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Proving her wrong
I'm 15 and a few weeks ago my gf's mom caught us making out and kinda touching each other. We weren't undressed and we have never had sex before. What she saw was as far as things have gone so far. Well maybe we might have gone a little farther once or twice.
Now I'm not allowed over her house anymore and for some reason she thinks i'm some kinda pervert. Which i'm not!Should I try to talk to her about this or let it go and just show her that i'm not thew guy she thinks I am?
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First of all, why were you up at 3am on a school night? Is this bothering to the point that you can't sleep?
Now let's face a few facts about guys and their hormones...I'm a mom of a BOY so I've been exposed to my son and his friends at their crudest. I have witnessed what you guys are going through hormonally. And when we decided to start a family, I remember how terrified my husband was to have a girl. He's a great guy but even HE admitted that he knows first hand how powerful hormones can be. He said his biggest fear was to have a daughter and have to worry about protecting her from guys like HE WAS.
So no matter what a great guy you are, you have natural things that drive you to want to push the limits with girls. And as unfair as it is, it is socially acceptable for guys to be the agressor. HOWEVER, girls are being raised to say NO and avoid situations that test guys and their urges. Your gf's mom is being instinctive right now. She wants to "protect" her daughter and help her avoid any scenarios that would put her in a situation that she might not be able to control.
My point is that your gf's mom doesn't mean to say YOU are bad. You AREN'T bad. I bet your gf's mom is really scared right now.
So keep that in mind through this ordeal and stop feeling guilty. Here is my advice. Write down your thoughts on paper (just an OUTLINE so you don't end up reading it) and call the MOM - not the daughter and appologize and explain how much you care about her daughter and want to see her and you are willing to abide by any rules the mom feels are necessary in order to continue seeing her daughter. Suggest that you stay in the living room or within the mom's sight. Suggest public meeting places and/or going out with friends.
Her mom is scared for her daughter's "virtue" right now. You have to reassure the mom that you sincerely CARE about your gf and that you aren't using her and promise you will never do anything inappropriate with her daughter.
And please update me on how this goes. You aren't BAD - you are NORMAL. But at 15, "normal" is terrifying to a parent.
Good Luck! Mrs S
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