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Why do guys always try to pull my pants/shorts down? Like no kidding this is the fourth guy now to try and do it. Like i will be at his house and then we go upstairs and he will just quickly reach out and try ro yank them down but i dont let it happen (link)
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Try slugging one in the face or gut next time. Defend yourself and nobody will screw with you anymore. They do it because they know you won't do anything. Why do they do it? Immaturity. I'm not advocating violence but in certain cases if they don't stop you have to show them not to mess with you.
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Hello all,
before you take this the wrong way I want to tell you that no I'm not a teenager who is love struck or any sort of non-sense like that, I hate long threads so I try to be as terse as possible.
I'm looking for efficient and painless ways one could commit suicide and no I'm not sure whether I'm going to do that to myself or not.(this is all you need to read in order to answer if you are more curious you can read the rest)
As I've stated I'm not a teenage idiot you see everyday on these threads, I'm a 28 year old guy who is relatively accomplished in his professional life and very accomplished in his dating life, my social life sucks because I don't have a lot of friends besides the girls I date and that's it. I have enough money to last me for ages even if I don't work and I've recently received my Ph.d in Banking and business management. you may not believe it but according to people around me, my life is pretty good(that is not what I think, because if it was obviously I wouldn't think about killing myself)
previously I always scolded people who talked about killing themselves and called them weaklings and annoying douchbags but the truth is it has been a few weeks since the thought has been initiated in me, because to put it simply I am bored with everything there is! I don't enjoy sex(even with new people) I don't enjoy the company of smart people like I used to, I don't enjoy buying things, I don't enjoy playing video games anymore, I was always a bit on the bored side but it has been increasing for the past few years and now I think I've experienced all the boredom I could handle and no I'm not a believer, I'm an atheist and do not have one shred of spirituality in me, I believe that Organic life is on this planet to reproduce and go on living but despite my wishes to struggle and go on with this boring process of trial and error we call life, I want to get out; you know, be free of all the misery, I know I won't care after I'm dead and I'm sure people who miss me will get over it because I've hurt them a lot of times.
I have loved people and people have loved me, I have lost people and then some, I've seen everything there is in life and I agree some of them are extremely beautiful, but I just don't like any of it and I know I'm not depressed since I function perfectly in society and my workplace.
please do not lecture me about the sanctity of life and do not offer ridiculous ways to kill myself, I want efficient and hopefully painless because the pain alone would make me not want to do it. (link)
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You don't have to be unsuccessful in business, society and professionally to be depressed or mentally ill. Let's be brutally honest here you're fooling yourself if you believe you are functioning normally.
Having the thoughts you are having and desiring to end it all when you have TONS of things going right and to live for is not normal behavior. You don't need ways to kill yourself.
What you need are ways to start living and enjoying all that you once did. It's possible and you need to get back to that place.
The thoughts you are having about death aren't yours and re either part of depression or a mental-illness that has just kicked in in the last few months and is clouding your thinking and screaming those thoughts about suicide.
What you have to do is go to any ER. Tell them that professionally, financially and socially that all seems well but that you feel so depressed and want to die despite that.
The on-call psychiatrist will observe you for 72 hours and figure out the right medication and treatment to deal with the problem you have and turn your life around. You have nothing at all to lose so do seek professional help.
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I got my report card today, I got 1 F, 2 As, And 2 Bs. My mom is freaking out on me, and I've never gotten a bad grade before, I'm an A-B student. But Algebra 2 made no sense to me. I struggled with it and my mom is talking about grounding me the whole summer and all this stuff. I don't know what to do I feel like I've failed at life and that I'm such a moron. (link)
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You my friend are far from a moron. It's okay if you don't "get' algebra although perhaps you should have asked for help or a tutor before now. Admit that you got an F and then get tutoring to learn this for next time.
Have your teacher and other adults who mom listens to see that grounding you all summer actually makes matters worse, changes nothing and doesn't combat the reason you earned an F. She should also be bloody happy about the other grades and focused on what you did well and to a lesser degree did not. As long as you tried and put effort in to things that's what parents should concern themselves with bad grade or not.
