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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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i will be a new freshman in High school, will i get picked on like in Mean Girl movie?
well here are reason why i might (and i am already being picked on in my bus because they are racist) but i am pretty decent in friends and cliques... i dont get picked on by popular kids
1. i am Asian
so in bus there is my neighborhood and other neighborhood where all black people lives and few of them pick on me for being asian.
2. i am not skinny, i am not obese because when people guess my weight, they guess less then 20 pounds then i actually weigh, but i can lose lot more pounds.
3. i have this enemy who was my ex best friend.
so please help how to avoid those mean racist people in my bus and my enemy... and how to get a boy friend ! =) (sorry about the last one but i am desperate) (link)
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First of all Mean Girls exaggerate High school; sure people get picked on in High School but there is very little one can do about racist and mean people.
However I do have a few tips that might help!
(1) First of all know you can’t change someone else’s view, we all are own governors.
Know this will help you in the next few steps
(2) If someone is picking on you for whatever the reason, they in tells they insecure of themselves. Why does this mater you may ask, well KNOWING THAT and the REASON for picking on someone, one can deduce that they only do it too boost themselves. So by simple deduction all you have to do remove the thing they want most out of you (your pain). This in tells that you pay no attention to them or their antic. How you may ask; that is something you must find on your own. It will not be easy but it will be worth it!
(3) Believe that you are great, that you are special. This will boost your self esteem and people will notice and like being around you if you have high self esteem.
(4) Be your self, don’t follow the “In Crowd” be you own self.
(5) Have fun and enjoy these moments. They are numbered and once there gone there is no returning.
There are more things I could tell you but it is not my place to. I hope this works out for you. And don’t worry about the bf. The time will come for you to have one when you are ready, don’t rush you childhood away for the idea of Love. Best wishes
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know if I helped
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is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong.. (link)
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Like peanut butter in your water, not only dose it mean that the guy is most likely no good (if he is dating someone that far his age. it usually in tells that he can't get a date with someone closer to his own age) but it is also Illegal (look at Michel Jackson thing)!
Both things are bad news and can cause serious problem!
I hope this helps (let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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i have so many guy friends not boyfirends but just friends and well no one will ask me out and i think its because i have so many boys as friends abd i asked one guy out and he told me that he would not go out with me because of all my friends and that theres a good chance thats i could cheet on him i was so mad 8( and sad because i knoew that i would never do that and he still never went out with me im going in to a higher grade but its time for me to have a boyfriend but with all my guyfriends i dont think they would .should i stop being friends with all the guys and start acting more girlie or the boyfriends aren't worth it (link)
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from what u tell me, it sounds like the boy u ask is a bit controling, the fact that he feels supecios when your with other guys is not a good sign.
also relastionships durning Middle & High School time seldom work out. yes by all means go on have dates and stuff, but being in a serius relationship at that time is not wise.
just try to have fun your still young and there are plenty of guys who wont care wether you hang out severle guys or just one. No one has that right toforce you to choose like that.
I hope this helps (let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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is tanning bad for you? what about tanning beds? (link)
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Actually; tanning beds can be worst than tanning outside. There 3 different kinds of UV (all are bad), when you outside your in open area, with other stuff floating in the air that break up the UV rays, also you have combination of all three type of UV. When you’re in a Tanning bed, however you’re getting the full throttle of just one of them.
I hope this help. Let me know if it did.
~Teen Guru~
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im tryin out for freshman girls basketball---i cant do pushups to save my life!! what can i do to work out the "push ups" muscles???
rate 5 for good answers! (link)
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Practice, all ways helps. When doing push-ups thy doing it with another friend (it makes it easier to have some one encouraging). Also listen to music while doing it also helps as well. When you do the actual push ups start off small but strong (that means do not do the weak & partial versions but the full stuff, even if you can’t do that many. One full one is better than 10 partial ones). Also set goals; like try doing 10 push ups in a week, the 20 the next week (or whatever works best 4 you).
And finely try using waits (same rules apply).
