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Ive seen this girl I like. How do I go about asking her out on a date? What are the steps and how do I do it?
Im a 15/m nearly 16. Please help, I rate 5's for great advice.

dont leave it too long, she mnight get taken. try and ake oppertunities to talk to her and flirt with her and then just honestly ask her out. Give her time to think about it if she needs, as long as your not sleezy and dont use a "line" she'd be lucky to have you. good luck xxxx

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okay im trying to lose weight this summer. i already know how im going to exercise but what are some good foods that i can make and are easy which are healthy?

please dont tell me fruits cuz i already know that. thanks.
ill rate high!

A calorie controlled diet is a must. Yoghurt, whole grain, skimmed milk. anything thats low in calories and saturated fats really. Keep away from fried foods and check the nutrition information on the back. best of luck xxxx

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i have this friend called Matt who i've been mates with for a couple of years now. he confessed he liked me early last year, then got a girlfriend and we just stayed friends. they broke up last year. well a few months ago, we were in his room and kissed. now we're basically together, seeing each other constantly. i really, really like him and have ever since we met.

problem is.. there's this other guy online, named Pete. i live in the USA and hes in france. we're sorta in a internet relationship. however, i'm not getting to see him until earlyish next year when he flies out. i haven't told him about my "friend" because quite frankly, i'm not sure what to say.

i feel like i'm stringing two guys along. everyone tells me i'm not doing anything wrong because my online guy is so far away. but i still feel guilty. i'm not going out with matt officially but we do act like it.

i don't want to "break up" with pete because hes spending all this money to see me, and i feel that would be unfair. however, i really like matt and it would be perfect if it wasn't for the timing.

i just would like some opinions on this situation. should I just continue what I'm doing? am i a cheater? i never intended for things to get like this, and it's depressing me to think of what i could be doing. i wish things weren't so complicated.

thankyou. 5's for everyone.

If you feel its wrong it probably is. But everyone does something they shouldnt from time to time. Your probably intending on doing stuff with this guy whos flying out to see you. When your with matt - thats wrong. Talk to matt, see hjow exclusive you are. He might be ok with it. I would personally stick with your friend. Long distance realtionships are harder and less fun. Purely up to you. best of luck xxxx

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i'm a 16/m and
i dunno if this is in the right category or not but is it fine that i'm a guy and i shave...everywhere besides armpits and bellow the knees???
i mean i'm pretty athletic looking and really fit...so i thought its just a normal athlete thing.
but some people notice and ask me and its kinda embarassing. some girls like it. some think i'm a freak. i just dont know what to think about it.
i guess i just like the smooth look, body hair is wierd.

Its a preference thing. But most girls will probably tell you they dont mind either way. Whatever you feel comfortable with. xxxx

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I'm feeling bad about something. Well last night after work one of my friends asked me if I'd like to go out to the bar to meet one of her single guy friends. She said he was really nice but he had a handicap- he walks with two canes. Well I met him and he was a nice guy- he kept engaging me in converstation. What I didn't like was he seemed a little pushy- he was already asking what I was doing on my day off and wanted my number. I gave it to him out of guilt. Honestly I was not attracted to him- his handicap had nothing to do with it. Anyways I told my friend afterwards that he was a nice guy but I didnt want to date him- she said "why"? He would treat you like gold- and thinks it's because of his handicap. I told her I just didnt feel a chemitsry. She said she understands. Anyways- what am I going to do when this guy phones me?

Tell him you are fine with being friends but you arent interested in anything more than him. Its unfair to make him think he has a chance with you if he doesnt. Make sure you tell him what a great guy he is. best of luck xxxx

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What do you think is a good rate in Great British Pouns Sterling for 5 hours babysitting?

£15-£20? just a guess, for 5 hours im guessing thats probably common. any more than that is good on yuo. any less, then you might wanna say something! xxxx

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Yet, I still find myself caring.

I used to go to language school early last year with this guy I met there and we spoke a bit then I left and we spoke sometimes on MSN. Well tonight we were talking and he basically joked "What's a hot sexy girl like you doing alone" and I asked if he really meant that, and he said then I wasn't hot and sexy at all, and I would be if I wore a bit more makeup. I felt very upset by this comment and got mad at him and called him a whole lot of names, and said I was only nice to him because I felt sorry for him, blah blah blah. I didn't mean a word I said.
Well he just emailed me, not apologizing or anything, but saying he was upset by what I said, and that its true i wasn't the most attractive girl there, everyone else was prettier but he doesn't try and sugarcoat things. Then he went on to say he feels horrible he wasted effort and breath on me when i was only being nice to him because i felt sorry. He said this cut him pretty badly because he thought we could've been friends.

