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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
i'm a 15f and i want to get nipple piercings.does it hurt?
Yes. It does.
Not as bad as you would think during the actual piercing, but the after effects can be miserable.
It can take anywhere from 6 months to 1+ year to heal.
Bumping them hurts like hell, as does touching them.
You definately want to avoid tugging or pulling them, because doing that can cause your nipple to reject the jewelry.
Proper care must be taken. Infections can also cause rejection.
ygs-29/f
Okay, I'm 18/m and I was just curious if there is an average with the amount of times a guy can cum before losing hardness. For example, i read a lot of comics and magazines and books where the guy cums 3 or four times but I've only managed 2 without stopping. I know people are gonna say something like "don't always believe what you read" cuz I've heard it. So, is there a certain number of times a guy can cum in a row before he's completely done?
Thanks o^-^o
So far as what I learned in biology, a guy only orgasms once. I suppose multiple times is possible, but it may just be one orgasm lasting for a bit.
As a rule, a guy will ejaculate once, then have to wait 15 minutes or so to even be able to reestablish an erection.
ygs-29/f
Last night, I pierced MY OWN ears. I play after school sports, and the coach is gonna make me take out the piercings. Its only 2 hours, and so could I take them out for two hours, without them closing up? And if not, should I wait a week and then do it like that? Also, any advice other general advice for how to care for them?
And now I'm afraid that they could be infected. But isn't it only supposed to be infected if its been 24 hours or shorter, and so if pain lasts longer than that, then its been infected? And if so, and I don't feel any pain at all, right now (been about 16 hours) and so what if I began to feel pain in like 2 days or something?
I gave myself three new piercings. (I already had the first normal two). If you can answer just one part, or give me just any advice at all, I would be so thankful!
So far as I know, your piercing can get infected at anytime before it is healed. Now, I don't remember exactly how long it takes ear piercings to heal.
Be sure to always keep it clean. If you remove the earring, clean it and the area before reinserting it.
I would avoid peroxide, because it stays moist. That makes your piercing a breeding ground for infection.
I would wash with a mild soap, and use rubbing alcohol.
The rubbing alcohol burns, but it evaporates quickly so it leaves no moisture in the piercing. That, and it is a wonderful disinfectant.
Of course you know to periodically turn the earring throughout the day during the healing process.
Now, if your ear turns all red, then there is potentially an infection. If that is the case, you will want to completely remove the earrings.
You won't want to put them back in- let the hole heal and close over, then redo it.
If you pierced the lobes, it shouldn't really hurt much at all. If it is a continuous pain that lasts, remove the earrings, it's probably infected.
ygs-29/f
My nephew, who lives with me, wont eat anything. if he eats anything its unhealthy foods. the only reason he even gets unhealthy foods id because my sister (his mother) is so worried that he wont eat anything at all. I've read up on it and im sure he's more than just a picky eatter. he eats next to nothing at all. he gets milk at bed time and his mother gives him granola bars because he likes them and they arent as unhealthy as the candy he beggs for. the doctors tell her to feed im high callerie foods but her idea of high callerie foods are junk foods adn i dont know how to get it in her head that those foods arent good for him. i know she only give him thoes foods because she knows he'll eat them. but he seriously doesnt eat any healthy foods. and hever since he stoped eatting baby food, he wont eat anyting that looks like it like yogert or soups. Hes 2 years old and weighs 25 lbs. hes not lossing wieght but not gaining. the doctors say hes not mal-nutritioned.
i need some ideas on why he doesnt eat and what i can do for him....
Thank you to anyone who can help me
I'd be willing to say that the problem isn't you, and it isn't him. The problem is his mother.
When he begs for candy, he probably gets it, or at least he surely used to get it by begging.
Granola bars are still packed with sugar and unhealthy for a growing child to eat. Though somewhat better than a candy bar, they are still technically candy.
She feeds him junk food for high calorie foods, which is also unhealthy for him to eat.
