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HEY GUYS. I figure i know a lot about advice. I have been threw a lot from family violence and growing up in environments with a lot of stress and stuff to relationships and sex questions. i have had my best friends move away, feel the pain of a lost love one, feel the hurt of loving some one so much it kills, and many different levels of love, pain, sorrow, and CONFUSION! so just ask away ill try to helps ya out ;D later

Hey so Its been a while since I have been on here just wanted to update a little.
I have had a few more life experiences. I have a best friend new to my life as of a few years ago now and she is amazing. I couldn't ask for some one better.I lost my first love from stupid choices i made and now am trying things a little differently i won't do the same stupid stuff as before. Hit me up ID LOVE TO HELP!!
Oh and I started college :)

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im a 13/f and i have never kissed a boy in my life. I have never even gone out with a boy in my life. I have wavy brown hair and am about 5'4 with an athletic figure. I want to know if theres somthing wrong with me and why i cant get a bf. plz help me

o hun trust me its ok i knwo some 28 year old guys and girls hwo have never had bfs or gf its really not all its cracked up to be the longer you wait the better less pain and getting hurt, you may think yiour mssing so much i thought i was 2 but waiting for the right guys is worth every minut of minimal pain till get better even if it doesn't seem like it will, ive been there hun

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i cant see my best friend because im gothic i never even realized i was its just the stuff i like how i dress how im deppressed and my personality. i hate it so much. think how it is to only have one person in your life that even cares for you and i can only see him at school in half my classes. my family even my parents make fun of me and say im messed up i usually say then why wont you help me or you should have fixed it along time ago. im gothic i never knew but i dont wear the black pants with the trimppers i wear jeans or skirts or both and tshirts and hoodies but all the chokers and jewelry. i hate my life more than ever when you notice you have only one person that even cares for you that you barely ever see and everyone else hates you and they make it clear to you they do. his parents wont let me see him they all thats wrong with me i just am never right!whats all wrong with me ~me cursing, my music, being gothic, scareing people, my personality, my piczo, how i dress, suicide thoughts, he became gothic so they blame me, i love my guitar, my bff being a guy, hateing life, stereotypeing , the stores i like, i stare to much, ubsession with the mall, cant cry but am severely deppressed, loves explosives, having only one real friend but is a guy, love to evanescence(explains me), i can never ever do anything right, always grounded, takeing my hated life out in violence, and that is what i can think of now..thats all that people told me that i remember. right now im grounded but im on the computer so plz help soon! im grounded for yelling at my dad bc he was going off on me about him all thats wrong with him. im 13/f hes almost 13/m

hunny don't hate your life becuase other poeple don't approve i have plenty of peopel who don't aprove of me eather im to emo or not emo annof orto emotional for life period, if i knew you i would deffinitly befriend you, i know th feeling of being so alone it feels pointeless and the feeling of losing it all being lost hurt forgotten wanting to die it hurts so bad i know, butchange helps the pain move faster change in surroundings and stuff, like schools meeting new people what ever. i hate people who judge people like this im so sorry hope i could help ask me if you need anything

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What should i do if i find my teacher sexually atractive?

ok well one i need to know old you are and 2 well its always one of lose he is really hot or if youry a guy then she is hot i wouldnt think to much into it , its just gona cause problems with school boards parents friends kinda one of those look but don't touch polices(sp) but ya i know tha tmight sound mean but itll end up hearting you and sexual attractions are more like lust and i don't believe it would lead to anything but it depends on how youare teacher is ask if ya need anything

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14/f
is it bad that i like to look at porn online?

some people would say yes. i dont' think so even i liket o sometimes its a natural thing to want to see stuff like that sometimes. even if its just for like a "learning experiance" but don't get addicted to it its really easy to do and also it can kill your comp with viruses so be carful
Andie

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where do you get music from and how do you get it? i've seen a lot of people with music playing and i want to know how to get it and where to get it.
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music you go to search and type in a band you like see if they have a myspace and if they do go to it and listen to the music find one you like and click add . to get a play list go to www.projectplaylist.com and add music to a play list then find the button that sais add to myspace if you have anyquestions ask ok hun
hope i helped
Andie

