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ok so i have a zit on my hairline its most likely from my sweat because i work out really hard everyday is there anything i can buy/do to make my skin less reactive to the sweat? (link)
try a sweatband, and make sure to drink alot of water and wash your face
xoxoMELISSAxoxo


If I have strech marks left over from me losing weight...will they ever go away? (link)
cocoa butter helps them fade away.
xoxoMELiSSAxoxo


I'm 15 and a few weeks ago my gf's mom caught us making out and kinda touching each other. We weren't undressed and we have never had sex before. What she saw was as far as things have gone so far. Well maybe we might have gone a little farther once or twice.

Now I'm not allowed over her house anymore and for some reason she thinks i'm some kinda pervert. Which i'm not!Should I try to talk to her about this or let it go and just show her that i'm not thew guy she thinks I am?


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First of all, why were you up at 3am on a school night? Is this bothering to the point that you can't sleep?

Now let's face a few facts about guys and their hormones...I'm a mom of a BOY so I've been exposed to my son and his friends at their crudest. I have witnessed what you guys are going through hormonally. And when we decided to start a family, I remember how terrified my husband was to have a girl. He's a great guy but even HE admitted that he knows first hand how powerful hormones can be. He said his biggest fear was to have a daughter and have to worry about protecting her from guys like HE WAS.

So no matter what a great guy you are, you have natural things that drive you to want to push the limits with girls. And as unfair as it is, it is socially acceptable for guys to be the agressor. HOWEVER, girls are being raised to say NO and avoid situations that test guys and their urges. Your gf's mom is being instinctive right now. She wants to "protect" her daughter and help her avoid any scenarios that would put her in a situation that she might not be able to control.
My point is that your gf's mom doesn't mean to say YOU are bad. You AREN'T bad. I bet your gf's mom is really scared right now.

So keep that in mind through this ordeal and stop feeling guilty. Here is my advice. Write down your thoughts on paper (just an OUTLINE so you don't end up reading it) and call the MOM - not the daughter and appologize and explain how much you care about her daughter and want to see her and you are willing to abide by any rules the mom feels are necessary in order to continue seeing her daughter. Suggest that you stay in the living room or within the mom's sight. Suggest public meeting places and/or going out with friends.

Her mom is scared for her daughter's "virtue" right now. You have to reassure the mom that you sincerely CARE about your gf and that you aren't using her and promise you will never do anything inappropriate with her daughter.

And please update me on how this goes. You aren't BAD - you are NORMAL. But at 15, "normal" is terrifying to a parent.
Good Luck! Mrs S


does anyone know any free teen hotline numbers where you can just talk to people? k thanks. (link)
you could go online and look up a response hotline number and talk to them they dont have caller ID and they dont ask for your name it's totally annoymous.

I hope I helped


What are some good sites to download comp. programs for free... I'm not talking illegaly like on limewire but there are sites out there that offer 30 day free trials to try it out but the only site i know of is downloads.com and its not working well for me! (link)
you should try out www.download.com
it has free stuff and free to try stuff

I hope I helped


How do you get a guys (that you like) email? without being to obvious that you like him. Oh and i work with this guy. Thanx in advance (link)
well you should tell him that you wanna send him a joke or a picture of some sort write down his Email address and but i dont recommend you date him if things work out because if you guyz break up there will always be tension at the workplace and you will lose consentration and possibly lose your job but i am only 13 and i do this all the time in school that's why i date girls who are not in my class.

I hope I helped


just wondering, do you have some sort of longing to become a kid again? because you seem so into fitting in with zach's friends and having fun with them, and stuff. not that its a bad thing! i think its awesome! but how do you manage to plan so many things? aren't you busy with work and just being a mom? i'm just wondering :] kthanksbye. (link)
I can't tell if your are being sarcastic or sincere in this question but I'm going to give you the benefit of doubt because it's pretty obvious that you don't know me or you would not have asked such a question.

I have zero desire to be a kid again. In fact, I believe most adults look back at the teenage years as being the toughest. However, the teenage years ARE extremely critical in determining what type of person you will become. So NO - I don't want to be a kid again and NO, I don't want to be "buddies" with my son and his friends - I want to be an "educated" parent...There is a huge difference. How can I give him good guidance if I don't understand his world? The world today is VERY different than it was when I was his age.

I have always been very into my career. So much, in fact, that I chose not to have any more children because it interfered with traveling and conducting business. The result is that I only have ONE kid. Thanks to my work, I have missed out on much of his life. My son had a total of 6 nannies until he could start school and then he went right into Montessori school.

