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I was recently asked to attend a party a friend of mine is hosting. I would love to go hang out with my friend and meet new people. But there are a couple problems with this. I wont know anyone at all and Im not exactly a social butterfuly, my friend lives really far away, the party will be at night and Im not the best driver at night, and Im afraid since no one knows me I will be left out of conversations.
How can I politely say no? I want my friend to keep inviting me to do other things, but not this particular event.
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i think you should go to the party! parties are a great place to go to meet new people... if you decide to go make sure that when you introduce yourself that you are confident and talk in a confident way. this will show the other people that you arent afraid of meeting new people. and your friend will be there so if you struggle talk to her and join in her convosations. if on the other hand you really dont want to go, say you have to much homework to do, or that you have to suddenly babysit, or you have to go somewhere with you parents etc. but because you will be lying you may feel guilty. plus if your friend finds out she probably wont be happy. the best way to do it is to either go and/or tell the truth about how you are feeling.
hope this helps, xx
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Why is it that when I shave my legs I can still see dark small circles where the hair used to be?
Is there any way to make them stop appearing?
Does this happen to anyone else?
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get your legs waxed, because then theyll be good for over a month
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Ok, the reason why I personally turned Atiest I think is becuase of my life....I've moved around the world alot, I've seen different cultures...and for myself, I don't even belive in race, we are all human, and I always think...heaven? How can someone judge someone? And how can someone establish all these rules on how one should live their life? I was Muslim, and my family they never made me go to masque or anything...I mean I grew up in a 75% Christian hemisphere, and we always had a Christmas tree, my parents always just wanted us to fit in with people wherever we are at....for my whole life went to masque like ONCE. Also, when I went there, it was like wth am I doing here? Belving in a spirit? And I don't know even any of those things you'r suppose to read...I always found God as another girl in the hallway judging me...and like 2 years ago, I was like I don't belive in God..and I realized I felt this way my whole life...I mean I had so much "drama" (real drama, not just school drama which will never matter later on in your life), i had my mom walk out on me like 3 times, my dad & mom almost getting divorced....all this stupid shit that happened that brought me to be this way...my parents were never forcefull, because it is said that if one doesn't want to go, it doesn't mean anything...and the only people that actually know, is one of my best friends, my best guy friend, and you...the reason why I wouldn't tell people, is because I view life as sciencetology, I think when we die, we just, well rot?? -Because that's the world cycle...and I know they would ask me questions about it, and well, I just couldn't answer them, because the way I feel is very deep about this matter, and I don't think anybody could ever understand of what I feel. I mean, once that I "turned" Athiest, (which was really years ago) I realized all the drama stopped...nobody, not even my parents were fighting anymore, nothing, my life, was GOOD, and I realized long time ago, why would I let something that is said to exist run my life? & tell me if I deserve to go to "hell" or "heaven", and I'm not Agnostic, because I just don't belive, I belive all my life I've felt this way, except that I've never told people, becuase these days, people are too obssessed with what they think is right, rather than to feel what the person would feel, and try to help them out...I mean, one night I was having a convo with my brother about Athiesm, and I told him that I saw a "show" (which was actually what I felt, and I pretended this girl felt...)so I said what would you do if I said I'm Athiest, he was like nothing, I would accept it...so i was glad, my whole family was never religious, they belive but I just don't. And I've felt this way for years now, and finally I'm realizing this is just who I am...I mean somebody can preach to me for hours, about any religion, and I would still not get it, because, well, it all to me seems as if, somebody is controlling you'r life...another girl in the hallway judging me...it's hard to belive in something, and then next in science you learn that humans come from apes/monekys...but...see, I just feel this way...and it's hard to tell people, because it's such a deep, emotional question...thank you so much for your advice..I really appreciate it...17 - F - FL (link)
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Well, you sound much more passionate in your beliefs this time so I'm not going to try and and "preach to you for hours." I just have the following few comments to add to my previous response to you...
