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thank you for your advice! it was very good...can u give me those websites on healthy eating and exercise?? also, would say..doing 5 days of cardio a week and 2 days of weights...and then everyday doing situps and lunges..would that be good? (link)
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Ok, take it slowly. If you rush into it, doing five days of cardio and two of weights plus sit ups and lunges, you'll kill yourself! Start with five days a week, three cardio and two weights. I would suggest doing situps and lunges towards the end of your workout, but stretch last!! Stretch before you exersize too.. I found out what happens the hard way. Lunges are ok, if you don't have bad knees or back problems. Push ups are aweosme. Bring on the cruches! Pull ups are great too, if you have a place that you can do them from. The web links are below:
http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/library/nutrition/pyramid.htm
The link above shows how to eat right according to the food guide pyrimid.
http://www.5aday.com/index.php
That weblink has alot of stuff about eating healthy.
http://kidshealth.org/kid/stay_healthy/fit/work_it_out.html
That website tells about each kind of exercise, and which sports and activities fall under them.
http://www.exrx.net/Exercise.html
That one will has links to each thing, and how to do them.
Good luck! If you need something else, drop one in the inbox, if you need more info, inbox.. lol
-FunnyCide
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Thanks, im a guy by the way,this is hard to explain, cause yes i am the type of shy person, but you know it makes it even harder to try not to be shy when everyone at school just doesnt like you, and you just feel left out so you sorta sit there with ur head on ur binder thinking why the heck is this happenening i dont deserve this do i?, and what is it that is making these people do this to me... (link)
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Ok, I am a shy person too. But I've been blessed with homeschooling. I don't have to deal with people like that on a daily basis, but only twice a week. I know how it feels to be so left out.. all you wanna do is sit there, stick your hands under your knees and stare at the floor.. yea. I will help you as much as I can, and believe me, I am going through something like this too. Ok, I don't think that any human deserves to be treated with this sort of rudeness and hostility. I know why I am treated this way - I am homeschooled. There is nothing wrong with me, I am a fairly smart person for my grade, I'm not obnoxious, I am just shy and homeschooled. The people that taunt, tease, and leave me out use this to their advantage. I am shy by nature, and withdrawn out of embarrasment and shame from being ridiculed. All I can say is this: Find some good friends, I know that you're a guy, but girls aren't so bad all the time. (this is coming from a girl, FYI lol) Guys may be more "up your alley" though,'cause you're a guy. It's so hard to put yourself out there, and say, "Hey! My name is "your name", whats yours?". Probably by now, if someone's noticed you, they have an opinion of you. If they haven't noticed you, they're probably just as shy as you are. Try and find some people that are quiet, shy, and left out like you are. You can't be the only one in your whole school. There are probably more "outcasts" in your grade than you think. Hey, don't sit there with your head on your binder, look up! Look at the teacher! Pay attention! People will like you better if you smile and have a good attitude and outlook on life! Believe me, if you just sit there.. kindof sad and left out and depressed looking, no one will want to talk to you, unless they feel sorry for you. But if you smile =D and try and make small talk with someone, you'll soon find a friend. The reason that these people are doing this to you is because they are insecure themselves. And the best way for them to make themselves feel high and mighty is to make someone else feel like a peice of dirt. If you get teased, take it with a smile. "You're right, Joe. This shirt is funny-looking! But that's why I like it!" be yourself in the way you dress. If you're a "geek", dress like a geek! Sometimes people who are lower on the social status have higher self-esteem than the popular people. Don't conform to the world. I am sorry that this is happening to you, have hope and know that you're not the only one! God Bless!
