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does anyone know any sites i can get to any website? for example, kproxy.com, stealth-ip.com? my parents blocked myspace and it would be nice to have other ways of getting in! even with kproxy.com im limited to what i can do on there. for example i cant post up a blog i have to ask my friends to do that for me. give them the password and everything. (link)
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www.stupidcensorship.com may do it. They change their specific address a lot but if you google fishswimfast it should come up with that website. Also visit iBLOGthere4iM (again, google it) for an massive list of them if that doesn't work.
On the other hand you could actually talk to your parents and request they unblock it in exchange for you using it responsibly? Would save a lot of hassle lol. x
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Ok so I took some people's advice and asked my grandmother if I could go on the pill and surprisingly she said YES!!!
But she said she is coming with me to the doctors.
What kind of questions will the doctor ask? like am I sexually active? I'll have to lie to the doctor and say no because she will be there.
I told her it was to regulate my period which needs to be done anyway but she said the doctor will put me on a light dosage.
Will this mean that it wont be as affective with birth control?
I will rate a 5 for all questions answered thank heaps.
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Hey as far as I'm aware there is no such thing as a "light" dosage of the Pill as such. There is the combined pill with both hormones and the mini pill with only one but both are equally effective if taken within the correct time frame so no worries!
On the other hand it's really a bad idea to lie to your doctor about anything, including whether you are sexually active. If at all possible let your grandmother come to the doctors with you but wait in the waiting room. Sell it to her as the beginning of you taking responsibility for your own health and wanting to try out a little bit of independence so you get prepared for when you have to do it on your own or some such. You could even go with the idea you'd be a bit embarrassed talking about your periods in front of her. Whatever you think'll work best.
If she absolutely insists on coming in with you and you really can't be honest with her about what you're doing feign an "I forgot something" once you've left the room as an excuse to go back and have a quick chat with your doc informing him/her of the real facts just so they know. All confidential.
Ideally though it'd be nice if you could be honest with your grandmother and explain to her that although she may not approve you are being responsible and taking all the precautions you should be.
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I'm 15 and female and my b/f is 20, but I'm fixing to turn 16. My mom likes my b/f but my dad doesn't. They are currently filing for custody of me even though i don't want to live with my dad. The thing is that I may have made a huge mistake. I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend with my consent because I love him. We have been dating for nearly two years. The thing is that my mom has just informed me that the only way the can take me away from her is if we have had sex. I don't know what to do. Please, I need advice badly. (link)
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Don't tell anyone you had sex. It's that simple. They're not going to examine you to check or anything like that. It's also pretty unlikely they'll force you to testify if it goes to court anything other than who you want to live with. You an always request to put this in writing rather than having to stand in front of your parents and say it. Terefore noone will directly ask if you've had sex and you won't perjure yourself either.
And if you can refrain from doing it again until you're 16 that'd help you out a lot too. x
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Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.
July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.
The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.
Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.
HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME (link)
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Felix is either emotionally unbalanced or, as I suspect, immature and over-dramatic. Either way he will not be good for you- you don't need someone leaning on you that much and blackmailing you into a relationship.
If Mark breaks up with girls after a week or too he will do it again to you and continue to think he can treat people how he likes. Turn him down and enjoy the shock on his face.
Break up with Felix gently but firmly and don't give in to his threats. I sincerely doubt he will harm himself at all, probably just sulk for a few weeks telling everyone how depressed he is and how it's all your fault (it's not). Even if he did hurt himself it is NOT your responsibility, it is his. Relationships end and everyone else manages to deal with it. You need to be free to make your own decisions about it.
Then enjoy being single for a while minus all the crappy pressure that comes with boys and relationships!
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Okay, so I'm pretty much a hardcore soccer player. I play it often. But my mom is always thinking she knows so much about it, and I tell you she doesn't.
She yells at me for stupid mistakes, for everything that goes wrong in our house, and finds ways to call me a loser, loner, and that I suck at stuff, without actually saying it. She's called me a bitch so many times I couldn't count. But my real question is, is what she doing really abuse?
