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I have been looking for a zebra print tote for months and i can't seem to find one. I just want a shapless zebra print bag. I dont want to have to pay a lot of money. if u see a site or have an idea where i might look please answer. thanxs for all the help

I can't name stores because I don't know where you are in the world, so I browsed around on the net and to be honest, Ebay is your best bet - the other bags are "shaped" and have sturdy handles made from other materials.
Just a suggestion, though: Do you know how easy it is to make a tote bag yourself? I made one for art and it literally took minutes to measure the size, cut it out, tack and sew the sides and neaten the seams. Just go to a haberdashery and go from there. It will be much cheaper and imagine how cool it will be to have your own, custom made bag.

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13/f
k well I don't have big breasts. I guess I'm an AA, but anyways. I had these bumps where my aerola or however you spell it is . Well , more like one bump, and it had like a black dot in it. I had it for about 4 months. But the black dot appeared about a month ago. Today, I accidiently popped it and these very light creme thingy came out. After I wiped that, blood started coming out. What is this? And is there any way to make it better? Thanks :)

It could have been a black head or some form of spot.
The blood probably came out because you applied pressure to it when you accidentally popped it.
Now you've popped it, just let it heal and it should be fine. If it keeps reappearing though, have a few words with your doc, just to double check.

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Hi I recently purchased the New Super Mario Bros game for my nintendo DS. For some reason World 4 and World 7 won't unlock. But all the other levels are unlocked and beaten. Does anyone know why this is happening. Do I have to find all 3 Star coins in each level to get into the next world. Please help. I really like this game but cant get into ALL levels.????

No, you have to complete worlds 2 and 5 as mini mario (or luigi). Then it will unlock automatically.
I loved that game. :)

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Im 19 years old and still a virgin and kinda want to stay like that but then again dont want to cause i want to enjoy my life What you think i sholud do ?`

Look at it this way. You have PLENTY of time for sex. You can still enjoy your life fully without it (until you find the right person you want to lose your virginity to, that is).
It's normal for you to want to lose it, but remember, once it's gone, it's gone. So many people just want to get it out the way and don't really care who with and don't make the effort to make it special. You, on the other hand, still have time to find that someone and make it a time to remember.
Good on you.

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ok, so my friends and i went to this club on a teen/all ages night. we're 17. my boyfriend who's 18 didnt want me going bc he says that me dancing with other guys is a form of cheating. i disagree with that. i can understand if me and some other guy were groping all over each other or kissin or whatever, but i dont think dancing with someone else is cheating. even if i do grind/dance with another guy, my boyfriend is the only one i care about and want to be with. he said he understands that, but he still doesnt like it. i would never have it in my heart to cheat on him, or anyone else. in your opinion, is dancing a form of cheating?

It's okay to dance with someone, but grinding is a different story, because your body is against theirs in a kind of sexual manner. How would you feel if your boyfriend went out and started grinding with a girl? I don't think you'd be very impressed..
Just tone it down a little. If you care about him as much as you say then you simply shouldn't do it.
That's just my personal thoughts on the matter.

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so im 13
and this dude is 15
we've been talking for a while now (few months)
and he asked me out last saturday over text.
i can never tell if someones serious over text so...
i said i wasnt sure.
and he hasnt talked about it since.
did he take it as a no?
(hes not the shy type at all.. so he'll basically talk about ANYTHING ad EVERYTHING)

so please help
guys have never been this confusing to me before.

Why wouldn't he be serious? That would be a cruel joke to play.
Txt him back and ask if he meant what he said last Saturday.. and go from there. :)

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15/f
I have a huge crush on this guy and he's so sweet and nice. I really think he likes me too but theres one problem. All of my friends think he's gay. I know he isn't i can just tell but if i went out or did anything with him they'd be all obnoxious calling him gay.

He is in touch with his feminine side but he is definitely not gay.

what do i do?

Does it really matter what your friends think? They aren't the ones who like him, YOU are.
If you like him, let him know and take things from there. If they make fun of you for it, you should start to question whether they are your true friends.
Go for it. Who gives a damn what anyone thinks. It's your feelings that matter. :)

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is blow job considered as cheating? doesnt that depend on a couple's thinking? it isnt the same for everyone...but i mean in general, would it be cheating?

