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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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in 1 year i have to choose between field hockey and soccer b/c the 2 sports take place at the same time!! I do not wantt o choose but i have to so what do u think i should choose or what woule be a good way to choose?
Thanks for the Help!!

Well no one can tell you which one to choose only you can. Write down good things and bad things you like about both sports and maybe you'll make a decision when done doing that. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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Im a 16/f and my best friend iss a 18/m. Well, my best friend had a gf for 2-3 years and they were in love. he was madley in love with her and her back. Someting happened and now they broke up. that was 3 months ago. ONE month ago, my friend moved to Texas. He met this girl and they started dating, yesterday was theyre 1 month anniversary and they already had sex. I got mad at him because he met her a MONTH ago and already had SEX! I mean, I expected SO MUCH MORE from him. and He tells me its none of my buisiness, and yeah its not, but im his best friend also, and I just dont get it I tol dhim its rebound and he told me its not because he rebounded on me for a week . So he liked me for a week . and stopped. got a gf, and had sex with her. He tells me he has strong feelings for her and they applied to the same colleges So why the heck am I so pissed at him for having sex a MONTH into a relationship...? am i wrong for being pissed? and i cant figure out weather im jealous or not... i dont think i am. but just THINKING about him having sex with some girl he just met makes me upset. help :(

He moved to Texas and I live in AZ.

Yur just looking out for your friend. It is a bit early to have sex for them i think but if they feel that they are ready than they can. Maybe deep down inside you like you guy friend mre then a friend.
~Brina~

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i dumped my boyfriend because he lied to me about doing drugs. Everyone told me he was bad news and all my guy friends who were his friends too told me i deserved way better then him. I still wanted proff and i got it on the night b4 homecomming.i dumped him after i saw him smoking weed with some other guy. its been over a month since that night i caught him and broke up, but just the other day he randomly asked me y i broke up with him, i tried to explain telling him how he lied, but he didnt see that as a good enough reason. did i do the right thing?

Of course you did the right thing! Dont ever get involved with someone who does drugs.
~Brina~

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I really like this girl that I met in september. she's really flirty with me - and not with ALL guys (maybe just a few...whatever). And she went through this phase where she was a total bitch to me but she would have this cute little grin on her face assuming i didnt notice. like almost 3 weeks ago she was like - i wanna be friends and not a bitch and then she would talk to me and come up to me a lot again and flirt. I want to ask her out eventually, but i wanna know what the deal is - even if were "just friends"

k thanks

Well, maybe she was acting like a bitch cuz she likes you. Sometimes girls/guys are mean to the oppostie sex cuz they have feelings for them. You should go ahead and ask her out if you want to!
~Brina~

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I tried to start my car today and it wouldn't start. I tried jumping it and it still won't turn over. Do you guys have any idea what it might be?

Hey, umm the battery might be dead, it happened to someone i know a few weeks ago so that could be the problemo. Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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Um...okay, I have to wear a helmet to ride on rollerblades, a skateboard, and a bicycle. It sucks. I was wondering if anybody knew of a way I could convince my mom to let me ride without a helmet, because mine is really big and it has this visor, and I don't really need one. If this is a lost cause, which I think it is to tell you the truth, is there any sort of helmet that actually looks okay? thanks in advance

The skateboard helmets are pretty cool. Its always safe to ride with a helmet and if your mom wants ya to wear one as ya know you have to respect your moms " wishes". The skateboard helmets dont have a viser and are very safe..
~Brina~

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ok so,i play like every sport there is except rugby and football...cuz im a girl...all my friends say that im amazimg cuz when i get home from school iu do my homework get online then sports the rest of the night..but sometimes i goto basketball then to soccer then to lacrosse then to swimming. everyone says that i should quiet mayb 3 sports and only havge like 3 sports to do...should i quit? but i always have time for them...i rate REALLY high..*but it has to be good please!)

Only quit if you want to. Thats awesome that you are sooo into sports. People cant say that you should quiet sports cuz its deffinitly your decision.
~Brina~

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ok i am an awesome bball player but i get nervous when boys come and watch me play.. im afraid they will laugh if i miss a sot or somthin....what should i do...help me and FAST

Just pretend like they arent there! I know you'll say its hard but you know that boys can be boys by laughing like idiots. Just think to yourself you are soooo much better then them.Just member also that you should never care what the guys think bout ya. Basketball is your sport and no one can laugh at you for missing a shot when your probably better then them { i said that twice but its probably true ;} }
~Brina~

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Hi, right off the bat if you know nothing about the looks of classic cars from the early 70's and back dont even respond, if your going to respond just to say a color and dont know what a valiant looks like, go to google and type in 1968 valaint and look for one you lazy bum, but onto the question. Does anyone know of any good colors to paint a 1968 Valiant100 4 door sedan. i do ont want two tone, nor do i want metallica, also i do not want strips just one straight color that you think looks good on a valiant, you can also look at my profile picture and you will see my car.

That's an awesome car to have! I think like maybe a copper, light blue,or a dark blue.
Hope I helped
~Brina~

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wen i have my period im not really aloud to take a pill but my stomach always hurts alot wut can i do?!?! wif school n everything i dont wunna go wif muh stomach hurtin!!