People have told me it was, but I just don't know anymore. She did physically abuse me ages 7-10, maybe that's why I'm not sure or not. And I've been depressed, at least I think a lot. She's making me want to quit soccer from all the camps and stress. And many of my close soccer friends are scared of that because I'm that one girl on the team who puts on a good additude, never gives up, gives it her all, knows what she needs to fix, and would miss what is important to her just to play. And I also go outside and practice often. And I just can't play well anymore and starting not to love it.
so is it abuse?
any help or advice would be amazing. (link)
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It probably wouldn't be termed abuse, just having a bit of a sucky mother. If you like soccer in itself do not give it up no matter what she says about it. Your teammates clearly think very highly of you so her comments have no justification and probably come from either her own insecurity (which is therefore pathetic) or desperately wanting you to be the perfect child so it reflects well on her (which is also pretty pathetic...).
Calling your daughter a bitch is something a mother should really know better than to do and if she has a reasonable bone in her body you could try bringing the subject up with her either face to face or in a letter if you can't say it and tell her how crappy it makes you feel wehn she puts you down all the time. If she hadn't been abusive in the past I'd also suggest one day when she's being particularly unreasonable you yell right back at her for once as I've found this tends to shock them into thinking exactly why you reacted so badly but since she's physically abused you this is not a good plan.
The best you can do in this situation it seems to me is carry on doing the things you love and keep other people's compliments in your head while trying to push her negativity out. I know it can be really hard because it comes from your mum who you've spent your whole life being made to listen to but if you can bear in mind that you're achieving things she never has and gain some sense of your own worth regardless of her her comments will hopefully not affect you so much and you can leave them behind you when you move out.
I'm sorry you're in the position of having to be the adult in the relationship with your mum, it shouldn't be that way at all but as someone once said to me- one day you realise your parents have trouble functioning as adequate people let alone adequate parents. x
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My bf just broke up with me a few hours ago and I feel nothing. I really liked him, but I just feel numb. What happened was a guy added me and started telling me my bf had been saying things about me behind my back to his ex. This guy quoted snippets of the conversation with his ex and she was saying stuff like "he says he still loves me... his current gf is only ok for now, its not the same" I was really upset and didn't know what to believe. When my bf got on, I asked him about it and he got really mad, saying I didn't trust him at all and trusted this guy over him, etc. He didn't deny the guys allegations, just spent the entire time trying to figure out who it was. I got really upset and went offline for a few hours.. then came back online and told him I wanted to work things out. He said there's no chance of that and we're over, put it down to us being different people and that since I'm a senior he shouldn't be distracting me cause I want to go to college. He also said there's too many problems with us, but this is the first problem we've had in our relationship. He did later deny what the guy said, but I'm still unsure whether he was telling the truth or lying.
I just can't understand it. I told him I shouldn't have listened to the guy and I was sorry but he said we were over. He didn't want to work things out. He said that since we've been friends for years we should stay friends, but I said I can't have that because he was not willing to put the effort in to make things work with us so he didn't deserve friendship. Plus I know I'd never be able to get over him if we were friends. I said see you sometime and that was the end.
What exactly happened here? Should I chase after him and try and get him back? I have a feeling it'll sink in later. Was I in the wrong? This is the first time I've been broken up with and I just don't know what to do. I feel we broke over over a simple misunderstanding but something tells me he was just looking for an excuse to break up. I need opinions here. Thanks and sorry for the length. (link)
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Yeah I agree with the other advice on here- sounds very much like he was looking for an excuse. If he cared about you he'd be more concerned with convincing you of the truth and being afraid of losing you than deciding it was grounds for a break-up. If he can't even gather the guts to be honest about whether or not he wants to be in the relationship he sure as hell wouldn't be much use in getting the guts to be honest about anything else in that relationship so on that note, good riddance.
I guess you'll never really know whether what the other guy said was true because it came filtered down through your ex's ex and the guy. That said unless the guy has feelings for you he's no real reason to lie and unless his ex wants him back she's no reason to either so you can hazard a guess based on that.
Anyway as I say this guy seems to be a bit of a coward who wants to break up with you in a way that puts him in the best possible light (NB- no-one genuinely breaks up with someone because they don't want to distract them from their studies. It's a total cop-out excuse). I wouldn't try to get him back- not worth it x
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I hate my dad..I'm not joking. I honestly do and not just for some stupid reason.
