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So, I'm a sixteen year old girl, and I live in Ontario, Canada. I LOVE giving out advice. All my friends come to me for advice because:-I tell them the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
-I don't sugarcoat things. If your relationship is doomed, I'll tell you. I won't say "just talk to him" or stuff like that.
-I don't judge. Well, I do judge a little bit, but who doesn't. But, you can tell me you just had sex with 309573458346934584357 different people, and I'll still love you none the less.
-I'm just a normal person, and I probably go through the same everyday crap that the rest of you go through.
So yeah, feel free to drop me a line. As far as I know, I've never screwed someone over with my advice!
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What if someone said something offensive about you and you had a disablity, and ur friends and family didnt do much to defend you? I have the right to be mad right? I have the right to be mad at my family for not defending me right? what should i do?
Of course you have every right to mad! Nobody should offend anyone, and I know, that's kinda an 'idealist' type thing, but I think you should, with words, show whoever said something offensive, who's boss around here. Just tell them that they had no right whatsoever to say what they did.
If it gets bad, get a higher autority than the cops involved, like, a policeman or a principal.
Goodluck!
Many religions believe that the world is going to end soon, and we are living our last days because of all the crime, hate, and everyone being open about their sexuality, what are your opinions on this?
Crime, hate and different sexualities have been around FOREVER, and we're still here.
My mom and I never get along or even talk. She's just not someone I can go up to and tell things to. Well im 17 and this summer im pretty sure im going to lose my virginity when im on vacation to visit my friends. Im ready, i love him and hes the right guy, i know more than most people know, im aware of the consequences and precautions i need to take. I just dont trust condoms alone, so id like to get on the pill before becoming sexually active. I would like to tell my mom so we can set up an appointment with the gyno, but im scared that i could ever have the courage to ask her or even talk to her about sex. She's told me tons of times "If you ever have sex, use protection. And tell me." My parents trust me already, but a part of me feels like..if i told them im going to start having sex..that they may take my freedom away from me and wont let me go on vacation. I was thinking about just going to Planned Parenthood behind their backs and getting it, but because of several reasons, theres no way i can actually get away with it and do it. (Long story, but its seriously impossible at this moment.) I was also thinking about just asking to go to the gyno because of period problems. (Ive actually had problems for the past year or two that my mom knows about) But she still refuses to give me medical attention no matter what the situation is. My parents know im cautious and responsible, unlike my sister. (She lost her virginity at 13 and they could care less.) So my question is - if you were in my position and never really talked to your mom..would you talk to her about becoming sexually active and getting on the pill? I guess the only thing holding me back is not knowing how she will react. Or should i just be careful and use a condom only...and when i come back from vacation..tell her im sexually active and need to be on the pill?
You said your mom refuses to give you medical attention about your periods, but if it's affecting you and your life, you should be able to go to the gyno to get that checked out. Of course, while you're there, try to get yourself on the pill.
If you're seventeen, I imagine you have friends who drive and stuff, so I'd imagine you could get one of them to give you a ride to the planned parenthood centre if going to the gyno doesn't work out.
It sounds like you're responsible and mature, and I wish you luck.
Well you know when you want to search for a question by category? Well, one of the options is "By adults" and another one is "By Teens". How do they know which one is asked by which, most don't have their age on it.
You can only post a question if you're a registered user, and when you register, you have to give them your age. So, they know your age from your user settings.
Does age really matter when your falling in love? I'm fourteen and I would like to think anything is possible. I've been dating this guy for a short period of time but it has felt different than anything other than before. On this chain letter thing, and I know this sounds so stupid, but I made a wish to fall in love with him. My friends hate the fact that this guy and I are together, but for the first time I couldn't care less what my friends think. What do you think, is it possible?
I know a couple that started going out in May, 2003 (grade 8) and they're still together, in grade 10.
I don't know about being in love, you know, the unselfish, pure, giving type of law, but at that age you can definatly love someone, just like you love your friends, family and pets. But I'm not too sure about being in love. I think you need a lot of experience to really know what being 'in love' is.
