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Ask me questions, and i'll answer them. I'm smart so usually I`ll know the answer. I`ll tell you the truth, like almost every person with an advice column does, so don`t be suprised. I love my friends & family, I just love life, but don`t worry it took me a while to get here. My life isnt perfect & i've had a lot of deaths. I have a good perspective on things, usually if you ask me a question i've already been in that situation. I know life is hard & i know things suck but i also know that life is amazing too.
If I tell you to just buck up and do it, I really mean it & i'm not just saying that becuase i don't know what else to tell you.
Likes: mature people, skim milk, mac & cheese, making cookies, friends, my whole family, cats; especially mine, books, television, music, parties, boys, clothes, flip flops, lacrosse, soccer, running, traveling, those little trays on airplanes, hot chocolate in the morning, waking up when its raining or snowing, going to sleep during a thunderstorm, & taking showers in the afternoon & SUMMMERR 8D
Dislikes: People who hate cats, people who don't like to read, people who don't know anything about what is happening in the world or don't care, grilled cheese, slow computers, traffic, cell phones that break to easily, blind refs, people who think its cool to be stupid on purpose, people who invite themselves to things, people who think they can control everything, people who think they can`t do it, & people who dye their hair becuase you were made with the color hair you look the best in, and people just dont get that.

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15/f, 5'7 (my height may be needed it's a weight question)

i've been eating healthy for a really long time (i used to weigh around 135, and since about march i haven't gone above 130. i'm usually around 124.) for the past week there have been many graduation parties, so i've still been watching what i eat, but i've been having the sweets i want. the thing is, if anything, i've been losing weight. this morning i weighed myself and i weighed 121.5.

my question is, why am i losing weight and not gaining weight? i don't think my muscle is turning into fat, because i'm still as thin as i was, and i don't have any more fat than i did before. i still have toned abs and such. is my metabolism speeding up because i'm eating more sweets than i was before? (i've heard that might be the case?) someone help please?? and please don't say "you're 15, you shouldn't be worrying about your weight." i just like to feel healthy and slim.

It could be serious. I would see a doctor, weight loss is a symtom of many illnesses. You're right, that is weird. talk to your parents about it and then they will see if you should call a doctor or not.

Ok well you know how girls just get out of th shower, then style their hair and then wear their clothes?

Why do they do that? When you put your dress on after you finished, wouldn't your hair be reuined?

When i dress after i do my hair, it gets a staticy and ruined.

How long would this probably have taken to do this hair?

http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/pages/funzone_hairtips.jsp

some girls are stupid.

K... so ill give a run through and ask my advice. So i had a REALLY GOOD FRIEND BFF'S so yea and she was friends with this other girl longer than me and she was a bff too. (My bff is Sarina and her bff is eileen). so eileen was a bad friend to me so i stop being friends with eileen (long story short she was a monster) but i was still friends with sarina and we'd hang out and go to the mall and eileen would constantly set barriers for sarina, when she could hang out with me and where (ex. some periods in skool, some weekends..etc) and eileen was the top priority so one friday i got together with my other friend Peter and Leslie and Peter pranked called Eileen and she heared me in the backround laughing (o yea he prank called in response to me complaining to him and leslie b4 this, about the situation) so eileen told sarina that she CANT be friends with me anymore and ever since ive been soo depressed and upset, ive done some pretty bad things to myself and i dont have anyone like sarina used to be for me) i also pretty much distanced any chance of being friends again cause i spread rumors of what they did to me and demonized them... on top of that i dont wanna betray leslie cause shes been there more than peter (he hasnt been there for me at all)what do i do i wanna be friends with sarina?

What you just told me, about you being sorry for what you did, you accepting that you did bad things to your friend in order to hurt her other friend, was great. You have to tell Sarina exactly what you told me, and brace yourself, you have to also say sorry to Eileen. Sarina will never accept you as a friend again without you accepting Eileen. You won't be betraying Leslie or peter if you don't blame anything on them, and keep them out of your apology. Who knows, if you say sorry, Eileen might follow your example and things will get better for both groups.

