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well, i have a boyfriend, and he really likes me and i really like him...the thing is that one of my best friends really likes him (i found this out through one of my other friends, and that my friend that likes him said " i really wanna go out with him, but i dont wanna hurt her (me) feelings") im not supposed to know about this bbut now i do and it really bugs me because i have to pretend that i dont know and im really scared that my boyfriend will dump me for her...i really wanna be nice and considerate, but at the same time i just wanna be like "Back Off!" so im really confused as to what to do and im really stressed out from worrying and keeping it a secret. (oh yeah and its like really hard for me to talk to her face to face without feeling angry or like im gunna spill that i know) what can i do for this to die off and that my friend will stop liking my boyfriend?! its just really hard for me because i have has numerous boyfriends who have dumped me for my best friend...and i just dont want that to happen again....what do i do????

Forget Being Nice. SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND if she is doing all this.Tell her how you feel and if she doesnt lisen then tell her loud and clear to BACK OFF. She made me mad at her by just reading this.Like you said it YOUR BOYFRIEND,so she should not be acting like that.


And That Is not being selfish your NOT suppose to share boyfriend.

Dont just go up and yell at her though just tell her what it is.Say "Look ______(her name) i kno you like _____(your bf`s name) and I undrestand that but you need to back off him because i wold not do that to you so please stop because its realy bothering me"

If she still doesnt back off then tell her the MEAN way.But try the Nice way first.


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Hi,
14/f
i masturebate and i finger myself and stuff things up my vagina does that mean i have popped my cherry????

thanks

No This Does Not mean you have popped your cherry. Its Possible but very rare. Usally when your cherry is popped you bleed or you feel alot of pain. If you havent then you nothing to worry about sweetie.


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ok well there is this boy that i really like hes 18 and im 14. I saw him on hi5 and i have talked to him through msn and he is really sweet the thing is i want to ask him to be my boyfriend i know he will say yes. But i dont want to go behind my parents back and im scared they may find out they are strict and i know my sister will be disappointed as we have a really close relationship. What shall i do??
thanks a lot
xxx

First Of all this MAN is WAYYYYY too old for you.He is 18 and your 14. He could go to jail for that. I was in the same kind of situation before and i told my mom. My mother kept telling me that all he wanted was sex. When it came down to meeting him.....my mom was right.

You say you saw him on hi5 and you talked on msn.Well sweetie thats call a predator Im not saying thats what he is but he might be.

Talk to him and tell him how old you are.If He already knows then he should know that he can go to jail.


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ok well im 14 and 4 months i havent started my period but my boobs are quite big not huge but are a reasonable size and i have a lot of pubic hair on my vagina and armpits. My sister started when she was 13 she doesnt masturebate i do with carrots and randoms stuff and pens does this affect my period im so scared i think something is wrong with me please help thanks a lot in advance.
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Masturebation has nothing to do with your period. It Will come when its your time to get it. But for now just be glad you dont have ur period yet sweetie. Dont worry about your period for now just have fun.If you dont get it by the time your 18 then you can start to worry but not Now.


There is nothing wrong with you!!!!

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Hello! I am a 17-year old female. I am not sexually active but lately a kind of thick white substance has been coming from my vagina. It doesn't have a smell or anything, but is there something wrong with me? Please help

Its Called Being Turned On. Its Nothing Wrong With you.It Happenes To All Girls.You Say your not sexually active.Well when you do become sexually active it will happen even more.


THERE IS NOTHING WRONG!!!!!!

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I always hate it when my friends meet my other friends because i'm scared they'll start liking them more than me and then they'll start hanging out with each other, leaving me alne and having even less friends.

Is there any way to fix this? This always happens.

If you don't have advice but this happens to you, please say that and share your feelings and opinions on this

If your so called "friends" are doing this to you, then they were not real friend in the first place. Go head introduce your friend to your other friends but before you do that make sure you trust them and when you do, If they do start liking them better then dont worry about it just go on.

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15/f
so i had sex last night and 2 things:
1. i kept on feeling like i had lots of discharge but when i went to the bathroom there was hardly any. is something wrong?

2. i was on top for my first time and basically are you supposed to go up and down or like forward and back when you move?\

thanks.

First Of All No Nothing Is Wrong your going to feel like that alot but its normal for some people.

Second of all you go Up and Down,Back And Forward.Anyway you want to go.Just make sure it feels good to the male.

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