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Hi! At this point, I'm just checking back when asked a question. When my life gets less hectic, I'll start browsing to find questions to answer. But please ask; I will answer within 24 hours.advice
how could any one find out you masterbate?
I can think of only two ways for someone to be sure that you masturbate.
1. they walk in on you and see you masturbating.
2. you tell them and they believe you
3. you've been making a lot of noise and they heard you
People who know you really really well and who are paying close attention to such things may be able to notice that your scent changes slightly when your turned on - but that doesn't mean you've done anything to cause it or relieve it. If you don't clean it off, semen and the natural lubricants produced in the vagina have a distinctive scent, but cleaning up after yourself by wiping off with toilet paper is enough to take care of that. If you use a scented lubricant - and they know what that lube smells like - it's possible for them to pick up the scent.
Neither visual nor manual inspection of the genitals will tell you - although if a woman has been inserting progressively larger items into her vagina without doing Kegal exercises it may stretch out a bit (which is only noticeable if you examined it beforehand, as all women start out different sizes and tensions, and if the change is pretty drastic because - like the rest of the body - the vagina does change with time).
So yeah, if your worried about someone finding out, they've pretty much gotta walk in or listen in.
i live in texas too...where in Texas do u live???
I live in Houston, but I'm not comfortable giving out any more specific information on Advicenators. You can get in touch with me via email: dreamingkat@gmail.com if you want to chat over IM.
I burnt my finger on the cooker around half an hour ago, ran it under the cold water tap until it stopped hurting and forgot about it. But it's just started to hurt really badly again. I put a cold compress on it and put some antiseptic cream on but it doesn't seem to be stopping the stinging. What can I do?
I'm only answering cuz it seems like the vast majority of people are telling you to put ice on the burn. Do NOT put ice on a burn. If you've actually damaged your finger with the burn, you won't be able to tell when the ice starts to do more damage. You'll have both a burn, and frostbite.
Also, don't put oils of any sort on a burn. No lotion, no Vaseline. Aloe Vera gel is water based (since it comes from a plant) and is quite good at helping burns heal up.
Cold water was the right thing to do.
Look at the your finger. Is the skin intact or has it blistered or broken? If it's still intact, keep the finger away from extreme heat and cold for a few days till the redness goes away and it feels better. If the skin has blistered or broken, clean it with cold water, apply antiseptic cream, and put a band-aid over it. Do not pop a blister. If the skin has broken enough that you can see something other than skin when you look at the finger, go to the doctor.
Alright, so, my computer sucks. Apparently it's a good computer, but we always have problems with it. For the last few months it's been surprisingly fine. But recently, it starts shutting down with no warning or anything. I haven't noticed a pattern in things that I'm doing when it shuts down, and it's really becoming an inconveinance(sp?). We don't have a anti-virus program, which, I know is incredibly stupid. When I try to start the computer back up, it sounds like a dead engine trying to start up in the tower, but nothing works. Does anyone know what could be wrong? Thanks!
*sigh* a virus cannot affect the hardware of a computer. Not that anti-virus software isn't a good thing to have on a windows computer, but it's not like a virus can kill your power supply or something.
My first guess is that the computer has overheated and has shut itself down for a while to cool off. Make sure the fans are working, and possibly look into getting another one installed. They are cheap. They may also just be really dirty; canned air to squirt them out might help.
When the computer does turn on, check to see if you can feel the fans. Then when it doesn't turn on, see if you can feel the fans. If the fans turn on, but the computer doesn't, you can rule out the power supply (which is my second guess).
Good Luck.
I'm not sure where to turn. I feel like I have run out of options and I just can't cope.
I've seen a pyschiatrist, physchologist, hypnotherapist and counseller- none helped. I recently went to my head of year when things were really too much- to the extent when it was either help or die- and she, although she said she wouldn't since she saw it wouldnt help, has just asked a counseller to speak to me. I need real help. I know it can help to talk through fears and everything but it hasn't helped me in the past and I cannot put myself through the pain of living for the date where I saw a therapist and begging them to help me. It was hell and it never really helped anything.
I need SOMETHING more now. Things are really bad at the moment. It's hard to explain but basically I have complete phobias of lots of things (certain films, accents, places, anything) that I can relate to a certain person who hurt me. I don't want to go into this since it's not overly relevent to this question.