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15/f
there's this guy that i really like, but he has a girlfriend... but we're still pretty good friends. so this weekend i want to hang out with him and some of my other friends... everyone says that if i invite him over i have to invite over his girlfriend as well, but the thing is that she's a total b**** to me. and i don't know, i just wanna hang out with him... so is it so wrong to want to hang out with your guy friends if they have a girlfriend?

no its perfectly fine. i hang out with my guy friends no matter what if they are dating anyone are anything so if she is gona be a bitch o well
jut hang out with your friends itll be fine

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16/f

my boyfriend of 2 year's birthday is coming up soon and i want to get him somethng nice. he's going off to college this coming up year anf i was thinking about getting him something for there but his parents are doing that. i want to get him something nice. any suggestions? the price should be between $100-$300.

thanks.

a watch and if he is into chinease things maby a sword or fancy nife or someting he likes . base ball cards a hat a nice jacket shoes

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im 15 (almost 16)/f and my boyfriend is 18/m.

we've been dating almost 3 years now and are sexually active, but we do not use condoms. he usually either finishes in my mouth or on me, never in me. the thing is, i want to get pregnant, but he doesnt. i can understand why he doesnt though. what should i do? i really love him and i really want a baby.

i whould hold on to that wanting a kid . think of how your parents would feel and i know you may not care but listen i live with twin siblings boy and girl its no easy thing and if he doesn't want a kid that means he wouldn't be there for you threw anythuing labor, crying waking up at 2 am and ever 2 hours . nothing. you would be completly on your own and i dont' know how your parents would take it they may kick you out i have no idea but i would think about it first tihnk of everything ttha could happen. im going thrwe a scare currently with my 15 year old bf that i may be pregnant so some want it others don't and those who don't want it usualy get it . don't try to hard let fate take its place and time pass . hope i helped
Andie

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Ok so I'm a girl 15 freshman. I'm in gym and ugh I hate running and we have to do 30 laps. So my teacher started and he told me to run. It would only be me and like 4 other people doing the 30 laps. So there's this kid in my gym class that I really like. So when I started running I got nervous. And now I can't run. And I know I run slow. I'm not used to running. And I hate it because then this girl told me that I run funny. So then what's the kid going to think?. I know I run slow and funny. Also. There's this senior kid whose always making fun of the people who run. Today we were supposed to do 30 laps and I only got up to like 20 laps becuase I got to tired.a dn I am not overweight I weigh like 115 pouds and I'm 5'1. What should I do help!

well im an outgoing person so my tactick to this would be different but if you did this it would be new .iw ould be like FUCK YALL i run how i run and i know im not fast and i don't care cus same with me i haven't ran in a long time im not overweight or anything eather about the same hight and stuff but i just don't like running and stuff so i would just do my thing get it over with anyone who makes fun of you well there just being asses cus they THINK there better than every one els well there not they are no better there worse for maken fun of people. you are so much better than them and that guy if he sees that you are who you are and no one can change that and that you don't let other peoples judgment get to yo uit make intrest him
hope ihelped
Andie

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Ok for the most part I am happy with my body, of course there are things everyone would like to change. I was just wondering if I will get any taller, because to me my figure seems a little disproportionate. I'm 14, only about 5'3" and about 125 lbs. I seem to have a really short torso I think, I don't know if it's really noticeable to anyone else but I think so. For having a pretty small frame I am a C cup and I have pretty wide hips, but my torso being short makes my waist look shorter, and therefore my whole torso looks wider altogether. Is that weird? I have short legs too, but I don't think they look too different. I got my period when I was 12 so is there still a chance for me to grow taller?

ya you will get taller your a little taller than me and we will keep growing till we are about 20 - 25 don't worry hun

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What does it mean to have "a dry sense of humor"?

honostly it means like your not that funny your jokes are to litteral(spelling) and it kinda kills the joke . in other words just loosen up have fun don't be uptite about jokes if its not funny o well and if it is score !