-FunnyCide
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I have a terrible life where i am living right now, i have no friends here and am very lonely.Because of dealing with this for so long i guess i got a prolonged depression and get really down about the smallest things, wether it be someone talking about how there weekend was, to about how their bf/gf took them to dinner or what ever.The thing is that i know i can be happy in another place, but moving is definatly not a subject, my parents dont know about all of this, and the most major thing is im almost done high school and am going to be starting an apprentace, and i just want to have friends, and do stuff on the weekends or during the week rather then working and doing nothing.I just want to have a social life and be able to enjoy my life while im young.....Help me please! (link)
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Friends are hard to make at times, especially when you're sad, lonely, and depressed. Because, you'll look sad, lonely, and depressed if you are. Try and be more self confident appearing (even if you're not!) and put yourself out there a little bit and say "hi" to someone. Doing stuff on the weekends isn't that important in my life, in fact, I never do stuff on the weekends. (well, I ride my horse, but I try to live a simple life) The key, in my opinion, to having good friends, is to be a good friend. You need to look happy, act friendly, smile. I know the feeling, "AUGHH!!! Everyone is out doing something, and I'm stuck home folding socks!!" That was me, and I honestly have come out of my shell a lot more now, and it has positivly affected me. God helped me to do that. If you were to ask my best friend what I was like two years ago, she would tell you that I hated social situations, even though I hated not having very many friends. I was just so shy! (I still am, I can just hide it better now) I have only a few best friends. One "sister". My "sister" has been my best friend for six years. That's why we are so close. Believe me, if I didn't have her, I wouldn't be as happy as I am. A very good close friend is what everyone needs. Of course, if you're a girl, and your best friend is a girl, then you become good friends with a guy, and the guy falls in love with your best friend, drop one in the inbox and we can complain about the third wheel feeling together, then cry it out together. I mean, how do you not do something like that? Guys can be just as good friends as girls can be, it just smurfs* when they fall in love. :'( But yeah, my best friend is awesome, my guy friends are awesome. I honestly don't know how to tell someone to make friends, because it's different for each person. Personality plays a large role in it, and my personality is fairly withdrawn, shy, non-competitive, and simple. I love horses, and that's my life. (literally) Hobbies can help the saddness of not having someone close. My horse, Scooter, listens to me sometimes better than a person does. I'll be the first to tell you that I am not a "people person". In fact, people rather bug me. But I love to hang out with the few people that I get along with. Being older, you have a disadvantage, because you're having to start building the relationships with people, when most of those people have already labled you as something. (prep, goth, geek etc.) But you can do it! If you don't have the Creator, there's what you're missing. Jesus Christ changed my life. When you go from not knowing the Truth, to being eternally secured, it's like going from a pitch black, freezing cold room, to the warm sunshine. ~Awesome~ When you have Christ in your life, and you're living the Christian life, you're pretty much happy. That's not saying that if you get saved, you'll always be happy, and you wont have any problems. Because you're still subject to temptation and all.. but God still loves you, and if you accept Him, you will be much happier. If you already have Him, try to get into the Word more, live the walk of a Christian, and you'll be much happier. Hope you have good fortune finding friends, God bless.
-FunnyCide
*Smurfs in my vocabulary is another word for "sucks" or "stinks". Also, if I call you a "little smurf" I am probably irritated at you because I don't hold those little blue men in high regard =D
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I'm really interested in learning to eat more healthy...I am at a good weight right now and I want to stay there, so I'd like to know how I should eat. Fad diets are stupid, they don't last, they don't work. Healthy, well-balanced eating is what you can stick with for life. This may sound a little weird, but I'm not quite sure what healthy eating IS. Like...can someone give a sample menu of a healthy day of eating. Are snacks ok? Like, if you want to maintain your weight, what should you be eating. (I'm a 5'5 female who is 125 pounds.) (link)
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This is what a day of healthy eating would be like :
breakfast: milk, orange slices, toast with apple preservitives (not jelly or jam, preservitives are natural and have more nutrients in them)
lunch: water/milk, turkey sandwich on wheat bread, banana, low fat yogurt, carrot sticks
snack : kiwi/mango/peach (fruit)
supper: water/milk, grilled chicken, corn, rolls, mashed potatoes, salad.
desert(if you must): a small portion of ice cream or lowfat frozen yogurt with a fruit.