But hey, that's just my personal opinion.
heres my problem. whenever i start to like a guy, i get really excited about it and tell ALL of my friends. then it usually turns out that the guy doesnt like me and ive been humiliated in fron of my friends. how can i keep my love life to myself?
I know what you mean, let your friends know that you're interested, but not by blabbling all over the place. Just ask him what they think of the guy, and they should get the point. That way, if it doesn't work out, they probably won't think that you really really liked him, you were just a little interested.
Make sure that he's not the only thing you talk about either, because that just gets annoying.
i like this guy hes a great guy but hes a big flirt. well i want to no wat kind of things i should go to flirt bac with him. i mean like this girl was talking about this game called nervouse where u touch his leg and move up until they say nervous and it worked and i was wondering what other kind of things can i do to flirt with him and like name kind of things like that girl did because it really helped
Forget about that whole 'nervous' thing, to me, that's just being a tad forward.
Just flash those pearly whites of yours whenever he smiles, and look at him, and if he glances over at you, look away, and then look right back. That normally gets a guy to realize you're into him.
Unless of course, he's just stupid.
okay, so there is this guy that won't leave me alone. i mean i wanna be friends with him, but he wants to be my girlfriend. I am really starting to hate him. i was talking to him in aim and he kept saying things like "i love you," or "okay, see ya girlfriend". i kept telling him to stop, but he WON'T! arrggggggggggggggg!
please help me b4 i kill him!
Just tell him that you're not interested in him as a boyfriend, and he should get the point. If he doesn't, avoid him for a bit and he should get the message.
If by this point he doesn't get it, let someone else know. By someone else I mean someone older, a parental figure or whatnot.
Good luck.
O.k i'm 14/fm and live in Texas. I want a b.f. so badly, but none of the boys at my school like me cause i have braces, and i'm 5ft 2inch. I've had boyfriends, but they were'nt very much true b.f.'s. I'm always told by a friend or something that i'll never have a true b.f. that actually likes me, cause they eather say i'm not pretty enough or i'm not smart enough. My dad says i'm pretty, and i get all a's in my classes. How come guy's still don't like me. Maybe a guy could answer this question for me. Thanx lots.
Love- Lacey P.S. i give people who answer nicely 5's.True answers to please.
At your age, having a boyfriend shouldn't matter so much, I'm imagining you're in middle school. Guys at your age are very superficial, and you shouldn't pay attention to them, wait until high school, it gets better. A much wider variety. They're still shallow, but you have more hope.
As for the whole braces thing, I read in Seventeen magazine that most guys would go out with a girl with braces, it's just some urban legend type of thing that they won't, so that's probably not the problem. Guys are too interested in scoring with chicks that are 'perfect'. Whatever that means.
Anyways, keep up the good work with school, and everything will work out!
-Siobhan.
I was just wondering, I'm only a freshman, and I'm only 14 but I already have an idea of 3 colleges I want to go to, UNC chapel hill, Appalachian State, or Meredith. I was wondering, I know I have to get super good grades to get scholarships and stuff, but how do I go about getting them, and what scholarships are available, or where I can get information on how to get a scholarship. I want to start working towards getting better grades now so I can prepare for my future. If it makes any difference I want to be a teacher.
If this is confusing then sorry, I pretty much just want information on scholarships grade wise, I live in NC, but I don't think that matters. Thanks in advance.
I think it's wonderful that you're starting to think about this at such a young age.
Make an appointment to see your guidance counsellor, she should know all about what you're asking. Ask her what classes you should take so you don't close any doors, and what requirements you'll need to meet in the next four years to get that scholarship.
Good luck with your future!
okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help.
It seems to me that your friends mother never lost a best friend.
Her mother needs to realize that if she doesn't go, it might cause many more emotional problems down the road, and it will be even harder to deal with more deaths as she gets older.
Try to get a school counsellor to write a note to her mother, advising that your friend goes to this funeral. If your friends only around the age of 12, missing one day of school isn't that bad. At that age, school isn't nearly as important as something as a funeral.
I'm sorry for her loss.
