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Wow ur such an amazing person your strong and your not insecure and how do you do it? I thought i was secure with myself til i read your column and your so strong and how can i be like you and not second guess myself? Wow your so awesome i cant even get over this. How did you get so...confidant?

well thanks, im really flattered. Im not so sure HOW i do it, but i know that i have had my down times. But for one thing i have good friends and family that are really supportive, which is always a good thing, becasue then you feel good. And also not to bragg, but im really fit, and by doing that, i gained so much confident in myself, its like im not concieded[anymore] but im sure of myself becasue i kno i can look good, and if you need to stay fit, join and intense track team, itll make you really fit and people will admire you, which will boost you confidents. I know i second guess myself all the time, but sometimes i just go for it, and even if its bad i feel good that i tried and did my best.

but truthfully i dont know how im so confident. people tell me this all the time actually and ask me for advice[the reason i started the column] and i guess i was born with it, but the things above, well if i didnt have them or do them, i would be a nobody, ugly loser, who sits at home eating[[tho i do do that]].

confidents also comes when your in an inviornment you feel comfortable in, and that you love. i changed schools, and everyone has noticed a change becasue im just happy, which makes me feel good about myself. im also kind of a perfectionist, when it comes to some things, so im not all that perfect, but my confidents comes from happiness, which comes from what i said.

hope i helped
Lauren!

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i like rap and r&b
can anyone tell me some good songs they can be old or new GIVE ME ALOT PLEASE!!

walk it out
runaway love
dont matter
give it to me
ice box
break it off
anything by aretha franklin

hope that helped[[sry i dnt know much]]

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Yeah so the 8th grade dance is next month

and i really need a cute place to get a dress and shoes and everything

everyone talks about jessica McClintok
or however you spell it but i dont like those

p.s. i live in chicago

thanks

i rate

wellim not sure if there is a forever 21 out in chicago, but i know on the east coast there is something like that, i think delia's. well im not sure. i live in west coast

forever 21[delias???]]
aldo[for shoes]
H&M[[for dresses]]
LF[you probably dnt have one but its cute stuff]]
Nordstrom[[cute everything]]
Bloomingdales

hope that helped..and sorry if you dnt have some of those things, i livefar from chicago[[i went there for a layover ONCE!]]
Lauren

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Does anyone know of any tips on relieving a mild-severe sunburn? How long will it take for it to go away? And once the burn is gone, how long will it take for the tan line to fade? Any tips on speeding up the process? Thanks in advance!

well there are no ways to make a sunburn go away quickly, adn depending on the burn size it could take a week to two weeks, and wen you get ur tan line, it will peel for maybe a week or less, again depending on the size. if you want to soothe it use aloe vera gel, it makes it feel SUPER GOOD, or if you have no axcess to that, aloe plants, have the gel right in them, perfectly natural! why you would have that? i have no clue. you really have to be patient, and if you hate it, try covering it up,

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I'm 15/f (well 15 this summer) and I've never had a boyfriend. Never had a first kiss or anything. I'm pretty (or so i've been told) I'm easy to get a long with and as long as you respect me then I'll respect you. But whats wrong with me? I've never been asked out or looked at in an affectionate way before. I know im only 15 and I shouldn't worry but all these chicks in my school are freaking ugly and have no self respect and they have boyfriends. So why can't I?

Please don't tell me "your time will come" I've heard that a million and one times.

One of my friends is so annoying and ugly, and she's just a pain in the ass and she's dating this guy in grade 12.

wtf. :(

well when guys get older, they tend to go for the bigger ass and bigger boobs kinda girls. and ive had this feeling. It sux for me too. ive been told im pretty but ive never been in a tru e relationship. a lot of times girls will be slutty or do something to attract guys, you just need to very assertive and go and flirt with guys, theyll get attracted to that. and trust me, im not saying your time will cum, but if you pretty, guys are missing out, and when there is a guy it might be in a while it might not be, but like if you really dnt like it ask a guy out, they thinkits fine. ive dun it! just be assertive flirty and not slutty but not too prude!

