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Does anyone know how to get music on your piczo site? I have tried a few sites on the Piczo Pros site, but none of them have the song i want: "Black Fingernails, Red Wine" By Eskimo Joe.
Can anyone help me?

Get a Music Video. Just paste it in the text box.
xoxo minela

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I am thinking about taking a girl i like to the Panic! at the Disco concert coming to Charlotte, NC. I've been to concerts before, but never been to a concert date like with a girl. How do these work out? Could I have any tips on how to make this date successful?

Awe! I think that`s really nice I`d love to have my boyfriend take me to see a concert like that or something , Lol. Well when you pick her up give her flowers. & Then when you get to the concert don`t seperate from her try to stay as close to her as possible. & just try to have fun & relax , because it is a concert! Then at the end of the concert you should kiss her or something & be like wow this was the best concert I`ve ever been too , you wanna know why? & then be like because i went with the most amazingest girl ever. Or something sweet like that! I hope you have fun & Woah I love panic at the Disco! Good Luck!
xoxo minela

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14/f

i messed up with my boyfriend. i feel horrible.

ian and i have been going out for 3 months now. i just told him something big about my life that i think he should've known. i told him that i have cut myself before. he flipped out.

he also said that he was gonna end the relationship until i can prove to him that i really want to stay in it (from something else that i did i think). what can i do? talking to him on the phone wont help.

any ideas on what i should do?

Okay first of all let me start out by saying , Why would he flip out because you used to cut your self? That was before , you don`t do it anymore. If he really loves you he wouldn`t make such a big deal about it because alot of teenagers do cut them selves when they are going through a hard time. I think that you should write him a little letter that goes something likes this

Dear Ian ,
I love you so much & I will forever no matter what. I know that to you it is a big deal that I used to cut my self. But i don`t cut myself anymore , alot of people cut their selves when they go through a tough time esspecially teenagers. I really want to stay in this relationship with you because I think you are truley amazing and I don`t want to see myself being without you. < Something like that & then along with the letter send him flowers , yeah it`s usually kind of a thing that a boy would do but in this situation it really dosen`t matter! Hope I helped! Good Luck! && I hope it all works out!
xoxo minela

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i know that everyone likes the popular guy but i really like him. i have lunch with him and we talk but normally just about sports or the math homework. he's a year older than me. basically i want to know how to talk to him and have a decent conversation and hint to him that i like him without publically humiliating myself and getting hurt if he doesn't like me back.

Awe! That`s cute , well i went through this many times , and usually what i do is i just go up to him and I`m like , "Hey , What`s up?..and just start out a converstaion and then be like What are you gonna do over the weekend? & Kind of try to flirt with him , if you want him to know that you like him then just smile alot at him and when you talk to him be really sweet and say he forgets his lunch money offer him to get him chips or something! Lol. It works! Good Luck & I hope I helped!
xoxo minela

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a few days ago, this guy IMed me as a prank! well, i kinda knew it was him, so i said a whole bunch of funny stuff. well, my mom read it! now, she's been on my case about it for like two weeks. i need a valid excuse showing that:

- i was not the one talking to this guy. that it was someone else pretending to be me
- i also need a reason of why i didn't want to tell her before that it wasn't me

PLEASE PLEASE
I BEG YOU
I REALLY NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO SAY
I NEED A PERFECTLY GOOD, BELIEVABLE EXCUSE
THANK YOU

awe. well just be like , " mom it really wasn`t me i put my life on it.Someone else got on my screen name and they were pretending to be me , the reason i didn`t want to tell you was because you would get really angry and you would think that it was me , i know that you probably don`t belive me. But i know im telling the truth , so just belive me once because i wouldn`t lie about something like this , it really wasn`t me talking to that guy , i have no idea who he is anyway" & then kind of start to cry , abd look really sad! It works trust me! =) Hope I helped! & Good Luck ♥

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So recently i got my hair cut. um its about to my shoulder, its layered, no bangs and its really thin..does anyone know any cute hairstyles i could do?!

You can just straighten it , that`s always cute! Or scrunch your hair and then straighten the front part a little , that looks gourges! Or just tie your hair up and then leave out like a little in the front that`s always cute! Hope I helped
♥minela

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okay, i'm not sure what catagory this belongs in.. but anyways, i am stuck at home with absolutly nothing to do! the weather is yucky so i dont want to go outside. my stomach hurts so i cant really jump around and be active. whenever i'm bored, i find myself sitting on the computer all day! i cant go anywhere because both cars are gone. all of my friends are on vacation so i cant hang out with anybody. PLEASE HELP!!! i am soo bored. any suggestions would be so great! thanks bunches!

Awee. I know what you mean. I usually get really bored too and find myself sitting on the computer.. Lol. Well you can watch tv , listen to music , clean ( I usually do that when I`m bored ) or cook ( it`s fun when you`re bored trust me ) or dance. Or rent some movies and watch them. Hope I helped & Hope your summer gets better!
♥minela

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Hi my boyfriend and I are having some problems. Well first of all he is mad at me for getting a myspace and he wont leave me alone he's threatning to break up with me for it, its retarded he needs to just leave me alone. What should I do?