I hope this help (let me know if it does)
~Teen Guru~
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hey everyone. first of all i am a 14 female. there is this girl, yes a girl, and she is 17 female. i have liked her ever since LAST august (2004). then, over christmas break i found out she was gay. hang on, let me go back. at the beginning of july(2004) is when i first met her. we started becoming friends around the end of august. so i would say i started liking her at the beginning of august. i play softball from july-the end of september with her. that is the only time i talk to her.. once softball was over last year, we werent friends anymore. well, we were but we never talked and i think she forgot about me. well, ever since softball has been over since last year, she is all i have thought about, and i mean every day i would think about her. every time i think about her i get nervous but happy. like, i dont no, i cant explain it. i dont think this is a crush either. i would do anything for this girl. i mean i would even take a bullet for her. but, now since softball has started, its gonna take a while for us to be friends again. meaning, she hasnt talked to me since softball has started this year. and i no once games start we will become friends. and, she is the only girl i feel like this for, i have never felt this way about ANYONE either. but, she also has other friends on our softball team that im sure she hooks up with. i mean when i see her, i dont no its just shes soo pretty and i cant help but stare. so, my question is, do you think this a crush, love, or obsession? one more question, does this mean i am straight, bisexual, or lesbian? (link)
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I think (2 answer your 1st question) that maybe you are confusing Love as a Dear Friend & Love as "Lovers". Love as a Dear Friend is like when you are best friends to someone and then they move away. There’s that emptiness inside. It is natural to feel that way. But Love as in “Lovers” is of course is a different kind of love, it is a bond between two people of the opposite sex, yes I said opposite (and I will say no more on that subject), where you become a different & complete person (if you like to know more on this subject ask me later).
Now on to the 2nd question; the only way one can be as you put it “straight, bisexual, or lesbian” is if they CHOOSE to be! There is little more I can say beyond that. So I will leave you this hope; that you will find yourself in the dark & murky mist of confusion that now is covering around you. may you find what you are searching for.
I hope this help (let me know if dose).
~Teen Guru~
PS Fill free to ask more questions of such matters
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are boys turned off by big feet? (link)
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I guess it depends on the boy, some do other do not, and other don't care. Don't worrie about it too much because u can't doing anything about it.
Best of Luck hope this helps (let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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me and this guy are sorta together... but not bf/gf... weve done some stuff together... and we hang out a lot, but recently hes been making a lot of excuses not to... but how can i tell if im being used... guys points of view too please!! thanks (link)
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It is not always easy to tell if you’re being used; but here are some things to look out for. Also depending on what he using you for will determine what to look for.
If he using you for sexual pleaser; --he’ll always want to touch you, kiss/ make out, push for having sex and stuff, etc.
If he using you to make someone else jealous; he’ll only act heavily involve when the one he wants to be jealous is around or will easily find out about it (in other words, at school/school functions, malls, park or any other public place.
From told me it sounds like he was using if starts doing these things then for no reason just stop. But you must decide on what is really going on. Keep in mind there are other forms of Using people not listed but those are the two must common.
I wish you the best of luck, I hope this helps (let me know if I did).
~Teen Guru~
Let me know how it turns out.
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I'm a LONER,a LOSER,a complete chatter box, and people think I'm anoing,I don't have any cool clothes either,Ialso don't stick to anything a start for exsample:baseketball,music lessons...! How do I make friends or even have them to want to be friends with me and maybe get a guy too like to go out with me? P.S. I'm 13 years old, Female,and super shy. (link)
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I know all 2 well what it feels like to grow up alone. It is not fun, and can cause major repercussions. the key to it is stay true to your self, try hard to motivate your self so u can gain more convince. one you have that people will notice and begin to hang with you.
best of luck. it is not easy but it is possible to over come it. I'm livening proof of it.
~Teen Guru~
Let me know if I helped you in anyway.
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Sorry its kinda long... My boyfriend and I get along really good but he thinks I have too many guy friends. I am pretty good looking *not to sound big headed, its just what people say* so he thinks that whenever I go spend time with him I will cheat on him. He doesn't trust me at all. Just the other weekend I went to see my guy friend I have known since I was born. He moved when we were 6 so I go visit him all the time. My b/f called me every 30 min. to make sure I wasn't cheating on him. He didn't even want me to wear a bathing suit infront of my frnd. Of course while I was there I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. Is there someway I can make him trust me with my guy friends?
Thanks for the help.