I have zero tolerance for hypocrisy and judgmental people that condemn others for being different.
It is a fact that most wars throughout history have been over religious differences.
And unfortunately, most differences are man made interpretations of the same information. And I think this is why people such as yourself, question the existence of God.
However, I personally, DO believe in God. I believe that our world and society would be out of control if there were no beliefs in consequences and ramifications of actions.
However, you are an individual and you must come to your own conclusions.
If you have any specific questions and ever need guidance, I will be happy to try and help you.
Good luck on your own personal journey.
Love, Mrs S
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So I have had my cell phone since November (2005), I have a plan with my mom with Verizon for like, 2 years I think. I want to switch to Sprint, do I have to wait to do that till after my two years with Verizon is up? Cause I don't want too, lol.
Any help would much much appreciated, thank you. (link)
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You should go with Cingular because they have better service but you do have to wait because your on a contract
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Hey, yeah, does anyone know a good web site anonymizer that I could use at school? Thanks.
This feels too short. Can I also have the link to that one webite with Snoop changes websites to say things with izzle at the end? (link)
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i dont know what a web site anonymizer is, but gizoogle.com is the izzle thing
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well i am in an embaressing situation..when i remove hair from my thighs and upper leg by either shaving or waxing it seems to leave marks sometimes...right after removing hair the skin is little red and sometimes there are black marks or sometimes there are marks like acne....if i dont remove hair than there is no such problem...i need some solution to this..something that will calm my skin after removing hair... (link)
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either use a hair removing cream or straight after waxing/shaving rub on some aloe vera! (this really works and it helps keep the redness away) it could be that you allergic to the things that you are currently using, hope this helps xxx
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Hi, I recently turned Athiest, and I'm afraid to tell my brother...only one friend knows that I'm Athiest, and I would never tell my momor dad because I'm afraid they would view me as something....is it okay being Athiest? Or am I just having hormonal changes, because I've thought alot about it, and I realized I felt this way my whole life. (link)
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This is by far - THE most important question I have ever received and I hope I can help you and make a difference in your life because you are gambling your soul and eternity with what you have said are your current beliefs. You said you recently "turned" Atheist...what were you before? Why did you "turn"? You also asked me if it was ok to be Atheist - the answer is already in your heart...Re-read your own question...Why are you afraid to tell your parents and your brother? I think if you thought Atheism was the right thing, you would declare it with pride. So I return the question to YOU. Do YOU think it is OK? Based upon your question and your fears associated with it, I do not think you are a true Atheist. Do you fully understand what an Atheist believes?
Are you sure you are not Agnostic? People often confuse Atheism with Agnotic beliefs.
Agnostics are skeptical about the existence of God but they do not profess true atheism. An agnostic does not deny the existence of God and heaven but holds that one cannot know for certain whether or not they exist.
Atheists are 100% certain there is no God.
You asked if it is ok to be Atheist. I try very hard to not judge people - especially in this advice column so it would be unfair for me to tell you what I believe. I think my job is to advise you and let YOU find the answers for yourself. I have no right to judge anybody. But I DO believe it is NORMAL to have questions and it's important that you go looking for answers...When I was in High School, I also became very confused about my beliefs. Instead of turning my back on God, I decided to search for answers and I found the answers I needed. This is the advice I give to you...read Jeremiah 29:13-14 and Romans 1:19-21.
When it comes to the possibility of God's existence, the Bible says that there are people who have seen sufficient evidence, but they have suppressed the truth about God. On the other hand, for those who want to know God if He is there, He says, "You will seek me and find me; when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you."
I can understand confusion at your age but to be certain that you do not believe in God is very rare. I think it would be a scary world to have no God to turn to for help and guidance.
WHY do you have these feelings? Sometimes, when a person feels betrayed by God or feel that he hasn't been there when needed, then they decide he must not exist. Please write me back and let me know if this is the case because this "declaration of atheism" may just be a SYMPTOM of other issues in your life that I might be able to help you with.
