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Religion
Is it wrong not to go out with somebody because of their religion? I like this guy, but he doesn't believe in God, and it pisses me off! I don't want to force him to believe in what I believe in, but at the same time I would like somebody to have the same views as me. I'd probably even prefer to find a boyfriend in the church. Is that wrong?
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I dont think that ultimately religion should matter BUT if it matters to you then its important.
If it is already an issue than i dont think you should go out with him. In time maybe you could come to care for him more and it will not be an issue.
It is easier to be in a relationship if your beliefs are compatible. But remember that just because you are in the same religion, it doesnt mean you have the same morals at heart.
Its interesting that someones else beliefs "piss you off". There is a big world out there and most people are not going to believe in what you believe in... its better to realise that sooner than later because one day you will piss somebody else off and you will realise its best to be accepting....
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it isn't wrong sometimes if someone doesn't beleive the same way you do they might pressure you into doing things you don't want to do, and finding a boyfriend in your church is a good idea because you at least have some idea of what they beleive
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i think that you should be more open. you should not get mad at people just beucase they belive in another god or no god at all. but if this is what is important to you (your religion) then its good to find someone that finds that important too. you might end up resenting him for not believing in god. so you are probably right you should stick with someone in your church unless you are going to be open minded enough to accpet someone else for who they are and remember.. people can have good morals and have good ethics and NOT be christian. but do what feels best to you. find out whats most important to you. i hope that helps make a decision easier
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Its wrong that it pisses you off. That part of it, is selfish. You are pissed because you like him and you are in conflict because you don't think you can date him. These things happen, we arent compatible with everyone we like.
As far as dating him, its a valid reason. The fact is, that if your religion is important to you, its your right as a person to be with someone to whom that is important too. Later in life, this ranks about the same as not dating a guy because you want kids and he doesnt.
The one thing you need to realize, is that this is YOUR issue, not his. So he doesnt deserve to be punished or forced if you two arent compatible. Some people don't have a problem with things like this, other people do. Relationships are supposed to make both people relatively happy, so you have to do whatever you have to do to make yourself happy.
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I, personally, think that dating a boy of another religion is just a bad idea! Because he doesnt have the same morals and values as you and thats bound to cause a lot of problems! plus that seems like something really important to you and dear to your heart. It seems like its a good part of you and to date someone who doesnt understand that is very difficult. I think you should just wait for the right boy and im sure you can find someone in the church! my bf and i go to the same church and its so great because we volunteer together and go to service together and go to the youth group together. plus God says not to marry someone who is not a Christian and i know you probably wont get married but the whole point of dating is to find out who you will one day marry so that seems kinda pointless. I have dealt with this before so if you have any other questions i would be so happy to help you! and just wait for that guy-he will come! God will provide you with the perfect boy just for you if you trust Him and wait!! :] hope i helped
~HiChick~
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Its not wrong to not date someone because they have a different religion as long as thats not the only reason.You wouldnt want to miss your soulmate just because you dont have the same religion. So if you want to have a real relationship religion shouldnt be a factor. But if you want to look for a church guy you should if he has the same beliefs in God as you the chance is that you will have other things in common too! I dont mean to sound corny but follow your heart!
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