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Me and this boy really got attached to eachother at camp. We both REALLY liked eachother, but we couldn't be a couple becuase it was the last week of camp! He's at camp for one more week and I'm still home. I've been sending him e-mails each day, telling him what I've been doing. He says he'll call me on the bus ride home. He lives two towns over from me, so i know we'll see eachother once in a while. I really miss him and every minute of my days are spent thinking about him! I can't stop and its making me so sad to think I may not see him for a while. Am I going ver the top? I really love him. I know im only 13, but its love i swear. Am i spending too much thought on him? What can help me to enjoy the rest of my summer? (link)
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Hey, who says you have to be an adult to love someone? I wouldn't doubt your feelings because of your age. What you must be careful about is how you respond to those feelings.
If you want this to last, and have a chance at succeeding, you must take care not to smother the poor guy. Daily E-mails telling him everything you're doing might be a little over the top. Remember that while you may be madly in love and reveling in it, he might be a little scared of such intense feelings.
Do a little introspection; consider how you are thinking about him. Is what you see in your mind really him, or is it an ideallized version of him? How well did you really get to know each other in that week? Sometimes relationships that work in a place like Camp, or Paris, or Disneyland, fail to function in the "real world".
Long-distance relationships are tough on a person and they're heartbreaking - and until one of you learns to drive, this is an LDR, even if you are only two towns apart. I'm not saying that you should try to change your feelings or avoid investing in this relationship, but be prepared for some emotional fallout once the summer ends.
All the best to you.
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Well, I gave my boyfriends head. I told my friends. They got mad at me and they told thier moms. Now the whole school knows. All the moms and students hate me!!! Im soo imbaressed what should I do!!!13/f (link)
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The way I see it, you made three mistakes:
(1) You sucked on a boy's penis when you were only 13 years old.
(2) You bragged about it.
(3) You chose untrustworthy friends.
Now, unfortunately, you must deal with the consequences. This is one of the reasons why it's a bad idea for young kids to engage in sexual activity; even if YOU think that you're emotionally mature enough to handle it, odds are that your friends, peers, and sex partners are not.
The reality is that you may never shake this reputation until high school is over. But you can do some damage control, and it's all related to the errors you made in the first place:
(1) Don't suck any more penises until after your 18th birthday.
(2) Don't talk about the time you did, or respond to questions about it.
(3) See if you can find out if ANY of the friends you had showed discretion. It's possible that not all of them blabbed; two or three is enough to spread a story pretty quickly. And confront them one at a time so they aren't influenced by peer pressure. Then, hang around with those friends and try to ditch the others.
No question about it, you've got a hard road ahead. Good luck to you, and try to wait a little longer before you experiment with sex again.
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I'm 17/f. I'm about 5'11". I've never been kissed, been on a date or had a boyfriend. Not to sound arrogant or anything but I am pretty. I have a great personality. I feel like I'm the only girl my age who hasn't been kissed, etc. I'm afraid I won't experience anything till college. Kinda like Felicity (old t.v. show). It makes me really sad, especially when watching romance movies. Any advice? (link)
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I'm 6'6". Where were you when I was in high school? I would have loved to have a girlfriend I could kiss without her standing on a chair. :)
Maybe you could ask one of your friends to set you up on a date. It may not lead to that elusive first kiss, but once the word gets around that you're not unapproachable (and that may be how the poor, short boys see you) you could find yourself with some more offers. One of them will eventually click.
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Im 15 and there is a chance im pregnant. if so the father would be my stepbrother. I want him to know its his child bout I wanna keep him a secret to everyone else because are intamantcy is unknown. How can I give him a chance to bond without family finding out? (link)
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First, find out for certain whether you are pregnant by visiting a doctor (over-the-counter pregnancy tests are an indicator, but not 100% reliable). Planned Parenthood can probably help you do so discretely.
Second, whether you're pregnant or not, stop having sex with your stepbrother. Familial relationship aside, you are likely under the age of legal consent, which is 16 in most states and 18 in some others. After you reach the age of consent, it's probably STILL a good idea to seek out a sex partner who doesn't share parents with you.