So today we had this presentation today and I ended up sitting infront of this boy that I've liked for the longest time now. Randomly out of the middle of nowhere, his friend and him decided it'd be fun to bug me by nudging be in the back with their foot, pretending to step on my fingers etc. They didn't hurt me in anyway but when I'd turn around to tell them to stop this boy I liked had the biggest smirk on his face. It was cute.

Him and I have never really talked but if I am not wrong we have exchanged glances, awkward moments ect..

Would this just sound like a completely random act or an act of affection?

they're interested in you, now you have to make the next move. Take it to another level and ask them to hang out.

My whole life I've been told and thought I'm stupid. Because I'm not school-book smart. I don't get good grades in the "smart subjects" like science, math and so on. I am so sick of believing this. I'm a different type of smart. I know I can make something of myself.

I am especially good at 3 things; public speaking & reaching out to people, languages (I know 4 different languages and intend on learning several more) and I sympathize, more than anything. People always turn to me because of that, I long to help. More than anything.

I've researched at least a hundred different professions in my attempt to find a major that will equip me with the right tools to help save the innocent from the corrupt and ultimatley change the world. I need a profession that will make me come alive. I have a picture of myself speaking infront of thousands of people, touching their hearts, or working at a homless shelter, somehow helping those who have been used, or anything of that kind. But in BIG levels, it wouldn't mean anything to me as a doctor or anything like that. It's not the kind of thing that would make me come alive, it wouldn't matter to me. I don't want to help one person at a time, I want to help thousands.. at once. I want to do something that would end homelessness and stimulate world peace!

I am compassionate and am able to provide stability in people's lives when they are shaken up. I am 16 years old, female, and more than anything.. I want to do something with my life.

No one believes in me, because I am not suited for the typical "good jobs" I will never have the grades to become a Lawyer, Doctor, Journalist or any of the sort.

Help me, what can I become? And how do I get there?

Thank you so much! And please, don't read this and think "what a dreamer, everyone thinks they'll save the world.. this one doesn't even have good enough grades.. she doesn't even know how to spell" Please, I have enough people thinking that way, if you can't help me, fine. But I'm begging you, don't think like that.

I LOVE your spirit. You have totally silenced the voices that keep putting you down and telling you that you can't do it. If there were more people like you in the world, well, it would just be a great place :). Your prediciment is sticky. I have one answer for you. You have the spirit, and you have the drive now you just have to use those to get through the tough times and reach your goal. What i'm saying is, you just have to do well in school. If your not smart, study harder, if your not good at remembering stuff, make yourself better. You can't get where you wanna be the way your doing it. I don't care if your not smart, your only not smart because your telling yourself you arent. I know you can do it, I just do. If you get good grades you could become a journalist, a lawyer, a doctor. If you were a journalist you could go to foreign countries, see whats happening, and inform people. If you were a lawyer you could fight just about anything bad, and pave the way for other lawyers to be non-corrupt also. God, with your self confidence you could change the whole system. You have to be the change you want to see in the world. You have to change yourself, to change others lives. We're all rooting for you, & we know you can do it.

Wrong category.
Sorry!

Some of my friends are going to Six Flags and invited me. I really want to go, but I`m scared of heights + i hate it when rides go upside down like that. I scream for them to stop the right and I almost cry. Haha, it sounds pathetic, but when I was little I was up in some tree really high and this girl was trying to give me a boost, so i fell and broke my jaw. Yeah, anyways, is there some way that I can overcome my fear of this stuff so I can go?

Sometimes rides have these virtual tours that you can actually see what the ride is going to be like on the internet, that way your ready for it and know what is going to happen. I think you should go even if you are still afraid of heights becuase there are other rides that you might not be scared of and you will still have a lot of fun just being with your friends.

