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How do i keep the father out?
Im 15 and there is a chance im pregnant. if so the father would be my stepbrother. I want him to know its his child bout I wanna keep him a secret to everyone else because are intamantcy is unknown. How can I give him a chance to bond without family finding out?
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First of all, find out for sure if you are pregnant. If you are, you are going to have to tell him and your family. This is not something that can be kept a secret. A child is a person that wont go away, it will be there for the rest of your life. Your child deserves to know who it's father is. Living with this secret will not be good for anyone. Not even you!
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hiya. In my opinion I don't think that it's wrong that you had sex with your stepbrother. You are not blood related, and suppose your parents did not get married, yet you met this boy and still ended up getting pregnant with his child. There really isn't a difference except for the fact that you do indeed have the same gaurdians. NOT parents, just legal gaurdians. You should tell your family, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You simply fell in love with someone that just so happens to be your step-brother. As far as the bonding goes, once you tell your family, your stuck with him bonding since you do live with him. No worries. Also, as soon as you guys turn 18 you can start a new life together.
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um, the father would not be the step brother unless your mom or dad is getting married to his mom or dad, but anyways he would be the father and or your fiancee. Tell your mom and mabey see what happends...most of the time, your mother will help you. mabey ask her to take you to a planed parenthood near you. hopefully, it all wors out for the better
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Well, he can bond with the baby just like a typical uncle would do, and you may be able to pull it off that way for a while. It's not unusual for siblings to babysit for each others kids. Most people would think nothing of that. You are really in a tough situation. If possible you might want to seek advice from a counselor who can continue to see you after the baby is born and help with the adjustment of being a Mom.
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Well since he's already your stepbrother then obviously he's going to be around the baby, so that way people won't be suspicious. It's your choice whether or not to tell your parents, but they're probably gonna be curious as to who the father is, you could always lie and say it's some guy from your school, but then they'd ask who and if he were going to help you and the baby out so, it's up to you. Good luck :)
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i would just tell him everything about what hapened.. i mean like if u had sex with him you should be able to be open about the baby and the fact that you dont want everyone knowing. but sooner or later your going to have to tell everyone.. so personally i think its a good idea to tell them now before its to late i mean you are only 15, its eventually going to get out. and the other thing is. before doing anything id make sure i was 100% pergant
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You can sit him down and tell him that you may have made a mistake and tell him that you may be pregnant...by him. Tell him you would like for him to "bond" with the child as much as he could without your parents finding out about your hidden intimate relationship. You can take the child to the park...when he/shes older...my cousin had a kid and his brother takes care of it more than he does...but they wasnt in the same situation as you are..its perfectly normal for him to be able to bond with the child and it would be easy for them not to find out...like say he loves the kid and he likes to b with him, i hope i helped ... i tried as much as i could!
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First, find out for certain whether you are pregnant by visiting a doctor (over-the-counter pregnancy tests are an indicator, but not 100% reliable). Planned Parenthood can probably help you do so discretely.
Second, whether you're pregnant or not, stop having sex with your stepbrother. Familial relationship aside, you are likely under the age of legal consent, which is 16 in most states and 18 in some others. After you reach the age of consent, it's probably STILL a good idea to seek out a sex partner who doesn't share parents with you.
Assuming you are pregnant, you do have an obligation to tell him the baby is his. Hopefully, he will take you at your word that it couldn't be anyone else's, but be prepared for him to meet the situation with denial. He may not WANT to "bond".
This whole situation is likely to cause some major rifts in your family, but that's one of the reasons why sex with siblings just isn't recommended.
To be perfectly blunt, I don't see a bright, shining future ahead for this poor baby, who's going to be born into a seriously messed-up family. My advice is to consider the child's welfare first and foremost, and put the kid up for adoption. And if you must have sex with your stepbrother again, use stronger protection.
(I recently received feedback on this response insisting that "its not wrong for steps we have no family members that share the same blood." To which I would say, if it's not wrong, then why the need for secrecy? Go ahead and tell everyone!)
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well, maybe you can say that he saw the baby and he wants to help you out.
But, sooner or later you will have to tell them
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