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so me and my ex-boyfriend are basically best friends. he knows me better than anyone and we get along amazingly. so this weekend i finally gave into the fact that i am still inlove with him and want to be with him more than anything. im 17 and hes 19 and i dont want to hear that whole you dont know what love is so young because i think i know how i feel because he still has feelings for me too. anyways, he has a girlfriend and i told him but i also told him that i dont want them to break up because i wasnt telling him in the hope that he would dump her, i was telling him because i thought he should know and he was okay with it. so he was complaining to me about her yesterday and later that night i got an email saying he needed to talk to me. apparently when they were having sex, he didnt moan her name; he moaned mine. she stormed out calling him a damn cheater and he was telling me about how he doesnt know whats going to happen. so i got home from school today and i got another email saying that they are officially over. i dont know what to do, i love him and i know he cares about me and i know we both want to be together but im not sure if hes ready to jump back into us again because i know i hurt him when we broke up but hes such a better person now. any insight? im sorry this was so long (link)
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all i can say is since you guys are best friends, be there for him as a best friend. let him talk about his ex or whatever, let him know you're there, spend time with eachother. if you do that, then things should go smoothly and you should know when you both want to try it again but let him know that you're not trying to push things.
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i met this guy and known him since school started. i like him alot and i cannot figure out if he likes me. one time he asked me to go driving around with him and i did. i text him afterwards and said thanks and he said it was fun and that we should hang out more often. and if i mention another guy he kind of gets protective? and he compliments me sometimes, and other people think it is obvious that he likes me. but the thing is the other night i asked him if he wanted to go somewhere and he made it sound like we were going to do it, but then he said it was too late... i didn't know if he really wanted to do it or not and also if i want to talk i have to be the one who sends him a text or i.m. first. am i just analizing the whole situation too much? do you think he likes me?
-plus, when i texted him the other night when he said it was too late to hang out he kept talking about how bored he was and then randomely, out of the blue he said, "man, i really need a girlfriend or something." (link)
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i think he likes you, and i think you are kind of analyzing it too much. try not to take every little thing he says (like "it's too late") too personally or think it's always a negative thing.
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alright, well im not trying to be cocky, like this is really happening and i dont know what to do..
within 1 month after i broke up with my boyfriend 5 guys asked me out.. and the one guy i like.. doesnt like me.. and i turned down the other guys but one of them was one of my best friends and i had no idea he liked me like that and i felt bad turning him down and now he acts so diffrent like its really akward to be around him and i miss hanging out with him and stuff, i mean he was one of my best friends and i dont know how to make it less akward any ideas?
and my other problem is 1 of the guys i turned down is i guess you can say "really popular" at my school and he got like pissed off when i said no and just walking through the halls is horiable he always gives me dirty looks and he talks about me and how much of a "bitch" or "slut" i am, to his friends who were once my friends and i think hes making up shit about me to my friends because some of them act diffrent around me, and i have one class with him and its really bad like sometimes i will just skip that class so i wont have to see him, because he talks about me when im sitting right there he'll do it just loud enough so i hear him and hes just a prick i guess but idk what to do about it? like what can i say or do to get him to leave me alone and get over it? (link)
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well shit talkers are stupid, no joke. honestly, any one who believes rumors that a guy like that is spreading are truly idiots because they don't even know you. you need to show him that you don't really care when you walk through the halls, even though you might. when he looks at you, give him a dirty look back or roll your eyes (don't you love drama?)
as for your best friend, talk to him about it. tell him pretty much what you posted on here. let him know it's nothing personal that you turned him down, you just don't see him as anything more than a best friend.
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ok so there is this guy, and he is cute and i think i like him. i think he might like me back too. Do you think it would be weird for a girl to make the first move on a guy or should it just be the guy? Also, how can you tell if a guy likes you? i know there are signs to tell you but what are they? i need to know everything. so please give me some advice about relationships in general to. i am a girl who needs to know everything because i haven't experienced any of it yet.
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and also...how do i be more flirtatious if i am kinda shy?? and you dont like to do stuff unless it is around guys i actually know. lately, it has been pretty eaisy because they are so outgoing and stuff, how can i be more like free and more avalable to others. Sorry i keep skipping to different ideas but there is just so much on my mind about all this stuff, so if you could please help me. Thanks in advance. (link)
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i went through the same thing.
as for flirtatious, don't try. it will just happen and you'll be like "wow. i can't believe i just said/did that".
and no, it's not weird for a girl to make the move. just don't try and copy the moves guys make. do what feels right.