My dad always is threatening my mom with a divorce and stuff she starts crying. I hate seeing her cry when she never even did anything to deserve this. He always is calling her horrible names and cussing at her and me. He hits her sometimes too..she almost called the police. He even hit me once..
I'm so scared of him and so is my mom and my brother. I haven't talked to any of them yet about this. Whenever I hear him yelling or something I'm usually in my room and I start crying because it really is starting to upset me. I can't even TALK to my own dad..whenever he says something to me all the horrible things that he has done to my mom and I in the past just flash back in my mind and I can't speak and I have tears in my eyes. Everytime I hear him screaming at my mom I just want to go down there and tell him to calm down and leave her alone but, I just can't..I'm too scared. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't talk to anyone in my family about this.
How do I help my mom and get my dad to stop yelling all the time? (link)
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Praying is all well and good if it helps you out but it's not going to solve the situation. If you are still in school talk to your councilor or a teacher you trust. Just talking about it can help and they should be able to help you out one way or another depending on your personal situation. That might sound scary and sound like it could make things worse but this has been going on for far too long and if you do nothing I'm afraid it will just continue until and unless your mum gets the courage to walk out.
If you don't want to talk to someone you know there are several helplines you can call anonymously and free of charge. Not knowing where you're located I can't really provide you with any but google it and you'll find some.
There's no excuse for your Dad's behaviour but on the bright side I'm guessing you'll be out of the house in a few years and so also be in a position to help out your mum and brother a bit more. Until then to be honest there's no real way you alone can get your dad to stop acting the way he doesso either you need to get someone to step in or you're going to have to block it out as best you can and try not to let it affect your life too much.
Hope it gets sorted out. x
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I am divorced, my 15 y.o. son (whose mother has custody) has decided that he doesn't want to spend this Saturday with me. In the past, he has always spent the entire Father's Day weekend with me. In addition, about a week ago, I informed my son that his Uncle (who my son really gets along with - and lives out-of-State) will be having breakfast with us on Saturday. Now, my son says that he wants to celebrate Saturday with his step-father. However, he has never celebrated mother's day with his step-mom. I am enraged and don't know what to do. (link)
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Ok hold up. I presume that he's still coming to spend the Sunday (i.e. actual Father's Day) with you. Hence he's not blowing you off but rather trying to balance what he feels are his obligations. You are his father and I'm sure he knows and respects that as a role that can't be taken over by someone else but his step-father presumably lives with your son every day and like it or not that's going to form a bond- he's another male role model for him.
To be perfectly blunt the situation you ahve all found yourselves in has nothing to do with your son- you and his mother were the ones whose relationship failed and therefore you are the ones who have caused this boy to effectively have two sets of parents to deal with. Yet it is your son who has to try desperately to deal with the consequences and keep everyone happy.
I can undersatnd your hurt and jealousy on an emotional level but you need to be the adult here and have some compassion for your son who's trying to be fair to both you and his step-dad.
As far as his step-mother goes (although I'm willing to bet that's not the real issue) can you say in all honesty that he is as close to his stepmum as he is to his stepdad? It seems unlikely since he doesn't live with her and although you could try for the "if you spend a day of father's day weekend with him you should spend a day of mother's day weekend with her" line unfortunately you can't force your son into a bond with her and it's pretty unfair of you to force him into it so that you feel you're "even" with your ex's family unit.
This may all sound harsh but I'm afraid as hard as I know this situation must be for you, it's your son I really feel for.
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ok so my boryfreind came into work today to introduce me to his best freind...i was excited about meeting her, till i saw her. She was gorgous, exactly how my boyfreind used to explain how i looked wen he first met me...tall long black hair, tan, skinny...spet shes prettier then i am...least i think she is. I know he would never cheat on me, cuz he loves me, and i love him..blah blahl blah,...but now that i met her i feel completly uncomforatable with my boyfreind bieng around her...ahh i hate bieng jealous..what should i do? (link)
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Heh yeah. Well for a start, (nice big cliche coming up) bauty's in the eye of the beholder and the difference between what girls think is attractive and what guys find attractive is often huge. Secondly presumably they were friends before the two of you got together in which case if they didn't date then, there's a reason for it and it's unlikely that reason will disappear (i.e. they don't find each other attractive).