Assuming you are pregnant, you do have an obligation to tell him the baby is his. Hopefully, he will take you at your word that it couldn't be anyone else's, but be prepared for him to meet the situation with denial. He may not WANT to "bond".
This whole situation is likely to cause some major rifts in your family, but that's one of the reasons why sex with siblings just isn't recommended.
To be perfectly blunt, I don't see a bright, shining future ahead for this poor baby, who's going to be born into a seriously messed-up family. My advice is to consider the child's welfare first and foremost, and put the kid up for adoption. And if you must have sex with your stepbrother again, use stronger protection.
(I recently received feedback on this response insisting that "its not wrong for steps we have no family members that share the same blood." To which I would say, if it's not wrong, then why the need for secrecy? Go ahead and tell everyone!)
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I have little red bumps going across my chest. What are they??? (link)
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Have you taken any sort of prescription medication lately? I have a mild allergy to Sulfa drugs, and they caused exactly that kind of reaction. The bumps were very small and very numerous. Also consider whether any other environmental factors have changed for you lately that could be causing an allergic reaction. Did you get a cat? Did you switch laundry detergents?
Of course, it could be almost anything, from zits to chicken pox, depending on what these little bumps actually look like.
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do guys care if a girl has really small boobs i mean when you are like having sex and they take your bra off would they be little turned off about it please help i am 15 105pounds and have an A cup and i feel really uncomfortable about it and i really want to have sex soon so guys what would you think (link)
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First of all, at the age of 15, you're really too young to be having sex, both legally and emotionally.
Second, at the age of 15, you can be fairly sure that your breasts have not finished growing yet. They will likely become larger by the time you are ready for sex.
To answer your question, it is true that MOST men prefer larger breasts. That's a fact. However, you shouldn't stress about it, because that's just ONE thing (okay, two things). There are many qualities to a woman that are far more important than the size of her breasts when it comes to how desireable she is, and the most important ones are on an emotional level, not a physical one. If that doesn't seem true to you right now, it's because you're dealing with boys instead of men. A real man, a man of taste and discretion, knows that breast size and other physical factors has little to do with how desireable a woman is.
Don't be in such a hurry to have sex! It is an experience that is worth waiting for. Waiting a few years will give you the following benefits:
(1) You will acquire further emotional maturity, to better be able to deal with the consequences of sex both positive and negative.
(2) You won't risk having it spread around that you are a "slut".
(3) You will ensure that the guy you have sex with won't be potentially charged with statutory rape (age of consent is 16 in most places - you are currently what men refer to as "jailbait").
(4) If your birth control fails, you won't have to go to your parents for a solution.
(5) Your breasts will get larger.
Please reconsider your wish to have sex at a young age. You won't regret waiting, but you probably will regret hurrying.
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my mom reads all my stuff. including instant messages. and like, i can't make her go so i can talk privatley. but, today i come home from a trip and she's going to make me talk to these people online and
#1: i don't want to tell them what she wants me to tell them
#2: i don't want her to see the convo because i'm afraid the other person is going to talk about stuff
please help me fast! i can't just tell her *stay out* because that won't work! i've tried that already but she won't stop. help me please!
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Parents these days are a lot more paranoid than they used to be, and in some cases with good reason. There have been a few too many cases where a child gets online with a pedophile or something and then ends up weighted down in a river somewhere.
I can't help but wonder - who are "these people"? Are they friends of yours that you see at school, or are they people you've never actually met who live in other states? If it's the first one, then the solution is to just go talk to them and explain the situation. Believe it or not, there was a time before IM and chatrooms that people used to converse in perosn. However, if they are people you've never met, then bear in mind that your Mom may have legitimate reasons for not wanting you to give out too much in the way of personal details. Discuss them with her.
There is a difference between protecting one's children and running their lives. Your mom doesn't have the right to dictate what you should say to your friends (she can make a few rules about what NOT to say; for instance, it's a bad idea to give out one's street address online). You can refuse to type something you don't wish to type; tell her that it would be "dishonest" because she's asking you to say something that you don't mean. If she really wants something said, she can log on herself and say it. Bear in mind, though, that this kind of confrontation may end with your internet access being locked out completely, so it's really better if you can try to talk about it rationally and find out exactly WHY she's so flustered about these internet friends of yours.