I just want to know if there is ANYTHING else out there. I really don't know what to do. I want to die. I feel like everything is helpless and no one can help me. I'm not allowed medication as the pyschiatrist felt I was too dependant on things. I don't know where else to turn. My parents don't either.
The reason I went to my head of year was for this reason- I am totally stuck. I can't handle it. I feel like I am falling and no one can stop me. I need help so badly- I just can't see anything out there.
Please reply if you can; thankyou xxxx
I know you've tried it before, but you need to get back in touch with a qualified set of professionals. Both a psychiatrist who can and will give you medication and a psychologist who will work through your phobias with you. Not all psychiatrists practice the same type of psychiatry.
If you really can't cope with the real world, you may need to stay in a mental hospital for a while until you've learned some coping mechanisms.
Good Luck.
K, so I've been going out with my boyfriend since 1-31-05, and lately we've kind of been like, you know, "touching". At first I was kind of like, well I dunno about this, and feeling indecisive about whether we should even be doing it, but kind of wanting to at the same time. (I'm 14, he's 15) Well now my problem is that when he touches me it feels *kind of* good at first then it just hurts. What are we doing wrong?
Well, actually, we don't know what you mean by "touching". There are lots of places he could be touching you, and most of them could hurt if he's too rough.
If he's rubbing your clitoris (ask if you need to know where that is) he's probably pressing too hard. Also, some women have very sensitive clits - direct pressure, no matter how gentle, never really feels very good. In that case, have him touch around it, gently.
If he's been inserting his fingers into your vagina there are several things to keep in mind. His nails should be trimmed or he should put something over them (like a condom, no kidding). It's not a fun place to get a scratch. You should be turned on before he enters you. Fingers are smaller than penises, so you don't need to be literally dripping, but you should be wet and slick to his touch. If for some reason you can't get wet (and there are plenty of good reasons that are totally normal), use lube or find some other way to play. Penetration isn't necessary for most women to get off. Also, your young and probably haven't finished growing yet. If his fingers are long enough to reach your cervix and he's touching that, it's unlikely to be pleasant for you.
You will both have to experiment with what feels good. Different things feel good for different people too. Communication is the key for most aspects of a relationship, and sex is no exception.
does anyone know where i can a program like photoshop on my computer...like a try out? my computer blocks certain sites and wont let me download photoshop.
A second the vote for the GIMP. I'm assuming your using windows, so you'll need to go to http://gimp-win.sourceforge.net/stable.html and download the first two items. Well, probably the first 3 since I think you'll want the help files. :)
what happens when you go to the gyno?? i have no earthly idea!!
While every office does things a little bit differently, they all follow a pretty standard template. Every gynecologist always gives a urine test for pregnancy - usually while your waiting for a room.
You'll be taken into a little room with a sink and an examining table. Sometimes they have curtains that you can pull to make a little mini room for undressing. You'll be asked to undress and most likely given a hospital gown. They may take your blood pressure and ask some questions. Then the nurse will leave an a few min later the doctor or nurse practitioner will come in. I'll be referring to the gyno as a "she" because I've always seen women, but I think there are more men practicing than women. She'll give you a breast exam. You will lie on your back and the doctor will use her fingertips to examen your breasts. It doesn't hurt, but if your ticklish it might tickle a little. If you don't know how to do a breast self exam, ask and they will teach you how. The breast exam looks for lumps or other irregularities in the breast that could be a sign of breast cancer.
Next, you'll get a internal exam. Your feet will go up in the "stirrups" that come out of the end of the table, and they'll tell you to scoot down until the end of your butt is just hanging off the end of the table. It's really hard the first time, but try to relax. When your getting into position, remind them your a virgin. To help you relax, the doctor should talk to you and tell you what she's doing. If your nervous or jumpy, she'll probably touch your leg, then the outside of your vulva, and then insert a finger coated with KY. She move her finger around inside you while pushing on your stomach to examen your uterus. Then she'll insert a speculum. A speculum is a tool that holds your vagina open so the doctor can look inside and take the "pap smear". To do that, she will take a big Q-tip and rub your cervix to get a cell sample. It feels really odd, but it's very rarely painful.