Of course. Anything physical (kisses and more), in my eyes, is properly cheating.

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If some girl was forced to give a guy a blowjob from her school, and she has a boyfriend, she obviously thinks he will break up with her but she was forced, does that considered as cheating?

If it was forced, then it's simply something you should go to the police about.
If the guy just kept asking and she gave in, then yes, it's cheating. What would have happened if she stood her ground and said no?

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i need a website that has just about every code you can think of. hiding codes, tweaks, adding links anything and everything. but i don't want any of the codes tov include a stupid advertisement attached to it. any one know of any good myspace code sites?

This is the "generator" section on mygen.co.uk
There are other pages (on mygen) with pre made layouts etc at the top navigation bar.
http://mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=generators
Some of the pre made layouts contain an advertisement because the creator wants credit - but if you don't want it there, simply remove the new code at the end. The advertisements always seem to be at the end (on mygen - if there are any advertisements at all).
Happy browsing :)

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What should i do if a guy is obsessed with me?

Well, do you like it or not?
I'm guessing you don't, so...
*Make your feelings known to him and make it clear you don't like the fact he's invading your personal space. Tell him to back off. Not in those exact words, try to be nicer about it if you can.
*Don't do/say anything to lead him on - because he will carry on.
*Try to avoid him if you can.

It would have helped if you gave examples of why he's obsessed with you etc, to give you better ways of getting it to stop. Does he stalk you? If so, it's worth getting an adult involved (teacher, parent, older sibling) if you've already told him to stop and he doesn't listen.
If he's just infatuated with you and he's not harming you/following you/creeping you out, then just let nature run it's course and it'll stop.

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If you shave down there.. You know where I am gettign at.. And oy don't shave for abotu a day or so.. and your partner uses a condom, is it possible that the roughness from your previous shave may puncture the condom?

The chances of that happening are very, VERY slim. Condoms can withstand quite a lot and I highly doubt a bit of hair will damage it unless they're like razor blades!
Condoms go through vigorous testing before hand and I'm pretty sure they'd have thought of all the possibilities of them breaking and tested them, so don't worry.

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Im fourteen, female.
I have a pool in my backyard and a few guy friends. And being a girl I cant ALWAYS go swimming.
Like, when that time of month comes around and if the boy across the street just happens to come over then I dont just want to tell him to go away. Im on my period. That would be awkward..
But Ive tried using a tampon but it just wont...GO IN! Urrrghh, its so frustrating. And Im not really willing to practice.
But someone told me quiite some time ago that 'it' stops underwater, which I hardly believe.
But do you have any suggestions?

Some excuses:
*You aren't feeling too well
*It needs to be cleaned
*If you have any siblings, say they will be using it
*You're too busy
and no it doesn't stop in water.. but if you keep trying tampons, it WILL go in eventually, if you keep relaxed. Have you tried smaller sized tampons?

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how do you know when your belly button piercing is done healing?

When you can get jewelry in and out with perfect ease, when it doesn't hurt, look red, swell..
and it doesn't take 2 weeks to a month to heal as the previous person stated. It's impossible when it takes a standard ear lobe piercing at least 6 weeks..
In fact, they take a rather long time because they're slap bang in the middle of your body. You move alot in that area and it's easy for it to get irritated due to clothing. Initial healing time is around 3-4 months - maybe more (12 months) depending on the individual.

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Okay I'm a 16 year old female, and I was wondering this: Um do guys care if a girl gets wet very easily? Like for example if he's going to go down her pants, is it considered gross??

Being wet is a sign of being turned on, so no, guys should be happy if you are :)

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ok so like a week and a half ago my vagina itched but then after a couple days it went away so i thought i was fine. but now i have this horrible pain in my stomach and its really sore and sometimes feels like cramps but usually is just this terrible pain. ive had this pain for over 3 days now!! last night i used some medicine that cures yeast infections and i kno it wouldnt completely sure it the first night but it should have made the pain feel at least a little better but it still hurts really bad and now my back hurts too. i feel really sick and im so annoyed i cant figure out what this is. i looked online and i think it might be a urinary track infection but im not sure. can anyone tell me what it sounds like because it hurts a lot. i know i should go see a doctor but i just moved here a couple days ago and we are trying to unpack my house and we dont know any doctors here yet. its not like a stomach ache like i'm gonna be sick its just like its really sore and hurts A LOT and sometimes the pain makes me feel nauseous. thank you soooo much!!!