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I’m afraid there is very little you can do. You can try talking to him (the bf); assure him you’re not cheating, explain what you have just stated to me, and ask if there is something he wants to talk about (just in case there is something that is troubling that is more deeper than u seeing your friend, but keep in mind there is a possibility that it won’t work. If that happens I can just say give it time, it may be just a phase. From that point you must decide on where to go afterwards.
Best of luck, let me know if I helped in anyway.
~Teen Guru~
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okay well this guy i really like is going out with the prettiest girl in my grade. He isn't a hottie or anything, but I've liked him since 6th grade, and I'm in 8th. The night she asked him out (at a school dance) I was going to work up enough nerve to ask him. I feel like, if I asked before her, he would have said yes; only because we are so close. I was up practically everynight i saw or even talked to him, thinking about him. I started cutting myself i liked him so much. I cut myself only to make myself stop thinking about him. But eventually it just got worse. I want to stop cutting myself, and start taking it like a normal person (link)
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Unfortunately such situation is not unheard of; people get so upset on something miserable and they do something drastic. Fist start talking a Good friend you TRUST, open up to him/her, tell them how you feel about This boy, how your handling. You might be surprise how much it will help opening up to others. I know that it’s not easy to open up to other people, but by keeping it side of yourself as you’ve probably realize, will make you go insane (believe me I know what it like to keep feeling like that inside of yourself). If you keep cutting tell you parents (or someone who trust that is an adult) they will be able to locate some professional help that you might need.
I hope this helped. May you conjure your dilemma and find a way to handle future feelings. Please let me know if this help.
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know how it turns out.
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sport finder
i go to a school where sports mean alot..i have tried a bunch of differnet sports..but none of them work for me..i am tring to stay in shape..but i havent as much since i quit my last sport..i really want to try out for a sport this year..any ideas of which one i should pick..i'm not to good at sports ..but i'm detirmned to do this!
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To answer you question ask yourself what your good at and what you like!
If you find you’re good at or like to….
(1) Run long distances –try going out for cross country, track and field, or soccer
(2) Run short distances –try going out baseball, football, basketball, or tennis.
(3) Hitting things –Hockey, football, tennis, baseball, volleyball,
There are so many different kinds of sports out there, if you want to be good at it then you must (a) enjoy what you doing –no sense putting all that time and effort into something you hate. (b) Practice, Practice, Practice! (c) never lose sight of the dream.
I hope this help, may you find what you wish to see,
~Teen Guru~
P.S. Please let me know if I did.
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my boyfriend and i have had sex now. im really worried about if i get pregnant. should i tell my parents about it?
oh im 14 and hes 15 (link)
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My advices to is DON’T HAVE SEX, if worried about getting pregnant; the best way to prevent is to not have sex in the first place (until you want to have a baby). Beside there are far worse things out there you can get from being sexually active (and not just STI/STD). I’m not trying to scare you but STDs / STIs can not be prevented by a pill, or any other “Protection”. Not to mention if other people find out you could be label as someone who just want sex and nothing else (and I think that is not something you don’t to be know as).
I hope this helps you. (Let me know if it did) sorry if wasn’t what you are wanting to here but as I have stated to many others, I don’t aim to please but to Enlighten.
~Teen Guru~
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Advice needed ASAP!!!!!!!!!
I have recently moved to a smaller place and was not able to take my dog(pitbull)with me so she is now staying with a relative. They also have a dog(pitbullX) which my dog has socialised with for most of her life and they have gotten along fine UNTIL today............ I went for a visit (which I do on A daily basis) and next thing I know they are FIGHTING!!!!! and i dont mean play fighting. There was alot of blood and alot of tears (from me)... and now I am wondering WHAT TO DO???? My relatives aren't happy IM NOT HAPPY and certainly I feel the dogs wouldn't be very happy.I am thinking of buying a muzzle????? but am just not sure.. Does any1 think now that she has had the 'taste for blood' that she will be a vicious dog??? She is usually a lovely dog (until 2day) and now I am having trust issues. My last option will be to put her down :( as I will not be moving for a while... Any advice would be helpful as atm they are tied up and THEY ARE NOT HAPPY. (Oh and the dogs arent SERIOUSLY injured in case you wondering just lots of little cuts and scratches which are being tended to) (link)
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We try the muzzle & keeping them separated them. What it could be (if any or both of them are on the old-ish side) like a “Denial of Age” or “Mid-life Crisis”. Where they try to deceive themselves they are not OLD. They do this by picking fights, running around more than usual, being ornery, and other unusual things. There is nothing really you can do except let it run its course, if it is Denial of Age then it will most likely pass, if they contuse to fight you may need to consult a vet to see what he thinks. Sorry I can’t give more but I hope this helps.