Basically, you should have a balanced diet consisting mainly of fruits, veggies, meat and water/milk. I don't like milk that much, but I drink it because of my enamel defect which causes my teeth to be much weeker. Water is also very important, considering that our bodies need water to live, function, and to be healthy. Exersize is also a key part in the whole healthy eating scheme. I would suggest running for a cardio workout, weight lifting or horseback riding for muscle toning, push ups and sit ups for a combined workout, plus it helps flatten and lenghten your muscles. Good luck, and if you need more help, I can give you a list of websites to visit that will have a more detailed description of healthy eating. (and no, Atkins is not one of the websites! lol)
-FunnyCide
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ive been going out with my boyfriend for a long time. he never pressures me or disrespects me. but the other day in the movies he started touching my boobs which is really unlike him. then apologized throughout the whole movie for doing it. we went out to dinner and i flipped out on him and he started CRYING. this morning at school he decorated my locker saying "im so sorry i love you" with hearts all over it. i found out that he stayed up all night making it. he was crying all day in school, and he wrote me a long apology letter. everyone says im overreacting. should i get back with him because i really want to... (link)
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Ok, what he did was SO STINKIN' WRONG!! Look, you're a girl, and naturally, that puts you at a level of more submissiveness. But you shouldn't take that nonsense. If you think that he was honestly sorry for what he did, and he promises not to do it again, and you want to go out with him, go for it. You should talk to him, just be frank. Tell him that you don't appreciate what he did, and that you still like (or love, it depends) him, and you want to go out with him, but what he did was totally inaproppriate. BUT if he promises not to do it again, then you will go back out with him; on the conditions that if he does it agian, then.. *you choose the consequence* (my choice would be not to go back out with him, but that's me!!) :) Sorry about what happened, good fortune!
-FunnyCide
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Ok my bff birhtday is coming up and shes turning 13 thats a big step in life. I dont know what to do for her birthday. I was thinking a suprise birthday but i dont know. She likes horses and Acting. I was thinking i could bring her to new york and we could see a broadway show but that might be to expensive. Any ideas?? I rate. (link)
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Ok. I am liking this chick already! She likes horses? I love horses! lol (fascinating tidbit..) so, Broadway is expensive, and if you don't live near New York, driving up there is expensive too. So, you could always find a local barn and get a trail ride there with her. That's what I would do... but I don't have to, I have horses lol. Sorry. I am in a good mood. Ok, but you have to do something for your 13th birthday. I didn't. I admit, I was upset that I was "officially" a teenager, and it brought with it more responsibilities, privilidges, and problems, and didn't get to hang out with my best friend. But, I am ok.., right guys?... Guys? (ok, I am in a REALLY good mood)
You could take her to a movie, and a horse ride, if Broadway isn't an option.. but Broadway sounds like a lot of fun. So, grab your best friend, and hit the road, singing and cantering into the sunset! (don't canter if you cant trot, and don't trot if you cant walk, and please do not walk if you cant mount your own horse!:D)
-FunnyCide
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how do you make yourself throw up? like i know you stick your finger down your throat but like ive tried that and it doesn't really work..like is there a cerant way to stick it down or anything..I'm not bulimic or anything I didn't feel good and i ate something and i felt like i had to throw up and i couldn't so i tried to make myself but it didn't work..thanks (link)
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Ok, you might not like this answer.. but ok. I know how you feel like that. It's like, you'll feel better AFTER you vomit lol Well, I don't know anything about purging, but most of the time, if you take something (over the counter or prescription) and try to sleep, you'll feel better. I wont give you a history or anything, but I know how you feel. I've found that (for me) it's comfortable for me to have blankets, but the fan on, and have the tv or a radio on low. (of course, if you think that you'll be sick, you'll want to have a trash can or something that you can quickly get to) Milk will sometimes make you feel better, but water and sprite most of the time are good. Don't make yourself sick, just let it run itself out.
-FunnyCide
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What does crunk mean... im afraid to ask someone who would know.. i know i sound lame.. but please.. im confused!! all the rap songs use that word.. and idk what it means!! HELP (link)
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It means that someone is being crazy and is drunk. When you put the two words "crazy" and "drunk" together, it (kindof) forms the word "crunk". I wouldn't want to be described as "crunk" ever.. but some people don't care. It's not "lame" that you don't know. It's just one of those things.. so, now you know.