Should I apologize to him? I have absolutely zero interest in him, but I feel guilty now. He did hurt me pretty badly though. I don't take comments about my appearance too well. Then again two wrongs don't make a right. I did insult him pretty badly. So what do I do? Sorry this is so long.

explain to him that what he said hurt you to, you have as much right to an apology as he is. If you are sorry for what you said then yes apologise, but make sure you let him know you didnt mean what you said, and that you said those things out of hurt. he owes you an apology, if he doesnt give you one, then dont talk to him and forget all about it. if he does say sorry back, then maybe you guys could be friends... best of luck xxxx

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For homework i have to write a modern day blurb for a book on romeo and juliet.

Im really struggling to write it. i just cant think

i cant give away to much of the plot but need to make it interesting to grip people to want to read it

can any one give me any ideas?? xx

How bouts: romeo and juliet is a tragic love story about two people finding ways to be together dispite the feud between their families.
and add some other stuff that basically summarizes it. Best of luck xxxx

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For school i have to write a diary entry for one of the characters.

my task says :
Choose what you think is a turning point in the play. Write a diary entry for one of the characters who are part of this scene. Make sure you include all the details of what happened. Remember that people add their thoughts and feelings to the events they write in their diaries.


ive thought of a few turning points but dont know what to write and which character to use..
Eg.
- When Romeo gets sent to Mantua and Friar Lawerence cant get the letter to him in time to tell him of Juliets 'death'.
- The very end of the play when the Capulets and Montagues realise what there on going fued has caused, the death of there children and other relations and settle there differences.
- When Romeo meets Juliet and all his thoughts for Rosaline are binned.


can any one think of any other turning points? and what i could write? a few bullet points would help me sooo much and i will love you all forever :)


Can any one help me?? FIVES ALL ROUND :)

hey, i just did romeo n juliet in english. I think you should use the last one as its pretty straight forward. if you choose this one then its probably best to be either romeo or juliet... lol. If you choose romeo, mention his infatuation with her. He worships her. Use lines from the play that he says when he first sees her. Then at the end, write about how he feels finding out shes a capulet and about his determination not to give up. If you choose juliet... well... its pretty much the same really, apart from shes not as outspoken in her feelings so its probs better to do romeo. Hope i helped, best of luck xxxx

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Ok, heres my question. Around October, I found the blog of an Australian girl on the Internet. She'd kept the blog for about a year before I read it. I started noting it and we added each other on MSN. Now we're pretty good email friends, strange as it sounds, I always seem to have tons to talk about to her. We never set out to email, it just started out kind of accidentally.
Anyway, she recently found out that a friend of her fathers is opening a chain of coffee shops and has offered to send her over here (England) to work there. She's always wanted to travel and is really thrilled by this. Anyway, she's going to be in a town about 2 hrs on the train from where I live and obviously she suggested meeting up. Well I have absolutely no reason to doubt she's genuine (ie. not a dangerous rapist) except for the fact she's an Internet friend. I've swapped photos with her and read her friends blog, and I'm planning to speak to her on the phone before we meet up, and it'll definately be somewhere crowded in the middle of town. I'm not telling my parents about her, although I'll tell my friends. My question just is - are there any other precautions I should take to be 100% safe? I'd really really appreciate a detailed answer,
Thanks so much in advance,
Me :):)

Telling your parents is a good idea. Im thinking the reason you dont want to is because maybe you know they wont let you or you know oyur doing something dangerous. Take a few friends. Meeting in a crowded place is a brill idea. Make sure you take your mobile and that you have lots of credit. Take some extra cash aswell incase all goes wrong. Be careful and you will be fine. If you meet up and she seems to be everything she said she was still be a bit careful. If she suggests coming back to hers, still say no. Explain to her why. She'll understand. Go though. Definatley go. Have fun! best of luck xxxx

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Ohk i have a job. And the problem is i should be getting 20 hours a school week. And 40 hours on a break. Well on a regular week i only get 8 and half hours and on breaks i only get 15 hours.

Its been like this since December. Its really aggravating me because a girl the same age as me is getting more hours then me like 5 hours more.

Im thinking about searching for a new job. Because i need the hours and the money. Would it be a good idea to go out and look for a new job?

Dont tell me that i should start getting more hours soon i highly doubt it.

I work really hard at the job i have now. The girl my age hates working and complains more then anything in the world. I dont get it.

I would really like to know what you guys think i should do.

Ask your boss for more hours. If for some reason they cant give it to you, look for a new job but make sure it is one you will enjoy and can give you more hours than you are doing now and more money. Best of luck xxxx

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There is this boy who lives in SC who is going to be 16.(I am going to be 14)He knows how I look. I think he is really cute, but I don't know if he likes me. He has a GF, but I don't care. Anyway,he is suposed to come and live with my family after spring break, but I scared what to do. Can you help me?