I use Tylenol totally works for me so maybe it will work for you.
~Brina~

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Ok..our uniforms are the navy shirt w/ khaki pants or plaid squirts..i have brown hair(past my bra strap) and brown eyes and i have no acne and i have a natural tan..so what kind of eyeshadow should i wear to go to school?

Thnx in Advance!

Well, usually blue eyeshadow makes your eyes look smaller, When i do wear eyeshadow which is like 10 times a year { im not into the whole makeup thing}i wear a lite pink which is im pretty sure Cosmogirl brand. Though, if you want your eyes to match your navy shirt use a really really light blue or white.
~Brina~

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i use nyc eyeliner and everytime i use it it comes off easily so i have to bring my eyeliner to school and put it on there. my friends thinks its annoying cause i need to go to the bathroom or use their mirror in their lockers to put it on. whenever my friends put the eyeliner i use on, it stays on for them but it doesnt for me. i tried many kinds of eyeliner but i still cant find one that will stay on, someone please help!

p.s i dont want to use liquid eyeliner or very expenisive eyeliners

Go to a Filene's store and I'm sure you can find the perfect Eyeliner.
~ Brina~

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Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is..

Well... If you like wearing nail polish then thats ok, but if i were a guy i wouldnt wear nail polish if i was goth or whatever because usually nail polish is for girls. If your the type of guy that doesnt care about or wut people think about you then totally wear it. But if you want to wear nailpolish then thats fine...
~Brina~

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I have three really close friends, Taylor, Sarah, and Alyssa. We're all completely different but we get along really well.

So now here's my question, Alyssa's going out with this guy, Micheal. And Taylor and I don't like him at all, infact we hate him. He lives in a differnt city now, but when he did live out here he went out with two of my other friends... and cheated on both of them. Alyssa looks past this because she's been in love with him for almost a year. He never really showed interest in her until a month ago when he was horny and she was willing.

Then Julia his latest ex and Alyssa's good friend found out and got mad at both of them. Because Alyssa didn't ask if it was ok to be with him, even though he and Alyssa didn't actually go out just do... stuff... Then after all the fights, Micheal has the nerve to actually ask her out. And Julia get's pissed again because she warned Aly about him.

But then the cherry on top was that Alyssa bring's him to Sarah's birthday, uninivted, of course Taylor and I make him feel so akward he leaves. Then Alyssa lies and leaves halfway through the party saying she has to go home. To hang out with him, and when we find out and call her, she lies about where she is and who she's with saying she's christmas shopping.

What should I do she doesn't listen and he's an ass. Who's already cheated on her once and they've only been going out for about two weeks.
And she's a virgin and he's reeeeeally horny!!!!!

Shes just going to have to find out herself what a jerk he is. Its great that you are looking out for her. If she doesnt listen to you its her fault, hopefully she will soon find out that hes a jerk and break up with him before she looses her virginity to him.
~ Brina~

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'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do.

You have to talk to your parents about this and or a guidence counselor or even a school teacher.Let your teacher know what he's doing so YOU dont get in trouble! He has no right to touch you in any way you feel uncomfortable.
~Brina~

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I'm 6'11" 430lbs Male. I need a plan for weight loss, and i need to lose it soon. My doctor has suggested surgery, and i do not want to go there until i absoulty have to. It is literally killing me. Please give me some low cost solutions on losing weight. Thanks.

Start walking every day, DO NOT WATCH T.V FOR MORE THEN AN HOUR IN ONE SIT. Eat healthy foods. Dont eat chips, oils,cookie dough, umm hmm and eat lots of veggies, try cutting down your perportions during meals. Maybe join a gym. Once you get used to walking about 2 miles a day hopefully u can, start jogging. Have a friend join you so that your not by yourself and you have some support!
~Brina~

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Hi I am christian, and I have a friend who is jewish. I want to get her a "holiday" present, but I am not sure what to call it, or if she would think it was rude. I am also not sure when i should give it to her. I don't know when haunaka is. What do you think?

Hannukah has past already! But you can give her a Hannukah present still, just get her something that she likes like clothes or a CD or something...
~Brina~

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i really want to babysit for someone. how do i start a babysitting job so i can earn some money? i am in 7 grade is that too old or too young? if i cant do any babysitting what other job can i do at my age? how do i go about finding babysitting jobs?

Well instead of a babysitter you can be a mothers helper which is were you like play with the kid wihle the mom or dad works in the house and cleans and stuff. You can put up flyers or put an add in the newspaper, you might even find some mother helpers wanted in the newspaper.
Brina

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ok , i dont kno what to do anymore . im babyysitting this 4 yr. old little boy . i came at 9:30 this morning and like 10 min. after the mom left for work , he's throwing his toys at me , one hitting my chin , then he took some statue thing the parents hav and starts biting on it . nd i cant control this kid . can u help me pleasE

You have to make him sit in time out, put him in a chair and make him sit there, if he doesnt then take away a toy of his until he sits there for probably about 5 or 10 minutes. Talk to the parents if hes giveing you a lot of trouble.
~ Brina~

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im secretly in love with this guy in my homeroom and science class. his locker is 2 away from mine and he sits pretty close to me in science. (alphabetical order.) anyway, ive never told anyone. not even my best friend. sometimes out of the corner of my eye i see him staring at him. when i look somewhat in his direction his eyes dart away. should i look at him when i think he's staring at me? you know, to see if he really is...thanx!

Yea you should and if he continues looking at you give him a wave or something lol.
~Brina~

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