Finally, remember that there is no real privacy on a computer. You mother could buy a keylogging program for $29.95 that would track your every move without your even knowing about it. Be grateful that at least she's confronting you directly.
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i m from india.my friend nowadays is really worried. she says that she never had sex with her boyfriend but they only touched one another everywhere.
now the problem is she is not got her periods for past two weeks from the scheduled date.she says that her periods are very regular.
then what can be the reason for her delayed periods.she says that while touching his lower part if she had sperms on her hand and if by mistake she touched her lower part can this lead her to becoming pregnant. (link)
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It's very unlikely, but it can happen. She should get tested.
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I recievwed this on a bulletin on myspace garunteeing the answer if I reposted it--liars.
I cannot figure out the answer and it's driving me to the point of insomnia.
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I turn polar bears white
and I will make you cry.
I make guys have to pee
and girls comb their hair.
I make celebrities look stupid
and normal people look like celebrities.
I turn pancakes brown
and make your champagne bubble.
If you squeeze me, I'll pop.
If you look at me, you'll pop.
Can you guess the riddle?
97% of Harvard graduates can not figure this riddle out, but 84% of kindergarten
students were able to figure this out in 6 minutes or less.
Can you guess the correct answer?
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The question, you will notice, is not "What am I?" but rather "Can you guess the riddle?"
Therefore, the correct answer is "No."
Hope you can get some sleep now.
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Hey. well i am 13, and last night i was at my boyrfriends house, with all his friends. my bf is 18, and all his friends were about 17-19. There were 10 of his friends. we were all drinking, and doing drugs, etc. we all got a little too drunk, and i ended up having sex with my b/f, and all 10 of his friends. it was really fun, and stress relieving. but anyways, now my bf is mad because i had sex with 11 guys that night. how can i explain to him i couldnt help it?
oh by the way.. i am 13. and a female...
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This is just not true. A 13-year-old who would have sex with 11 guys in a single night and then just shrug it off like it was no big deal? There is no way that you've had enough experience at that age that sex eleven times in a row wouldn't be terribly painful.
If this is actually true, then you're not likely to live long. You'll be dead of an STD by the time you've reached the age of legal consent.
However, I think it's a lie, and you really should be ashamed of yourself for trivializing the serious matter of statutory rape.
(Furthermore, I don't care that you rated me a "1". I stand by my answer and I will not delete it.)
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Ok, I'm 14/f and I'm going out with this wonderful boy. It's already been a week and we've been hanging out like every day. I want to kiss him soooooo bad, but I'm afraid because this is my first kiss. Would he find it sexy/a turn on if i asked him to teach me how to kiss? Thanks! (link)
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In all honesty, he probably would. But trying to be "sexy" with your first kiss really isn't necessary. There will be plenty of time for that later, and there will be plenty of time for instruction as well.
Just pick your moment, and look in his eyes, and say, "would you like to kiss me?"
Good luck.
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I cuss a lot, and I want to stop. How can I stop cussing so much? (link)
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My wife and I used to be a little more loose-tongued, especially when driving. Then we had a daughter and everything changed!
Now, having a child to fix your swearing problem is certainly a little extreme, but you might consider pretending there's a young child hanging around with you, listening to everything you say. It might help you curb your pottymouth a little.
Also, experiment with alternate phrases, like "Son of a Motherless Goat" (I like that one because it sounds dirty but it's totally clean).
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I was logging on to my computer and my dad's screenname was on and i found some porn on his recent go-to sites. It made me really really mad. *&& said something about an escort [[yeah I know what that means]] it really hurts me. I want to confront him *&& my mom about it, but I know i'll get yelled at for my parents thinking i just went on his screenname at this time they wont believe me, because they recently grounded me from myspace. Please help me ! thank you (link)
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Don't jump to conclusions. Just because your dad is browsing porn sites, even escort sites, it doesn't mean he's hiring escorts; there are lots of men who window-shop without ever intending to buy. It's also entirely possible that what you're seeing is the result of pop-up ads or spam that your dad has no control over.