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I like this guy and I think he likes me back but I'm scared he's gonna ask me out and I'm gonna have to say no. My friends tell me to try and sneak it but I'm DEFINATELY not sneaky and I'm gonna get caught especially since he goes to the same church as me. I dont want to ask my parents when I can start dating cause it's kinda weird. What should I do :( (link)
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Honesty is the best policy even if you don't always get what you want from parents. By being upfront now you'll earn more trust later.
Just tell your folks that you plan to make decisions with your head all the time and that you really like this boy and are certain it's mutual and would like to proceed even though they are apprehensive as are you about this new development. The fact he is from church, well raised and his parents know yours works in favor. Have hm over for dinner with them so they can see you dating him is no major issue.
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I'm 17 year old male. and I wanna get it on with a female independent escort girl. Is there anyone that you know of or any where you can suggest me on finding one that will at least consider it? I don't want anything like find a nice girl and date them or anything like that. I want an older lady that will pleasure me!?! For a decent price of course! Please help me!! (Not worried about race or size. Just no STD's.) (link)
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This site is the wrong place to look for such a thing. It's illegal. Also NO escort would dare risk being with a minor. They could be charged and jailed for a variety of offenses for taking you as a client.
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I had unprotected sex a week ago, seven hours after sex I took plan b, now I've been bleeding heavily for two days and it is not my period, and I felt nautious this morning, I may just be stressing but is this bleeding a normal side effect of plan b, or am I pregnant?! (link)
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Visit an emergency room and tell them about taking Plan B, nausea, pain, bleeding that long and let them take a look at you. What you have indicated doesn't sound right. It's best to get it handled promptly.
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So, I had a moment of weakness. There's this bag of marshmallows my family left in the cupboard that had been taunting me, and 3 marshmallows later here we are. Anyway, I've been on this low-carb diet for a solid month now, and have been losing a lot of weight. I wanna know what effect this cheat day has on my body. Does it stop the whole weight loss process? Does it all start over? Will I stop losing weight? If so, how long will it take to get the ball rolling again? I have a goal date, and don't want this ONE day to screw everything up. Thanks for reading!! (link)
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It was THREE marshmallows and NOT a full bag nor did you eat any other sweets. It won't make much of a dent.
You just need to remember your diet from here on in and don't do this again. I'm no diet expert but I assume if you stay to the script for your diet you'll do alright.
You don't have to start from square zero but resume immediately what has led to the weight loss and stay on track. That's how you will be successful. If you are close to target weight one piece of chocolate or a can of coke here and there won't destroy things.
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A couple of months ago my BF started acting weird and he would zone out. We live together and he never cleans up his messes. I am pregnant and I need him to help out. But last week he called me from work and told me he was going out with another girl. We broke up, and I am terrified. I needed him and now he's gone. I am alone and I need help. My friend told me to get another BF ad by the time my baby is born, I'll have a father. The only other person in my life is my ex(a different one) but he is a sex addict and I can't have sex! (link)
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This is an unfortunate situation. It will become only 10 times worse if you go out seeking another guy or any guy because you are lonely and want the baby to have a father.
Don't get involved with anyone right now as your head and thinking aren't in a level-headed zone at present.
Instead of panic realize one thing that you have parents and family who will certainly help you. You need to tell your parents that you got involved with an absolute schmuck who is cheating and got you pregnant and won't act responsible.
They will know how to legally make him financially and responsible in other ways. They will be able to provide you with a lot of support.
When it comes to the child having a father it will happen eventually but believe me you want it to be the right man and not just anyone introduced into his or her life who may fade out of it easily.
If anything this should make you really cautious in sizing up suitors and that's a good thing. You can't afford another A-hole like this guy in your life.