AND you can tell a guy likes you if he talks to you a lot when you're out together with friends or whatever. he'll call you to say hi or because he's bored. he'll just seem interested and not completely blow you off or pretend like you're nothing in front of other girls.
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this question sounds simple enough..but when you i really think about it, its not. How do you know the difference between truly liking someone, and just WANTING to like someone? you know how you can get addicted to having a crush? that feeling you get. so how do you know when you like the guy, for everything he is, versus liking him just because you want to like someone, and hes just there. (link)
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liking someone is when you know the person well enough (like friends/best friends) and when you think about that person and wish they were there, you don't do it just because they're "hott" or whatever; you want them there because when you talk to them, they make you feel good, or you like the conversations you have, etc.
WANTING to like someone is when you pick the first hottie you see and you say "oh he's so cute i wish he was here so i can look at" but really, you don't know what they're about. or if you know the person and you picture yourselves together, it'll seem really weird.
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iam 25 and my family members r arrange marriage with my uncle's daughter(my mother's brother's daughter) i hear that some genetic problem arise if we marry in own family is it correct (link)
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what kind of "genetic problem"??
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okay, so i have this really confusing problem.
now theres this guy i was really starting to like,
and he told me he liked me to.
but the other day at school, when i was talking to him, he completely ignored me, or atleast i thought he did. he wasnt like a complete jerk, but i dont know it was just like akward, like he wasnt paying enough attention to me. and then the other weekend we went to the movies with my friends, and apparently when i left, he told his friend he didnt like me anymore. and yesterday, i left early from school, so i told my friend to ask him if he liked me, and she said he said "i dont know." and she said, "its yes or not" and he said "ugh? why? i guess no" but then again, my friend who asked him kinda likes him too, so she could be making this all up. but i wanna ask today on the bus if he likes me, and if he said that he didnt to my friend.
but like what am i supposed to say?
haha like what do i ask him?
should i be like, "hey my friend told me that you didnt like me, and i just wanna know straight up, because i dont wanna just be played. so if you just wanna be friends, tell me, and if you dont, then okay."
WRITE BACKKKKKKKKKK (link)
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what you said is fine, and you could possibly add in "i've heard some things about you liking me and not liking me, so i want to know what's true."
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well, i have a boyfriend, and he really likes me and i really like him...the thing is that one of my best friends really likes him (i found this out through one of my other friends, and that my friend that likes him said " i really wanna go out with him, but i dont wanna hurt her (me) feelings") im not supposed to know about this bbut now i do and it really bugs me because i have to pretend that i dont know and im really scared that my boyfriend will dump me for her...i really wanna be nice and considerate, but at the same time i just wanna be like "Back Off!" so im really confused as to what to do and im really stressed out from worrying and keeping it a secret. (oh yeah and its like really hard for me to talk to her face to face without feeling angry or like im gunna spill that i know) what can i do for this to die off and that my friend will stop liking my boyfriend?! its just really hard for me because i have has numerous boyfriends who have dumped me for my best friend...and i just dont want that to happen again....what do i do???? (link)
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i totally understand. you need to talk to your boyfriend even though you might not want to about an issue like that. just ask him what he thinks about your best friend and if he likes her, etc.. then you'll know whether to get like "RAWR" or not. if he says he doesn't like her, make sure he's telling the truth, and if he really means it, then talk to your best friend and say that you've noticed things and that she shouldn't be flirting or whatever because he IS yours. don't be nice, but don't be mean. be confident.
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i need to do more facials while i cheer. i do them pretty good during the actual performance, but i feel ridiculous doing facials to the wall or just to my coach. i feel like i look stupid. and its not as easy as just "not caring how i look" cuz it feels awkward haha. im captain, so its crucial that i have that down! any helpful tips? thanks! (link)
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what might look stupid to you looks good to others (performance wise). cheer facials show energy, so if you're making faces at the wall, just pretend it's a crowd and you're showing 'em what you got
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hello,
ok i've been friends with this boy for a year now..and since May we've been actting like best friends...alot of people ask if were dating.He's amazing. Cute,smart and funny. But like all good things theres a down fall. He's a bit of a flirt and still has many of he's ex-girlfriends in his life. Which isn't a bad thing. I mean i still have ex-boyfriends who i'm cool with...but he acts as if he likes them.All of them.It's like at football games he's all over them...taking myspace pics and so on. Then when were alone he shows how much he cares. He'll give me flowers..and leave a vociemail of the 'Great Escape' by BoyslikeGirls. He says it's "our" song..He'll say things that hit my heart. But i can't tell him how i feel because i just feel so torn. I mean if i want to date someone i don't want them talking to 1543156574 different girls. So what should I do? I feel lead on but i don't want to see it like that...alot of my friends dislike him. I really don't understand him half the time...lame. Help me out.
