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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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My friend thinks that she is addicted to smoking, but she has only been smoking for about a week. Could she really be addicted or is she being stupid!!?

Nicotine is a very addictive drug. She could easily be addicted. And yes she is also being stupid. Smoking is discusting habit. It's unatractive, makes your and everything you own stink, is unhealthy, and expensive. I don't understand why people do it.

Alright, someone help me and try to tell ma few diets. I know about Atkins, I can't go on Slim fast, I need more info on low Cal, I need a way to loose from 30 - 50 pounds I'm not in a hurry so anything can be good really. Please help!

Try joining wieght watchers. I know a few people that are doing really well with them. You count calories. You are allowed so many a day, so you can eat pretty much whatever you want, as long as you count the calories, and then one day a week you don't have to count. It gives you a lot more flexability then those crazy low carb diets.

O.K there is this boy that likes me. I don't like him but I feel bad... Like how do I say no without hurting his feelings? I had already told him no but he keeps asking me out... I need help!

You have tried to be nice and he still doesn't get the picture. You need to be more frim and definet next time he asks. He is going to feel hurt no matter how nice you put it, he is being rejected. That hurts anybodys feelings. But don't feel too bad, thats just life and we move on.

how do i ask a girl out on line

I think asking someone out over email or im is lame. If you can't ask them in person, how will you be able to talk to them when you actually go out? She will be more likely to say yes anyway if you ask her in person. Don't be shy, you can do it!

how do i ask a girl out

Be confident in yourself. Go up to her and ask her. It helps to have a place you would like to go in mind like: "Would you like to go to the movies with me on friday night." Having plans already set in mind make things less akward.
Good luck!

does anybody know any FREE! psychic readings i need to nkow what my future is gonna look like cuz i have these dreams that seemm like they show my future but i cant tell i need someone to tell me... please help me find someone to help me... asap i really need to find out.. help! make sure it is free

Why would you want to know your future? Whats the point of living if you know whats going to happen next. And what if you don't like what you hear? As for a free psychic I don't know of any, but even if there was a free one I can't imagine they would be any good.

Your dreams are just thoughts going through your head, the future you are seeing are just thoughts of what could be.

