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There is this boy............
O.K there is this boy that likes me. I don't like him but I feel bad... Like how do I say no without hurting his feelings? I had already told him no but he keeps asking me out... I need help!
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I am the *friend* Aeromonkey was talking about. Ugh, when this guy keeps asking you out just make sure he understands that you mean NO. Be gentle about it, but put emphasis on the fact that you aren't interested. Explain to him that you just like him as a friend, nothing more. If he still doesn't get a clue hire a bodyguard. - Sporkster
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well this is kind of wht happened to my friend. so ill try to give good advice.
tell him hes just not your type and its nice and all that he had the courage to ask you out but you just dont think you could go out with him
and if that doesnt work tell him you'de rather not go out with him than go out with him and not love him at all you dont want his feelings hurt and that is really nice
you have a good heart follow it
aeromonkey
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If this boy really likes you then he would respect you and respect your answer. He wouldn't keep on bugging you if he respected you and liked you. Just ask him nicely to stop. Then if he doesn't, get a little mad but don't go crazy on him!!
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you an tell him that your not interested or you can say that your already taken. He wont bother y again and if he askes by who the ell him by your neighbor. Or you can always tell him that he's not your type. Those are the only ones I hve that wont hurt his feelings. If you have ny more questins you can always im me at bebexoxox@aol.com
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SIT HIM DOWN AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM AND TELL HIM THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO HURT HIS FEELINGS . DON'T MAKE IT BLUNT AND LOOK HIM IN THE EYE'S .
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When he's asked you out in the past, how have you said no? I mean, have you actually told him that you don't want to date him, or has it been more like "sorry, I'm busy that night"?
If you've been trying not to hurt his feelings by softpedaling your rejections, it's probably time to be a little more straightforward. If he asks you out again, you can say that you're flattered, but you're just not interested in him romantically. (You can tell him that you'd like to be friends IF that's actually what you want -- don't say it if you're hoping he's just going to leave you alone.)
If he already knows that you're not interested, but he keeps going after you anyway, then you have to be even firmer. Tell him that your answer isn't going to change, and that it makes you uncomfortable that he keeps approaching you for dates, so you'd appreciate it if he would stop.
It's very nice of you not to want to hurt his feelings, but there's only so much you can do. Obviously, you should be polite and you shouldn't say anything insulting. Beyond that, though, it's much kinder to him in the long run if you're clear and forthright.
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Honestly, if he likes you that much there is no way of doing it without hurting him, but it's got to be done. Giving him false hope or stringing him along is worse than just giving it to him straight - you'll be doing him a favour in the long run by just telling him. Find a time and place when no one else is around - you don't want to humiliate him in front of his friends or peers. Sit him down and explain that even though he is a great guy, and you're very flattered, you just don't think of him in that way. Make sure you get the message across.
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Either use the old fasion way and say lets just be friends, or go out with him and break up after a while and make him hate you, or just tell him you don't like him. Not to take it personal but he's not your type or something
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tell him you don't like him like that let him know u don't have feelings for him and that you just see him as a friend not a boyfriend
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You can only tell the truth. If you dance around the truth he might get the wrong idea and you'll end up hurting him even more. Just be honest, it may hurt him now but its better in the long run.
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You have tried to be nice and he still doesn't get the picture. You need to be more frim and definet next time he asks. He is going to feel hurt no matter how nice you put it, he is being rejected. That hurts anybodys feelings. But don't feel too bad, thats just life and we move on.
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