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I have a bff who is 2 years younger than me. I'm 13 and she's just turned 11. Recently she's been acting obsessed with me and always wants to get her way. I've noticed this, and as you can imagine, it's put me off hanging out with her so much. She's just so judgmental and boring. She'll never do anything fun and new, she just wants to shop and watch boring movies in which are too mature for her, this gives her the idea that she is older than she really is, though she can act like a right old brat at times. I started hanging out with my other friend, who's my age, a lot more, and i love it, it has made me notice how much i hate hanging out with my bff. I need some advise on how to slowly become less attached to the hip with her, in a wat which won't be too obvious to her. Also, what can i do to slyly show her i'm changing? so that she can see we're growing apart. thanks!! (link)
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I think our friend below nailed it on the head. She's entering puberty, trying to act more grown up than she is etc.
Her "obsession" with you likely is happening because she doesn't have someone else or other friends aren't accepting of sudden changes in her behavior.
Therefore, she's clinging to the one friend who hasn't left her and inadvertently pissing you off. What you need to do is understand how awkward she feels and talk to her about changes you like in her and that which turns you and others off and tell her to work on those things to improve her social status.
Let her know that you want to be her friend but can't be there 24/7 as it's not fair to either of you. You have to be blunt with her that you know she doesn't intentionally mean to appear bratty or judgmental but that's what people around her at school are seeing.
Maybe encourage her to talk to a counselor at school about social skills, changes, how she appears to others etc. That would do more good than harm. Maybe she trusts you and is just lonely and without anyone else who "gets her".
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I've had my lobes pierced since I was a little girl - and that's about the only piercing that my parents are OK with. I used to beg them to let me get my lobes double pierced, or a cartilage piercing, etc. They told me when I was old enough to get them by myself (you have to be 18 in my state) then they wouldn't stop me.
I'm 18 now and would like to start getting some of the piercings that I've always wanted. However, I obviously still live with my parents, and even though they know that I plan on getting some piercings, I feel really uncomfortable going out and doing something that they disapprove of.
I feel like I'm supposed to just enjoy my freedom and do what I want to now. However, I still feel really bad doing things that I technically can do, but that my parents don't like or don't approve of. How can I just relax and stop fearing their disapproval?
Thanks :) (link)
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As an adult you can and are expected to make choices as well as your own mistakes too. I'm not saying this is a mistake but rather illustrating that you are now in the driver's seat and have to do what feels right to you.
It's a good thing that you would never want to do something to upset them but reality is sometimes you will and you can't help that nor can you control their reaction or for that matter anyone's.
What I would do is tell them "I'm 18 now and although you don't like the idea of piercings I'm telling you before I do it that I have an appointment and will be getting X, Y, Z" Then outline why you have wanted it and for how long. They may hate it but at least you consulted them.
If you fear their wrath all the time you will never be able to do anything. Letting them know before you do it will prepare them. I would go one step further.
Tell them "I know you hate the idea of these piercings but I would like you to be at the appointment to see how it's done." Maybe if they see how clean and professional it is they'll be okay. They even said at 18 it's your choice and likely mean that.
I think the problem is they are afraid of how others will pre-judge or perceive you in public, for jobs etc depending on how a piercing alters your appearance and or face. However, what you told us about ear piercings are pretty tame in comparison to some of the ones that are way out there.
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My little 5th grade girl cousin is freaking in love with me and she won't leave me alone! I'm a freshman and she's always following me around, kissing me (uggh) and asking to sit in my lap and one time she crawled into bed with me. (Ya I know creepy) I have a girlfriend. I told her that and she says (even though she's never met my gf) that she's not good enough for me and that I should date her. WTF?! She annoys the craps out of me and she's really weird. I want to yell at her to go away and that I dont like her but she would cry and I would feel bad. I'm 14. I don't want a 10 year old girl in love with me. How do I get rid of her? Thanks for any advice
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Part of this may be admiration or wanting to be just like you. The other part however, crosses the line. You don't want anyone thinking that her trying to kiss you or crawl into your bed was something you initiated.
What you need to do is tell one of her parents that she is making you very uncomfortable and give the bed thing and physical contact example to them and ask them to talk to their daughter about this.
At this stage of her development kids start having feelings for peers which is normal but hers are directed to the wrong person and she has to be taught that those feelings for boys are normal and okay but not directed at you and that the whole bed thing or physically kissing etc. is not appropriate.