If you are going to have any STD tests, they will be done now, with additional Q-tips.
When she's done, she'll tell you it's ok to get dressed now. I use the gown to wipe off the KY that always ends up on my thigh. You get dressed and your done for a year. :)
If you have any questions about birth control, STDs, your period, or anything remotely related, go ahead and ask the nurse on your way in. Or the doctor when you see her, or the nurse on your way out.
I understand it's rather nerve-wracking to go the first time. You can take your mother, or a friend with you. I don't recommend taking your boyfriend, but they won't stop you.
OKay well i just got myself into a lot of trouble with my parents... see i got a cell phone last year and i was text messaging and got charged a lot of money. well they tol me not to do it and i did it again... and yet again they told me to stop. well today they approached me and found out i had sent over 100$ worth for last month. i apoligized... but im grounded til school is let out... they guy i like just asked me out yesterday so im kinda in a bad situationi called hima nd told him and he seemed cool with it... but #1 how can i keep from losing him? (bc like all we ever did was text) and #2 what are some ways i can apoligize tio my parents? thanks--i rate!!
To keep in touch with your friend, try talking on the phone or using instant messages on the computer. You can also send him notes - both through email and through the old fashioned postal service. When your not grounded any more, you can go do things with him.
To apologize to your parents, you need to show them that your sorry and that you've become more responsible. Start by not text messaging any more. Do your chores without being asked. Ask your mom if there is anything you can do around the house to "pay off" how much money you spent - and if you can use such tasks to pay for text messages you send in the future. For instance, if your mom normally sweeps the kitchen, maybe you sweeping the kitchen would be worth a 50 cents or a dollar (it's not hard or time consuming unless you have a really huge kitchen, so it's not worth much). But if you do it and a few other quick and easy things every day, and then do a bigger project on the weekend (you are grounded after all, so you'll have time). I don't know what types of tasks need to be done around your house, but I'm sure your parents could come up with stuff. They may be impressed that you want to recompense them, and use re-compensation instead of punishment in the future.
hey i need some advice on fast, healthy breakfast ideas, and how to make it (if it involves being made)
If you have time on the weekends, you can make whole-grain pancakes (with nuts or bits of fruit if you like them), wrap them in wax paper and put 2-4 (however many you eat at a time) in a ziplock baggie and freeze them. Then you can microwave or toast them in the toaster in the morning. It's healthier than the frozen waffle sticks you can get in the store.
One of my favorite breakfasts is instant oatmeal with some diced fruit or raisins to sweeten it. I make it with less water and add milk so it cools down quicker. It takes about 5 min to make (from stumbling into the kitchen to not burning your tongue). It also takes about 5 min to shovel into your mouth if you don't spend time chewing and swallowing.
If that's not quick enough, peanut butter toast and a piece of fruit is portable, as are "meal replacement bars". Be careful that you get bars that have enough calories and nutrients to actually be meal replacements and not meal supplements. They will say so on the bar. I never find them filling enough personally.
You could buy some healthy low fat whole grain muffins (a bag of hostess mini blueberry muffins don't count), warm one in the microwave (about 20 seconds on 1/2 power usually does it for me), cut it down the middle and spread cream cheese on either side of the cut.
Most of my other ideas have been mentioned already. If you like the idea of the pancakes, or need help with anything else, just ask. :)
What is this friction between us?
What does that mean and what does friction mean?
Friction is the word used to describe how hard it is to push something along something else. For instance, tile floors have less friction than carpet. It's easier to slide something along the tile than it is to slide it along the carpet.
Dictionary.com shows two main definitions:
1: the resistance encountered when one body is moved in contact with another [syn: rubbing]
2: a state of conflict between persons [syn: clash]
I described #1 above, and because even though they are using #2, it's not a "conflict" as in "I hate you", it's a conflict as in "why is it always more difficult when your involved?"
The person was probably trying to ask if you knew what was causing the problem between you that prevents things from being easy when you have to work together.
If this makes no sense at all, maybe *they* misunderstood the word "friction". It's also possible that there is a local meaning for the word or phrase. You may just have to ask them what they meant.