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know if I helped
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ok.. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 1/2 years now... and we are ready to have sex... seeing it as my first time i don't know what to do, at all. how do you start out... how can you keep it from getting awkward?
sincerly,
i am ready (link)
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I have to agree with Panramos one this matter. You’re most likely not ready for it. i mean come on. There are risk of being pregnant, getting STD/SDI (which can not be stopped by "Protection" and other far worst things that I will not mention this time around. Even if you were “Protected” you still can get pregnant and do you honestly think he is going to stay with you if there’s a baby involved (if you thinks your far worst off than I thought). I know, I have seen it many times guys who want Premarital Sex don’t really care about you, they care about what you (or others if you’re not good enough) can give them. You don’t want to do this trust me, you’ll regret down the road everyone will.
I hope this helped. Sorry if wasn’t what you wanted, but I do not write to PLEASE, but to EDUCATE. May you choose the path you want most.
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know if I helped
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This is a long story, theres a shorter question if you want on my next post this is all the details thou ....I'm 14 F, and I really like this guy and we were talking on IM yesterday and I had already told him that I liked him and he said he liked me but that was a long time ago and we kept saying that we'd do something like go to the mall or movies but we never did. So yesterday we were talking and I was like who do you like at the moment, and he's like well theres alot more people flirtin around with me than I am with them. Then I asked like who, and he wouldn't tell me (I knew I was one of them) so anyways I begged and pleaded with him to tell me who else, and he never did, but then he said i wont go out with anyone who likes me right now (meaning me) so then i changed the subject and asked him why he went out with his ex girlfriend and he said it was a long story, then i asked why he liked his ex (its a diffrent question) and he (suprisingly) answered me he said because she was "fun" and he was bored and i was like 'fun meaning..?' and he said like she was just flirty, and i was like oh.. like talking flirty or something else? and he said like something else, and i was like 'what?', and he said like 'touchy' flirty, and i asked would you ever go out with some one like that again? and he said yeah if i could find someone then i said "this is soooo uuuunnnnnfffaiiirrr, yyoooouuu doooonnnttt knnnooowww what i would do if i actually saw youuuu i feell likkke a sssllluuut for saying this but its true!" then he asked what would i'd do if we were alone, then i said id do anything except for sex or stuff with sex in its name (i thought about it like 4 days before and i was going to tell him that i wanted to do stuff but i didnt know how to tell him, got that out of the way) (then i asked him what he thought of me saying that and he said he was intrested, which im glad because i want him) but ive never done any thing before and i dont really know what to do, or what there is to do....
what is there to do like between making out and sex(anykind)???
and if you want to tell me how, that would be more than helpful if you explain what it is
If you give an answer ill give you a 5, no dumb crap thou please! (link)
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As I told someone else who asked another question similar to yours; “that is [Sex] something that should be for one and only one, your spouse (that’s after Marriage).” You do not want to engage in such actives, it will bring you nothing but sorrow & regret.
Guys who ask such request are immature juvenile who have be confused by the Evils of Our Time that try to destroy all that is good. They have become prisoners their own hormones and will remain in that lonely, pathetic state until they relies their can be nothing sweet and lovely about such actions. They will suffer the internal pains from their actions till their last breathe. Trust me, I have see many people (some I cared for greatly) suffer in the very manner which I just spoke of.
