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am i being used?!?!
me and this guy are sorta together... but not bf/gf... weve done some stuff together... and we hang out a lot, but recently hes been making a lot of excuses not to... but how can i tell if im being used... guys points of view too please!! thanks
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well if your doing stuff and he doesnt want a relationship he could just want to use you for sexual reasons. he could be one of those guys who just wanna do stuff and leave. which rlly sucks. all i can say is talk to him about it.
and in the future ... if you want to avoid situations like this ...dont do stuff with a guy whose not your b/f yet. some dumb guys will take advantage of that and just use you.
hope this helped :)
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It is not always easy to tell if you’re being used; but here are some things to look out for. Also depending on what he using you for will determine what to look for.
If he using you for sexual pleaser; --he’ll always want to touch you, kiss/ make out, push for having sex and stuff, etc.
If he using you to make someone else jealous; he’ll only act heavily involve when the one he wants to be jealous is around or will easily find out about it (in other words, at school/school functions, malls, park or any other public place.
From told me it sounds like he was using if starts doing these things then for no reason just stop. But you must decide on what is really going on. Keep in mind there are other forms of Using people not listed but those are the two must common.
I wish you the best of luck, I hope this helps (let me know if I did).
~Teen Guru~
Let me know how it turns out.
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You said he's making excuses, well do you see any reason why he would do this?? How often do you get to see him?? And when you DO get to see him, do things get sexual EVERY SINGLE time?? If you took away the sexual perks from past visits... what else happened those times?? Did you talk much?? Have any in depth conversations?? Cuddle any?? See some movies?? Do you laugh and share jokes at all, or is he always preoccupied with meeting other women. In a case like this, I'd assume it's prettie easy to determine whether or not he has feelings for you. But as for WHAT THOSE FEELINGS ARE.. you'll NEVER know until you ASK HIM!! You can ASSUME you know his feelings ALLLLLLLLLLL you want, but the truth is.. that that's ALLLLL it will EVER be - an ASSUMPTION!! And what do you "do" about it??? How should I know??? That's all up to YOU! That depends on your morals and views, ya know?? Some women are perfectly okay with keeping a relationship strictly sexual [and I'm soooooooo NOT knocking on that ;D ;D ;D], but others find it crushing, if not disgusting as well. However, you've already stated that you like this guy, so I'm going to pressume that this hurts you a great deal, so why not talk to him about it? I realize this is easier said that done, but I think it's best to just flat out ask him. Don't beat around the bush, just say it. Just be bold, be honest, and go for it. If you want to know for a FACT what's in his heart, you MUST question him on this. Make it clear to him that you want to take your friendship 'to the next level'. And he won't be mad or angered, because it's a perfectly legitimate question. You're just asking for clarification that he will committ himself to you 130% in this relationship, JUST AS IT NEEDS TO BE, and he will understand this. Tell him all that he means to you; don't be afraid to get deep and personal, as this may enhance your chances with him. Hopefully, this will get him to open his eyes and accept all of the beauty and splender he has right infront of him. =]
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I'm not a guy, but maybe i can help. Try being honest with him for starters. Sit him down and bring up how you've been feeling. Something might really be up and he doesn't have a lot of time. So don't be accusing of him. Just ask him what's up lately ya know??? It'll work out!!!
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