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What do you do when you're so desperate that you just long for the touch of any human?

honostly i write poetry it helps me . it really does. i talk to a few people that care about me and write lots of lots of poetry and turn up my music really loud or just listen to some songs that i love

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this guy (chris) and me kinda were going out... (too long to post here sorry.. try to fallow..) and it got broken up .. a few times... but not by us... (im 15 and hes 18 but love knows no age, and we live a state apart..) and than i had to go and take care of my problems and he waited for me... well i by the time i got back and relized he was waiting... i was in a relationship.. and so i dumped my bf.. (it wasnt healthy anyways thats another story..) but when i was talking 2 Chris and i told him than i was singal he was like.. "ohh well now i found someone.." so now im sitting here and i think about him all the time... and im waiting for him... but is he a lost cause...? am i letting other hunks slid cuz im waiting... i dont know what to do... help please!
thanks millions
xoxoxo

girl i know love knows no age but he is 18 guys who are 18 usuely aren't worth waiting for. i am gona tell you straitup he is gona leave you for some 19 yearold girl which is gona suc so much and i don't want ya getting heart i would say lost cause if he doesn't want you then you don't need him i am sure your adorable so it willnot be hard for you to find a bf that really does care about you .

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alright so me and my boyfriend have been going out for several months now and i love him alot, and he says he loves me and he said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and so do i, but when he talks to like any girl even my best friend i get really paranoid and he gets even more paranoid if i talk to a guy. how can we both stop getting paranoid with each other when we talk to the opposite sex?

honostly you can't the only thing you can do is reasure eachother maby when the other gets paranoid give him a kiss and be like i love you there my friends its not like i would leave you for any guy no one is better than ypu or somethin
ok hope it helps
Andie

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me and my bf still haven't kissed yet and I don't know why, but for some reason...I want him to do it first. Do you think he'll kiss me anytime soon?

Also, how could you tell if your bf really loves you?

1 guys are supost to kiss first
2 it depends how long yall have been dating
3 if he really loves hmm hard to say i could probably tell you but i wuld have to ask you questions first
and 4 talk about it make sure he wants a kiss be like truth or dare truthfuly if i kissed you what would you do or have you thought about kissing me and go from there need anything els
ask me
Andie

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i've been going out w/ this guy for a couple months and we've kissed acouple times and stuff but weve never makein out and i dont now how to get him to makeout w/ me can someone plz help me

easy ok just go some were or do something calm and relaxing maby a movie or just hanging out and just like at a park maby be like ya know when you kiss him you know before you do it so be like looking into his eyes and move slower maby be holding his hand. definitly be sitting down and jsut be like slowly kiss him and then move bac just a little if he looks into your eyes u can kiss him again leading into a continuas kiss. after 2 months you should usualy be able to make out if yall have already kissed so you should be fine

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I have a boyfriend. But last night I had a dream where I was making out with this guy I used to like. Is that some kind of sign that I should be with him? Or does it mean that deep down I still like him? What does it mean?

honostly it just means you wana make out and you find him atractive so ya know there ya go OR it means ya you like him but you know selfconshasly you only like what yall did or had Or it could mean your just horny it could mean alot of things but it is normal almost all people(girls) with boyfriends have those dreams more than once

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earlier this year i dated a guy. we dated for almost 2 months and then i broke up with him because i felt that i didnt really like him any more. and now we are friends. i know that he still has feelings for me because his best friend told me. but lately ive felt like i like him again. but im afraid that if we went out again that the same thing would happen again. should i tell him i wanna date him again or should we just stay friends?

just be friends i date the same guy 5 times and it was the same each time just more physical (makeing out and stuff )

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Do guys mind if girls ask them out? Usually, it is the guy who asks the girl so I'm just wondering if it is okay for "her" to ask "him".

i have asked my guy friends that and usualy they say they like it cus it takes the preshar off them

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I got my period for the first time on July 27th. I haven't gotten it again since. I only had it for one day and it never came back. Is there something wrong with me?

no not at all my friend had the same thing and it didn't come bac for 2 years just give it time if you do alot of sports or gymnastics or something it can stunt it from working out and stuff so you are fine

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