im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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I'm having my first baby (a little boy) in a month and I still haven't picked out a good name for him. I'd like something popular that can go with 2010. I'm not into the old fashioned names very much and I thought maybe somebody here could give me a few trendy suggestions that actually sound nice. Please? (link)
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i like liam and if i had a boy i would name it that or aden
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My boyfriend wants to see my vag and I told him OK and planned to take a few pics of it. I kinda told my bff who was like I shouldn't do that cos somebody can hack his phone && get my nude shots later. How safe do u think it is to take pictures of my vagina && send them to his cell phone? (link)
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not a good idea especially if your young.
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How many high school couples actually end up getting married? My boyfriend and I were talking about getting married in a couple of years when we both graduate and he said we'd probably be one of the few that make it out together. I was curious what the percentage of that actually is for high school couples. Everybody seems so in love and I think it's sad is like nobody ever gets married out of high school. Anybody knows the numbers on that? (link)
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me and my boyfriend have been going out when we just started 9th grade. i love him so much and now that we are seniors i could very much see myself with him for the rest of my life.
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13/m Sometimes my mom touches me down there on my thing. She has for years now and never says anything about it. We were talking in sex ed and I realize this is like sexual abuse and is bad. Who do I contact about this so she stops? Just like local police or what? I don't want to ask in class. It's embarrassing. Is there like sex abuse hotline or 1-800 number I call? (link)
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you should ask her or tell her that when she touches you like she has its not good and its very wrong and if she continues or ever makes you feel uncomfortable again then you will be calling the police or you should just call them any way let them know whats going on but you should deff have a teacher or go to a police officer and let them know and what you should do.
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My boyfriends ex girl friend will sometimes text my boyfriend and tell him that she wishes things would have worked out differently in their relationship & that she misses him. She'll also tell him that he isn't truly happy with me & that he's just using me as a rebound. He won't change his number due to work reasons, and he keeps telling her that she needs to stop texting. This is really upsetting me because I dont want him to listen to her & start thinking that he really isnt happy with me & he'll take her back. He says that he would never do that to me & I believe him. Its just the fact... Should I confront her myself or leave it to him to handle? (link)
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listen if your boyfriend likes you then he wont go back to her. they broke up for a reason i would go up to her and do it nicely saying i dont think you should be texting my boyfreind it bothers us and if you need to text him itll have to be over homeowrk or something but otherwise you have no reason to. if she doesnt stop she probally wont then just ignore her because if you let shit get to you your relationship with your boyfriend will be down the drain before you know it ask him if he can just tell you when she textes you so its not a huge secret. you cant make him do what you want just remember that and stay cool and dont flip out on him always ask him first if you have questions.
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Me = 17/m
Her = 16/f
Dating = 3 yrs
I want to tell my girlfriend the truth about me cheating on her recently. There was this girl I knew all through school and she texted me one day and asked if I wanted to hang out. I feel so guilty because I was attracted to the girl for a long time but never acted on it before. I did meet up with her and lied to my gf about it, telling her I was going to go down the road and look for a job. I met up with the girl and I told her upfront I had a girl already. Things still happened and I KNOW I am to blame for this because I couldn't be a man and control myself right. We didn't have full sex but it was pretty close at one point before I was like "Hey, I can't do this" and all.
How do I come clean with my girl? I don't want to just be like "Hey, I cheated on you" because I really am hoping she'd forgive me and give me another shot at this. What do I say? How do I tell her I cheated? (link)
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i have a boyfriend of 2 years and we are both 17 and i can tell you now that if he cheated on me dont think i would want to ever look him in the face again or for a while condidering the situations we are in. but i could also say that i would be glad in a way that he told me and was honost about it. shel never forget it and youll loose some trust from her and dont get mad if shes constantly asking wher are you who you with you need to really talk this out and tell her why you did is it because you were fighting lately does she not give you enough satisfaction shes going to think these things shes gonna think that shes no longer good enough for you. i would for a little bit shell be angry but she will get over it i think i would take my boyfriend back despite the fact he cheated if he did have sex with her i wouldnt but as i said it would take some time.