She needs to quit giving in.
I know, that's hard to do. I find myself giving in to my son, too, now and then, but I stand firm when it comes to what he eats.
Ever since he started on baby food, I've conditioned him to eat what is healthy for him. Believe it or not, his favorite snack is shredded wheat.
As he gets older, no amount of begging, crying, or refusal to eat will make me step down on that.
His mother has to realize that she is conditioning her son for an extremely unhealthy lifestyle.
Candy and junk food is a treat, not a daily diet.
He can put on weight by eating foods high in protein.
She has to realize that she is responsible for the health and well-being of that boy, and she needs to stop giving in to this whole junk food idea.
She has to realize that all of this junk food puts him at high risk for obesity, diabetes, malnutrition, rotting teeth, and many other health issues.
You got to try to make her realize that she is doing this to him.
Like YG said, if he doesn't want to eat the meal that is put before him, then he doesn't get anything else. When he gets hungry, he will eat the healthy dinner you have prepared.
I think a lot of kids are picky like that, but they outgrow it if they are taught to.
ygs-29/f
my best friend ever is a black boy named even and no one knows that he is my best friend on earth im afriad to tell my parents about him because they dont really like black people and i love him like my own brother please help i want to tell people about him but i dont know how please help and thanks
Just tell people, including your parents.
I'm sure it doesn't make him feel very good about himself and the friendship for you to be afraid to announce it.
Personally, though I wouldn't say it, I would feel as though you were embarrassed of me.
I mean, really- put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel about it if you were him?
Your parents may not like it, but that is a fact of life with some families. That is sad, really. Be thankful YOU aren't that way.
You will never know if they are able to see through something as trivial as skin color if you don't give them the chance to see that he is really a great guy and your best friend.
ygs-29/f
Recently this month, when I wake up, I have just a really terrible bad breath and my mouth has this nasty stale taste! I know it's normal to get bad breath when you wake up, but it's really bad and when I wake up or open my mouth during the night when I sleep, it's so bad it wakes me up and I can't get back to sleep.
I brush my teeth with a lot of tooth paste in the morning when I wake up but the smell is kind of still there. It goes away before lunch and etc but still, that's really gross, right in the morning. I don't like the taste it gives me before my breakfast either!
And also, while I'm brushing my teeth, there's a feeling in the back of my throat, like as if there's a lump of something down there so I have to try to hork what ever it is out very day (even though I can't even hork at all) and the feeling's still there. I feel like an old person when I hork while brushing my teeth. Very gross indeed.
Is that normal? Is there anything else I can do?
I know this doesn't help for the cause overnight, but it may help with the morning breath that continues until lunch:
Try buying a new toothbrush. You should replace it every 3 months or so.
You don't even want me to tell you all of the sorts of nasties that build up on your toothbrush over time.
Use Listerine. The off-brands are just as effective.
Yah, really strong tasting stuff, you can feel the burn, but very potent and effective at getting rid of bad breath. Swish and swash and gargle and all that for at the very least 30 seconds.
DO avoid the brown kind. I prefer the green minty kind, myself. Blue is good. I find the orange kind to be kinda gross and it causes my mouth to water constantly.
If you are a smoker, it will cause you to have nasty morning mouth like that, as well as the whole horking thing.
If you don't smoke, but someone in the home does, that can cause it too if you are sitting there and breathing in the smoke.
As for trying to hork it up, while you are in the bathroom brushing and all, run the shower's hot water full tilt and steam up the room. The steam should help that nasty crap break up and come out.
ygs-29/f
i feel like my hair is so flat. i want my hair to be straight but how do you get it not so flat? i have thick hair. is their a certain way to straighten it?thankss
You could try to use volumising hair products such as shampoos, mousse, gel, hair spray, etc. when you plan to straighten your hair.