You know, I was going to tell you to go for it... That was until i read the answer before mine. Im 15 and my bf is 17. The age gap isnt important. But, if my bf went to live with some other girl for a spring break (god forbid) i would hate it if some girl ruined everything. Dont get me wrong, ive split up a couple or two before. But no one wants it to happen to them. Girls think of other girls as their worst enemy half the time. When really we should all be sticking together... whatever happened to girl power? You should be loyal to your fellow sex. However if he looses his gf then totally go for it. I wish you the best of luck! (sorry bout the girl power thing i went on a bit) xxxx

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I have a male friend who has this annoying habit. Well everytime that I phone him, if I start talking to him he'll always cut me off about 5 minutes into the converstation and say "my ears are getting wet". What does that mean, and is it some mean way of him saying he doesnt want to listen to me? Other times I've phoned him and he sounds happy to hear from me at first, but then if I tell him a story about another guy he'll say in a huff that he has to go. What's up with this?

I think you know...

sounds like he likes you...

But the ears getting wet thing... thats just weird. Doesnt he have speakerphone or something..?

Anyways, what you do is up to you. But remember, if you decide to either pursue this or ignore it, (or tell him theres no chance in hell how could he ever ask blah blah blah) make sure you are careful not to hurt anyones feelings.

You dont want to loose a friend.

Best of luck xxxx

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I go to a school thats about.. 40% black/minority. I'm a 17 y/o senior in highschool and many of my friends are black (I'm white).. and many of tha guys I've dated are black. I listen to mainly "black" music, but I don't discriminate, its just what I know. But my uncle is soo racist and ALWAYS harrasses me. He calls me n-lover (you know) and does tha dumbest things like knocking on tha front door and saying "Chelsie, its an N, better come get tha door!"..hes so immature. My mom always yells at him when shes around (a lot of her friends are black too), but I dont live w/ her and shes hardly ever around.. I live w/ my grandparents and they dont say anything to him about it. He just makes me so angry b/c he comes around a lot and acts like hes better than black folks but hes NOT.. he doesnt take care of his kids and he has a 6-year old daughter who hasnt even started school yet which is ILLEGAL! Ugh, hes gay. I cant stand him. I just dont know what to do about him. He always says stuff like "I know this girl who would kick your ass for $20".. thats hilarious to me. One time I told my (black) friends cousin about it (hes 27) and he ended up coming to my house when my uncle was here and trying to get him to come outside so he could fight him.. and what did my uncle do.. NADA! Stayed inside like a little -----! well.. yea, what should I do about him.. I just feel like shooting him. LOL. Sorry.. long rant.

Its good, just get it all out... Tell him this! He's obviously a ---- (lol sorry)Yell at him! Tell him what you have told us. Explain to him that it really gets to you and that he shouldnt critisize others until hes perfect - which he seems very far from. (especially as perfect people dont critisize) so ive heard anyways... just stick up for yourself. If he he tells you to answer the door and makes even that racist then just dont answer the door. Try talking to your grand parents about it. Ask them why they dont say anything when he makes racist comments and explain why it upsets you. If all else fails, i might know someone on that gun issue. Lol. Best of luck xxxx

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k so i've had a major crush on this guy brian but his best friend davis has a crush on me and now its ruining everything... its like a competition because i'm pretty sure my crush likes me too, i wish davis didn't like me and wouldn't care about me and brian.. haha so basically i don't even know what to ask besides how do i fix the problem?

this is a really hard question i know but seriously ANY advice is worth hearing


*i'm a 15 yr old girl if that matters

Talk to Davis, explain that you know he likes you but you wanna just be mates. Then let that set a bit. Then move in on Brian. If you like him you shouldnt sacrifice your self just because someone else likes you. Try not to make the situation messy. Be careful and best of luck xxxx

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Ok, I was recently in a relationship, and I was dumped. So now i have my eye on this cute guy who i like and he likes me. But because im not dating someone i feel like im like gay, but i no im not cause i love this boy. and I DO NOT desire girls!!!eww. im just confused, and need good advice. Its kinda the past thats bugging me, and i know i cant change it. I kissed a girl, because she forced me, i never wanted to but i did:-(! and thats bugging me now, it was about 3 years ago! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

You didnt even want to kiss her! your not a lesbian. Its natural to experiment anyways. Go for it with this guy. Everyone doubts themselves. You will be fine, i promise. You're straight - embrace it. Best of luck xxxx