It should stop but if it doesn't they may need her to see a professional to figure out where the behavior really is stemming from or if she learned it from someone was abused etc. Either way tell her parents and yours pronto. Something lie this you don't keep to yourself.
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I'm a 20 year old girl. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago. He cheated on me and tried to date my friend. But when i was in a relationship with him, i think i did love him, and expressed my emotions, cried aand poured my heart out. But he cheated on me, its been two years and at some point i remember him, and i think i miss him. And i knw its wrong, coz my bestfriend reminds me of what he did. And this thought of missing him hurts me, i get lost and at times need the feel of being isolated, and currently when ppl care, i just can't trust them. Its like i'm stuck in between. And i know for a fact that he's never returning back, its like i'm still waiting. I don't want to wait, i wish i can move on. Is there anything i can do? (link)
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This isn't an insult but what you need at this point is professional help. A psychologist can help you figure out the issues that continue to hold you back and give you the coping strategies and ability to move forward rather than standing still and having this problem run your life.
Essentially you are in a swimming pool treading water and continually going under but have to reach for the pole to get out of the situation. Dealing with a professional on this and working out what's really holding you back is of the essence I mean it's been 2 years.
That's a very long time. You have to deal with the cheating and abandonment issues as it's driving your problem as well as inability to trust a sole. That last part ain't normal to be feeling.
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I used to do hip hop but I'm over that now. What is contemparary dancing and what is jazz? The lady who taught ме hip hop teaches those also. I can't do a handstand/cartwheel or the splits and I'm not that flexible. Do I need to be able to do that to do contemp/ jazz
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The best thing to do is call up your instructor who taught you hip-hop and teaches the other disciplines. Ask her what contemporary dancing is to her and what he jazz program incorporates.
She knows what you cannot do with flexibility and the demand of those programs and if they suit you. She would be honesty about what she thinks you could or couldn't do.
I would start with her and then do some more research by talking to old classmates, references of the instructor, parents of classmates and get their view of the program before deciding.
Also ask your former instructor if you can sit in or take a trial class to see if it's your thing or not.
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Hi I am 14 years old and I have a boyfriend he does not go to my school but I have met him before in my old school and now we are dating. However, my Mom is aware but my dad is Super Over Protective and he would even spy on me when I would go to the Movies with my friends, so I need advice Urgently!!! What should I do I wanna see my boyfriend so badly but I'm afraid tht my dad will catch me ! :( Please Help ! Thank you .
-ForeverLoveKimx3 (link)
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Your mother needs to tell him to back off and give you some space to make decisions, date and yes even make mistakes as you need to. She has to tell him that his spying is driving you apart from him and ruining your relationship with him. Then get your freedom.
Also, use any other adult be it a teacher, friend's parent, relative that dad values the opinion of to tell him the same thing privately and that you feel suffocated.
As far as the boyfriend goes have both your parents meet him and his parents at a dinner you will host. Bring up the privacy issue, needing to make decisions and proper judgment in front of his and your parents and show them that he's a good guy. Maybe then your dad will back off.
You could also talk to your father alone and privately that you understand he cares but that he needs to stop spying on you, let you make decisions or you'll never be able to grow. Make sure he knows that you have all the same values as he does and won't do anything he deems "wrong" but that you need him to relax. That's a responsible way of addressing this.
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im going to get the life guarding job and do all the training stuff, is it fun? how much will i get payed (generally)
any tips for the test? (link)
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Pay scale always depends on who the employer is. A lifeguard who works for the YMCA vs X, Y, Z pool may get a different pay cheque for the same job. When you are hired compensation will be something your employer discusses right off.
I'm not sure what the test completely entails but as long as your CPR training, proper swim levels and skills are achieved and you know how to rescue people and can prove it you will do fine.
The training no doubt will solidify the skills you already have and teach you a ton more you hadn't considered. Fun means something different to each person but in this case the focus is on saving people's live and everything else is secondary as you know.