However, use these products with caution if you have really thick hair, because you can end up with a straight, bushy look.
ygs-29/f
16/f
This 15 year old guy asked me out (5 month difference in age) But I don't like him so much. I used to..when he was better looking and not so much of a jerk..as he is now. He assumed that I said yes. I didn't say yes. (He thinks I like him so much)
Well, I want to tell him no..Like in school. Or even online. But I don't know how to. I've never had a boyfriend before, and I don't want this one to be my first.
(Also because he told me we were going to engage in sexual acts. He told me that we would progress as a couple...I don't want that. It's disgusting)
How do I turn him down? =\
The guy is a jerk, so why worry about telling him the answer is NO?
Are you worried about hurting his feelings or something? Don't be. At all.
Just say NO-SORRY-NOT INTERESTED-FORGET IT.
ygs-29/f
I really need help because I want to create a new screenname, I prefer something funny and I don't want my name in it because I don't want my name in it anyways or the sports I play, etc. I was thinking of making the screename skinnygirl, (because im skinny) but I have a couple of very overweight acuaintences (would that offend them?) I prefer something funny, thanks
How about bag_of_bones
Shows you are skinny in a comic way that your friends won't find offensive.
But I don't know, maybe you find referring to yourself as a bag of bones offensive.
ygs-29/f
ok I use to wear preppy clothes and a lot of pink last year and now that i am in highschool i like black t-shirts and skiny jeans. Like half of my clothes are preppy and half are punk rockerish. I wear more eyeliner and I am starting to like punk rocker guys. But I still act a little preppy and i still love pink. What is my style or am i just a mix of styles?
Don't fret. You are expressing your unique individuality. Good for you.
Wear what YOU like, like who YOU want to, act how YOU feel comfortable.
Like someone else said, forget the whole stereotype thing. You are a person with her own likes and dislikes, and obviously likes to show it. Be proud of that.
There is nothing wrong with standing apart from the crowd, you preppy, pink, punk rocker, you.
I was once a rainbow haired, poetic, gothic chick who was well known for rocking out to Queen.
ygs-29/f
17.
I gave my boyfriend a hand job and got semen on my hands. A minute later I used a paper towel and wiped it all off. After we were finished fooling around, I came home. About an hour later I was in my bathroom and I curiously stuck my finger inside myself a little bit before I realized what I'd done earlier, and immediately took it out. I hadn't washed my hands after me and him fooled around, only wiped everything off. But I'm wondering, could I get pregnant??
There has to be sperm on your hand for that to happen, so I find that highly doubtful.
If you were, I would say it is some sort of amazing miracle.
No worries. Next time be sure to wash your hands.
ygs-29/f
Okay, I am 17/f(just turned 17 about a month ago)
I just started noticing this like couple days ago that my boobs, er one of my boob on left side... is getting bigger. It is a noticable change and it's only happening to my left side.
What's happening??? Am I normal???
I think it is just natural. Like how, as a rule, one foot is actually a half a size or so smaller than the other.
No worries, you are fine.
ygs-29/f
I am a girl and i am 13 years old. I am only in 6th grade though because i was held back. Like no one in my class has a boyfriend and its the really spoiled people who do, but i really like this guy and he likes me. BUt hes really shy. Only guys have asked girl out so what do I do? I need advice.
I agree. Don't conform to the "standard." Dare to be different, and bold. Ask him.
ygs-29/f
Ok whns the next movie on?
If they gave the show the ax the way YG said, I highly doubt they will promote her in another movie.
Sucks for the fans, I know, but the producers of the show, I'm sure, are more interested in teaching kids good values without a tabloid-tainted star breaking those same good values.
ygs-29/f
in this world we are having war...ik why but WHY? uk what i mean i hate that the only way to solve things is by war...why not by a game of vollyball or twister whats wrong with that. your brought up to not fight be nice love. and everyone says i want peace in the world but no one does a thing about it. im still in school and in history im learning about how some people cant accept others because they have a different look to them or their religion is not thiers i hate it i want to do something have my voice out there for all to hear. but its like im in a club and what ever i do i cant get around the noice to tell my friend "what did you say"!!! im asking you why war why not peace why does everything have to be complicated when it doesnt?!!!! why make it easy ? it hurts to say it but if we dont shape up soon we mite all die either from depression murder suisde...its the worst disease ive ever could feast my eyes on. why can it stop!?????