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Okay.. so I'm not exactly sure where to start..So I'll just tell a little from the past and mostly from this year.. 7th grade I started to become moody, easily irritated, and less social. Mind you, I'm very shy, So I've never been too social my whole life. Maybe going a few places here and there, But I just didn't want to go anywhere anymore. I started cutting, I stopped eating because I became self-conscious over my weight, Then at the end of the year I started cutting even more, and I always thought about death. 8th grade I became even more less social, but I stopped cutting during the middle of the year. I lost my friends a few times because of rumors, & lies. So I became even more upset. Then I started not to care, and nothing really bothered me anymore. My grades did go up a bit, and I wasn't cutting, I had stopped taking so much pills, I even tried to become closer with my family. Now, I've become more upset than ever. I pretend I'm happy when I'm really not, and I can't even sleep anymore. I probably get about 3 hours of sleep a week. I'm still self-conscious about my weight so I haven't been eating, my hairs been falling out, and I don't even come out of my room anymore. I've tried asking my mom to take me to the doctor, or to a therapist, but she just won't do it. I sit in my room for hours at a time, Just sitting there staring at the wall and thinking about what it'd be like if I wasn't here. Because of a silly rumor, I'm farther away from the best friend I've had since 4th grade, So now I don't even talk. I constantly think somebody's mad at me even when I haven't even done anything. My dad is continuously downrating me, I've been exhausted, mentally and physically and my grades are dropping from a 3.0 to a .5. I don't know what to do, I've asked to get help but my mom just won't let me, and I have no other way of getting it. I'm suffering from withdrawal from the pills and it's driving me crazy. I'm tempted to go back to use them, and I've even considered overdosing on them. It just feels like nobody cares how I'm feeling. They always try and help everyone else but they just leave me hanging. I've always helped and been there for my friends. It just feels like I'm trapped in something that I'll never be able to get out of. I just don't know what to do.Everyday I get these panic attacks and I just break down crying and screaming, sometimes I even abuse myself. I want to stop but I can't, It just doesn't go away.

-Sorry for this being so long.

Get help yourself. I understand, i feel like i could of wrote that. But im not a profesional or anything. And believe me you need one (dnt take it to heart - every1 on here told me i was skitz). But yeah, get the help your self. There are voluntary organisations everywhere which are confidential and if you go to the doctors yourself he can refer you to a psychiatrist or something, then your mum will have to take you. Everythings confidential these days. Look on the internet about services that might help you. Go for it. If your mum isnt going to be there for you when you clearly need her, then be there for your self. If you get there, and actually talk to someone, dont hold back, tell them everything. It wont always be like this. best of luck xxxx

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I love singing, I've been singing on stage since I was 3. People say I'm good so I guess I am. But I also love drumming. I started that when I was 5. Next year I'll be in High School and the way the system works, I can't do choir and band. I really love both alot. Which do you think I should go for.

Drummer. Lol. I dont think drmming is a cult... sorry. Drumming is an instrument. You never know, you may loose your voice, start smoking and it goes all crap. It might just change when you get oldffer. Dont give up singing. I would love to be able to sing. You dont forget how to drum, not if your good. What do you enjoy best? Dont do what people tell you to, do what will make you happiest. Best of luck xxxx

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I left my boyfriend behind when I left for university but we're still together and I want to send him something nice for valentine's day. We've been together for nearly two years although we've been friends for longer than that.

As I already mentioned I'm a student so my present budget is minimal and whatever it is needs to be posted. I'm going to make a card but I want to send something else.

My boyfriend is 18 years old, he's in a band (he's the screamer in a metalcore band), he's quite camp, he likes films (we met working together at a cinema), he likes clothes (slightly flamboyant although also indie/punk/emo style).

Any ideas? I don't want to give him something 'too' cutesy and definitely nothing cliched.

You could get him a pink belt, or a DVD, or CD, what I think would be sweet is if you get an evelope, put some rosepetals in it and spray it with a cool fragrance and have some HMV vouchers or something. Then you know he'll like the gift and its kinda romantic aswell so its not too boring. Why dont you go visit him for valentines day? Im sure that you are the best present he could recieve. You could get him a jokey present on the side, like some cough sweets... (screaming hurts my voice personally). You could go on the net and get some Vans or conversers cheap and get them delivered to his house instead of yours. Hope I help. Best of luck xxxx

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I have Tonsurephobia. I am being treated for it, but my school is making me have my hair cut because its too long and its against the rules. What should I do?

Thanks
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Hey, Im sure that if you tell your school, they will leave you alone about it. Ask your parents to go in and talk to them. They wont make you do anything if you honestly have it. Dont worry. Best of luck xxxx

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