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my boyfriend has kissed so many girls (and boys) that its just ridiculous. i have never been kissed. the thought of kissing him makes me really nervous. i'm not asking for kissing advice. but when we do have our first kiss, how bad am i going to be? lol. i mean is he going to be really turned off by me being inexperienced? share your stories, plz, i am nervous. :(

ok well everyone has this feeling EVEN ME...i had it. but the thing is when it happens, it just happens and u dnt know it! really. most guys thinks its cute, and he wont get mad, hell think its cute, and cool , and he might like it....du u get that? well i hoipe i helped

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in your opinion, should sex wait until marriage or before? (if before, then what age is appropriate) just wondering, thank youu

i never want to fornecate...its weird, so i think, and i have reasons, that its better to wait until mariage. Its much easier becasue you KNOW your with them, your not second guessing youself, or afriad to say anymore, you feel comfy with what your doing. But if you truly feel you have to have sex before maariage. so be it just be aware that emotional, and some physical things may happen thatnyou didnt want o happen...im a cotholic just to let you know. because that might affect what i say

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Okay, i have a good singing voice, but lately, i just don't think it sounds good, but i was just wondering if anybody would have any tips on how to get, or keep a good singing voice, I love to sing and i want to be able to sing good for not just anyone, but to show myself i can sing. So if anyone has any good tips that would be great thank you.

well I love singing and for a while, i thought my voice just died! what you can do is just practice your singing on simple notes or tunes, or songs. Warming up your voice is always good....pianos also help with your tune. i used to love to show off my talent, but not as much an more, so just sing to yourself and keep trying to work your voice.

truthfully your voice is probably the same, its just that when you sing you might go through phases that you tink you sound bad. Once you have done SIMPLE, not harsh practices with yourself, show someone, and they'kk give you feed back

and if you just CANT stand your voice anymore, take lessons, they help, even if you go for a ittle while. worked for ME!

Ps: you can also go see a show that involves singing, it might motivate you and make you want to sound reall good, so you'll try.

hope i helped!

Lauren

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im moving in a few months and i wanted to get ready to decide how i want to decorate. I looked at Pbteen and a few other sites but i didnt really see anything that caught my eye. I was wondering if anyone decorated there room and it came out really great. I want everything to be a certain color so everything will match. I also tried wake up frankie. Help would be great thanks

well i decorated my room a WHILE ago. but i DO do renovations, and im planning my new room, AND my frend is moving too!....

my room is a few differnt shades of blue
i have a quilt form urban outfitters, that has different patches of greens and blues and browsn, and its great. and, as cheesy as some of there things are, Ikea has some non expesive furniture, but PBteen is best for furniture, but you loked there

a nice room color, would be a nice pale yelow, with a nice lime/darker limeish[[???]] green trim. adn also white. urban outfitters has GREAT stuff! but its a little expensive, but great quality and TOTALLY worth it. really try to look for furniture at PBteen, but as for decorations stores like Urban aare GREAT!!

hope i helped

PS: a pale yellow also looks great with a pale pink, or other pastels!

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I just got really angrey and my body took over me and i cut my arm all up with my nails.
Now i feel soo terrible. idk what to do

well my frend has done this, and let me tell you, i was scared for her. but your problem is different. get some bed rest, it will really destress you and get that anger out. If this happens again, then maybe you should get one of those mushi ball things, it really does help. and maybe try cutting your nails, so just in case!

and beware, if you really cut yourself, you arm is going to be SORE! if you really dont want anyone to see, then wear long sleeve, or just hide your arms, while still acting natural. BUt your best bet is to tell you paretns what happened, tell them the whole HONEST story, and they'll understand.

hope i helped
Lauren

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Ok I'm gonna burst now. I haven't had enough sleep at all for the past few months. My room's in a very bad position. The road is just right in front of my room and the moment cars whiz by, I wake up, esp if they are huge trucks or buses.

In fact, my whole house is in a very bad arrangement. I live in a single storey house and all the rooms are exposed to the living rooms, kitchens and my neighbours. My neighbours can actually look into our rooms. So whenever any noise is made in the living room , kitchen or by our neighbours, it gets heard in our rooms.

I'm going crazy. My eye bags are very horrible and I look awful. Someone please help me! My dad and my sis seem to be able to sleep through all these noises but both my mum and I can't .