Well he`s just worried that you might find another guy on myspace that`s cuter than him. & he just loves you and he dosen`t want to loose you. What`s more immporant to you myspace or your boyfriend? I think your boyfriends more important than a website , because personally I think myspace is pretty stupid. Just delete your myspace , because if you don`t you`ll regret loosing him later on. Good Luck
♥minela

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ok so im 16 year old girl and recently i got in a lot of trouble by my parents. i went behind their back and hung out with one of my best friends. they took away my cell phone and all my rights. im basically grounded for a lifetime. i want to know how can i get my parents trust back? and how they'll let me hang out with people and go to the movies, etc. but i really cant live without seeing my friend again and i need a way to prove to my parents how he's still a good person and we just made a MAJOR mistake. please help me(if possible)!

Well I don`t see why its such a big deal that you hung out with one of your friends , but yeah since he is a boy and your a girl , & you went behind your parents back and hung out with him. That probably got them really mad because they might of thought he was your boyfriend and all of that stuff. You should just talk to your parents. Tell them it was a major mistake and that you don`t know why you did it. & then be like " I promise I will NEVER go behind your back and do something like that , I love you mom and dad and I promise I will never go off and do something behind your back , I just want your trust back and I want to be able to hang out with my friends and go to the movies , I`m 16 I think I`m ready enough to go out and have fun on my own!" Hope I helped && hope it works out!
♥minela

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can you admire a person and like them at the same time?For instance, my sis's friend told my sis that she admired me,does that mean that she likes me as well?

And is there a difference from liking someone to loving someone?

Yeah admire is pretty much the same thinking as liking someone , so she does like you as well. & Yes , there is a difference between liking someone to loving someone. When you like someone it means you have feelings for that person but not alot. When you love someone it means that you would do anything for them , & that they mean more than the world to you & so on. && by the way never say you love someone when yuo don`t know what it actually means! Lol. Good Luck! ♥

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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=443468 was my last question talking about this topic.

Anyways, today, Jeff acted like he liked me. Like, he sat by me at lunch again, and complimented me on my new a-ar shirt. Then, some girl said something and I hit her in the butt with my agenda and then he was like "ooo hittt me laurie!" and of course we all laughed and stuff. Then, during science class, this kid took my glasses and I was like "STEVEN GIVE THEM BACK!" and jeff was like "o0o Laurie looks SEXYYY without her glasses on," smiling and all, and the other guys at the table nodded their heads haha. idk. it just seems like he gives me mixed signals.
and then, I talked to Ginger about it, and she said she didn't mind at all, because just today she started going out with this other guy.

So, NOW what do you think about him liking me?
=] Thanks.

Aww! Well it totally seems like he likes you , alot! Good Luck! ♥

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Hereit goes. Ok, so i started liking this guy last year after our youth group went on a retreat thing to the mountains(last winter. He's 18 now and i'll be 16 in December. Well, I liked him the whole rest of the year. I kinda liked him before that like last fall, but it grew to what i thought was love. Ok, so i told him when he graduated through a letter because i was afraid of confrontation face to face. He wrote me back (he's traveling this summer.) and the letter was pretty open ended,not no, but not yes. Well he's coming back in a few weeks and im excited, but scared at the same time. The thing is. There's also this guy that everyone thinks likes me. He's sweet and all and im strangely attracted to him, but weirded out at the same time. So does that mean I don't like the guy from my youth group? or am i just moving on because i think it's hopeless? What do I do when he comes back? sorry for the length

What it means is that you are moving on because you think it`s hopeless. When he comes back just hang out with him for a little. But I think you should give the guy that everyone thinks likes you a chance , because it sure seems like you and him would work out way better than that guy from the youth group! Good Luck! Hope I helped ♥

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I waxed my eyebrows and took some skin off instead. What can I put on it so it will stop burning?
I waxed them yesterday and now it's starting to hurt.

How long will it take to heal?

Just put neosporin on it and it will heal in about3-5 days. It depends how bad it is. You can get neosporin at any drug store! Good Luck! ♥

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i just got finished with my period..like a dayago and today my boyfriend came over and he fingered me really hard..it felt good ..but then blood came out andi felt really dizzy..could it be he popped my cherry?..or could it be my period wasnt quiete finished yet..please help because i cried for hours not knowing what to do..i seriously do not want to lose my virgenty im 14/f

Yeah that means your cherry pooped. It will be okay. Good Luck ♥

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well i like this guy Ryan and he likes my friend Emma. me and ryan were like best friends and 2 weeks ago we went out and it didnt even last 48 hours and he said he was upset coz it was soo short. he said "Im so sorry i messed around with u..I love you soo much but i cant get emma out of my head" and im like Ok then. and i forgave him for messing around with me. and we were just normal friendship again and then he just stopped talking to me and i waited for about a week but he still didnt talk to me then i asked why he is ignoring me but he didnt answer so i asked again and he goes "Im NOT ignoring u!!!! were going around in a circle i dont hate u stop asking stupid questions!!!". and 2 days ago my friend asked him if he likes me as a friend and he goes "Yeah i guess but shes just being annoying and immature in a way because she asks me why im ignoring her and stuff but if she wants to talk to me then im not gonna ignore her but she was just being annoying." and i dont know what to do now..at school he takes glances at me but i just look away.. please help me :(

