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death of a friend
i just lost one of my friends we havent been close recently but for 3 years we were and we drifted the past year, i just found out he passed away and i cant belive it, it hurts so much i alwayts pass by his house thinking hes going to be there, i always want to call his cell phone thinking hes going to pick up, i cant handle this no1 can, i dont no wat to do i miss him teribly i just wish i can bring him back and tell him that even tho we drifted that i still love him when i saw him laying in the casket i just wanted to wake him up, what should i do :'(
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death of a friend,
I am sorry u lost a friend. Try talking to your Counsler or someone thats close to u.
Smartgirl45
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I'm so sorry to hear that. i know what its like to lose a friend. but it will be alright because if there's something you wanted to tell him, you can tell him now. he will always be with you in your heart and remember that he is watching out for you. I know how bad you wanna see him again, but just remember that.
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ahh boo woo everybody look at me becuase my friend died...oh boo woo....get over it you stalker
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im very sorry that this is going on..but theres nothing really you can do sorry to say that but like talking to somebody your writhing your feelings down might help some..i mean your not always going to feel this way bout it..but you'll never get over it.. or you could like pray and talk to him as if he was their and imagine he's by you while you talk to him..im sorry if i dint help much but thats what i did when i lost my friend jason and my friend mary.. ~*DEZ*~
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Do whatever you can to express your grief:
Talk to someone.
Pray.
Write in a journal.
Listen to music.
Take a hot bath.
Go for a long walk.
Cry.
Laugh.
Whatever you do, you need to be honest about your feelings. Of course you feel pain and sadness. It's okay to feel that way, and it's okay when you find yourself laughing or smiling and suddenly feel guilty because your friend is not there to join in.
Be honest with yourself, be honest with others, don't hide this away. Buy some paint and fingerpaint all over a piece of paper. Write a poem about your friend. Sit in your room and smell candles. Hold a friend's hand.
I can't tell you how to make yourself feel better, but I can say that as long as you acknowledge your grief, you'll be fine. I think talking to a school psychologist or an outside therapist could help, but so could talking with any close adult or friend.
My thoughts are with you.
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I am really sorry for your loss.. even if you had drifted away from this friend, it still hurts. I don't know why he died, but it's still tremendously hard to deal with. Seek comfort from Christ. I hope that you and your friend were (and are) Christians. If your friend was a Christian, rejoice! Be happy that he is no longer suffering on earth, but is living eternally with his Creator! If your friend wasn't a Christian, my heart goes out to you, your family, his family, and his soul. If he wasn't a Christian, I fully understand your grief of what he will have to live with for eternity. If he wasn't a Christian, and neither are you, you should seek Christ. If you want proof, read the book, "The Case For Christ" by Lee Strobel. It's a good book, a lot of evidence and such. I know that you must be on the brink of chronical depression. It is so hard to lose a friend. I cant imagine what I would do if one of my close friends died.. I would be so upset. I know that it must hurt to hear this, but go to a counselor. A counselor will be able to help you through this time of grief. If you're a Christian, seek comfort in that as well. Jesus knows how you feel. In the Bible, Jesus lost a very close friend named Lazarus. The Bible says that Jesus wept! Christ, our Creator, was so upset that he wept. That is so amazing to me! Jesus had emotions just like you and I do. But, Jesus knew how to control them. In Lazarus's story, he gets raised from the dead. As much as we wish it would happen, your friend isn't going to be raised from the dead. It may help for you to write a letter to your friend, even if he's no longer with you, you can still write him a letter, seal it in an envelope, and leave it at his gravestone. Sometimes you just need to write things down, see them on paper. Confide in a close friend. Tell your best friend in the world how you feel. A burden seems so much lighter when two or three share it instead of keeping it to yourself. I am praying for you. God bless
-FunnyCide
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Hey I am reallllly sorry for your loss. There's no easy way to say it but life isn't fair. Sooner or later everyone goes, soem unlucky ones just leave sooner then others. You didn't sya how he died but I am assuming an accident. If it was drugs or suicide he should have gotten help earlier. I know how you feel because i have lost 2 cousins to suicice, 5 fmaily members to drugs, a grandmother to freka accident and younger cousins to leauemia and more. Even though I have lost them it still is horrible an dnet gets easier. Don't feel guilty and get yourself a conselor. You can't let it hold you back You were a good friend for attending his wake.
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It's very hard to lose a good friend. You will have a long time when you miss them. Different social events set you off, etc. Why don't you get a group of friends that knew him and have a party in his honor? Talk about the good times. Or do something charitable or good in his name: plant a tree or donate money. I am sure they forgive you; it happens to everybody sooner or later. I ended up going to counseling for the first time ever because I was so distraught and depressed.
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It's hard i've lost both my grandparents and i still miss them terriblly, all i can say is that its a matter of time. Always good to talk about it with those who are also missing him, remember the good times lul!
Luv Joolz
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u should pray to god about this prblem.the pain might never go away.i know.ive lost many.u can wait or ask god.
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