Please don't tell me to use the white noise machine or white noise because I don't think it'll work and besides, I don't intend to get one. Leaving the radio on doesn't help either. I actually got kept awake because of leaving the radio on. Anyone can help me to change my attitude towards such noises and for good ness sake, sleep properly at night? I don't think anyone's in a worse predicament than me.

well, maybe one way is to move. thats probably out of the picture, but you never know, amybe you can pop it into conversation.

Another way is to try to change the positioning of your bed. certain areas might get hit my the sound more than other areas. You should also try to rearrange some other furniture, maybe in a position that will block of the sound, while still making you room look appealing.

Another way is maybe try sleeping in another room a night or two, and see if there is a difference. Preferably a room thats farther away from the traffic. If you still cant sleep, something may be wrong.

I can admitt that i have had this happen. i live on a street with a horse stable a few houses down, and about a street over and over the LA river[[not really a river]] there is a freeway, and before the wall was up, it was hell.

What i did, was i changed my bed time, just a little earlier, becasue with that extra hour, the morning wasnt so bad. I also as i said, changed my bed positioning, and almost for a while kept my room air tight[[more like sound tight]] it really helped

i would also suggest maybe getting knew pillows, or bed covering, something to make you feel comfy.

i really do hop i helped. really try these, and if they dont work, maybe moving would be a good thing???? but maybe not. talk to your paretns about this, and really tell them, dnt just slip it into the conversation!

Lauren

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If I am interested in running high school track as a freshman or a sophmore, how fast should my mile time be? And how fast should my 2 mile time be?

well it hsould be around 7 minutes. i run track but for 7th and 8th gaders and peple run it in 6 minutes, so i would say that 8 minutes is out of the picture....two mile could be around 12 or 13 minutes.... remeber that you shouldnt go too fast right away....hope i helped

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I'm 13 and I'm about 5' 1" and I weigh 79 lbs., and I know that's in the healthy range for BMI's but I can tell I have too much fat, especially on my stomach and thighs. Anyone have any advice on how to lose it?

im 13 and im an inch taller than you i weigh about 96 to 97 pounds, and IM under weight, ur bmi isnt healthy, and that fat on your legs, its not fat, its mucal that isnt being used..if you did track or ran about 2 to 3 miles a day for a long period of time, that muscal might start being used, amking it look less "fatty" and more muscular. and as for you stomach its probably not fat...trust me. BUT DONT DO IT! not saying that your unhealthy but you weight is regardless of eating habits. you should eat healthy food, drink milk, eat the right about of wheats fruits veggies, and ESPECIALLY PROTIENS! no crash diets to try to get the "fat" of you legs and thighs, when it is actually muscal. maybe you try gaining weight but you cant. sometimes you get a growthsbert and you gain a TON of weigh and you get your period...i dnt have mine, but according to my body, and doctor i will so dont worry, just eat healthy exercise daily, but not too harshly, dont always run, to leg lifts or something that helps you thigs, they have great leg things at gyms.....hope i helped

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14/f


i run daily, well I jogged on the tredmil for about 15 minutes then i jogged a mile at the track for a week or so. I ran everyday for maybe a month? then i havent ran in a while. now ive got track and i run there and the past few days ive ran outside maybe a little less than a mile? i want to be able to run daily but i dont want my body to only burn caloires when i run.. what are the bad things about jogging?

i run track to..infact i just got back, and have to run about 2-5 miles aday. it can give you shin splints, and sometimes your ankles can get injured as well as you knees, so be careful not to run on concrete as much becasue it is too hard on your joints. If you really get injured you should ice it for tenty minutes, then stop for twenty then ice again, then stop....dnt repeat. there are also many types of pills you can take, but some arent always good. also when you run it doesnt just burn calories, it make syou muscaaaals stronger. after running for solong, the unused leg muscals will need to be used, and you will get those...also if you do abbs[[crunchs, bycicle, achordian, things like that...]] it will helps your abbs, and not just burn calories. What your doing is good, but be careful not to overwork yourself or run too much on concrete becasue joint pains or injuries mayy occur.... trust me, i may be young but ive been doing track for so long, and im currently injured from running on concrete too much without any rest.....so just bee careful of all of these things
hope i helped
Lauren

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what are some really good movies
i'm a 15 year old girl btw.