Well obviously he`s the immature one , because your just asking why he`s ignoring you and he has to make a big deal about it. I think he likes you , but he`s just really confused and he`s having mixed feelings about you. You should just ignore him for a little while and then see what happens from there , if he`s still acting the same then just forget him hun =] hope I helped & Good luck! ♥ =]

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ok i don't know how to make me feel beter about myself i mean i think im ugly alot of people say i am pretty but occasionally like people that i get into fights with will be like your ugly that brings me down ok so i always think im ugly and that gets in the way of my personal life because i won't go out with someone because i think they could find someone better even if they really want to go out with me i say no and plus i have really small boobs so i say no because of that reason to what could i do to make me feel better about myself and it's like i am adicted to mirriors i mean i can't go anywhere without looking into to on and if i think i look bad then i won't go anywhere even if i really want to go i won't because of my appearane please help me

Okay first off , you`re probably very beautiful. & If people say you are pretty , you are pretty. & The reason people say you are ugly when you get in fights with them is because they are pissed off at you , and they want to get you mad. & If someone asks you out don`t say no because you have "small boobs" or you think they could do better , if that person asked you out that means they like you and they think you are pretty and they don`t care if you have small boobs , because to that person you are perfect. My mom told me that everyone goes though the stage when they think their the ugliest person ever , but then when you are older and you look at all the pictures of yourself when you were younger you`ll actually see hwo beautiful you were , and still are. Just belive in your self. Don`t think you`re ugly , because there is always someone uglyer out there than you , and so many people have worse problems than that. So if some one asks you out say yes , and don`t care about your boobs or anything , because remembr to that person you are perfect. & every girl always looks in the mirror , it`s just part of being a girl. You`ll be okay , & remember you are beautiful. =] ♥

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14/f. okay so i've been seeing all of these people suggesting people to use proactiv and that it really works. well i've always considered it and my mom said that if all else fails she'll order it for me. but if i use proactiv and it works, then won't i just have to keep ording it for years and years? because if i stop using it won't my acne come back? i've never had REALLY bad acne, but its enough to be annoying and noticable.

is proactiv worth it?
if i stop using it will my acne come back?
and how long do i have to use it until i can safely stop?

Well I`ve heard my friends talk about proactiv , and they said it dosen`t really work that well it depends what kind of skin you have for some people it works for some it dosent , I think you should just try this one cream my friend uses it`s called "wet n wild fresh face skincare acne , she said it works really well. & I`ve heard from alot of other people it works well , so I think you should try it out , & I`ve heard nutergena face wash is good too. So try both of those products. & if they do not work out then get proactiv. Maybe it`s worth a try! You should probably use proactiv for 3 or 2 years after stopping , it depends at what age you are. Usually it won`t come back , but it could. Hope it works out. & Good Luck! ♥ =]

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14/f

I'm considering performing "The Contest" from Sweeney Todd (the musical) at camp. I know I can definitely pull it off vocally, because I have a very low voice, and not trying to sound cocky, but I'm a pretty good actor, so I could do the fake Italian accent accurately. And I could put shaving cream all over my friend.

Do you guys think people would think it would be weird if a girl performed as Pirelli?

No , people wouldn`t think it`s weird , because you`re just acting! ♥ =]

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im 13/f
Well, to make a long story short..
There's this boy I've been crushing on for about a month now. I'm going to spend a week with him at his house for vacation with a whole bunch of people and i just want to know how do i let him know i like him? i really wanna go out with him but the thing is i've never really had a REAL boyfriend. and i haven't hooked up yet & i'm pretty sure he has. and if he asks if i've hu before do i say yes and lie so he'll hook up with me and think i'm experienced? or do i say the truth and say yes and see whatever happens from there? I really need to let him know how i feel but i don't wanna make it obvious, i wanna keep him guessing. he's 15. what are some ways i can play hard to get and flirt with him? PLEASE HELP! xox

Awe! Well first off you should tell him the truth that you`ve never really had a real boyfriend , because why should you lie , & if you haven`t hooked up yet that isn`t a bad thing so just tell him the truth! =] & some flirting things to do could be like - well say really sweet things to him , like if you are talking to him look him in the eyes and then be like oh my god , you have the prettiest eyes! that`s flirting Lol. Or you could just talking to him and then move a little closer to him and then be like , wow your amazing or something like that , & you should tell him you like him a couple days before you leave to go back home , because it`s always easier to tell some one how you feel when you are leaving , because if they don`t like you back you don`t have to deal wiht them that much , but I think he probably likes you! Just flirt with him alot & then if it seems like he likes you , tell him how you feel! Good Luck! I hope everything works out! & have fun! ♥ =]

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