My boyfriend and I have been together for two and half years, and we are both eighteen. We are both very different from one another. I'm asian, I grew up with strict parents, I don't party much, or go out much. I like to do things around the house to keep me busy, like reading and writing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not boring and I know how to have fun, and I'm allowed to do anything that I want. Whenever I do go out, I'm pretty much the life of the party. Him, on the other hand, he is black, his parents were never really strict on him growing up.. he parties a lot and likes to go out all the time. He gets mad, or annoyed at me because I'm not the type to party and go all out. I get mad and annoyed at him when he parties too much. We both love each other, but it seems like that is what we mostly argue about nowadays. I'm not going to change my ways to satisfy him, and he isn't going to either. We talk about it, but even still, nothings going to change. How can I go about if an argument starts again? It just annoys me when he says to me that I don't know how to have fun, or that I'm boring. We both just have different definitions on the word fun. Any advice will be nice. Thanks.
I don't think you should worry so much about changing yourself, you two seem to make for a perfect match, you balance each other out. He can show you how to be more party hardy, and you can show him how to be more chilled.
Besides, who would want to go out with someone who's so similiar to themselves? Why not just go out with yourself then. I think you guys will be fine.
And, when he gets on your back about not partying enough, you should get on his ass about partying too much.
Good luck!
ok well i have a boyfriend and i like him a lot we talk on line and sometimes on the phone (i always call him he never calls me) and at school we don't talk at all. i am his first girl friend he has ever had but i can't stand not talking to him. i want to talk to him at school but i'm shy and hes shy not good not good at all. i was just wondering what i should do? i rate high
Reality check, he probably isn't that interested. If he doesn't make the effort to call you, or even talk to you at school, it doesn't seem like he's really into you. You're probably real nice and everything, but you might not be what he really wants.
Or, maybe since you're his first girlfriend, he just doesn't know what to do. This means you gotta be more assertive, and wear the pants in this relationship.
Good luck.
I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked only maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker?
Believe me, you're not pathetic, I'm sixteen and still haven't had a boyfriend, and that's okay, because if I did have a boyfriend in the past, he probably would have been a complete prick.
He probably looks at you in the halls because he knows you like him, and he's probably thinking "dayum, why won't she talk to me and ask me out?" I think you should just straight out do it, get to know him a bit, and then ask him out.
Unless of course he's really quiet and shy. Just start saying hi and smiling, and then talk to him online and whatnot. Shy guys are harder to get things started with, but they seem like they'd be worth it.
Good luck!
Sporkster here, and I've got a question for you lovely people here on Advicenators:
I've got this "friend" of mine who's been rather...hard to get along with lately. You know who you are, "friend." Anyway, in Study Hall one day she just errupted like Mt. Vesuvius. I mean, over something so petty she just blew it. My boyfriend had moved to another table to take a quiz and she came over to sit with me. There's this stupid rule my SH teacher came up with stating that only two people can sit at one table until ten minutes prior to the bell rings. My boyfriend finished and came back over, and right before I was going to tell him to wait a minute so I could finish talking to her she just..."*slams book together, packs up bookbag, moves* Fine, I see who's more important, I'll just move! *mutters incoherently*" I just was...shocked. She didn't even give me a chance to tell him that I needed to finish talking to her. Anyway, she's been really sore over this for the past week or two. I mean, she doesn't sit with my boyfriend, me, and our friend anymore. She never talks directly to me, however, she has this obsession with talking ABOUT me. She's lied about my boyfriend and me, giving people the impression that I'm some sort of slut. This is really starting to annoy me. Not the fact that she's talking about me, but that she's lying about me. I really do wish she wouldn't be so sensitive and...paranoid. Our friendship has been an ongoing battle ever since my boyfriend and I have been going out. I don't really want our best-friend friendship back, I just want to come to terms with her and "agree to disagree", if you will. But she won't even compromise with that! I've tried everything you could possibly think of and then some, but she doesn't want to listen to a word I say to her. Can anyone offer some sort of ideas for getting her to just listen to me for five minutes to sort things out? Any input would be appreciated, though I am looking for good, well thought-out, helpful answers. Thank you in advance for every good answer.
