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im so confused!
well, i have a boyfriend, and he really likes me and i really like him...the thing is that one of my best friends really likes him (i found this out through one of my other friends, and that my friend that likes him said " i really wanna go out with him, but i dont wanna hurt her (me) feelings") im not supposed to know about this bbut now i do and it really bugs me because i have to pretend that i dont know and im really scared that my boyfriend will dump me for her...i really wanna be nice and considerate, but at the same time i just wanna be like "Back Off!" so im really confused as to what to do and im really stressed out from worrying and keeping it a secret. (oh yeah and its like really hard for me to talk to her face to face without feeling angry or like im gunna spill that i know) what can i do for this to die off and that my friend will stop liking my boyfriend?! its just really hard for me because i have has numerous boyfriends who have dumped me for my best friend...and i just dont want that to happen again....what do i do????
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Forget Being Nice. SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND if she is doing all this.Tell her how you feel and if she doesnt lisen then tell her loud and clear to BACK OFF. She made me mad at her by just reading this.Like you said it YOUR BOYFRIEND,so she should not be acting like that.
And That Is not being selfish your NOT suppose to share boyfriend.
Dont just go up and yell at her though just tell her what it is.Say "Look ______(her name) i kno you like _____(your bf`s name) and I undrestand that but you need to back off him because i wold not do that to you so please stop because its realy bothering me"
If she still doesnt back off then tell her the MEAN way.But try the Nice way first.
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i totally understand. you need to talk to your boyfriend even though you might not want to about an issue like that. just ask him what he thinks about your best friend and if he likes her, etc.. then you'll know whether to get like "RAWR" or not. if he says he doesn't like her, make sure he's telling the truth, and if he really means it, then talk to your best friend and say that you've noticed things and that she shouldn't be flirting or whatever because he IS yours. don't be nice, but don't be mean. be confident.
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I'd talk to her about it. But first I'd confront the friend who told you that she liked your boyfriend. If you go and start saying that you're really into this guy and that you know she's been flirting with him, she'll get the clue that someone told you, and then everything will be said secretly and there will be more of a lack of trust. Ah, I'm so sorry that sounds confusing.
Basically I'd inform the friend that told you that you're going to talk to the other friend about it. When you talk to her about it, just say something like, "I've heard you like him," or "People have been saying that you've been flirting with him...what's up?"
Best of luck. =)
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