My apologies for it being long

Ok, so I met this guy (S) in the beginning of this past school year (06-07). We became really close friends and now we're like best friends. I don't know if he likes me back, but during school, it kind of seemed like he did, or maybe he was just being a good friend (I was feeling really sick on field day and when we went inside the gym to watch the basketball game, he was sitting behind me on the bleachers and I was leaning in between in legs [NOT LIKE THAT] and at one time, he rested his head on top of mine. It REALLY looked like we were going out). But my other best friend, G (girl), used to go out with him and he was really obsessive/clingy/waaay too into the relationship. Sometimes, I think that I really really do like him, but then other times, I don't even think of him like that at all. But, the other day, G was telling me how S kept talking about G's friend in England who's coming in July to visit (J) and he's completely obsessed with J. When I heard that, I wasn't exactly devastated that he probably likes her, but I was kind of disappointed. I'm afraid if I like him, and if we go out and end up like how G was when she went out with S, it would ruin our friendship because now G's always on an "on/off hate S" thing. Do I really like him? I think of him a lot before I sleep; well, not a lot, but I do think about how it would be if we went out and stuff. And I keep wanting him to go with me and G when we go hang out, even though he hasn't yet (because I haven't seen him since field day, which was 3 weeks ago). I don't know...
13 (almost 14)/ f

When you said that you think about him sorta alot when you go to bed, but not really him but how it would be if you went out with him, it sounds like you like the idea of going out with him, but not him. I would stick w/ the friendship thing becuase he sounds like a great friend. If you really feel confident that you like him and he likes you, you could tell him that you like him but say that you just want to be friends with benifits, becuase then you could have freedom and not have him clinging on to you like he did to your friend G. When you like a guy, when you really really like a guy, you can definitly tell and there are no if's and's or but's about it. & you were right, if you did go out with him and it didnt turn out so well, you could end up hating him on/off or him hating you on/off like your friend G. So whatever choice you make, make sure you know all it's possible outcomes and feel 100% that it's the right choice. Hope i helped! :)

Ok. Don't Laugh. Well you will laugh but I was in a rush to go meet at Mickey D's with my boyfriend and a bunch of friends and my eyebroes wern't tweezed and they looked awful so I did thes tupidest thing, I'm not the smartest of people..haha anyway um I um I UMM I shaved my eyebrows?! :(((( :(((( :((( :D :D :D:D
anyway the worst is that only a part of the eyebrow was completely removed and it was only 1 eyebroe...imagine how that looks haha. well I was wondering what I should do? and How long do eyebrows take to grow back? And what should I do when one part is thin hair and the other part thick?? basically just i need to know what i can do to help them get back to normal. Thanks for answering if you do and I'm sure I atleast made you smile once today :)

There are 2 things you could do while you wait for your eyebrows to become normal.
1) somehow you could duplicate what you did on the one eyebrow, and do it on the other, but i don't advise that because it probably will look different and more stupid.
2) you could get a simple eyeliner pencil, shaded the same as the color of your eyebrows and color the thin part in so it looks like a full eyebrow again.

To get your eyebrows back to normal, well.. you can't really do anything about that.. you just have to wait. Hopefully my advice made the wait a little more barable?

my dad got a new scale, ever since i've been goin nuts over it. i weigh myself daily
i'll always weigh myself and if it's higer than i like i'll go running and weigh myself again
it got to the point where i got really sick from dehydration because i knew drinking water would make the scale say i weigh at least a pound more

my mom is freaking out because i keep on getting sick but when im not weighing myself or exercising all i do is think about it, i get fidgety and anxious. at least when i weigh myself it goes off my mind for a while

what should i do? is this just curiousity or something bad?

