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my mom reads all my stuff. including instant messages. and like, i can't make her go so i can talk privatley. but, today i come home from a trip and she's going to make me talk to these people online and
#1: i don't want to tell them what she wants me to tell them
#2: i don't want her to see the convo because i'm afraid the other person is going to talk about stuff
please help me fast! i can't just tell her *stay out* because that won't work! i've tried that already but she won't stop. help me please!
thank you!
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Make a code word with all of your friends to let them know your mom is reading your conversations. So, everytime she is in the room send the word and change subjects. You could send this, *random*, and if she asks what it means then tell her it's just a fun way of talking about different things.
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Maybe right before she comes tell your friends she's gonna be reading what you say, so they won't say anything bad or something. Or, when you try signing on, type your password wrong, and act fustrated, like you can't figure it out. Or you could only go on when she's not home, but if she said ahead of time she wants to read it and she makes you sign on, try the other two things. hope this helped
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What i would do in this situation is that tell your mom that you feel shes invading your privacy and u feel that she doesnt trust you. then hopefully she will take the hint that you want her to *stay out*.
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if u are talkin to her on the comp. and ur mom walks in type in pos which means parent over shoulder? then y'all can change the subject really quick and talk about something like homework or something like that if your mom asks you what that means just tell her something. if that doesn't work tell your mom that you would feel more comfortable if you could talk to your friends privately.
Good Luck
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My mom does the SAME THING!!! just before your mom watches over you tell your friends on your buddy list not to say anything bad...just talk about how much you miss your friends and tv shows and stuff.
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Parents these days are a lot more paranoid than they used to be, and in some cases with good reason. There have been a few too many cases where a child gets online with a pedophile or something and then ends up weighted down in a river somewhere.
I can't help but wonder - who are "these people"? Are they friends of yours that you see at school, or are they people you've never actually met who live in other states? If it's the first one, then the solution is to just go talk to them and explain the situation. Believe it or not, there was a time before IM and chatrooms that people used to converse in perosn. However, if they are people you've never met, then bear in mind that your Mom may have legitimate reasons for not wanting you to give out too much in the way of personal details. Discuss them with her.
There is a difference between protecting one's children and running their lives. Your mom doesn't have the right to dictate what you should say to your friends (she can make a few rules about what NOT to say; for instance, it's a bad idea to give out one's street address online). You can refuse to type something you don't wish to type; tell her that it would be "dishonest" because she's asking you to say something that you don't mean. If she really wants something said, she can log on herself and say it. Bear in mind, though, that this kind of confrontation may end with your internet access being locked out completely, so it's really better if you can try to talk about it rationally and find out exactly WHY she's so flustered about these internet friends of yours.
Finally, remember that there is no real privacy on a computer. You mother could buy a keylogging program for $29.95 that would track your every move without your even knowing about it. Be grateful that at least she's confronting you directly.
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Hey I have the same problem with my stepdad my stepdad is always accusing me of going into chatrooms when I don't just try talking to your mom about it.
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idea idea!!
1* unplug your interent.. ohh gosh my mom internet isnt working!
2* block and delate them, then say their sn is babygirl101 add baby girl1O1 (first is a zero and second is a O)if you need help witht hat tel me.!
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Dear,Urgent I can't begin to tell you how much i've had to deal with my dad on this whole thing so i'm gonna give you the best advice i can. Privacy from you parents is pretty much obsolette,your mom may be concerned if your talking with people you don't know in real i have the same problem with my dad. If you havn't already explain to your mom that you can be trusted and that she should not mind her own buisness but assure her you can handle yourself if something happens.If your mom is concerned about sex issues then i can understand for you safty wise but other wise you should let your mom talk to that person and you supervise it. Your,friend violet.
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i know this is going to sound kind of mean, but sneak on the computer. change your password so she thinks you cant get on, theres a problem with the service and its temporarily down. then, when shes asleep, sneak on the computer and tell whoever you need to talk to whats going on. make up a fake convo if you have to. good luck, hope i helped.
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That's why every teenager needs to know the CODE.
Try to talk to your friend beforehand and let her in on the "CODE". Anytime your on the phone or internet and your parentals walk in, simply say or type "LE" it means Listening Ears. And then they got the hint that a parent was either listening or reading what they were writing so esssentially the subject got changed- and fast.
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