are just having all these feelings rushing back because its around valentines day again. I dont think it will do any good telling him if you do because if he has been with this girl for 2 years then it seems kind of serious. But if you do i would wait like a week and so you can see if its just valentines day bringing back all these emotions.
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I certainly think it would be better to wait after the whole "Love Holiday" has passed.
You may be feeling as strongly as you do because of the upcoming V-Day. If you wait for it to pass rather than getting caught up in it, you'll be more likely to have an easier time figuring out what to do in your situation.
I'm not saying you should "go for it!" or "just forget it!" I'm telling you give it another week of thought.
ygs-29/f
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It sounds like you really love this guy. Don't live with regret. If you don't tell him how you feel, then you will live with the "what ifs" for the rest of your life. What ever is meant to be, will be. How do you know that he doesn't feel the same way? If he tells you that he can't be with you, then at least you know so that YOU can move on with your life. Tell him how you feel. I don't think that the timing is all that bad. If he were just about to get married, then I would say, yeah, maybe the timing sucks. But, you will never know unless you find out. Good luck.
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