-FunnyCide
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Friday was my last day at school. And every thing was going ok till. A friend came up and just started to have a emotional brake down. and she has had this before but not at school. See last time she had one of these was last year when she was at home and she staped herself with a knife. And it was all about a guy cause this guy thaough she was mad at him but she isn't. So she came to me to talk.i am use to there kind of thing cause a lot of my friends get them. But a lot of times i am not around them. So then was like i am happy that this didn't happened at home cause she would of killed herself. and she lives in Rapid City and i live in Sturgis. And i can't always be there for here when she needs someone to be there. And i can't cause i don't live in the same town as her. And i am oging to the High School so really doesn't have much ppl to talk to I am afaid that when she is at home or at school and no one is around her she will kill herself. if anyone here knows what i can do. Write back. Michy (link)
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Ok, this is kindof hard to answer, but here goes:
Hang out with your friend alot, she needs someone to be there for her. Call her on the phone, IM and e-mail her, that's what it sounds like she needs. I know that it's gonna be harder because ya'll don't live in the same city, but you can still use the internet if you're worried about long distance. (I have no clue where those two cities are or how far apart they are, so I'm just assuming that there would be long distance charges) Is she ignored and put down at school? Or does she have alot of friends? It sounds like your friend is depressed about something. Just talk to her, ask her what's on her mind, if there's something she wants to talk about etc. Let her know that you care about her. Send her a letter in the mail telling her that you value her friendship and want to help her and support her. Something as small as that can mean the world to someone. You can suggest a guidence counselor, or even a parent. If you think that she needs to talk to someone older and wiser, encourage a parent or a counselor. The pros of a counselor are: total secrecy
trained pro
the cons are: it's not free
The pros for talking to a parent are: free
can help you on a more personal basis
the cons are: it's a little weird talking to your mom about it, or a friends mom (or dad)
Be the best friend you can be, if she starts talking about commiting suicide, tell someone!! (a parent, not your dog) If you're the best friend that you can be, she'll probably tell you what's bothering her. If she does that, she'll probably feel better about herself. If she feels better about herself, then it's all cool! Hope it all goes well.
-FunnyCide
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i feel so lonley without a boyfriend. i miss having some one here to always talk to and stuff, is that wrong? (link)
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No, it's not wrong, it's just your personality and learning type. You see, I am more prone to be stand-offish and a loner, and thus I don't feel like you do. But you're probably one that needs constand compainionship and love. That's perfectlly understandable!! Ok, find a great friend (a girl) who will never leave you, always be there for you, even at three in the morning!! It takes time to build relationships, but if you work at it, you will have a great, long lasting friendship. In the mean time, look for girls who share your intrests and have nice personalities and start talking to them. If you feel that you need a boyfriend, hang out with some guys. (Or you can be like me and do that anyway) God will give you the right person at the right time. Don't rush it, don't do something crazy like sleep with a guy. You'll only get hurt and wish you hadn't. God will provide.
-FunnyCide
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I know that this might sound stupid but, today my mom was just telling me stuff that I don't know about my family, and she told me my sister got pregnant at the age of 21 (shes 28 now) and got an abortion, because she got pregnant not from being raped or anything, just with her boyfriends baby n stuff. I've been brought up to believe women have equal rights, and I have believed in abortions up until now. Knowing that I could've had a nephew//niece, and I don't because my sister got an abortion is really weird. I'm only 14, and I know I'm going to get a bunch of life altering situations, as this one. But, if my sister asks me one day if I believe in abortions, should I tell the truth, and say, no. or yes? Thanks. (link)
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Sweetie, be honest! Say that you don't approve in abortions!!! I don't!! No matter who asked me they would (depending on status) get an answer similar to this, "WHAT!? HECK NO!! That's killing a totally innocent, tiny, baby person who has never had a chance to live!! Is that fair?! NO! How would you feel if your mom had aborted you? Oh, wait. You wouldn't feel, you wouldn't be alive!" And that's how I feel. So, I think that you should be honest, because you can't live life being afraid of "stepping on peoples toes" go ahead, stomp on them!! lol (I had a pastor like that, he was the most amazing teacher that is totally human) Just 'cause you don't want to hurt your sis isn't a reason to lie to her! That would hurt worse. Good luck!
-FunnyCide
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hey what do you do when you find out the guy you've dated is gay ?? You don't know for sure .. but he's best friends say he is .. You can't just go up to him and say " hey buddie.. are you really gay ?" that'd be really stupid .. i'd feel stupid and like a idiot .. what should i do to find out the truth about this guy that i like ??
Thanks !!
13yr old
female
really confused (link)
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Ok, this is kindof a hard question to answer.. but I'll do my best! So you want to know if your ex is straight or not, right? Well, there are a few ways to find out for sure.