Even though I don't know who you are, You and your question are very important to me!!
Please write me again with this clarification and I will respond ASAP. Re-read the question you gave me. I think if you were firm in your beliefs, you would not have felt the need to write me in the first place. Open your heart. Read those two scriptures. Pray. God will let you know he is there.
All My Love,
Mrs S
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i have been getting discharge for about 6 months, and i asked waht it was when i first started getting it. i was told that it means that i am going to get my period soon. but it has been a half a year and i still dont have my period. why is this and when will i get it? and please don't say, "oh you are so lucky not to have your period don't worry about it it will come when it comes it isnt something you want." because that is not my question. my question is why i haven't gotten it even though i have been getting discharge for a long time, and when will i get my period. (link)
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it takes time, you dont get it in a year. it can be 2 years, even 3. there are many other changes you will get before you get your period like..
breasts grow
leg hair/armpit hair/pubic hair(hair down there)
hips widen
ur hair gets oily
you get cramps in your stomack (sp?) and in your back
you get a groth spurt like ur feet grow, you get taller etc
period begins
idk if theres more but thats the basics.. good luck xoxoMELISSAxoxo
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what brand of tampons work best? thanksz (link)
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i think that tampax pearl works really good. it has a plastic applicator and it doesnt hurt at all to put in! good luck! xoxoMELISSAxoxo
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For French Day in my school I have to find a French recipe. It cannot be something that needs to be heated up. I found a recipe for a Chicken Pan Baget sandwich but I can't find it again. Does anyone know where I can find this recipe? I saw it first on cooking.com but that site won't work on my computer anymore. (link)
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TRY www.cooks.com !!
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I tend to mess with my eyelashes. When i'm not thing I touch them, or start seperating them with my pencil. It's not serious, but I wanna know..how long does it usualy take to break a habit...and what should I do about it? (link)
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OMGG i used to do this when i was 10! it kind of is a habit, and a habit usually takes 1 week to break if you don't pull them for a week. just don't pull them because it looks discusting like u have a disease or something, so just think about how u would look without any eyelashes. if your a girl, get some mascara that adds volume(makes them look fuller) to your eyelashes like maybeline voluminus(sp?) well good luck with it!
♥melissa♥
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What is a good snack but is healthy at the same time? Recipes please!
~TurrrrrrtleMolly (link)
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add 1 cup of cheerios, 3 tablespoons of rasins and 3 teaspoons of peanuts, add in a plastic bag and enjoy!
i don't know what you like, but you can go to www.cooks.com and type in Healthy snacks or something and it gives you tons of results! good luck! xoxo
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i have some good friends but the thing is i cant talk to them bout like...ne thing and then they sit there talking bout their boyfriends but if i say ne thing bout mine..its bad its all like kayy can you shut up i dont wonna hear bout it n then they get back to chatting bout theirs...it drives me insane and when i tell them all they say is okay sorry and then when i try agian they do the same thing! please help...i have o idea what to do (link)
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omg! you call these good friends? no offence or anything but these don't sound like good friends to me! if they don't listen to you, then they're not considered as a friend. it sounds to me like they're using you. try talking to them by telling them that they don't listen to you and ask them if they can try not to ignore you as much. (yeah it sounds pretty gay, but it works!)if you don't want to do that, DITCH THEM!!! find some other friends!! this is only my opinion, you can do whatever you want. i wish you good luck! xoxo
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Im 13/f
i just got out of a relationship. i am okay with it though cuz i liked him but eh it just wasnt happening you get it? well while me and him were goin out i talked to one of my old friends who moved away and i started to like him and me n him went out before but i think i might like him im not sure? i think its gonna stay as you know..a little crush and then theres these other guys i met..both REALLLLYY! cute and sweet and fun to talk to and they both like me! i have no idea what to do but all 3 go to diffrent schools but the one between me and an old friend i dont think he likes me and i only have a little crush but the others like me and i think i like them...i have no idea what to do i feel bad tho cuz i like them all i dk why but i feel bad..if you can..please help me im so confused (link)