You told me about the iframes and the sites to go so I just gave up on the other site that I was trying to make and started a new one... http://www.angelfire.com/stars5/tropicalxxxxparadise
no matter how many tutorials I look at or how much advice I get I still can't seem to get the knack of html. I want to be able to make a site like http://quotecraze.vzz.net/frames.html so that the layout is similar and its sort of the same site... like with quotes. I would like to know how to be able to do all this, especially so I could do it on angelfire.com and then move it to a different hosting site like http://www.cjb.net Any help you give me is appreciated! It might take awhile for me to catch on but I'd like if you can help :)
Oh! I think I see part of the problem.
When you use frames or iframes you need to have more than one file. That's what they're used for. If you want everything in one file, you can create a similar effect with css using "overflow: scroll"
Lets stick with frames for right now. You've gotten a lot closer with this new one. :)
You have both "<body bgcolor="#ffffff" text="#000000" link="#0000ff" alink="#800080" vlink="#ff0000">" and "<body>". Delete the second one - there should only be one body tag per document.
You have "<iframe src="newpage.html" width="400" height="400"
frameborder="0" scrolling="auto" align"right" name="myInlineFrame">
hmm trying to work on this maybe itll actually work this time!</iframe>"
"hmm trying to work on this maybe itll actually work this time!" is only supposed to show up if the person's browser doesn't know what an iframe is (if it's really old). It's a good thing that you can't see it. :)
What your supposed to see in the frame is a file called "newpage.html". I'm guessing you don't have any other files.
Lets start out by making a very simple page. Start a new page - not a new site, a new file - and call it "test.html". It should have the following html:
<html>
<head><title>Test</title></head>
<body>
<h1>Testing</h1>
</body>
</html>
Then go back to your original file (named index.html or index.htm most likely) and change "newpage.html" to "test.html".
I know I gave several steps here. If you need me to slow down, let me know.
ok i read a ? that you answered and i liked how you responded and you sounded like you know what your talking about!!
well i have a bad thing of discharge and it has a sernt color to it!!
should i go to my gyno about this or what??
cuz it's been going on for a while i have a check up w/ him in NOv.!!!
let me know plZe and thank you
Discharge from the vagina is normal once you reach puberty. It can be clear or white and sometimes dries slightly yellow. It should have an odor, but not a strong or unpleasant one.
If it smells like bread, fish, flowers, or cleaning products, you need to go to the doctor. The two most common infections are yeast infections - which smell like yeast or bread - and a certain type of bacterial infection that smells like fish. A yeast infection will eventually cause discharge that looks sort of like cottage cheese - it gets lumpy and is white or sometimes yellow. Bacterial infections can cause yellow, greenish, or occasionally brownish discharge, although most brownish discharge is normal discharge from the uterus (usually just before one gets their period, although some women seem to get it afterwards, or instead of a period when entering or exiting the part of their lives when they menstruate).
If you have access to a gynecologist, it can't hurt to go get it checked out. A doctor can look and maybe do a test to say for sure, where as I can only give you generic guidelines.
how do i keep my vagina clean?...not smelly
I will add my voice to those discouraging the use of douches. They upset the natural balance of the vagina and can mask problems. In most cases, plain water is all you need - swish the water around the external parts of your vulva (the hole is the vagina, the area around it is the vulva). If for some reason your are excessively oily or have just been rolling naked in mud and must use soap, use plain soap - ivory or unscented dove are good choices - not fancy bodywashes or scented soaps. You should separate the both sets of labia (lips), and may wish to pull back the hood of the clitoris while rinsing off the area. You should not put soap of any kinda into your vagina; it is way too alkaline and will cause hard to notice damage that makes the vagina very susceptible to infection.
If your vagina is producing discharge and either a yeast/bread like smell, then you have a yeast infection. If possible, check with a doctor to confirm you first self-diagnosis. Yeast infections can be cured with over the counter suppositories. They can be prevented by reducing sugar intake and eating yogurt. Many women get yeast infections right before or right after periods.
If your vagina has a strong odor of fish, you probably have a bacterial infection. A good tip off is when the fishy smell gets stronger immediately *after* you wash the area with soap (remember, if you use a scented soap it'll be much harder to tell and will increase irritation in the area). You will need to go to the gynecologist to confirm this and get medication.
If you are prone to vaginal infection or irritation, make sure you wear cotton underwear and either loose fitting clothing or clothing made of natural fibers (cotton or silk, not polyester or nylon) so that air can circulate around the area.