However, it's certainly within the realm of possibility that he is, in fact, looking through escort sites with the intent to use them. It places you in a difficult position, unfortunately, because all you've seen is circumstancial evidence and you don't really know what's going on. I would suggest speaking to your dad about it first, assuring him that you didn't intend to snoop but that it happened nonetheless. If he reacts calmly, it's probably not something to worry about; if he "blows his top", or tries to sidestep the issue, then I would imagine that he does have something to hide. At that point you should probably go to your mother.
I'd say that probably 98% of men who use the internet eventually go looking for porn. It's a natural human curiousity. Try not to judge your dad too harshly just for looking, if that is indeed all that's going on.
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ok so i really like my mums friend hes like her bestfriend im 18 and hes in his 30s or something and i really like him, when he looked in my eyes before all i wanted to do was kiss him i know it sounds sick but i really like him and want to see him again. He said to my mum i he was younger he would go for me anyday!! My mum got annoyed and they had a argument and are friends again but i never see him i want to and you know the worst bit when i masterbate i think of him.Someone help please. Oh yeh and i just want to kiss him badly. (link)
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You're 18, and you're an adult. I don't think it sounds sick at all that you would want to kiss a 30-year-old man.
However, it honestly sounds to me that what you have here is a crush. Consider the real-life consequences if the two of you actually did get together, not the least of which is the rift that would form between you and your mother. Also consider that he may not see you as potential girlfriend material; he said that "if he were younger" he would go for you. Assume that he's telling the truth, and that means that the if-I-were-younger part also needs to be taken into consideration.
You should probably not try to pursue this. There really isn't a way for it to turn out well.
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Are there any techniques when your doing anything sexual to a guy? what do they like? how do i do it? i really want to make my boyfriend happy and feel good. what do i do? (link)
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That's a really open-ended question. There are thousands of "techniques" for having sex, and different guys like different things.
The best advice I can give you is to really enjoy it. If there's one thing that's pretty much universal, it's that men like it when women are really excited about having sex with them. Whatever you can do to express that enjoyment will probably be well-received.
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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please (link)
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You need to distance yourself from this guy right away. He doesn't have the emotional maturity to deal with sex right now, and you are showing a great deal more common sense by refusing than he is by asking.
If he continues to pressure you, get someone to intervene for you - a parent, a teacher, some kind of adult. DO NOT give in and DO NOT place yourself in a position where he may try to force the issue.
He is disrespecting you. You should not put up with it. My advice would be to end your relationship with him right away, and warn your friends about him.
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hey. I'm 14/f. Me and my ex boyfriend had sex ,i thought it was a good idea at the time and i felt really comfortablewith doing it but now i don't think it was right. He dumped me the day after and i felt realy bad because i liked him alot but he obviously didn't like me. Now he is calling me horrible names and being really mean. All my friends are all acting wierd to me now and i don't know what to do.
If anyone has any advise it would be much apricated! xxx (link)
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You have my sympathy. No one deserves to be treated like this.
This boy (and he is a boy, not a man) is an immature scoundrel who couldn't appreciate the trust you placed in him nor the gift you gave him. He deserves to be slugged in the gut until he can't breathe. He doesn't have the maturity to handle what happened, so he's lashing out at you. Unfortunately, there could be some damage to your reputation as a result.
You say your friends are "acting weird". This is probably because they're hearing a distorted version of what happened. You need to choose the friends you trust most and tell them your side of things, because you're probably going to need them by your side. You also need to make sure other girls are warned about this loser.
As I'm sure you've pretty much figured out by now, 14 is too young to be having sex (incidentally, if your ex is over 18, he could be charged with statutory rape). It requires a level of emotional maturity that someone of that age simply hasn't gained yet; for proof of this, look no further than your ex. I hope that you will wait much longer next time, and choose someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Best of luck to you.
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I feel like I am ready to have sex with my boyfriend. My problem is that I was raped and thats how I really lost my virginity. This would be my real first time and I dont want to be nervous or bad at it sense my boyfriend is experianced.
first question: How can I stop my nerves
second question: How can I make it romantic and nice for him. making love not just sex.
and any other advice you have.
thank you (link)
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Since he is experienced and you are not, it seems to me that HE should be the one making it romantic and nice for YOU. However, it is thoughtful of you to consider his feelings.
