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cant date but i want to
ok so i have a problem...im 13 and my parents say im not allowed to date until im 16! this is a HUGE problem for me because every1 i know has been on a date before and i havent.also i really want to ask thiis 1 guy out and im not sure if i should because im not allowed to date. HELP PLEASE!!
(im a girl)
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Boys your age are sooo immature. I remember when i was your age dating and the boys(to me) were so childish. Your parents might be doing you a favor. Boys dont start growing up till like 16 anyways. But hey if you like this guy i think you should talk to your mom about it if your close to her. If she still says no then just go out with him. But if she finds out then be ready for the consiquences. i use to date guys behind my moms back for like 2 years. But i could never go on dates with them i would see them at school and thats all.
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hunn, believe at 13, boys are really immature and don't know how to treat or respect you will. you're parents are only doing whats best for you, a lot of boys your age only wants what's in your pants, not in your heart. try listening to your parents and at least wait till you're 15 because that's when most boys start maturing and will know how to treat you right. I'm 15 and I'm also not allowed to date till I'm 16 and when i was your age I dated guys behind my parents back and then I learned why they didn't let me date back then. And just because your friends are all dating, don't mean you have to ok?
hope i helped,
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I am a parent of 3 and I too believe that the age of 13 is a bit young to "date". I am not saying that you can't like someone...I'm just saying that a date means...going out with one particular boy. I guess only when you get older do you realize that everything your parents do for you is only in your best interest. It sometimes takes awhile to realize it. You have your whole life ahead of you...
Good Luck!
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dating and having a bf are completely different things...unless they said no bf. just tell them you cant date you can only go out together with friends. its probably better and less awkward that way anyway. so get some friends together for dinner and a movie and invite him along. jope i helped :]
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It may sound really harsh but they only have your best interests at heart. They may trust you completely but have a problem with trusting other people. Your Dad will remember what it's like being that age and so will your Mum.
You will probably need to start by going out in a big group of people - boys and girls. Always make sure that they know who you are going with, where you are going and when you will be back and make sure you stick to it. It may seem like an intrusion but believe me it works by earning their trust and the more they do, the less restrictions they will put on you.
If there is one special person, you could slowly introduce his name into your conversations about school and life in general. After a while you could ask if a group of your friends including him could come over for an afternoon/evening to watch TV or listen to music. Introduce him to your parents as a close friend but not a boyfriend and let them get to know him before you start dating.
I know three years seems like a lifetime especially if all your friends seem to have more freedom, but it does pass really quickly. If you can appear to be mature and understanding of their worries and take into account their boundaries, you may be pleasantly surprised to find they will meet you halfway. Whatever you do, don't throw a strop and act like a little girl because that will only reinforce their opinion that you are too young to have a bit of independence. Good luck.
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