If you need pictures, more detailed instructions, or just want to learn more, let me know and I'll get you some links on feminine hygiene and proper care of the vulva.
I have to make some kind of food for this international festival at school, our country is mexico. I have to bring something that will feed a lot of people and all the basics are already taken. Chips and salsa and cheese dip and quesadillas and rice and tacos are already taken. I need something thats big and easy. Any ideas would be very helpful, thanks!
I rate 5!
Flan is good, but not all that easy to make. You can find directions here: http://www.gourmetsleuth.com/flanrecipe.htm
You may want to try to find some recipes from central or southern mexico, since what most people think of as mexican food is "tex-mex".
I don't know about the authenticity of these recipes, but these sights might help you with some ideas:
http://www.mex-recipes.com/easy-mexican-recipes.html
http://www.indiansun.net/recipes.htm
http://www.rancholeonero.com/tables/recipes.html
http://cuauhtli3.tripod.com/id22.html
I have i-frames on the website I want to make but I'm having some difficulty. I don't know how to get information on them or how to get links or words on them. The website is http://www.angelfire.com/stars5/rachelg00
Any ideas on how to fix it? I can also give you the code I used to make the i-frames if you need it but I'd appreciate any help. I will rate high if you help me.
Hrm. Well, I can see quite a few problems. The first is that iframes are used inside a normal html page. You still need the <html>, <head>, and <body> tags, for instance.
Other problems I see right off the bat:
* http://www.angelfire.com/stars5/rachelg00/index2.html doesn't exist
* <A is just text. I imagine you were trying to make an anchor tag.
* frame is not used with iframes, but with old fashioned framesets.
pages that might help you a bit:
http://www.designplace.org/tutorials.php?page=1&c_id=1
http://www.w3schools.com/tags/tag_iframe.asp
If you need more help, please ask again. :)
I babysit for an hour and a half everyday.
Lucky me, I get the hours when the youngest baby wants to go to sleep more.
The parents keep asking me to try and keep her awake till they come home cause if not she won't sleep at night.
I always fail and she always ends up falling asleep then the parents have trouble getting her back to sleep in the middle of the night.
So I need tips on keeping her awake. She's 8 months old. Don't just say ''Play with her'' because I keep trying but she just crys then I pick her up and she falls asleep.
Oh and I also babysit her sister who is 3 years old so anything that they could both do would be good, I don't want to leave any of them out.
Well, I agree that it's not just up to you to prevent her from falling asleep. At 8 months, she needs two naps (usually around 2 hours each) and about 14 hours of sleep (total) a day. It's really hard to move a baby or young child's sleeping schedule.
You will need to talk to the parents about her sleep schedule. Try to keep track of (make a chart or use the calendar) when she falls asleep each day. At best, you can probably move her nap time 5 to 10 min every other or third day without significant stress. If you keep track, and can show the parents that your making progress - they should be satisfied. It can also open a dialog for you - you can ask if the moved back nap seems to be helping the baby wake up later in the night after it's moved back 1/2 an hour (only a few weeks). If it's not, then they'll know that they need to come up with some other solutions.
For example, if your there from 4 to 5:30 each night, and she falls asleep at 4:30 the first day, the next day try to keep her up till 4:35. It's only 5 more min. Do that for 2 days, then try 4:40. If she voluntarily stays up till 5:20 even though she fell asleep at 4:45 the day before, and wants to sleep at 4:30 the next day, try to keep her up till 4:45. There will be some crying, and the 3 year old probably won't appreciate it much.
Most kids have a favorite toy or three by 8 months. Use it to help dampen crying. To keep the 3 year old busy, have her color or play with play doh or do a puzzle starting just before you expect the baby to start fussing for sleep. Then try to interest the baby in something to eat. I'm not sure what she's eating, but fruit or juice (diluted of course) is a good choice if she's eating fruits because it will hit her system like candy will for an older child. :)
If possible, going outside is usually a great way to keep kids up. There's so much to see and hear. Send the 3 year old to bring her baby sister sticks and leaves and ladybugs (if she can catch them). Listen for the birds then try to find them. Count the cars and/or list their colors if you go for a walk near a street. Or the houses, or trees, or anything else that you see a lot of.