16/f

What your doing is way beyond curiosity, its obsession. It's a very simple answer, make your dad or mom take away the scale and hide it from you. This takes away the oportunity to even weigh yourself so you'll think about it less and less and less until you get back into your normal life style.

help me out peeps i am near proper exams and i cant revise i pick up a book and it is sooo boring and it doesnt even stay in my head i more or lk forget it the next day. My dad is putting pressure on me aswell and this is making be feel even more annoyed whats the best way to revise pleazz answer. i need some really gd advice!!! :(
thanxs :)

Does revise mean look over a book you've already read again to remember it for the test? well whatever it means my advice to you is to sit at the computer while you revise and if you find something important in the book, you can type it up real quick. Its faster than taking notes by hand and it can be fun to make the notes pretty with colors and stuff, if you like that stuff. Then you print it out and you can study off of that instead of having to look over the book again and again. The act of typing it down helps you remember it, and you could also say it a couple times out loud to make it really stick with you. Hope i helped! & GOOD LUCK!

I'm dog sitting this weekend! and the dog (butterscotch) died! I just came home and he was curled up under the couch. I don't know what to do!!!!!! they're coming back tomorrow, and its only a year old! omggg

call them if you can and tell them what happened, remember everything you did that weekend, did you feed it right, give it water, leave anything around it could choke on? If you know you didnt do anything to harm it, then it must have been a health problem and it's not your fault. Tell them what happened and even if you forgot to feed and water it the whole time the dog probably wouldnt die so he probably had something wrong with him. When they come home tell them everything that happened and let them know it was from a natural cause, they will believe you and not blame it on you at all.

ok i like this guy alot and he likes me alot but he has a bad reputation with girls (doing stuff with them and then it becomes a locker room joke)
anyways well i started hanging out with him mostly during the summer and now i have a whole bunch of feelings for him and he likes me alot to well the problem is that well i can't trust people and i don't know if i could bring myself to go out with him even though i like him alot and well he asked me out and i said no and he got really sad almost to where he was going to cry i guess and now he is ignoring me not because hes mad just because he knows or thinks that he won't ever get a chance with me i think i am the first girl that this guy may actually really like so how can i bring myself to go out with him or should i just wait to see what happends i don't know i need help with this one

You definitly don't sound like a joke to this guy because he was sad after you said no to him. If he did think you were a joke, he would have shrugged it off and went on to another girl. I think you should give this relationship a try. You like him alot, and he likes you alot. You'll never know what it would have been like if you don't try.

what is a good small suv like a pathfinder/jeep grand cherokee/ ford escape something along the lines of that.. that has good gas mileage?

thanks

A hybrid would probably have the best gas mileage. Toyota has a nice selection of
small SUV's that are hybrid. Like i have
a Toyota Hybrid Highlander.

I have a problem with my apperance. Sometimes I am in love with the way I look (actually always, but at the same time I hate my face).
Everyone tells me how gorgeous & beautiful I am, and guys call me "hott" but I don't see it. There are 100 things wrong with my face such as uneven eyebrows, smallish eyes, my nose is kinda small, my chin is too point, my teeth are pretty good but could be better, and my nose... ah my nose is just another story.
But whenever I pass a mirror, I stop and stare at myself for 10 minutes at a time. I'm pretty vain, but at the same time I hate my looks.

I want to know why I am so in love with the way I look when really I hate it?
And how to get over the Vanity. Thanks in advancee.

You like your look as a whole, and obviously other people think your good looking too. Everyone can pick and find things wrong with their body. This may sound stupid, but all you have to do is stay away from mirrors. If you have to check out your outfit and see how it looks, look at yourself from afar. Don't get close up and check yourself out. It's all about self control. The less you look at yourself, the less you think about your looks, and after a while you just won't care as much as you used to. It worked for me, and it will work for you.