I have a boyfriend whom I love very much. We have been together for over two and a half years. This spring I graduate from college, and this summer I'm going to move several hours away and get started on landing my dream job. There's no telling what my work schedule will be like, so I probably won't get to see him very often. But that's not even the real problem.
My boyfriend has never been in college, even though he has always wanted to go, due to poor grades in high school and lack of financial resources. He works the graveyard shift at a local grocery store. He used to complain that he hated his job, now he says it's not that bad, and that eventually he'll do something better. He talks about all his plans for the future, but he doesn't do much to put the plans in action. He did buy a few SAT guides and has studied them a bit, but has yet to take the SAT even once, as he says "It costs money" and "I don't know where it is." (Two problems that are easily solved if you ask me -- if he didn't buy video games so often, he'd easily have enough money to take them, and finding out where to take the SAT is as easy as looking it up.) He doesn't have his license or a car, and I don't have a car quite yet either, so it's difficult for him to get around to places, and he refuses to ask people for rides or just take the bus or a taxi, for some reason. He's talked numerous times about saving money in order to get into school or get a car (to make life easier) or whatever, but something always comes up. Once he spent several hundred dollars on a computer, saying he "needed" it to look up schools, but all he's done with it is play games and surf the Internet and download songs. Another time he spent 150 bucks on a PS2, when he had been saving that money up for school. Other times, he's told me that he is waiting to see where I wind up career-wise, then he'll move there and go to school wherever I am! He originally planned to move in with me this summer, but something in my gut told me that was not a good idea just yet, so I told him I'd like to wait on that.
I have held several discussions with him about this before. Every time, I let him know that if he didn't really want to go to school, or was having trouble trying to figure out where to get started with it all, I would help him out as best I could. I mean, I'm very lucky to come from a family that could afford to send me to school, and to have had a lot of guidance early on about colleges and things of that sort. He's doing this all on his own, and I've always been very eager to try and help him out as much as I could. But he's put off all offers of my help, and sometimes, it's like he's just waiting on me to tell him what he needs to do. I have my own job and schoolwork and life to worry about at the moment, and he's got to meet me halfway. I can tell him where to go to register for the SAT or who to talk to at my own college about career and college guidance, but he always insists that I go with him. One time I told him about a minorities program that would help him out a lot financially (he's Puerto Rican), but he put off going to see the advisor and well, he just never did it. Another time I was telling him about how a friend of mine pays for school by being a resident advisor, and he instantly turned down that idea flat without even looking into it, saying "Nah, that's just not for me."
He often says things like, "You've got to have faith in me, because if you don't trust me, how can we have a relationship?" Well, I do trust him, but how can I have faith in him when he doesn't do anything?
We've been friends for 8 years and I love him with my whole heart, and I want him to be there in the future when I'm ready to get married and buy a house and settle down. He knows this, and he's always said he wants the same things, and I believe he does. But the last thing I want is to marry someone who can't even pay his share of the bills! Let me make it clear that I pay for plenty of things myself in this relationship. I'm not the kind of girl who wants a guy based on how much money he has. If I see something nice that I want, I buy it for myself, most of the time. So I'm not asking for the world here. I can make my own dreams come true! But I would like to see him live out all his dreams, and I'd like to see him live the nice comfortable life he says he wants to live. These are all things he's brought up on his own, not words I put in his mouth. It's not as if I'm trying to force him to want the same things I want.
These days, he spends most of his time (when he's not sleeping or working) playing video or computer games or watching basketball games, or hanging out with me. When I encourage him to do stuff or make suggestions or offer some help, he tells me he's working on it and seems eager to change the subject. So, I take that to mean that I've nagged too much in the past and he's grown tired of hearing it, and so in the past few months I haven't really brought it up at all. The last thing I want is to be a huge nag and drive him crazy.
I've been in lots of relationships and this is easily the best one. He is extremely kind, generous, fun, very talented and creative, and best of all, he loves ME exactly the way I am! He has never tried to change a single thing about me (well, except the fact that I am a big slob, haha). So I feel bad that I'm being a hypocrite of sorts by trying to change him. But it's not so much that, as that he says he's going to do things with his life, and then he doesn't do them. Even my family and friends have noticed that he's not really going anywhere. I hate when my family asks me questions about the progress he's making with school (because they're excited for him wanting to get into school, not because they're trying to be snotty or nosy), because I have nothing new to share with them. If he would just be upfront and honest and say "I don't want to go to school" that would be fine. But he says he does want to go, he's always said that, before we ever got romantic.
I feel I also have to mention that this is not the only thing he has been slow about. He hasn't seen his family, who live in Texas, in close to three years. My mother looked up some discount plane tickets for him several times that he could have easily afforded, but he wouldn't go, even though he is always talking about how much he misses them, and emailing them and calling them! My mother was very confused about that. I was, too! Other times he'll say he's going to go see his fam in a few months, but a few months later, it's obvious it's not going to happen!
I don't want to let him go, but I wonder. Am I justified in worrying that I'm going to be hanging on forever waiting for him to DO something? Am I doing something wrong in the way I try to talk to him, since I wind up hitting a brick wall every single time? Am I being a huge bitchy snob who needs to stop trying to make her boyfriend be just like her? Everything's perfect in our relationship, to a tee, except this. Maybe I should let him find someone who is better than me.

First I want to tell you that you are not the problem! You are doing nothing wrong. Don't blame yourself for his laziness. My first reaction is to tell you that he is a lazy bumb, with no motivation, and I don't think he will ever change. If I were you I would leave. But I am not you, and your in love with this man, and I understand how it is.

You are justified with wanting him to do something with his life. You are planing on making him part of your future, but you need a man that can be your partner, not a kid that needs taking care of. If you want him to grow up and start taking some responsiblity things have to change.

Tell him you love him, but if he can't start to do all these things he said he would do, you don't see a future in this relationship. You can't wait around forever hoping things might change. And you can't hold his hand any longer. If he wants to go to school it has to be him that makes it happen. It's time for him to grow up and be a man.

I do hope things change for you.