I now realize that this has been a HUGE mistake. I have seen corporations treat their people like expendable assets. Companies have no regard for their employees or their families. I'm quite sick of the corporate attitude these days and I will NEVER put my job above my family ever again. I feel like I've sacrificed not only my son, but the children I chose not to have and I regret it. A family is much more important than a job.

What I am trying to do, is provide love and support to anybody that needs or wants it. By giving to others, I'm also setting an example for my son and I hope it teaches him to be unselfish.
This town has very little for teens to do. I have not found any place SAFE for my son to go socialize on the weekends so I've decided to make our HOME available to him and his friends. These kids have entirely too much money and time and freedom. If I can keep ONE kid from getting involved in drugs or alcohol, then I feel that I've accomplished something WAY more significant than my CAREER.

And yes, I AM busy. I am busy juggling my career AND being a Mom. How do I make time for this? How can I NOT make time for this?! Mrs S


do they hurt alot? do you have to go to the place with your hair full grow or shave kinda or trimmed? how do they do it like whats the process? (link)
omfg they hurt sooo much. i began doing them at like 12, and after like 4 times, you can barely feel it. the hair has to be between 1/4 inches and 1/2 inches, so dont shave, trim


i currently asked a question about jobs for a 14 year old. the best one i've found & like is walking dogs. 1. i like to exercise 2. it seems like it might pay good

I was thinking about walking the dog for 20-45 minutes. Mostly around 30 min. How much do you think i should charge?

and where can i put papers so tht people can call me & wat would i put on them?

if you have anything tht would help me its greatly appreciated. and if you don't have ansers to all the questoins its cool. (link)
well your like 14, so you cant ask that much. if your neighborhood is rich, and more. when they ask how much, be like, "Ummm, i dontkno, maybe like .. 7 or 8 dollars an hour?" like you didnt give it too much thought. thats the sexy way to do it ;)


What would you wear to your mom's college reunion if the guy you were crushing on was there? It's in June and you can't be too prepared!! I'm 13/f, very petite: 4'11". I don't want to look slutty because hes not that type of guy. I just wnt to look cute. What would you wear and how would you do your hair?? (link)
wear jeans, and then a fancy top such as one that would increase your bust. your hair, probably wear it back in a bun/french braid.


okay i'm getting my hair done today and this is the hair i want

http://imdb.com/gallery/granitz/3274/AshleeSimp_Pimen_5265256_400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Simpson,%20Ashlee&seq=7

except i want it longer, but i'm afraid my stylist wont know what i'm talking about and do it wrong! so i need like advice or a picture that could describe the hair i want (link)
first off, tell your hairdresser how short you want your hair to be cut. then ask for layers and angles, and sideswept bangs. ****unless you are planning to straighten your hair, this hairstyle will look really bad. oh yeah, also you should print it out, because it is easier for hair dressers to kow what your talking about (they also ask that you bring hairstyles you DONT want)


I'm 15/f

I have a relatively small room. How can I make it seem bigger [i.e. mirrors]? I want to make the most out of it too. Thank you (link)
Don't use dark or bright colours. Use light ones. Also, don't make it too cluttered. If there is less stuff that the eye sees, then it seems bigger. For storage, use containers that can fit under your bed or closet. They need to be out of the way, and that will make the room seem more spacious, and bigger. :)


I absolutely love to read. Can anyone give me lots of great teen books (novels are great!) that you absolutely loved...Most likely if a lot of people have read it, ive read it too. so think of some good ones that not many have read. some examples of my faves are Looking For Alaska, and Hard Love. Just looking for some more options!Thanks a bunch.
(link)
-The Year Of Secret Assignments
-Summer Boys
-The Earth, My Butt, And Other Big Round Things
-A Million Little Pieces
-The Gossip Girl Series
:)


I've never had a real girlfriend before..I'm gunna ask someone out tomorrow and I know she'll say yes cuz I just do. I'm just afraid that I'll be nervous while we're going out..well not nervous just like "we're going out..now what" you know. Or I might try to act like different..idk What do I do? (link)
I reckon there'll be a few I-feel-awkwad moments but just ignore them, they always happen in new relationships.
Don't kiss her unless she kisses you first, unless the moment calls for it and you really think she wants to be kissed but is too shy. You could kiss her on the cheek if you're not sure, I think that's really cute!
Don't act different! She'll be going out with you becasue she likes the you she knows. Don't be too nice and suck-uppy, be cool, but be friendly and jokey. Be confident! If you take her somewhere, make sure you know the place you're going and won't feel out of place, and know what you want to do there.
When you're going out you should just enjoy spending time with her, there isn't usually a "we're going out..now what" feeling unless one of you isn't satisfied with the relationship. If you get this, just be honest with her without hurting her feelings. You'll work it out. Good luck!