preminisions- AMAZING
the prestige- EVEN MORE AMAZING
the holday- SUPER FUNNY
disturbia- looks like it might be good, but u never know

hope that helped
LAuren

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i heard the ddr is a fun way to burn calories and work out ..is this true? and if so, how effective is it, how long do i have to play for? and are there other ways to exercise that are fun and you don't really notice you're actually exercising, like playing ddr?

ddr is really fun and once you get going and you get better you can do it faster, making you sweat, burning calories! most of the time you should play till you burn a sweat, but dont go too hard, and DO take breaks becasue its tiring and you might get sick. as to other ways, im not sure, i know i work out in my schoools cardio and weight rooms, but those are SUPER obvious and make u wanna DIE! but its good when you work out at gyms becasue you push yourself[[bike.spinning for 10 minutes on level 7!!]] and when you finish you feel great that you did it and that your DONE!! or anything like treadmeel[[spelling?]] on level 9! good workout...or 7 if its too hard! and when you talking or listening to music or watcing tv it destracts you! hope i helped
Lauren

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me and all my friends are 13. my friend and her boyfriend have been talking about oral, and fingering, ans sex.. he has a concom, and she says shes ready, and shes been talking about it with my other friend who also really wants it too. they say there prepared, and so are there boyfriends. the problem is im not supposed to know this, so i cant talk to them abou it. and plus im not sure if she was telling the tuth, or just saying that, but when everyone found out, she got mad, and i think it means it was true. i really cant do anyhting to help her, but i wanna know if thirteen is too young. I thik it is, but she doesnt, and im scared for her....were not that good of frends , but im still scared!

well 13 is way too young and she really doesnt know what she is saying. she sounds like someone who doesnt care, or jsut wants to be cool, and sex sometimes comes with that. sex too young is a problem and i know you need another way to get through to her. perhaps you can slip it into conversation... or talk to her friend about talking to her about it. her freind m,ight be more trust worthy, and she might take her advice. You really need to convince her, and i know how hard it is becasue u cant mention that you know...so take the advice and i really hope she makes the right decision. and its right for you to be scared for her, its right for you to not want her to have a baby, no matter what the condom. and i understand that you dont and say you cant go talk to them because it happens to everyone and reading advice saying that is sometimes reasurring, but you always need other options. so if worse comes to worse...maybe you can slip it into conversation in some way... hope i helped
Lauren

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i really need some websites for cute updo prom hair. i love when the hair is up all in curls and have some around my face. if anyone has any good sites or prom or wedding hair, i would love it!.. please help, my prom is friday!! =]

Here are a few.....

http://www.golimar.com/hair-styles/homecoming-hairstyles.htm
in that one it looks like its from like the 80s, but i have more!


http://www.pageantrymagazine.com/magazine/Prom/2007/a07_Hairstyles_Tracy.htm
this site just has some advice for hairstyles!


http://www.promhairstyles.net/formal_prom_hairstyles/formal_prom_hairstyles.html
maybe this???


http://www.brides.com/beauty/hairstyles/gallery/editorspick?pf=Look:Up-do
or this

hope i helped

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Okay, so this boy.. he likes me. He used to go with one of my friends. Well, really we just got good friends.. but I didn't know they were going out untill like a week ago.. I really want to go out with him, yet again... I don't want to do that to a friend. But, we're not like best budz for life.. or anything, we're just like..friends. Soo..would I be wrong for going out with him... Should I just leave him alone,?..and go fetch some other fishes in the sea?

well i think that you should first consult your friend. If shes really not that good of your friend then it shouldnt be a problem with you or her, unless she still really cares about him. But personally i think that it isnt wrong to go out with him. You like him, and he likes you, and he went out with a friend of yours, but not a best freind. So it should be ok, but you really need to talk to this friend first, becasue you never know what could happen if she stilled like him. hope i helped
Lauren

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Alrighhhhht, my friend is in love with Monica. He is a freshmen, she is a sophmore. Thhey have hooked up and whatever but it didnt mean anything...to her. But now hes all upsetbecasue she doesnt want him. Is there anyway I can make him feel better?

well sometimes it just takes time to heal his heart... but in the mean time try to distract him by hanging out somewhere really fun like a theme park or amybe you could go to movie something like that to distract him. Also you mgiht want to try to just talk to him, this happened to me once and all i did was talk to my friend, and i eventually got over it. but other than that there is not much that i know to do...it takes time to heal. hope i helped
Lauren

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