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18/female. A few weeks ago, my ex and I hung out. We were with a group of people at first, so it wasn't just us two alone. But at one point, he asked me to go for a walk with him, so we could talk about stuff. I was completly fine with this because we hadn't talk about stuff in a while, and we stayed pretty close friends. So we started talking and I started to get a bit upset, the stuff we were talking about is a little personal and hes the only one I could talk to about it. But anyways, he said he was going to give me a hug cause he didn't want me being sad. So after he hugged me, he kinda just stared into my eyes for a few minutes. And I just started to giggle and said "what!?" and he replied with "I've just really missed you." Then he started to inch closer, and he kissed me.. we ended up making out.. but anyways, the problem is were both dating someone, and I feel really bad.. not only for my boyfriend, but also for his girlfriend. I really want to tell my boyfriend, but it will break his heart, even... (link)
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it sounds like you need to talk to your ex and figure stuff out you both have a girl friend or boy friend and you really like him. even if ur ex doesnt lke you back you need to break up with your current boyfriend becasue it isnt fair that your doing this to him if you like someone else its better if you end it with him. if your going to cheat you should be honost about it and do the right thing by letting him go because its just not fair. seems like your ex likes you back so maybe talking to him about it isnt such a bad idea.
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My boyfriend won't change his Facebook status. Mine says in a relationship with so and so, but his says single. We've been dating exclusively for TWO YEARS now. What do I say to him to make him understand that this hurts me because it stirs up a lot of drama when you click on his name from my profile and on his it's glaring at me: SINGLE. Do you think maybe I should wait longer, or am I right to ask him after two years to update it... (link)
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lets remember that its facebook and it doesnt mean anything its not real life if you are dating then your dating you know that he knows that people you know know that so why is it he has to put it on his facebook. if hes never on it then maybe he just doesnt find it a priority to change it when he firsts gets on. or he doesnt care and doesnt find it a nesessary thing in life to make sure his relationship status says that you guys go out. exactly its been 2 years so this would just begin a stupid fight. i understand it bothers you but you cant make someone do what you want let him do what he wnts this doesnt mean he wants other people to think hes single just have to look at this at another point of view
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So yesterday was me and my boyfriend's one year anniversary. I had a feeling he wasn't really gonna do anything, so I specifically asked him to plan something nice for us to do. But of course, he didn't. I went to his place and he was like sorry, I didn't plan anything. Wanna go see a movie? and I just went along with it..because I knew it would happen. I also put a lot of thought into the gift I got him (which he loved), baked him some peanut butter bars, and wrote him a really sweet letter. He got me a box of chocolate and was like "I was gonna get you Monopoly, but I didn't know if you alrready had it" (we play online together sometimes and its like an inside joke).
Anyway, point is that I was beyond disappointed and sad. I didnt say anything because whenever I say things about him like doing something wrong, he shuts down and says "I'm sorry I'm a terrible boyfriend" but like, not in an actual apologetic way. So how can I express that I'm sad without him shutting down like that? i just want him to try sometimes. How do I get him to try? I mean I asked him to plan something, I don't know how to be more blunt. Shouldn't he just want to/know to plan something for our one year anniversary? It's not the first time he's done something like this. He didn't get me anything for christmas last year (and i got him cute stuff) and i was sad. He never plans/does anything romantic. Please help! (link)
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well just like these conversations have to be brought up carefully like when your cuddling be like baby you are the best boyfriend ever and i love when we go on dates but it would be so cute to have you surprise me one day with a romatic date and have gifts for me. especially on special occasions. i know you care about me but sometimes you dont put a lot of thought into things and all that would make me happy is if you just showed you really tried to impress me and im not saying you have to do this all the time becuase just being with you makes me happy.
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple months now. and all of a sudden hes asked for a naked pic ( i wont and havent given him one) i told him i deserved more respect than that, and he didnt seem to care that he hurt my feelings.
so school starts tommorrow and i will see him again. io want to break up with him and have waited till now to do it face to face.
how do i break up with him.
he wont care when i do, i doubt he even had feelings for me.
so suggestions?
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wow you have total respect for yourself and know that this relationship should end becuase you deserve to be treated better than that. most girls would have given him the picture. if i were you i would ask to talk to him a lone look concerned and tell him when you asked me to give you a picture of me naked it hurt my feelings and it seemed that you didnt care or even cared about me in the first place so im going to end things before any one gets hurt any further.
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I am gonna have tto take a pee test sometimme this week or monthh and i knnow im not gonna pass itt .i am skinny i weigh about 120 lbs and i am an extreme smokerr if yu need any of that info .and i kknow there will be sum ppl out the sayin drugs are bad blah blah blahh i get it .thanxx:) (link)
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you can buy something called detox its about 70 or 80 bucks. or you can buy fake pee its a powder it comes with like a heating pack so it makes it warm.