I'm five feet six inches tall and I weigh nearly 180 pounds. I want to weigh 118 pounds again, maybe less. I have been eating a lot less but it seems like the weight just doesn't want to come off. I don't have a whole lot of time to exercise, but I try to squeeze in a walk around my neighborhood when I can!
I have 3 bottles of those Stacker 2 pills but I haven't started taking them yet. They're the kind without ephedra. Does anyone know if they work and if so how should I use them? Also I am on the antidepressant Lexapro and I heard this can cause you to lose some weight. Does that work?
Any other "miracle" cures you can come up with, well hey I'm willing to try. Just please do NOT tell me to go on the Atkins or South Beach diets!

There are no miracle cures that will keep the weight off. Yes there are all kinds of crazy diets that will help you loose weight, but I gaurentee that you will gain it all back once you stop the diet. If you want to loose weight eat healthy, and devote sometime to excersise. You can't tell me you to don't have 10 or 20 minutes a day to do some quick excersises. Crunches, pushups, steps, arobics ect.... Walking is great and all, and good for your heart, but thats not going to do much for the weight. Especially if it is only done once a week. You have to work at it to make it happen, don't depend on pills and miracle cures.

I like this boy who we where boyfriends and then we broke up then we got back to gether then he ceated on me so we broke up but know I like him but I dont know what to do cuse I dont know if he likes me but the bad part is that my bbfs dont like him and they alwas tell me to brake up with him what should I do?someone help me!!!

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
- Albert Einstein

Don't wast your time with him anymore, there are better guys out there!

Hello,
well i am really good at singing and i really want to be a singer when i grow up. Could someone tell me how i would get a cd out or any websites that have like a singing contest???!?!!? I really really love singing and i think i could do it so please answer back.

I just finished reading Simon Cowels book (from American Idol) called "I Don't Mean to be Rude But..." I thought it was a very intellegent book and had a lot of useful information for aspiring singers and how to become discoverd. I deffinetly recomend you read it!

ok i have this boy friend, and my friends like him and they are getting mad at me what should i do?

Well if they are getting mad at you because they are jelous, well that is too bad for them. If they can't be supportive and happy for a friend, maybe they aren't such good friends. And you can tell them that for me.

My friend got fingered by a guy, and she has had her period. I was wondering can you get pregnant from being fingered. Does that also mean ur a no a vergin anymor?? PLease write back thanx

No she can't get pregnat. Maybe you should go talk to your parents about the birds & the bees.

Me (Michael) and my girlfriend(Danielle) recently broke up. Before I get into it let me give you some history. I have been dating my girlfriend since she was 13 and I have been her only real love and her first everything since then. I am two years older then her and her father is very strict and didn't allow us to go out back then. When we broke up it was because of him and I sent him an email stating why I was good for her and it created more of a problem and the guy hates me so when we got back together a year later...he still didnt know about us. Now she is 16 and we been going out since December. Its been 2 weeks since we broke up. I broke up with her because of a little fight we were in but I had done that before and she always came back...this time she said I broke up with her one too many times and shes been trying to prove that point for the last two weeks. In December I left my girlfriend (Meghan) of one year for her and it was hard to do because Danielle has hurt me so many times before because of our situation with her dad. That really hasn't been too bad now that shes older because shes gonna do what she wants because shes gotta be her own person. She originally said she cant come back because she told me she wouldnt keep running back and then I went out and made things worse because I told her how i would tell her dad about us and I scared her. I really went nuts because I feel that i gave up so much for her ..its not fair that she wont forgive me over something I didnt really want to do. Then she asked for space and time to figure out her life and who she is...I gave her 3 days but it felt like 30 and I eventually called her to inform her one of our friends died and after hearing her voice I couldnt stay away anymore. I only broke up with her this last time over something stupid and I did it out of anger because I was afraid my mom had cancer which she didnt. I told Danielle that and she didn't understand...she said it was no excuse. I saw Danielle with her friends last night and I got mad and she happened to see me and accused me of spying on her but I was just driving by. Shes scared of me...she said shes afraid im going to get her in trouble. Although my actions are often inmature its only because I love her and I would never be able to hurt her like that. We are both very young and I wouldnt be wasting my time about this if it was another girl but its just that me and her have such a large and great history. We always made it back to eachother and even if we break up now...i still think we will get back together one day again. Our current status is..we are going to hang out the first chance we get which could be a while because we are both going to be busy. She said if she feels its right when we hang out and she feels safe and like she felt before we broke up she will go out with me again but if not I have to give her space. I don't know how I could make her feel that way. I already love her with all my heart and I changed for her. I want to do nice things for her when we hang out like buy her flowers but even so...I cant make her feel a certain way...only her heart can do so. I don't wanna lose her..the thought of her with another guy and the thought of her not giving me 1 more chance after I gave up so much for her makes me very angry and it really makes me wanna cause her pain like shes causing me. Since we broke up I have messed up in school and I havent wanted to do anything. Ive spent time with other girls just to get my mind off of her but I dont want them because I found everything I want in her. Sometimes when girls say they need space they come to find out what they are missing and they really dont need space at all..then they reach for the phone and come back..Danielle aint the type to call..she will feel stupid. Thats why I want everything to work out when we next hang out..i want her to come back and I realize only she has the power to do that..i cant make her feel like she did 2 weeks ago. Im in a really tough spot and I don't know what to do. I can't imagine my life without her again. It was so hard being apart from her for that one year. I know this is long and very complicated but your view on our relationship would be greatly appreciated as well as on any tips or advice you could give me on getting her back. Thank you.