I will no more touch on those actions, but I will tell about a group of Guys out there that I know. These young men hold themselves in extreme high standers. They would never dream committing such evil actions. I do not support the premarital sex, the abusement of women, children, or any other similar monstrosity. They are appalled by those who ether support such evils themselves or support those who do support those action (They don’t engage in actives nor watch, read, or listen too things make the actions look innocent. They treat women with the respect they so rightly deserver, they are happy with themselves and with others, they would care for nothing more than see a friendly smile of those they are around. These are the young men that the World tries to hide and or destroy. The World claims such men no longer exist, BUT THEY DO. I have seen them with my own two eyes. I have seen the light then shines bright inside of them. Believe me, my friend they are out there, but you must look for them. They are not hard to find once you know WHERE TO LOOK and WHAT TO LOOK FOR. Finely don’t believe that those types of men are so few in numbers that you’ll never find one, (For that is another LIE) fear not, for they are not as few as one might think and what is even more their numbers are growing.
I hope that this helps you. Sorry that it’s so extensive, but I feel that it will help, best of Luck. Let know if I helped in anyway.
Humbly
~Teen Guru~
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what is there to do like between making out and sex(anykind)(i dont want to do it, but i want to do more than just make out)???
and if you want to tell me how,(ive never really done anything) that would be more than helpful if you explain what it is
5s if you answer it (link)
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First of all congrads for not wanting sex right now, that is something that should be for one and only one, your spouse (that’s after Marriage). If you really want have a good time try actually getting to know them, try something nether of you two have done before (dance, ice skating, Karaoke, etc.), sports, services stuff (soup kitchen, cheer up those in a hospital/nursing home, etc.) and so much more, do those things Now, get know your partner, and if you happen to get married to them, and continue to spend time together you’ll find a love than you never before imagined. I know that “but we Love each other, we should Make OUT”, but if that’s how your relationships stay together (by how well the kissing is) than you’re in for a whole lot of unnecessary sorrow, Think about, most people who get divorce often say “ She changed, He wasn’t the man I married” and other rubbish like that. I personally don’t believe that most of them really changed, they most likely never got to really got to know them. That is why people “Fall Out of Love”; they never were really in love in the first place!
I hope this helps you my friend, I’m sorry if this was not what you wanted to here, but it something I believe you’ll NEED to here. Best of luck out there.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. Let me if I helped you in anyway.
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I go to a day camp, and there is this really nice boy there. His name is Josh, and I like him alot! I dont know what to say though. Im not sure if like he has ever had a girlfriend before and maybe he wont like me back and will never talk to me again. Please tell me what I should do!
-Britt (link)
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Dear Britt
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into letting me get dog? (link)
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Depending on your age, home size, and parents, here is one way that MIGHT work. First talk to her (your mother) explain why you want a dog. Once you explain that tell her what are you willing to do for it (clean in, feed it, buy its food, walk it, pick ups its poo, etc.) you don’t have to do all them. Use MORE of them if you start losing her. Also a help full tip would that you save your Heavy Artilleries (things that would she will be impress by) for later, start off small and work you way up. Note do be TOO willing to do EVERYTHING, you might be getting more than you bargain for.
There are more things you can do, but by doing this method it makes it seem like you’re becoming more responsible (equaling MORE RESPECT!)!
I hope it works out Let me know if I helped and if it works out.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. One more Tip –if your mother still doesn’t believe you would be responsible for a dog, Prove her wrong by doing things around the house without being ask, doing what your ask when you’re ask to, etc. it is a killer move but be warn, Use it as a last resort.
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ok so today my dad invoted me and my bro to go the the batting cages. I went for fun and plus i love baseball. SO i was doing awesome on hitting the baseball and everything but my dad never even payed attention to me. Then he was like why dont you try the softball. and i didnt want to but he made me anyways. But it serioucly screwed up my baseball hitting and i sucked at softball and he was encouraging me there. But like i said he never watched my hitting the baseballs... he was totally ignoreing it. Is he one of those dads that thinks girls cant do sertain sports? i mean i hate softball... but its like he doesnt give me a chance and theres no way im a girly girl... plz help!! sorry that its so long.. (link)
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Well for starters I don't think you should be a "Girly Girl". not there is anything wrong with it, from what you told me, it’s just not you.
Start off telling your dad EVERYTHING you just said, then never let him you who you are, That is not HIS PLACE!
I’m sorry you have such a dad, I have known many that where just as bad, if not worst. but keep this in mind, you’re only stuck with it for a while.
I hoped this helped and that it works out for you. Let me know how it goes and if I helped.
~Teen Guru~
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