I really like this girl. I talk to her a lot and I know she doesnt like me. I kind of tolds her and then said it was my sister. She is a really nice person and I just want her to like me. Can anyone please help me out. I am 13/m and I want someone to like me. Especially this girl. If anyone is a romantic genius please answer.

if you're good looking & she could see you as a possible love interest [ you might need to do some detective work there ] all you have to do is make her laugh. It will set you apart from all the other guys. Make it a really comfortable relationship, talk to her alot, get to know her really well and let her get to know you really well & i'm sure she'll fall for you in no time. Oh and be really nice and understanding, if you're a jerk, then theres very little hope ;)

okay so i had to wash a few things in the washing machine. but by accident, i put fabric softener where the bleach is supposed to be (i dont need bleach) but is this okay? will it damage the clothes that are washing? thanks

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ok, I know I'm a horrible person.. but I need your help. so, I am 15, and I have a boyfriend. I've been his girlfriend for 2 weeks and one day.. since then, we've hung out ONCE, and he call me ONCE, we've never kissed, we don't hold hands, but we do hug. He's never called me pretty, or complemented me in any way like that. I almost feel like I'm just a friend.

Then there is this other boy, who I hang out with almost every weekend, and we've been hanging out at lunch, in the library. He calls me every night right before we go to bed. He calls me beautiful, and cute all the time. He just recently broke up with his girlfriend, and I think he wants me to break up with my boyfriend.

I feel like my actual boyfriend is less of one than the other boy. I don't like my boyfriend as much as before, and I do like the other one, and he likes me back. The problem is, I'm going to feel bad if I dump him. I am his first girlfriend, and it only has been about 2 weeks. I don't know what to do, stay with him or break up?
Please help thanks

Never feel bad about breaking up with someone if your reasons are true. You don't like the guy your going out with as much as the other guy and that's not your fault. It would hurt him more to know that you stayed with him just becuase you felt bad. Follow your heart and do what makes you happy. You boyfriend now will find another girl and be happy also.

There's this guy at school that I like I went out with him once and then he asked me out again I never got to answer him and the next day he had a girlfriend. I'm his friend and everything and we play badminton together, he got dumped by his gf yesterday and he was really sad I want to ask him out but I dont even know if he really likes me. What do I do.

Since he just got over the relationship with his girlfriend, he may not still be over her, so give him some space. Console him and when he gets over it i'm sure he'll like you again, so when hes not sad anymore, make your move becuase this guy does seem very interested in you.

I'm taking a trip to Washington DC in about 3 weeks, and i havent been on a plane in almost ten years. I am a teen and need things to do on the plane, so i am looking for suggestions...but i'm plannning on just bringing my ipod and stuff.

but i have some more questions:

*what are some things that i will not be allowed to take on the plane?

* Is it true that you cannot take curling irons/straighteners on the plane?

*can you take on food or do you have to buy it on the plane?

*do they actually open all your bags and check theM??

*Anything else i should expect?

That website should tell you about the first two questions but as of your other questions,
*The food depends on how long you're plane ride is, if it's below 4 hours then they just give you free drinks and pretzels. If its a long ride then they will give you a meal, not sure if it is free or not, depends on your airline. Either way, airplane food sucks so i recommend buying food anyways, don't buy drinks to bring on the plane becuase your not aloud to bring liquids, they supply you with it anyways.
*Some airlines check your bags, usually international ones, they probably won't check your bags, but you never know. They dont search through every piece of underwear you have so don't worry, they usually just check the sides and all pockets. Your carry-ons are put through a x-ray machine but they don't open them.
*Other things to expect are, when your carry-on's are put through the x-ray machine you have to go through a metal detector and take of your shoes if you have sneakers or closed shoes, if your wearing flip-flops or sandals, you don't have to take them off. Be ready for a long wait before you get on your plane, when your on the plane and waiting for it to go in the air, and when your waiting to get off. Bring an ipod and a book, and some sleeping pills if you wanna go to sleep. Bring gum to chew when your in the air becuase your ears have to pop, and sometimes your ears will hurt. Chewing gum helps that. Wow, this was a long answer. Hope i helped prepare you! =)

me and a girl that i like have been going out couple a coupla dais..and there's alwais lyk this awkwardness between us when we kiss and hug?
and i really like her and want this to work out..is there things we could do to make it feel less..awkward?

Couples always start out like this, it might take a while for her to get used to you. To speed up the process you should get to know her better, and let her get to know you better. Talk alot and it will make things more comfortable.

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