1)assume that he is(or isn't) by the way he acts
2)get your friends to ask him
3)take his friends word for it
4)ask him yourself. This is the one that I suggest. I would use AIM personally, but it's your choice. If you don't have AIM, or he doesn't have AIM, and he or you doesn't have an e-mail address, then try writing him a letter. Just be like, "Hey, I have to be totally honest with you, and I am really curious. There are rumors and stuff flying around that say that you're gay. But I want to know for sure, not just be gullible enough to buy into anything that the crowd says." And hope for a reply. If you use AIM, then he wont be able to avoid it as easily, but if you can't use it, you can't use it. If you use e-mail or a letter, then you might not get a reply, but you know that you've tried. Then, of course, you can do a face-to-face, and then the only way that he can avoid you is by running away.. lol hope it goes well!!
-FunnyCide
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I started going out with this kid Brendan last February and then in July we broke up. It was the best five months of my life! I know it wasn't that long but he's the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm still madly in love with him I just noticed. I knew I liked him still but when ever someone even says his name around me my heart will start going crazy! If I look at him in the halls I wanna just go talk to him and I've tried but I get scared and just talk to his friends and see if he'll notice me. I know it's kind of childish but I can't help it! He's just always there. I've gone out with two people since we broke up. Nothing serious at all. Just like one month things. My friends think the only reason reason I went out with them was because I just missed having someone I really liked around me and I think their right. Even though I didn't like them that much. I did kind of use them but I just really miss him. I don't know how to tell him this or even if I should tell him. As I'm writing this my friend called saying she just saw Brendan at the store and I just started smiling and my heart beating just hearing his name. It's so weird I've never felt like this even with the guy I was going out with for two years. His name is Gilmore (it's really his last name) After that we went out, off and on, off and on for like another five months. My best friend Lucas who is friends with Brendan said that maybe he doesn't wanna pull "a ilmore" It's basically a legend. Everyone says that when they don't wanna go with the same person about a million times. So maybe it is that but I have no clue. What do you think I should do because I'm gonna go crazy pretty soon. Oh ya I'm 16 years old and he's 17. IM TURNING 17 NEXT MONTH! (can't wait) (link)
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Ok, you're not crazy!! And it's not that you don't have a clue. I think that it's reasonable for you to still like him. It's not childish for you to be shy around him, even if it's just walking up to him and saying "Hi". Get Brendan's e-mail address or AIM screen name. If you get his e-mail, send him an email that tells him that you still have feelings for him, that you thought that the months that ya'll went out were the best in your whole life. Tell him that you've never felt this way about anyone before. Try to hang out with him. Get up your courage and one day, when you're passing him in the hall, smile, and say, "Hey!" and continue on your way. Get your friends to help you hang out with him more. Your friend, Lucas, get him to hang out with you and Brendan at the same time. Start off as friends and work off of that. If Brendan still has feelings for you, that's when it would show. Try and be calm, cool, and collected. But don't overdo it! lol Talk to God about how you feel about Brendan, Christ will help you through all times. Oh, happy early birthday!!
-FunnyCide
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see i have this friend and it isnt that i don't let her have other friends it is just that when she is with the other friend i am not involved in the conversation. Also when this friend is around i dont think that my friend notices me even if i try to talk to her. I think that she likes this other friend more but it not willing to say it to my face. I have told her that i feel left out and somewhat betrayed because when this other person is around i am forgotten. Ihave told my friend this and then she denies it then agrees that i am being left out. I am sorry this is so long but really need the help and dont know what to do (link)
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Ok, so you said that you've told this friend that you feel left out. I'm going to name her "Sally" and I'm going to name the friend that she hangs out with "Jane". Ok, so you've gone to Sally and said, "Sally, I really enjoy your company, and I like being your friend. But whenever you, Jane and I hang out, I feel very left out. Like a third wheel. I don't like this feeling, because I like you alot, and I enjoy hanging out with you, but I am starting to feel betrayed." If she still doesn't listen, go to Jane and tell her sortof the same thing. Tell Jane that you like her company too, and that you would appreciate it if she would help Sally to see that you're being left out and that you want to be included more. If they both ignore you, they're not really friends. It's hard to be left out, kicked to the side, a third wheel, an outcast, leftovers and more. (Believe me, I know) But if your "friends" are doing this to you, you need to find some better friends. Sometimes it's hard to have a close threesome; but it's not impossible. Talk to your friends in-depth about how you feel, and if nothing happens, try to find some better friends.