thanks -xo (link)
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well, he probably acts flirty towards his ex's because he dated them once, so he originally had those feelings towards them anyways. and i don't mean to make you feel bad or anything, but there's a possibility that he does the same thing to all the other girls, unless you KNOW he doesn't. but he's probably not really serious about you if he flirts with all the rest, otherwise he'd tone it down. he probably just thinks "i'm a playa!" and thinks he can get away with it. if you really want to know if he's serious, put him to the test. flirt with other guys and talk about it and see his reaction, or something better if you get what i'm saying.
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okay well me and alex. broke up yesterday, he broke up with me and said it would probably be better if we were just friends. now i want to be his friend but we have 7th and 8th period together, and today all i did was think about him and today he left early and as soon as he left as SOON as he walked out the door i couldnt hold it in. i was crying like crazzy. i want to be his friend i really want too, but im afraid that if i talk to him all the time. and see him with other girls im going to like him the rest of this year, and be jelous constantly. hes not the HOTTEST guy ever, hes cute and has the BEST personality. it wont be easy trying to tell myself that we will probably never go back out. so my question is how am i supposed to talk to him and be his friend and not show him that i like him. cause i know that if i talk to him im going to like him and never stop. and i want to just from now on think of him as a friend as hard as that may be.
thanks in advanceee! :D (link)
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if you let your feelings for him get in the way, you're gonna keep breaking down and that's not what you want. you want to be strong, and if he ends up rejecting you, you need to be able to move on. i understand how that is and it's gonna be crazy emotional, but you need to get in the mind frame that you don't NEED a boyfriend to make yourself happy. as long as you're just friends with him, show him that that's alright with you but always keep the door open, ya know? talk to other guys, do more stuff with your friends to keep your mind off of it. you just need to keep yourself kinda distracted.
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i have a 4gb ipod nano.. i recently tried to sync it and it didnt work cuz i had too many songs, not enough room. idk what i did but now all my songs.. all 815 of them.. are not on my ipod ANYWHERE, and when i took songs off and tried to update it again, it says that it can't sync ipod because all playlists trying to be sync-ed are not longer existant. what do i do ?! i tried restarting my ipod and that didnt work either.. (link)
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take it back to the store you bought it and explain what happened. they will probably replace it (hopefully you have insurance on it).
but if you can't do that, email the people at Apple.
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me and my Bf has like 4 years thogether ,From the first time I did sex I really didn't like it at all but I just did it because off him
But now is extra boring and I really never want to do it ,...he asked me what was going on and I couldn't answer him
It's not that I don't love him anymore ,but I don't want to have sex
I even sometimes cry because I don't want to do it and if I do it and did want to ,...I ussualy cry afterwards in the bathroom
Is this normal ?
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it's because you're being pressured into something you don't want to do. like....a test. if you didn't study for it, you're not ready and you freak out.
maybe you're just too young, but you shouldn't have to do it just because HE wants to. it's your life, you tell him straight up.
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does anyone know a site to find new r&b and hiphop songs that just came out like today and the last few days i dont want any old songs
or does anyone know any new songs that just came out in the last week or so? (link)
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download iTunes
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i have...
broke my foot
broke my toe
broke my right arm
broke my left arm
hyperextended my right knee and pulled the ligaments
got tendonitis in both my knees
sprained my left arm (shoulder , elbow and wrist)
and now i have a herniated disk in my back
besides the broken foot and toe all the rest happened within the last 2 years!
is something wrong with me because i cant take this anymore. im very active with sports and it seems like im getting hurt everyother week.
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you need to take vitamins or improve your diet. eat healthier...go to your doctor and ask his opinon. eat bananas!
