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Mistake
hey. I'm 14/f. Me and my ex boyfriend had sex ,i thought it was a good idea at the time and i felt really comfortablewith doing it but now i don't think it was right. He dumped me the day after and i felt realy bad because i liked him alot but he obviously didn't like me. Now he is calling me horrible names and being really mean. All my friends are all acting wierd to me now and i don't know what to do.
If anyone has any advise it would be much apricated! xxx
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You have my sympathy. No one deserves to be treated like this.
This boy (and he is a boy, not a man) is an immature scoundrel who couldn't appreciate the trust you placed in him nor the gift you gave him. He deserves to be slugged in the gut until he can't breathe. He doesn't have the maturity to handle what happened, so he's lashing out at you. Unfortunately, there could be some damage to your reputation as a result.
You say your friends are "acting weird". This is probably because they're hearing a distorted version of what happened. You need to choose the friends you trust most and tell them your side of things, because you're probably going to need them by your side. You also need to make sure other girls are warned about this loser.
As I'm sure you've pretty much figured out by now, 14 is too young to be having sex (incidentally, if your ex is over 18, he could be charged with statutory rape). It requires a level of emotional maturity that someone of that age simply hasn't gained yet; for proof of this, look no further than your ex. I hope that you will wait much longer next time, and choose someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Best of luck to you.
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Honestly, boys suck. You were just trying to make him happy and you thought you were ready, but what does he do? He dumps you, but trust me, you'll get over it. No, the name calling wont end, at least not anytime soon, because that is just normal teenage drama. Theres really not much to do except, DONT let them get to you. Trust me, I dealt with this stuff ALL 4 years of high school, and letting it bother you will just make you feel 100x worse. Feel Better :)
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i think alone, and ask him why hes being such a you need to get him dickhead. totally flip out on him it was his decision to have sex also. not just yours so if he doesnt stop do it back, call him names also and tell him hes being really immature about this and he just needs to stop runnin his mouth as for your friends tell them to suck cock and stop being so stuck up, you cant change the past and if they have a problem with it then they can just get over it and u need new friends then. hope i helped even though i used some uh vulgar language lol =]
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Hi, he sounds as though he was just using you or he might have regreted doing it and decided it wouldn't be a good idea to continue with the relationship. I think your better off just leaving your ex now. You have nothing to feel ashamed of especially in front of your friends. Daniel.
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Dear Mistake,
I think that it was your fault for doing that.
He did dump you and you had sex with him! You should have definately not have done that.
Alli
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omg he's a jerk!! I'd kick his ass {don't take that advice lol}. There's not much you can do though, when he calls you a bad name laugh it off and shrug, or ask what does that make you? a using asshole? Act like it doesn't bother you, or if you want deny ever doing it with him. Show him your fine and he didn't hurt you. Be strong. I'm sooo sorry though!!Good Luck & Hope things get a LOT better!!!
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Well thats great you felt comfortable at that time.. but he sounds like an asshole hun im sorry. Any guy low enough do hit it then leave isnt ever worth it. Dont regret it though, at the time it was great. Life moves on, but dont talk to him anymore if hes really mean. Tell your friends whats goin on, that at the time you thought it was right and now you relized it was a horrible mistake, but it was your decision not theirs. And that if they understood your position they'd forget it. Best of luck sweetie!=)
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To be honest, that guy used you. Yeah guys are jerks & do stuff like that..
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There isn't anything you can do that will change the fact that you had sex. You felt comfortable with it, and you were ready (at the time) deff nothing wrong with that. The guy is being stupid about it & trying to be cool. You liked him and he used you, if anything you should be the one calling him names and telling people he's an a$shole, for treating you like that (but you're being the better person and you're not going down to his level).
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The only thing you can do really is ignore him, sure he is going to say stuff to you, but remember you didn't do anything wrong, he did. As, for your friends thou, they should support you on anything you do. If they are your true friend they wouldn't be treating you different or acting funny towards you. Ask them about it. Ask them why they are being so funky if they are your best friends. Best friends & heck, just friends should always support you when you need it, and right now you need it (beacuse of what he is doing) & they arn't there for you. Thats not what friends do, and it's deff not nice. So, ask them about it, & see what they say. Maybe they just dont understand why you did have sex with him. Try to explain to them that you liked him alot, and at the time saw nothing wrong with it. Good luck honey & remember you didn't do anything wrong.
♥ me
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I really hate to say this but I think he just used you. My advice is to just ignore it and next time consider why you want to do this, then ask your self will this guy call me rude names and use me? Also it will hurt for a while but if your friends are true friends they will be there for you. Hope for the best!
~*Brianna*~
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