I think you are both too immature for this relationship. For one her father is disaproving of her dating, she should respect that and so should you, if she continues to lie to her father, she will never be trusted and you will never be like. A relationship won't work if has to be a secret. And the fact that you break up with her every time you have a fight seems like a temper tantrum. You need to be able to talk and work out your dissagrements not shut her out just because your mad.

This relationship has been on and off for 3 years, and is still not working out. I don't blame her for not wanting to get back together, she knows you will just break up again, whats the point. After this much time, I think is time to realize that this relationship is never going to go anywhere. Maybe you should finally give up on her, there are a million other fish in the sea.

is it posible to date two friends at a time?people said it is bad can i believe this?

It's a great idea to go on lots of dates, with differnt people. That way you can see what differnent people can be like and the possiblities of diifernent relationships. I am saying going on a date though, not having multiple boyfriends/girlfriends. Just cause you are dating someone, doens't mean that they are your boyfriend/girlfriend.

everywhere I go I feel like someone is following me I don't know if it is good or bad but this feeling takes place when I'm alone. is this normal?

It is good to stay aware and alert of your surroundings when you are alone. There are a lot of attacks and abductions nowadays. I always look around my car before I get in. And I sometimes worry there is someone in my back seat. So your not crazy. If your getting to the point were you are really scared though, there may be other things that are causing this fear. If that is the case I would talk to a counsler.

i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do

Dump him!!!! There is no excuse for cheating. Guys like that will never change, he will only break your heart. You deserve better.

i wanna get a boyfriend. but one that actually likes me 4 me! i havent had a boyfriend since i dumped my ex. i want him bak but he doesnt like me.... wut do i do??????

Um you are contradicting yourself. You want someone who likes you for you, and you want your ex back that doesn't like you. Why exactly do you want him back? Just to have a boyfriend? You are not going to fine a nice guy if your are constantaly seeking a boyfriend. The best guys come around when you least expect it.

i tryed to kill my self and told my bf and now he wont leave me alone wat do i do ?

What is making you life so missearble that you feel you can't go on? Death is not a solution. You have someone who cares for you, and won't leave your side for a second if he feels you might harm yourself. Isn't that worth something?

My g/f that i love tried to kill herself. I love her so much and she wont talk 2 me about why she did it. She wont talk 2 me at all about it some one pleese help me what should i do

Just let her know that you lover her, and you don't know what you would do if she was gone. Keep trying to talk to her. She obviously has problems and needs to talk to sombody. Try and find out what is making her life so unbearable that she feels she can't go on. Remind her of all the positives in her life, and let her know that you are here for her.

My little sister drives me insane. and she hurts me and I tell my parents and they say she doesnt know ANY better.WITCH SHE DOES she. or they say and your talking.

your truely,
I wish I was an ONLY CHILD

P.S PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

Tough luck, it is natural for siblings to fight. What can you do?!?! It's just the way it is. Just try to stay out of her way.

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