It's impossible for anyone here to give you a thorough diagnosis.
Your stomach/back pain may be totally unrelated to your itchy vagina and could just be coincidental... or maybe it IS an infection (maybe UTI) which could be spreading (kidneys perhaps) - and if this is the case, then you need to see a doctor asap. Don't let these things get worse.
If it's at all possible, drop by a chemist and explain your problem to a pharmacist. They are professionals too and will tell you what you need to do.
I don't know where you are in the world, but if you're in England, go to Boots (pharmacist will help you there) or call NHS direct and if it's necesarry, they'll tell you to drop in.
If you live elsewhere, then I'm sorry, but you will have to try your best to seek out a professional. It's better to be safe than sorry.
I wish you the best of luck.

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Should girls have hair going from the vagina into the butt. along that line?
and if girls get bikini waxes then we should have to shave our entire vagina right? and guys would be cool with that?
help thanks
14/f

1. It's normal to have hair there.
2. If you get a bikini wax, you don't have to shave your entire pubic area. A bikini wax is getting rid of hair which still might be visible when wearing a bikini. Although if you, personally want to shave it all, then do.
3. Who cares if guys are cool with it. It's up to you what you do, but I doubt they'd complain :)

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I broke my moms window when i stayed home from school and i dont know what to do plz help me.
Im really scared.

I think you know what you have to do. Come clean. Yes, she might be angry at first, but she will respect you a lot more for admitting the truth.
Tell her it was an accident (or however you did it) and tell her you will pay her back in some way, by doing extra chores around the house or if you're old enough, by getting a job and giving her some money.
Try not to be scared. Just sit her down and explain. Or if you can't do that, tell her to sit down and hand her a letter.
I hope you get it fixed soon! and good luck.

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so i have these beauty marks. one is on my upper, inner thigh and another is a little bit above my areola. do guys like that or no?

It's all about personal preference. Basically, some will, some won't.
but if they like you, I'm sure either way, a few beauty marks won't change their opinion of you.

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lmao. okay so me and this guy have gotten really close in the past skool year. im 13/f by the way. anyway, my friend and i like sorta joined his little group of friends.

well today my friend wasn\'t in school and so in the afternoon we were all just sitting around so me, him ( his name is gunna be \'josh\'), and our friend, x (lol) decied to play \'would u rather\" we started off with gross ones like would you rather eat your bff\'s face or make out with a horse. haha.

anyway we got to really personal ones. i asked them who they would rather \'do\' (ya know.. have sex with...) , me or my friend. they both said me. they asked me the same question and i said josh.

next our other friend anthony joined in. we had to say who we would do in the eigth and in 6th grade. then we did our grade (7th). we had to pick someone. i go to a private school so there are only 10 boys and 6 girls in my class. when we were thinking josh said that it was easy to pick someone.

x said this other girl, then josh said me!, then anthony did too. i really like josh if you haven\'t noticed!! lmao!

he is always asking me stuff and like there are alot of signs he likes me-

he asks me alot of questions about myself.
he has called me hot before this year
sometimes he just wont shut up! like he keeps talking to me!
and he always wants me to watch his videos on utube
he is really nice to me
he does that whole touch your arm thing that everybody says is a sign a guy likes you...


how do i get him to ask me to hang out with him!??!?!?!?!? anyway do you think he likes me??!

You know what, I think he would like it if YOU did a bit of the work :) You should be the one to ask him to hang out, or at least try to initiate it.
Talk about a place and casually say something like "we should go to _________!" and see what he says.
If you don't already have his number, try and get it and txt him every now and then.
Or if you want to sit back and wait for him.. which could be a lengthy process, mirror his body language. If he touches you, do the same back. Talk to him lots, smile at him and the biggy, tell him you like him. :)

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