You want to know what's worse than that?
Watch.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuBo4E77ZXo
The only way things will change is when the people of this country wake up. We are nothing but cattle in our government's eyes. Slave cattle, at that, since we work our fingers to the bone in order to line the pockets of the greedy and powerful.
The rich and powerful become MORE rich and powerful, when people like us become poorer.
Ah, but We The People are the ones who are supposed to have the power. There are just too many of us who trust our government and keep handing over more and more power all the time.
Nothing will change unless We The People wake up, stand up, stop dividing ourselves, and make the change.
ygs-29/f
Why do I always see pictures of people with their pants down on toilets (mostly girls) when theyre drunk? like on facebook or myspace or whatever. is it like...a ritual thing? or what? i dont get it haha
I guess it is just kids being proud of themselves for acting like drunken idiots.
Sad and pathetic. :(
Don't conform to such foolishness.
ygs-29/f
im sorry this is dumb-but i went over my text messages ALOT! this month and im really scared for the bill to come, if i have like 1500 messages, how much is each one that i went over on going to cost me?!
I know with Tmobile it was something like 5 cents (each for ingoing and outgoing)
I would assume Verizon is in the same ballpark.
Not a lot, but it adds up quick.
ygs-29/f
[14/f] okay soo im 14 yrs. old and i like this guys who is 17. he told me he liked me a while ago and i told him i liked him back, but he has a girlfriend. yesterday he said he loved me and there is just something about me. i told him i cant say it back cause i cant say it if i dont feel it. hes just perfecttt. hes done nothing more than makeout because he hasen't found the right girl and im in the same situation with a guy. what should i do about his girlfriend though.?
thank youu.
So perfect?
He is telling you how much he loves you, yet has a girlfriend...
Why is it, now, that he still has a girlfriend if he loves you so?
Sounds like a jerk to me. Sorry.
Put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes, because if you fall for his crap, you will most likely be in them for real.
ygs-29/f
I have cuts on/near my wrists .
I don't cut , Never have .
They used to be light , Now Im getting new cuts that are deeper and more noticeable .
People think Ive been cutting .
Honestly , I haven't .
This has been going on for a few months , What is it ?
Could it just be coincidence ?
I know , Odd question .
Butt , I don't want my friends getting the wrong idea .
I would say it is something you should bring up with your doctor, for starters. This could be a sign of an underlying problem.
On a day when you notice a new cut, think back over your daily activities. Is there something you are doing with your hands that is causing you to get cuts on your arms? (Ex. Do you work on a farm, on cars, etc.)
If so, you can wear some sort of wrist guards to protect your skin.
ygs-29/f
My boyfriend and I are 17 and I have been on microgestin birth control for over 3 months. A couple weeks ago my boy came in me while having sex and after that i got a period but it wasn't my placebo week. A couple days after that period, he came in me again and so the following week (my placebo week) I didn't get my period. Is that because my body doesn't want to bleed again that quickly or I screwed up and may be pregnent? Please help. How effective are these BCPs? Should we still be using a condom?
Your period could be that way because your body just decided to have a goofy month. Birth control helps regulate your period, but it isn't a for sure thing. Your body may still be trying to regulate itself.
It is highly doubtful you are pregnant if you are correctly taking your birth control. There is a chance, but it is so slim it isn't worth fretting over in the least.
Condoms are a good safety precaution. Even if you take birth control, it is always a good idea for you and your boyfriend to get in the habit of practicing safe sex.
Condoms protect against STDs. Not saying that you or your boyfriend have an STD, but it is a good habit to get into for self protection. It is in your best interest for now, and in your future.
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