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allright this is really tough lol but i'll try to answer it. well if you decide to go out with the other guys from the other schools, how are you ever gonna see them? like they'll be going to another school and all but if you really want to go out with them go ahead.. but if you like your old friend go for it! does he like you though? as for the other guys at the different schools, as i said before, i don't think you'll ever get the chance to see them very often. you never know, they might be really crazy and like a rapist or something lol you never know because you just met them and all.and if you go out with one of them, then the other one will get jealous or something. i think you should stick with the old friend because you've known him for a long time, (since you still like him) or just wait for another guy to pass along. i mean, your only 13! you'll have many other chances in life to go out with different guys. but this is just me saying this, do whatever you want! hope this helps! xoxo
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Hey, so I'm having trouble with my knee, and I'm on a sports team, when I sprint, or walk upstairs my knee hurts, and i absolutely need to be able to sprint for my sport. Anyone know anything I can do to make my knee not hurt, without going to the doctor? My knee kind of feels like the bone is being moved around, and when I stretch my leg out it hurts. So, thanks in advance.
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ouch!! this happened to me in gymnastics and it hurt like hell. well this is what we do in our tradition: get an empty pop can, not the 2 liter ones the aluminum ones like pepsi sprite etc. sit on a chair and put the can on the floor, then put your foot on the can and push it back nd forth, like roll the can with your foot but keep your foot on the can. plus i really think you need to see a doctor too because it can get worse and you dont wanna treat it unless your a doctor urself which i doubt lol well i was looking on the internet and i found this method named rice: (kinda odd, i know lol)
R-Rest it while you can. Don't do anything physical.
I-Ice it. Keep the ice on for about 15 minutes.
C-Compression. Wrap it with an ace bandage, but only if it swells up.
E-Elevation. While you're on the computer or watching TV, prop your knee up.
good luck! xoxo
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Hey..
I just lost my friend to a shooting incident and lately I've been having dreams about her.. like really horrible dreams.
like the other night i had a dream that we were just hanging out and then all of a sudden she pulled out a gun and shot herself in the head.. is there any way to stop haiving these dreams?
also..my mom woke me up after one of the dreams and i starting cursing at her. i didnt mean to i was really upset..and im grounded for a month. i dont like i should be grounded that long. do you agree? should i say something to her about it?
sorry so long. thanks.. (link)
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omg im soo sory to hear that! =( i strongly suggest you see a psychologist. good luck, xoxo.
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I'm 15, female, and I have a terrible sweating problem. No matter what the temperature, how many layers I have on, my under arms will constantly sweat. I have very sensitive skin, and I can develop allergies to most things heavily scented.
Is there any good deoderant I can use to help my problem? (link)
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secret works the best, and u can get it unscented. my cousin uses Adidas sport gel unscented, and she says it works great for her. also you can try putting babypowder under your arms i heard that it makes you sweat less. if the condition gets any worser then see a doctor. good luck! xoxo
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Today at school, after lunch, my lips started tingling and they've been tingling all day. And when I lick my lips, it tastes metallic-y. I didn't eat anything that I'm allergic too or touch my lips after I touched something that I might be allergic to so I have no idea what it is. What could it be? (link)
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hmm, well im just guessing but maybe your lips are chapped? try using Carmex its in a yellow tube and works ah-mazing. you can get it at walgreens, any drug store, walmart, target, kmart, etc. good luck! xoxo
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I want to know if anybody knows a website for stilleto shoes cuz id like to buy some..
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www.bakersshoes.com or www.stevemadden.com good luck! xoxo
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how do i make my hair grow faster? (link)
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well i heard u can make it grow faster (if ur a girl) by brushing it everyday. nd use Pantene Pro V or Garnier Fructis(sp?) shampoo and conditioner good luck! xoxo
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