-FunnyCide
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i just lost one of my friends we havent been close recently but for 3 years we were and we drifted the past year, i just found out he passed away and i cant belive it, it hurts so much i alwayts pass by his house thinking hes going to be there, i always want to call his cell phone thinking hes going to pick up, i cant handle this no1 can, i dont no wat to do i miss him teribly i just wish i can bring him back and tell him that even tho we drifted that i still love him when i saw him laying in the casket i just wanted to wake him up, what should i do :'( (link)
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I am really sorry for your loss.. even if you had drifted away from this friend, it still hurts. I don't know why he died, but it's still tremendously hard to deal with. Seek comfort from Christ. I hope that you and your friend were (and are) Christians. If your friend was a Christian, rejoice! Be happy that he is no longer suffering on earth, but is living eternally with his Creator! If your friend wasn't a Christian, my heart goes out to you, your family, his family, and his soul. If he wasn't a Christian, I fully understand your grief of what he will have to live with for eternity. If he wasn't a Christian, and neither are you, you should seek Christ. If you want proof, read the book, "The Case For Christ" by Lee Strobel. It's a good book, a lot of evidence and such. I know that you must be on the brink of chronical depression. It is so hard to lose a friend. I cant imagine what I would do if one of my close friends died.. I would be so upset. I know that it must hurt to hear this, but go to a counselor. A counselor will be able to help you through this time of grief. If you're a Christian, seek comfort in that as well. Jesus knows how you feel. In the Bible, Jesus lost a very close friend named Lazarus. The Bible says that Jesus wept! Christ, our Creator, was so upset that he wept. That is so amazing to me! Jesus had emotions just like you and I do. But, Jesus knew how to control them. In Lazarus's story, he gets raised from the dead. As much as we wish it would happen, your friend isn't going to be raised from the dead. It may help for you to write a letter to your friend, even if he's no longer with you, you can still write him a letter, seal it in an envelope, and leave it at his gravestone. Sometimes you just need to write things down, see them on paper. Confide in a close friend. Tell your best friend in the world how you feel. A burden seems so much lighter when two or three share it instead of keeping it to yourself. I am praying for you. God bless
-FunnyCide
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i have this friend and we always hang out ....and mess around .........when i was scared at the movies ..becasue we wre watching a scayie movie ..he held my hand ....and at school he linked my arm with his ..and as he let go ...he grabed my hand ..i mean i like him ...i have alot of fun when i'm with him ...and some times i'll grab him by the hand ......when i say come on ....and he'll hold my hand .but for a like a couple of seconds....wat should i do .i like him..but i don't if he likes me or not .or is he just mesing with me (link)
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Ok, he probably likes you. I mean, most guys don't do stuff like that just for messin' around. A little bit, maybe, but not a whole lot. If you like him, and you think he likes you, ask him!! (we'll pretend his name is "John") Just be like, "hey, John! I have a question, and it's been bothering me for quite some time, and I'd really like to know this. Have you ever liked me as maybe.. more than a friend?" I prefer AIM to face-to-face conversations or the phone, but do as you please. That's the only way to know if he really likes you. If he likes you, he'll be honest with you. I think he probably likes you.
-FunnyCide
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Are most girls stupid for having sex with boys that they break up with during 1yr?
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Yes! Most girls are stupid for having sex with guys that they break up with!! In fact, girls are stupid for having sex with guys that they aren't married to!!! Girls are just stupid sometimes!!! So are guys for having sex with girls!! It goes both ways, you know. If you're gonna break up within one year, don't even go further than holding hands! (in my opinion) It's pointless. A relationship like that (girlfriend/boyfriend) should be totally filled with God's prescence and will. Having premarital sex is not God's will or prescence. If you're a Christian, you shouldn't date non-Christians, that will only bring you away from God, and if you're not a Christian, you would be so much more satisfied with God in your life. It's been said that in every heart, there's a God shaped vacuum. Money, sex, drugs, cars.. nothing can fill that place but God and God alone. Be careful in your dating life not to go too far with the physicalness goes. Be sure to always be honest, and don't have sex before you're married!