Accept the fact that you are, and will be, nervous. Heck, revel in it! Enjoy those butterflies and that sense of anticipation. Go ahead and tremble with delight. Your boyfriend will probably love it, and this is no time to be denying your feelings. The nervousness can make it even more exciting for you.
One more thing - you need not think of the rape in terms of losing your virginity. In a medical, technical sense, you did; however, of far greater importance is the fact that this will be the first time you share yourself willingly and happily.
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Let me start of by saying: I would not be asking this if I didnt already feel bad && want to change this. SO please, don't preach.
Down right to the point?
I stole my friend's new 300 dollar digital camera. (reminder: I know it was wrong, no lecturing)
While doing it, i KNEW it was wrong.
When she noticed it was gone, she cried.
It broke my heart.
I know God forgives, but my gut tells me..he won't.
I don't know, I want to send it back to her.
I think I will, as soon as I get her adress.
i CAN'T APOLOGIZE THOUGH. I CANT TELL HER.
I don't even know why I did it.
I love her. Im not jealous of her.
I don't need a digitial camera.
I don't want one.
But I did it anyway.
Just because I knew I could.
I knew I wouldn't get caught.
I'm evil. I'm a really bad person, I know.
Yet, I can't change it.
Here's where I need help.
- appologizing to God for this.
HOW? I knew it was wrong while doing it, I knew the devil was pushing me and God was telling me not to, yet I listened to the devil.
It's happened before. I never learn.
I'll always do the wrong thing.
So what? he's just going to keep forgiving me?
- how do I stop this
any ideas?
- this feeling
even if I give it back, I'll never forget what I did. seeing her cry. knowing how much it meant to her yet still taking it. how can i forgive myself for it? what should I do? I know myself very well. I wont change, I'll do it again. And I wont let myself forget it. I know I'll always feel bad because of this.
AHHH GOSSSHH just help me please, I feel awful.
what should I do? with everything?
this feeling is sick.
I want to die.
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First and foremost, you must return the camera. Quickly, and by whatever means necessary. Don't wait until you have her address; do it now, because until the wrong is righted there will be no forgiveness from her or yourself. I can't speak for God.
I think you should come clean. When you do this, you may lose a friend, and that's just tough. I suggest that you get some counseling immediately, whether through your church or otherwise, because this is a serious matter that may end up causing you far greater consequences than losing friends; you could lose your life, either by spending it behind bars or through an angry victim of theft who owns a gun. And, if I understand your beliefs, you could lose your soul.
The inability to forgive yourself for it is very much tied to the fact that you feel you won't change, that you'll do it again. You need to fix that before you will ever feel good about yourself. Do not delay.
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Last july i met this guy at my church. ever since that day ive liked him alot. Wednesday my church youth group had this get together & he was there. But he had this girl with him. i got really jealous and upset about him bringing a girl around me.
He knows i like him alot & he has known for atleast 5 months. At the time i told him he had a girlfriend but they broke up 2 days after i told him. On myspace hes always posting bulletins about how he hates seeing those happy couples around kissing anding hugging eachother. He hates it because hes not with a girl.
I dont understand him because i want him more than anything. He says that no girl really likes him when he likes a girl. He cant always get tht girl he likes he should give the that likes him a chance.
I hate when he post these bulletins because he makes me feel sort of invisible.
Me and him never hang out. We talk online & at church. I want him to talk to me more then just that.
I feel like im holding on to liking him for no reason. He post all these bulletins about how he cant find a Girl to be happy with. Should i say anything to him? Or just give up on wanting to be closer to him?
im 17/f
hes 19/m
thank you. (link)
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From my point of view, it seems that he's essentially giving you your answer, and not in a polite or decent way I might add. He knows you like him, and he complains that he doesn't have a girlfriend. Unfortunately, putting 2 and 2 together in this case results inevitably with him not being interested in a relationship with you. It's regrettable that he can't be forthright enough to just tell you that.
You can "make a move" if you really want to, but be prepared for disappointment.
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