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13f in 8th grde
and hes an im guessing 11 or 12 in 6th grde but when i first saw him i thought he was 13.
ok so theres this guy (Chris) and i met him at the mall with my friends and i think hes kinda cute. so we were chatting on facebook and he asked if i wanted to video chat with him and i said i wasnt on the right laptop to chat. and he didnt believe me so i sent him a pic from my phone and i guess part of my leg was in the pic and he said "hah u can alwost see your pussy" lol and i laffed and when we got off of facebook i forgot to delete the convo and close out the chat. so my mom went on during work and saw it and now she doesnt want me talking to him and i really like him and i think he likes me but if he ever breaks up with his girlfrend and asks me out id have to say no. can someone help me with my parents an dstuff. (link)
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youll be going through that a lot trust me your parents are going to be very strict with you especially if you dont give them a reason to trust you that was the start of it they dont trust you now with seeing this guy or going on the computer which can feel like what the heck i didnt do anything bad the guy said it not me i didnt ask him to. guys no matter what age starting at 11 or 12 are perverts and it wont end any time soon. you should probally forget about that tween boy and go for guys more your age but dont go to high like 15 that will make your parents freak. trust me theres million of other guys that your going to like and if he has a girlfriend then when he goes out with you what if he starts talking to other girls you dont want that tell your mom that your sorry for that rude conversation with that boy it wont happen again you dont find that sort of behavior okay and next time if there is a next time youll say something along the lines of that was inapropriate and wouldnt like to go to much into detail with that sort of conversating.
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Ok here's my situation iv been in my relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years .we've been living together for just as long .but the past 2 years everything seems to be going down hill and I'm almost at the bottom if not there all ready .you see we haven't had sex in over a year and I do a lot for her but to me she doesn't see it .I bust my ass on 2 jobs provideing for her and I get the cold sholder .I ask her why we don't have sex and she explains it hurts way too bad .but she won't get checked out she says it cost too much money and we don't have insurance .I fell I give and give and she takes .but what's in it for me .NOTHING ! Its like what I do I don't get any apreciation for anything .she works one job and goes to school but she doesn't have tim for my needs .sometimes I just want to pack my things and leave but on the other hand I want too stay .what should I do (link)
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if you love her and she loves you then you can find a way to work things out dont stay if its becuase you guys have so much history. its really tough i can imgagine. if theres a problem with money and insurance did you know the local planed parenthood is right around the corner and she can get checked out there could be something wrong with her and it needs to be checked right away! its not right that she is neglecting you and i dont know if you have tried talking to her about feeling distant and how you feel like that you work hard so that she stays happy and that she sees it and maybe do something for you and explain that if things arnt the way they used to be then theres no way you guys can work out. you shouldnt be unhappy with someone who isnt trying to work things out. and also remember that you dont want to discourage her that she only has one job because of school you want her to do what she wants too.
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ok im 13 my mom made an appointment for me to get a pelvic exam and what happens im scared plz help me im like shit scared ahhhh!!! my vagina doesnt have anything wrong so i dont know y she made an appointment and its a boy that is giving me the exam!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!
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usually women should be getting an exam like this when they are sexually active if you are thats might be why your getting one, or its recomended that girls your age should get one anyway. dont worry youll be fine just relax it is really uncomfortable but just pretend nothing is wrong and youll get through it its only a second long youll be fine promice and they are doctors for a reason boy or a girl they are professionals and wont do anything to you.!
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Kinda 2 questions in this any help would be great..I have 3 kids with an exhusband in which i was married to for 10 yrs. and inherrited 3 more kids when I got remarried. My kids go back and forth from my house to their dad's. Their dad also remarried. So I have an issue where I have to be notified on EVERYTHING when it comes to my childrens school. Even if it is not my day to have them I still expect their dad to call me and let me know what is going on with school such as were there notes in folders and if so what they say, did my 5 yr old have a good day or was he in trouble, If they have homework did they do it and did you help. It was my choice to leave ex and I realize I chose to not see my kids 24/7 when I left but am I a total biatch for asking him to do this for me. My kids are 9,7,5. am I being over protected of them? Second I feel like I am distant from my 3 step kids when my kids are not around. I feel guilty that they see me more and gets to do alot more with me then my own bio kids. My stepkids mother is no longer apart of their lives (mothers choice.) So I am their only mother. I have no clue why I feel this way I really wish I didnt I love them all very much, I hate feeling guilty that my hubbys kids get hugs and kisses from me every night and my own children only get them half the week. confused, sad,and hurt any help would be nice. Thanks (link)
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been there i was the kid. i didnt live with my mom and she hated that she couldnt tuck us in at night i dont think its wrong that you asked of course you have the right to know these things but maybe try calling them every day instead of having your ex do it because thats what i wish my mom did when i didnt see her. as for the stepmom thing its always like the stepmom is a bitch and the kids hate her which is the case most times but feeling guilty is normal you love your kids they are yours dont distant from your step kids or make them think that you have to treat your kids and his kids differently because they will hate you for that. perhaps you should see a someone and talk to them about it because this is a hard process in your life right now and you need to be reassured that your doing the right thing and what you should do and how your feeling is either ok or not.