-FunnyCide
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Christians...
- I just wanted to know that if you read the bible can you really find all the answers to your questions. I've heard that you can...and I just wanted to know if it was worth your time...
- And idk, I want to become a better person. Always have wanted too. And I have a bf and we just started dating and like the more I think about it, its not the kind of relationship I want right now b/c something is going to happen b/c theres that attraction there...and we're young and stupid, what do I do? (link)
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Ok, it's true, God has given us the answers to all of our questions in the Bible. Ok, well, not the answers to tomorrows math test, but the answers about life, about love, about living for Him. I would suggest getting into God's word every day, more than once if possible, and meditate on what God would want you to do.
About your boyfriend situation. Ok, is he a Christian? It's never wise to date someone who's not a Christian.. but, like you said, it there's attraction there, and you don't want anything to happen, and you're young and stupid, I would but it off. Just let him down easily and tell him that right now, you can't be in a relationship of this sort. It's good that you want to be a better person, but really the only way to do that is to be madly in love with God. If that happens, you will want to know every thing that you can about God, and you will feel so much better when you are spending time in the Word, listening and talking to God, you'll feel awesome. Pray often, about everything. Talk to God about the way that you feel about this boy that you're dating, about being a better person, about your questions that you hinted at. God will place verses on your heart for you to read and get something out of. Remember not to always talk, the Bible tells us that we should read Gods Word, pray, and be still and listen for the voice of God. (not really in an audible voice, but in your head, you hear the voice of God speaking to you, or the Holy Spirit) Pray about all things, find some really great Christian friens to hang out with, if possible, get a mentor who will help you grow in the Spirit and in the Word. If you're just now starting to read the Bible every day, I wouldn't suggest starting in a book like Revelation or Daniel. Those books are awesome, filled with prophecy and amazing things, but not good for a young and unexperienced Christian who just needs encouragement right now. I would suggest starting with Psalms or Proverbs. Even Ecclesiastes would be good. Or one of the Gosples too. God bless.
-FunnyCide
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Okay, see my boyfriend recently got angry with me. he got mad because i was complaining to my friend about my ex boyfriend and i told him not to call me right then because i needed to talk to my friend. well all of my friends say to dump him because see not only was me pissed at me he was pissed at me on my b-day!! of all times!! well they all said to because he wouldnt talk to me, but see he texted me and said "hey babe wha up happi b-day luv ya" but see my friends still say i should dump him but i love him soo much its just even i realize he treats me like shit but i cant help but love him!! what should i do? ill rate high!! (link)
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Ok, I don't want to be mean, but look. Read these lines together. :"..all of my friends say to dump him.." "..even i realize he treats me like s***.." I realise that you think you love him. But, weather you do or not, that's not my buisness. For your own safety and good, i would kick him to the curb. Right now he may just be a jerk to you, but if your relationship were to proggress, he might get alot worse; like, hitting you and stuff... that's just something that you should keep in mind when making your descision. He might just be nice to you sometimes 'cause he needs to feel accepted. Maybe he has a hard family life and that's why he's a jerk.. I don't know that though. But I would say, even though it's hard and stuff, that you should let this one go. There are bigger fish in the sea. Bigger fish who are nicer too. Keep these things in mind when you're making your descision.
-FunnyCide
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I am 15.recently my best friend said he likes this girl. he talks about her alot! I think its cute! but anyway. Recently he has said he has lost feelings for her and that he likes someone else. Ive known him for about 8 years and ever since then hes always told me who he likes and suddenly he wont! In class he'll say things that kind of lead me on to think that he may like me. like...randomly say i love you and he jokingly asked me to marry him (in the future of course!) now...am i jumping the gun or does he like me?!? HELP PLEASE! (link)
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It kinda sounds like he likes you, well, it sounds like he likes you. But don't just take our advice, go to your friend! Just subtly bring it up.. "so, have you ever liked me as maybe more than a friend?.." in person, on the phone (if you talk on the phone) or on AIM. Just whatever is better for you. Of course, he may "love" you, but not "like" you. You understand what I'm trying to say?.. you can love someone, but not want to go out with them. It's a love through friendship, not a boyfriend/girlfriend love. But it sounds like he likes you.. just ask him.
-FunnyCide
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