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I am a 15 year old, I've looked everywhere for a summer job. for babysitting or Animal sitting(NOT cats, snakes, spiders, nothing venom)and I need a job to start saving up for something important!!!! please give me a website or a link and I'm from Tucson, Arizona Thank you (link)
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Try your local movie theater. They always need staff because of constant turnover with people coming or going to school. You'll get a lot of hours and perks. It pays minimum wage.
Just walk in and ask for the manager. Odds are they will give you a job on the spot being desperate themselves.
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I am a female, 19 years old and I have a male cousin who is 18 years old. My cousin asked me if I have a boyfriend and I told him no and then he asked if I have ever had a boyfriend. I found this a little odd but I think that's just because him and I have never really talked about that sort of thing before and we haven't seen each other in like 3 years. Is this weird at all? (link)
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It could be small talk and asking about your life because he hadn't seen you in many years. That's likely all there is to it.
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My boyfriend understands that I am self-concious and see private dances as a form of cheating, I practically begged him not 2 get one for his stag and he literally swore in my life that he would only get one if his mates paid at his stag and that would be it!! I take people swearing in my life very serious!! He then got 2 dances the one paid for by his friends and the one he paid for!! He lied on me asking twice before finally admitting that he had in fact paid himself for the second one!! I am in bits I know he loves me and I still want to marry him but I cant get the images out of my mind and feel physically sick at the thought!! I need help 2 get this out of my head before I go insane!! xxxxx (link)
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Relax. It's not cheating. He hasn't slept with someone or been intimate in any way with someone else. What he is doing is blowing off some steam with friends. He loves you a lot and it hasn't changed.
Those girls to him represent a fantasy or something he can never have and he knows it. Most men do. It's satisfying a sexual curiosity or need in a safe manner. When he comes home he's 100% thinking about you.
You should tell him that rather than lie about it own up to the dances. Tell him you are uncomfortable with strip clubs, dances and other girls and wish he would stop but that you can't control him.
I know you have never thought of this idea but have an open mind. A lot of couples these days visit the clubs it's not just a male thing. Maybe just once go along with him and see the kind of dances and other stripping that goes on so you can relax about it. Some dancers I've heard will do dances for either partner if it's in your comfort zone.
If you learn that the club is harmless and just another form of entertainment and see it as such it will be fine. These dancers never allow inappropriate touching or behavior so your fiance hasn't done anything wrong really.
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Im 14/ f and ive been a selfharming since the beginning of february.. I have been getting better tho! Anyways my mom and I were sitting side by side waiting for my sister and I forgot to put a bandage on my cuts when I changef into a tank top.. she was on the phone and looked at my wrist and thered only 2 visible ones and pointed at them with a questioning face.. I pulled my arm away and went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out.. what do I say? Our cats are declawed. . (link)
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The cat is out of the bag. She knows but likely is waiting for you to come and ask for help. You need it even if you aren't doing it all the time anymore. Be truthful and tell her "I'll be responsible like an adult I have a problem with self-harm and cut myself occasionally."
No parent will like to hear this but in the end she will get you some help. This is mental-health related and what you need and no you aren't crazy is a psychiatrist, counseling, diagnosis and the reason why you do this and likely medication.
The biggest favor you can do for yourself is to own up to it. I know you are scared shitless but that's okay it all has to come out and your mom though upset at first is your strongest supporter no matter what the situation. Getting help will make you a stronger person believe me.
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i am 16/f. last year i started rubbing my cilt and initially i got an orgasm 2 times. it felt great. however i did not cum. but then everything stopped . for the past one year i feel absolutely nothing when i touch myself. i have even tried fingering but all i feel is something is moving in and out..no pleasure at all.rubbing my cilt is useless and i absolutely have no sensation there. i do get wet ...something watery and jelly like comes out but i never cum. what is wrong with me?all my friends say it feels great and some 13 yr old girls whom i know cum regularly...why can't i? (link)
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This article explains the insensitivity part and that certain prescription drugs such as birth control pills can cause clitoral insensitivity temporarily as a sexual side-effect. If on new drugs or even old ones with new dosages it could affect the ability to feel pleasure at all. Have a read of this: http://www.herballove.com/guide/female-orgasm-difficulty-caused-clitoral-insensitivity
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