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N-word lover (kinda long)
I go to a school thats about.. 40% black/minority. I'm a 17 y/o senior in highschool and many of my friends are black (I'm white).. and many of tha guys I've dated are black. I listen to mainly "black" music, but I don't discriminate, its just what I know. But my uncle is soo racist and ALWAYS harrasses me. He calls me n-lover (you know) and does tha dumbest things like knocking on tha front door and saying "Chelsie, its an N, better come get tha door!"..hes so immature. My mom always yells at him when shes around (a lot of her friends are black too), but I dont live w/ her and shes hardly ever around.. I live w/ my grandparents and they dont say anything to him about it. He just makes me so angry b/c he comes around a lot and acts like hes better than black folks but hes NOT.. he doesnt take care of his kids and he has a 6-year old daughter who hasnt even started school yet which is ILLEGAL! Ugh, hes gay. I cant stand him. I just dont know what to do about him. He always says stuff like "I know this girl who would kick your ass for $20".. thats hilarious to me. One time I told my (black) friends cousin about it (hes 27) and he ended up coming to my house when my uncle was here and trying to get him to come outside so he could fight him.. and what did my uncle do.. NADA! Stayed inside like a little -----! well.. yea, what should I do about him.. I just feel like shooting him. LOL. Sorry.. long rant.
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Honestly, your uncle sounds like a HUGE asshole and he shouldn't be treating black people that way. We're all the same kind of people, just different colors. There's always going to be people that hate black people and people that hate whites. It's always going to be like that. We're never going to be able to stop it. I don't know how you can change your uncles mind about this, I don't even know if you could. If he had an up bringing like this to be against blacks, you won't be able to change is mind. That's just how he thinks because he was brought up this way. Nothing you can do will change his mind.
Maybe you could talk to him about this, though. Tell him that it hurts your feelings and such when he says things like this to you. Tell him it's immature and hurtful because most of your friends are black. Explain to him if he hates black people, to keep his nasty remarks to himself because you don't want to hear it. If he truly cares about you, he'll take what you said to him to heart and will try to change. If not, it's his loss. One day he'll say something to the wrong person and will get what he needs to smarten up. What goes around, comes around, hun. He needs to get a life, seriously and get his kid into school! Wow! He doesn't sound too stable, at all. Maybe you should talk to him about that, too. ♥
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your uncles stupid. blacks and whites both bleed the same color were the same besides or skin color. what i would do is try to talk to you grand parents and tell them that when he says stuff like that that it really pisses you of and if that dont work than start saying stuff about him
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There's not much you can do about it. There will always be people like that. Just look forward to the time when you move on to college or work and you don't have to put up with him anymore. You could get back at him a little by telling your guidance counselor that he hasn't sent his 6 year old to school yet. I'm not sure if that is the right place to go for that, but I'm sure it's a good start. Okay, so your uncle is living with his parents? That's pretty ridiculous. I think that your GRANDPARENTS are the ones that need to do something here. They can force him to get his own place. Talk to them. One more thing. I'm going to quote you directly. "Ugh, hes gay." Now, unless your uncle does in fact like other men, you yourself used a derogatory term. Whether you meant to or not, which I don't think you did, yeah it's right there in writing. Try to kick that habit because you don't want to offend people without even realizing it! Good luck with your uncle and I hope that his daughter gets in school really soon.
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Honestly, your uncle is a retard and needs to die. Now you probably shouldn't have used "N-word lover" for a title because that makes you sound a little racist but I understand that you were quoting your uncle. My opinion is that you and your mom need to do something. Kick your uncle out, don't even try talking to him, he's not going to listen no matter what you say. He seriously needs a life and he needs to grow up. If he lives with you, throw him out on the street and see just how good he can do when he's all alone.
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Well since you live with your grandparents maybe it's not a good idea to shout with him and they pick up for him and throw him out. I don't see the problem in having black friends because if you're not purely white you're black! Anyway maybe you should just let him hear what you think in a non direct manner. And if that doesn't work write a letter to him and tel him you don't appreciate him doing those stuff around you...and he should not judge people by their race but how they live and their personality and let him get it straight that most of them have their lives straight and he doesn't even have his kid in school! And if that doesn't work...(it might be tough) but just try to forget him and ignore him. Maybe he just likes the attention he gets wen he does these things!
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Its good, just get it all out... Tell him this! He's obviously a ---- (lol sorry)Yell at him! Tell him what you have told us. Explain to him that it really gets to you and that he shouldnt critisize others until hes perfect - which he seems very far from. (especially as perfect people dont critisize) so ive heard anyways... just stick up for yourself. If he he tells you to answer the door and makes even that racist then just dont answer the door. Try talking to your grand parents about it. Ask them why they dont say anything when he makes racist comments and explain why it upsets you. If all else fails, i might know someone on that gun issue. Lol. Best of luck xxxx
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