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Question Posted Sunday January 6 2008, 10:42 am

my best friend ever is a black boy named even and no one knows that he is my best friend on earth im afriad to tell my parents about him because they dont really like black people and i love him like my own brother please help i want to tell people about him but i dont know how please help and thanks

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triquetra answered Wednesday January 9 2008, 5:04 pm:
There is nothing wrong having a best friend who's black. Bring him back home with you to help you with your homework (if the situation arises) and introduce him to your parents. Talk to your parents after he's left and say how you feel about him. They should respect your decision, no matter what they feel about black people.
Also introduce him to your other friends and explain to them that you want them to be all friends (after or before, your call). Don't be afraid, there is nothing to fear from their reactions, remember that he's your best friend and nothing can break that.

Good luck with the future and with Even,
triquetra

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icey0990 answered Monday January 7 2008, 1:41 am:
let people know. we live in a different time now. if your parents dont like it, which they probably wont, stand up to them. let them know racism is wrong and its 2008 now! our generation must be passionate and strong about breaking racial barriers. dont be ashamed

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Brandi_S answered Sunday January 6 2008, 11:53 pm:
Just tell people, including your parents.

I'm sure it doesn't make him feel very good about himself and the friendship for you to be afraid to announce it.
Personally, though I wouldn't say it, I would feel as though you were embarrassed of me.
I mean, really- put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel about it if you were him?

Your parents may not like it, but that is a fact of life with some families. That is sad, really. Be thankful YOU aren't that way.

You will never know if they are able to see through something as trivial as skin color if you don't give them the chance to see that he is really a great guy and your best friend.

ygs-29/f

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carayotie answered Sunday January 6 2008, 7:49 pm:
The situation can swing either way with your parents.
They may accept him or they may not but personally it shouldn't matter because he's your friend.

Maybe before approaching your parents, lightly ask what they think of the subject of having a colored person as your friend and see how they react.

Good Luck.
I know it can be hard but you can do it :)

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They won't. Just say it was just something that you were wondering. For all they know the topic might of came to mind while you were watching tv or something.

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MAK answered Sunday January 6 2008, 7:27 pm:
What you're parent don't know won't hurt them. There's a chance they won't let you hang out with him if you tell him, and he might get some harsh words, as well.

As for the "other people," tell them. You shouldn't hide an amazing person from your friends. If you're truly friends with him, you wouldn't care what other people think of you hanging out with him. Introduce him to your other friends, share this amazing person with them. Who knows, you might help stop some racial disputes that go on where you live.

~Maria, 16

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