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The thing is, my boyfriend stepdad and mom asked my dad already if i can go with them, but my dad flat out said no, then he turned to me and told me i could start crying because he wasn't gonna let me go. So many things bother me about that, the fact that he answered so rudely and put me on the spot when i wasnt saying anything. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and my family knows his family. so i thought that it might of worked but it didn't. and the problem with talking to my dad is that we dont speak to eachother. Im 18 and i've never talked to him ever, there was one time but he was drunk. do you kind of see where im coming from? My sister says that i should just go. And im thinking about just going because im talking about the person that means the most to me. (link)
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well im 17 almost 18 and im not allowed to spend the night at my boyfriends house and weve been going out for almost 3 years. that was rude of your dad to say that but he should give you a good reason why you cant go where ever your going maybe his parents should talk to your dad if your talking about going on a trip because i dont see the big deal if his parents are going if his parents assure your dad that you guys will not be sleeping even in the same room then maybe he should ease up a bit but doesnt mean you dont have to because how would he know if you did or not. and if hes still a butt hole because all dads can be then just go your 18 and what can he do to you nothing really your 18 and he didnt give you a good reason say if you dont give me a good reason why i cant then im just going any way. the worse thing would that he would ground you but from what really you do what you want i think so no big deal.
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17/f
boyfriend left me for another girl, one month before our one year. i can't eat, i can't sleep. i know in time i'll be better but i sincerly do love him with every ounce in my heart. so my head tells me to fucking never talk to his ass again, but my heart screams his name every time it beats in my chest. I know i'm only 17, before him i had another boyfriend for 3 years. Yes i'm young, but i know that i want a loving boyfriend, because my moms marriage is horrible hes abussive and not the man she married. How do i move on? How do i possibly breathe and not think about him.. (link)
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this is always hard time is what heals the heart you know hes not worth your time now but you really want what you thought or did have. so im letting you know if you cry now and then for a couple months its okay and hanging out with friends and having fun and talking to cute guys is always a big help in forgetting that guy he wasnt mean to be if he finds out that he missed out on a great thing reject him because the way you feel now you wnt him to feel too.
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So my boyfriend joined the army and his graduation is coming up, i know it'll mean a lot to him if i go he sent me money. My dad however is old school and he said no. But this guy means the world to me and i want to be there for him and i dont know how should i do it, Im gonna go, but i dont know what to tell my parents. and i dont want to go and come back four days letter wthout telling them anything because i dontwant them to punish me by not letting me see him the 10 days he'll be here (link)
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well if your of age which is 18 you can do what ever you want ask them again tell them your getting your own hotel and there will not be a sleepover he wont even step foot in the room your in. you really want to see him graduate and you have the money and if they still say no then tell them your going to go with a friend or go to a friend that lives away
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My boyfriend is a great guy. He's cute, pre-med, and my best friend in the whole world. We're 23 and talking marriage. We've been together 5 years, since college, and we are the only ones who know each other as the 18 year old kids we were when we met, and the adults we've turned into. We're each other's "first" for everything and I do love him and he loves me. He's my first and only boyfriend. BUT-- I don't feel passionately in love with him and little things about him frustrate me. I wonder if we have all the signs to end up like a typical married couple who don't talk or have sex because we don't have intense passion now, when we're 23. We have great sex and we have fun when we're together but I get annoyed by little things and we squabble like brother and sister sometimes. Am I just being naive because I don't have the rocky past to compare him to? Should I hold out for all-consuming passion and romance? (link)
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youve been together for a long time of course its like living with a brother or sister or feels that way at some points i know what you mean. when your around someone for a while everyday all day your going to get annoyed with somethings. if you have a brother or sister your around them all the time and living and being with someone all the time gets a bit much sometimes. as the other person said if you just love him then maybe hold off on marriage. your getting to the point where maybe theres someone better and trust me when you loose someone youll know if you want them back or not so maybe take a break just to see how you feel about him.
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Well my period is not for another 21 days. And i wash my vagina. The brown spot i like a lightish spot. It looks like a little bruise. Any other ideas? ): (link)
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well it could be coming early or ur just having symptoms its happend to me i would get head aches looked like my nipples changed colors but its always in my head but if your worried then wait till your period is due and if it doesnt come for another week then take a pregnancy test. dont stress out because that will stop your period just relax take a deep breath go online and google pregnacy symptoms youll relax more and find out more
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