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ok i need help, my boyfriend and i have been going out for 5 months now and we were friends for a year, hes perfect and he treats me very very well.and we both love each other very much also.but 4 years ago i feel in love with a guy and we were planing on dating and things didn't happen that well because my best friend at the time made up lies about me which he believed and later ended up dating her.now that he knows the truth he wants to come back to me and start dating me but i cant because i love my man and i wouldn't hurt or leave him.. but on the other hand i want pay back and i want to see what it would have felt like if i was his girlfriend because i still have small feeling for him... can anyone plz help me out .. plz (link)
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don't leave your current man. you shouldn't be with a guy that will believe a load of crap (the ex love) and you shouldn't be in a relationship just for revenge. just be friends with him, if anything, and maybe best friends. if you really do love your current man then you wouldn't be having second thoughts about your relationship.
just think of it this way...with your ex love, he had his chance to be with you and he was naive so it's done and in the past.
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Ok 16/f
My first question is
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 2 months now. He is amazing, the best boyfriend I have ever had. But, I just dont feel that butterfly sort of feeling I used to before we were going out. Theres this other guy, I dont have a crush on him I dont think, but we flirt ALOT. I sort of get that feeling wtih him, like that I want him to touch me and I want to touch him feeling. But, he has a crush on my friend. What do I do so im not jealous? Do I tell the boy i flirt with my feelings for him? How can I get over being jealous? I dont know what to do, i feel like im cheating on my bf.
And can you guys give me a list of songs that are about how you have a boyfriend, but you like another guy?
THANKS!!! xoxoxo (link)
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you probably don't feel that butterfly feeling because you're used to him and technically it's not cheating (even though you can't help your feelings), but it's not right.
you might need some time away from both of those guys, maybe for a day or two, like the weekend or something. and think long and hard about it. think about being in your current relationship and how happy you are vs. a relationship with the other guy, given the fact that he likes your friend, and how happy THAT would make you.
maybe you're feeling like your bf is more of just a best friend type guy and you want to experience something else.
and a good song would be "unfaithful" by rhianna (sp?)
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ok im a guy i really like this gurl and i told her everything and ive even told out friends, ok o today after school i walk up to where we usually meet and this random girl that i dont talk to comes up and says STAY AWAY FROM HER,and the reason she said that is because her bestfriend likes the same girl im going for. so ok long story short,i want this girl and this girl doesnt want me to talk to her at all ever what do i do ? BETTER FROM A GIRLS POV (link)
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try to talk to "your girl" whenever you know her friend won't be around (maybe during lunch or if you have a class together) or maybe write her a note, whichever works best, and ask what's up with her friend. ask her if it's HER choice not to talk to her or if it's just her friend's problem. make sure she knows it's not about the "liking" part, it's about your friendship.
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I was a total wreck in school but since I'm in high shcool thsi year, I thought that I could start fresh.
I want to be peoples' friends but I'm really shy about how to like get up to talk. I can't randomly say "hey can i be your friend?" even though i want to.
I have a kid liek brain so I dunno, there's some people i found in my class that i want to be friends with so i thought that i should first start by adding them on Facebook.
I'm even too nervous to simply add them because adding them as friends means that they are ym friend! >.<
I invited some and for a mesege i wrote "I hope we can be friends!"
Do you think that's ok? retarded? please, give your opinions and advice, im open (link)
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go for it. they don't know you, so they shouldn't really judge you. just be your own person so when they talk about you they can say "oh yeah that's that one kid who..." and not have to say "oh they act different all the time". don't be too desperate either. friends (good friends) come with time. just talk to them in class, pay attention, help them out with work. it works best. once you make one friend, and you're doing a work group type thing, ask if you could join and then talk to the rest of them.
just be yourself, really.
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17/f. I have a boyfriend whom I love to death and I think the world of him. He is just great. We are used to spending pretty much every day together but lately over the past three weeks we have both not seen each other because we both have other commitments in new collages and courses and family etc. So we don't get to see each other. He bought me a beautiful present for my birthday and I just want to either write to him (we usually do this) and tell him how much he means to me and how much I miss him. I am a bit stuck about what to write though. We always write to each other and give each other notes when we see each other but I always seem to be saying the same things. What should I tell him?
The other idea I had was to make him something really special and give it to him.
Does anyone have any ideas of what I should do??
Thanks so much to anyone who can heko,
This means heaps to me.
xx (link)
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i'm sure if you were to write to him, you'd want to write FOREVER and that's okay. do it. tell him how much you love him, how much he means to you, and how hard it is to say it sometimes. it works (trust me). maybe write a little poem, or add in figurative language to your little love letter. make him laugh and say how cheesy you feel writing all that love stuff to him.
and if you wanna give him something, go for it. get him something that suits his interests. or, put a picture of you two in a frame and say "i'll never forget that day" or something.
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