If she's friendly to you be friendly back. Sounds like the last thing in the world you'd want to do, i know, but it should help- especially if you can get to the point where you can tell how intimidated you felt by her at first. And bring it up with your boyfriend if you can. Not accusing him of anything, ust telling him you feel insecure and he sshould be able to reassure you. The worst thing you can do is keep it to yourself and let it fester.
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me && my mom had a major fight && she hit me... and i have a fat lip.. i need help what should i do? it was a few days ago && my lip is still swollen.. should i forgive her? she keeps sayin im sorry, please forgive.. i didnt mean it.. and im like okay... what should i do?? i need help? (link)
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If nothing like this has happened before and she's learnt her lesson enough to never do it again then yeah I guess forgive her as best you can. However this is a really crappy thing to happen and however much she apologises she's crossed a line that'll change your relationship- your mum's supposed to be the person who protects you. I wouldn't be surprised if it takes you quite a long time to rebuild trust in her and that's something she will have to accept.
A fat lip sounds like she hit you pretty hard and actually hit you rather than a slap or something and that must be pretty scary. If you are scared or if ANYTHING like this happens again, talk to someone you trust about it like your guidance councilor.
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My girl friend, Trish, is so beautiful and I love her so much.
The problem is people say that she is ugly, & I don't think that at all.
I was just wondering if I could get all of your honest opinions. Do ya'll think she is ugly?
http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c54/TriciaxxxAnn/newhair.jpg
I'll rate 5s for all answers. (link)
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For the record I think she looks very pretty but it really doesn't matter what your friends or a bunch of random strangers think of her. You think she's beautiful and that's what matters.
Just try to have a bit of confidence in your own opinion. I imagine she'd be quite upset if she knew you'd posted her picture for a load of internet strangers to judge.
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Hey, I'm 13/f and I'm concerned about my breasts. When they developed two years ago, they develpoed with lumps. Just one big lump in each, and they hurt badly if anyone hit it by accident. I also have a white discharge coming from my nipple. When I look closely, it looks like skin. Can a 13 year old have breast cancer? Since only moderators can rate, I can't. Atleast not yet. (link)
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Feeling tender and them feeling like two big lumps is pretty normal as your breasts develop, especially at your age. You might want to get the discharge checked out though, (don't be embarassed about it- doctors have seen everything) although it's very very unlikely that you'd develop breast cancer at your age.
Discharge can be caused from anything from infection or injury to hormonal imbalaces to absolutely nothing- just happens occasionally without explaination and causing no harm. so don't panic.
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ok well im a 15/f and my bf is a 16/m. we have been together for over a year now and i know what people are going to say your 15 sex can wait and i know it can. i mean i want to wait until later on in life but yet i sometimes feel like im ready to do it with him.. i mean me and him have talked about it before and he says he thinks hes ready but it all depends on me. i mean i love him to death and never felt this way about a guy before..he tells me he loves me alot and wouldnt make me do anything i wouldnt want to..hes told me that hes never felt this way and wouldnt know what to do if he lost me. but i mean when i say i want to i know for a fact ill chicken out because im so self conscience and like because of pain and possible bleeding. we talked about it last night and like when he wants to and stuff but he told me its up to me. like how do i know if im ready? how bad does it hurt? and like would i bleed alot? like i dont want to screw up and stuff like im scared to do it how do i get over it?
sorry its so long
thanks
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Yup been there, done that. It's great he's not pushing you into anything (for me that was the very reason I knew it was right in the first place) and you shouldn't even think abot sleeping with him until you're on birth control and/or have got hold of some condoms.
The fear thing is totally natural and if it's just the pain you're worried aboutthen yes it probably will hurt and be a bit uncomfortable first couple of times (get him to be very gentle) but it gets much better and it shouldn't be agonising.
The self-conscious thing is also totally normal but trust me, all he'll be thinking is "wow, naked girlfriend, awesome" and again you'll get less self-conscious as time goes on.