I think you just gotta straight up tell her. Even if it means making a scene and yelling at whatnot, just don't do it in a public place because she'll feel really embarrassed and probably won't listen to you since she'll be focused on how embarrassed she is.
One day, just start being really friendly to her, 'clingy' i guess would work, so that she would agree to hang out or something after school. So, say you're at your house, watching tv or whatever, then turn it off. And just tell her. Make sure she gets the point. Let her know that you're not going to take anymore of her blowing up, because clearly she's looking for attention from you since you're paying more attention to her boyfriend.
Good luck, and let me know what happens!
Ok, Im in love with this girl Renee. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I went away with her for a weekend and I was really happy... she was really happy.. We kissed and stuff. We fell asleep in each others arms. The next day when we were heading home she was kind of distant. I noticed it and asked her if she was having second thoughts. she said she didnt like me as much as I like her and that the feelings the felt that night had gone away.. I still love her, deeply, I think about her all the time, and we still talk, but I dont want to love her but I cant help it and its killing me, I'm afraid if I stop loving her, I'll stop liking her all together, and I really dont want that to happen.. Im not entirely convinced that her feelings for me are gone, I think she is just hiding them, not wanting to be hurt... but I'd never hurt her!
What can I do? Should I just keep trying to get over her? Should I persist? Could my theorys be true that she is just hiding her true feelings? HELP!!
17/m
I think you should pull a 'hopeless romantic' on her. Show her that you're not going to give up that easily. Buy her flowers next time you see her, write her a song/poem, just do something that shows how much you really care for her. She'll realize that it would be stupid to let go so easily.
Good luck, and keep in touch. I want to know how this thing turns out! =D
i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?)
You should get your cousin to drop hints, but not be to obvious. Like, have you cousin leave her dads cellphone on, so you can see the messages, in a room that her aunt would walk into. If she figured it out by herself, you won't be to blame.
But, however, make sure you're aboslutely positive first. You don't want your aunt and uncles relationsip to be traumatized because you made a mistake.
Ok I have a boyfriend, and I just wanted to make sure that it was normal to think that he is a better person than you. He is smart, funny, nice, and overall an AMAZING guy. I just feel like he could do so much better than me! I know it's a silly question, but I just wanted to know if others felt the same? I just feel so incredibly lucky that he likes me and is going out with me. Words can't express how I feel.
If he's so great, he obviously see's something in you. I'm sure he has a choice in girls, but he chose you, so there's gotta be something good about you.
Well , i was eating lunch with my 'friends' and they were completely ignoring me, so then they were talking about going to a sooftball game at school and didnt even see if i wanted to go.. so then i just left and they said i ditched them, but they werent even acknowlaging that i was there. so then the next day at lunch i went to find them, but i couldnt, so i ended up eating by myself, but they were like oh you probably are just making excuses. so then after school they were walking together, and they looked at me, laughed and then went into the bathroom. this was the day that they were going to the softball game. so yesterday i was talking to lets call her "E" and i told her that i was upset that they were leaving me out on their plans, and she was like ' oh my god, your making this such a bigger deal than it really matters' and then 'oh my god, you know i have to go .' so they all are saying that im making a biggger deal out of this, but when i was making plans, i included them all in it, and then they didnt want to go if one of them werent going so we ended up not even doing it. but this time they didnt even bother to ask me if i wanted to go. sorry this was so long, but i need advice on what i should do. thanks!
I know what that's like.
The only thing you can do is set them straight. Yes, make a scene. Yell at them. Let them know who's boss, and you're not going to let them walk all over you. You're a person too, and you're not going to take their bull.
ok im planning a sweet 16 at a hotel..i was wondering how i can control the people who come in? i dont want people who arent invited or random teenagers who are hotel guests popping in. Any suggestions? 5's for anyone who isnt obnoxious
Keep it on a friends only basis. Make sure your friends know they aren't to invite others. That way you keep control of who comes in.
Also, make sure you don't provide booze, even though it's fun, it'll lead to a whole load of people trashing the place, and you don't want to be charged for that!