Theres this guy that i like alooot like you have no idea. its not love. well im talking to him online right now and i want to ask him if he would ever be more then friends with me because i feel like im holding on for nothing seriously. He knows i like him alot but he has never mentioned anything about liking me.

xThankkx (link)
In my personal experience, asking a boy out has never worked. Some boys say they think girls should ask more because its good for their egos, but in reality I don't think it works. Boys like to do the chasing. If I were in your situation, I would get to know him, hang out with him a lot until you're really good friends, but act cool on the subject of fancying him. Don't tell him. Then get drunk with him, or hang out together at a party. This has never failed me!


what do girls look for in a guy, i think i know but i wanna know more! rate high! (link)
Obviously it will vary from person to person, so I can only tell you what I'd PERSONALLY be looking for.
Although looks would come first, if I got to know someone amazing it wouldn't matter what they looked like. So although looks attract me, I wouldn't stay with a guy whose personality I didn't like.
In looks I like guys to be taller than me, with dark hair and green eyes, like skinny goth guys. However I am ACTUALLY going out with someone the same height as me, he's not skinny and he has blonde hair and hazel eyes! Thats coz he's the best guy I've ever met.
He's considerate and asks me if I'm OK if he's not sure. He always tells me he loves me. He's outspoken and has a loud personality, and he doesn't mind if I'm quiet or have nothing to say. He makes me laugh even though his jokes suck. He's an interesting guy and can talk for a long time about his interests. He likes to take me out for meals now and then, even though it isn't necesssary.
He's not what I ever expected I wanted to go out with. I imagined seeing punk or goth guys, and having a really rock n' roll love life. But he fulfills all the things I really need from a guy, and I know I could talk to him about anything. He really respects honesty, so we're honest with each other. That kinda thing!


ok i get bored easily,i really want some sites that are fun and maybe addicting like theres millsberry.com where you make your own house and person and of coarse thers myspace and facebook, but does anyone know of any other sites that are fun or entertaining? (link)
addictinggames.com might work for you


today in school a boy asked me if i had a PO? and i didnt know wat to say so i said do u have 1? and he said yes..any ideas waht it is? its not anything to do with like cops or paroll officers or any of that im sure. (link)
wikipedia.org:

---PO may stand for:
Pareto optimality
Parole Officer
Per os, Latin for "by mouth" or "orally"
Perfect Orange a third wave ska based in Knoxville, TN from 2002-2005
Pilkington Optronics, now Thales Optronics
Pilot Officer, a junior commissioned rank the British and many Commonwealth air forces
Pissed off (often used as a verb or adjective, as in "POed" or "PO'ed")
Platforma Obywatelska, a Polish conservative-liberal party
Pocket Otaku, a character on Atlanta based web forum
Polar Air Cargo: IATA airline designator
Portable Object, text translation files used in software localization that are meant to be read and edited by humans
Portugal: FIPS PUB 10-4 territory code digram
Post office, as in P.O. Box
Presiding Officer
Provocative operation, coined by Edward De Bono and part of a Lateral thinking technique
Purchase order
---Po may stand for:
one of the Teletubbies
the word for fonio in the Dogon mythology, which states that the whole universe was created out of a grain of po
Petaoctet, a unit of quantity of information
Po River, in Italy
Po River, in the U.S. state of Virginia
Pô, a town in Burkina Faso
Pô (département), part of the Napoleonic Empire
Pö, a romanization of the Tibetan word བོད་, meaning Tibet
Po' boy (from "Poor Boy"), a type of submarine sandwich from New Orleans
Polonium, a chemical element
---po may stand for:
slang or euphemism for "chamber pot"
slang for so poor that you can't afford the o or the r


I just want to know if you gain weight on the patch like you do on the depo shot and the pill (link)
most likely, yea. you can always talk to a doctor. different brands of birth control may work for others


Iam failing my nutrition and wellness class how can I bring my grade up? (link)
ask your teacher if there is anything you can re-do. such as extra credit, or retake a test. once, in my spanish class in 7th grade, i made flash cards so that my teacher would let me redo a test, and i got an a, nd it brought my grade up!




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