You already have a lot of ideas for keeping the kids up and busy, and I'm sure you can pick out the ones likely to work for you, so I'm not going to list a whole bunch of stuff.
Good luck.
Does anybody know a way to get rid of a sour milk smell? I spilled coffee with milk in it, and didnt even realize it until it started to smell...I've cleaned up the mess, burned incense, sprayed odor remover, I've tried everything, but my room still reeks. Anything I can do?
If this is on carpet, the problem may be that stuff has started to grow under the carpet in the padding. I don't know if you can easily remove a corner and pull it up to the spill, but if you can, you may want to try that and see if the mess is actually under the carpet.
Otherwise, if the club soda doesn't work (I don't use it, but it has a good reputation), baking soda does wonders. It always says "sprinkle" but I always use a nice liberal coating of it. Leave it on for several hours - preferably over night - and then vacuum it up.
ok..is it possible for someone to only have their period every other month??...i rate
Like most everyone has said, yes, it's normal to have irregular periods, although you will want to mention it to your gynecologist when you start seeing one (when you become sexually active or turn 18 - whatever comes first).
A detail to note is that you have 2 ovaries (one on each side). Usually, they take turns. If you are consistently having a period every other month, it's possible that only one of your ovaries is ovulating (releasing an egg).
I don't think that it's anything to worry about, especially if your still in your teens, but again, it's something to mention to your doctor.
ok im confused at school i get made fun of alot because im smart. well normally i just bottle it up and dont do anything because im weak but what i have noticed is sometimes i will get so pissed off that if anyone who hasnt even done anything to me so much as slightly bothers me i blow up at them. i guess i just want to know how can i channel my anger more so at the ppl who piss me off because i hate blowin up at my friends but i cant blow up at the ppl that make fun of me cause im weak as shit and im just confused i dont know wut to do can someone please help me..
** ADDITION **
If students are being assaulted at school, and the school system is aware of it and does nothing, the parents need to take action. If the school system blows off the parents, then it's time to take legal action. Usually the threat of legal action will be enough, especially if heavy hitters are involved (like the ACLU). I don't care how good the test scores are, if students are being assaulted as part of their school day the school system is negligent. What you described happening to that girl isn't harassment, it's assault. I don't have enough details on what's happening to you, but I'm guessing it's assault as well.
If your parents are dismissive, try talking to other kids who are targets. Hopefully someone's parent will be brave enough to speak up for you. If not, perhaps if several of you carry around little recorders and then anonymously send the tapes to both the school board and a local paper, something will get done when they realize your not just being melodramatic.
The best survival tactic I can give is to move in groups.
* When the bully comes up and starts picking on one of you, allow that person to shrink back into the group and try to have two people replace him/her in front of the bully. It will force the bully to change targets. Keep this up, that way no one gets the full force of the attack, and hopefully it will delay or reduce the number of punches thrown.
* Don't be silent. Everyone in the group can file a complaint every single time an incident occurs. Encourage your friends to keep a journal of incidences too. If nothing else, after you graduate, you all turn in your notebooks as testimony that something needs to be done to shape up that school.
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with the exception of rainbowcherrie, who had such good advice on handling anger that I will skip advising you on that, I don't think the previous answers were horribly helpful, so I'm gonna give it a go.
Are you being teased only with words, or is there any physical contact going on? For instance, is someone always bumping you into the wall, pinching you, taking your pencils and throwing them in the street, sending spitballs at you, etc. If there is any sort of physical contact going on, you need to talk to an authority figure and see what they can do about it. You don't have to be beaten to a pulp before they should do something.
I know that "just words" is a bit dismissive. Words are powerful, and can hurt. If you are not in danger of being punched, expand your vocabulary enough to insult them back without them knowing what you said, or practice witty comebacks to their usual insults. If you are in danger of being punched, don't egg them on, but talk to an authority figure about what can be done to insure your safety at school.
You may have better luck if you talk to your parents first, and have them be the ones who talk to the authorities at school.
Also, it may be helpful to know that once you get through school and get off to college and/or work, things will be very different. People with a purpose (like building a plane, or balancing ledgers, or making artwork) interact civilly with each other because they have that common goal and realize that they need to work together.