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ok well there is this boy that i really like hes 18 and im 14. I saw him on hi5 and i have talked to him through msn and he is really sweet the thing is i want to ask him to be my boyfriend i know he will say yes. But i dont want to go behind my parents back and im scared they may find out they are strict and i know my sister will be disappointed as we have a really close relationship. What shall i do??
thanks a lot
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First Of all this MAN is WAYYYYY too old for you.He is 18 and your 14. He could go to jail for that. I was in the same kind of situation before and i told my mom. My mother kept telling me that all he wanted was sex. When it came down to meeting him.....my mom was right.
You say you saw him on hi5 and you talked on msn.Well sweetie thats call a predator Im not saying thats what he is but he might be.
Talk to him and tell him how old you are.If He already knows then he should know that he can go to jail.
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One thing to keep in mind here. This fellow is legally an adult, and you're not. If your parents find out about your relationship, particularly if it gets to be physical, they can bring criminal charges against him. Corruption of a minor and statutory rape come to mind, even if you agree to everything the two of you do. Legally, you're not an adult, so you cannot legally consent to sexual activity. If he were younger it would be different from a legal standpoint, but he's not, so there is that possibility. We're looking at ten-year prison sentences.
Do you really want that kind of drama in your life? If your parents decide to press charges, they can make things really difficult for both of you. This is sort of worst-case scenario stuff, but it can happen.
I'd look for somebody younger, if I were you.
Hope this helps.
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Is this strictly an internet relationship? I will advise against this as much as possible.
Here are a FEW reasons why:
*People are different on the internet to what they are in real life. I'm not saying he's a 50 year old paedophile, but of course he would come across as "sweet" online - you can come across as anything and fool anyone.
*You are only 14 - quite an age difference.
*Long distance relationships are extremely tough and it makes it hard to trust the person - they will be going out without you and living their lives.
If it's not an internet/long distance relationship, then I apologize for the above.
but there are still alot of things to think about, considering you are 14. Yes, you might be mature for your age but it still doesn't change the fact if you do anything with him, he can be sent to prison.
Not to mention the fact you have still only talked to him through hi5 and MSN.
My advice to you would be to tell your sister. Talk things through with her and see what she has to say about the whole situation.
You really shouldn't go behind your parents back especially if they are strict. If you want this boy to be your boyfriend, you will need to tell them, because there are alot of things they will need to know and sort out. Although I'm not sure they would appreciate their daughter going out with an 18 year old...
If you can't have him as your boyfriend, it doesn't mean you still can't be great friends. It doesn't always have to be about relationships.
Really think about what you're doing for a minute. It's quite a serious situation and if you're getting your hopes up and becoming too involved, you will get hurt.
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