If it's more than just the fear of pain and babies then don't do it. You need to be able to trust this guy to listen to you before after and uring sex and not to brag about it to his friends. You also need to be able to talk to him about what would happen if something did happen and you got pregnant and so on.
If you can do that, you love each other and you actually feel you want to then you're pretty much set.
But it sounds like you don't really want to. If you want to wait until later on in life then DO. There's absolutely no reason to rush into something like this you're not ready for. He's waited this long, he can wait some more. It's a big leap that's always going to be scary to take but you'll know when you're ready. x
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I use Ban brand deodorant, which is supposed to be a good quality brand Im told, but I still sweat under there. I put it on once in the morning, but it wont work all day. I was wondering if there is a "magical" deodorant that stays on all day and works great. I also dance, so I need one thats strong. I cant seem to find the deodorant that is right for me. Maybe there are some other ways to stop the sweating. Thanks for the help! (link)
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A deodorant will not stop you sweating- it's just designed to make it smell better when you do! Make sure you look for "Anti-perspirant" on the bottle- they're the things that keep you dry.
If over the counter products don't work go and see your doc who should be able to give you some stronger stuff. But if you're dancing properly then you're going to sweat pretty much no matter what and it's expected- it's just your bodies way of cooling down and if you blocked it with cosmetic injections and so on you could very quickly dehydrate and over-heat, not a good move. Just take a towel, spray and water with you for afterwards. If other people in your class aren't swetaing then frankly they need to shape up and put some more effort in!x
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i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person? (link)
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1) By bearing in mind that if you don't say something now they'll find out in a few months anyway by which time your options are severely limited. If it's too hard to talk to your parents together try talking to yur mum on her own first. She will be upset, maybe angry, but her main priority is looking after you and that'll soon take over. You could start by talking to your doctor or Planned Parenthood before you tell your family to talk over your options with them and make up your own mind what you want to do before you have the pressure of your family's expectations put on you.
2)Generally you'd feel cramps and bleed. But at this stage I'd suggest you need a doctor to be sure yuo've actually miscarried. Asking this seems to suggest it's your preference but bear in mind that with a self-induced abortion your parents would pretty much definately find out(notice the bleeding and so on) and you'd be putting yourself in a lot of danger as you'd have no medical treatment usually available after an abortion. If you don't want the baby that much, have it done by professionals.
3) No, accidents unfortunately can happen when you're having sex and you're facing the pretty scary choices that come from that. I assume you were using birth control (if not then next time DO)and if so it's pretty much a case of bad luck. Personally I'd have to disagree with most advice on here and say I don't think sex before marriageis in itself a bad thing but you need to be able to deal with potential consequences like this. Considering all the confusion and lack of support maybe you want to think about whether you're actually ready before sleeping with your boyfriend again or at least have a discussion with him about "what would happen if...". If you can't have that talk with him then you definately shouldn't be having sex with him. x
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I need to use a Floppy Disk for a project, and have come across a simple yet perplexing problem; which was and which side up do you put the floppy in? Do you keep the part with the circular part up? Do you stick it in the direction that the metal part is on?
Help would be appreciated! (link)
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yep circular bit at the bottom and the metal end goes first into the computer.
All these old fashioned gadgets eh? :)
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i hate it when people talk about me behind my back but unfortunatly people do. and i dont know how to deal with it anymore. i used to ignore it but i cant anymore and im ready to snap. what should i do? (link)
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Snap. Heh I know that sounds like really bad advice that will probably just fan the flames of bitching even more but if you're at the point it can make you feel a whole lot better to just turn round to the next person who does it and call them an asshole and walk away (even better if you can do it with a calm voice and slight sneer that implies they are more pathetic than annoying :)).
It'll go on most of your life to some extent or another and it'll get easier to brush off the older you get. It's worth bearing in mind they are pretty childish and trying to laugh it off.
For now though occasional little outbursts like that should get you through. Not to mention prove to be a bit of a shock to everyone if you don't usually stand up for yourself.
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Ok, I'm having problems with my neighbor/really really really good friend. We've been friends since about 2004. Things went great until the beginning of this year. He just started not coming over anymore. He used to sleep over at our house every week but not anymore. His mom has talked to mom and has had problems before. She's really mentally messed up, she just clings to every single little thing she can find wrong with people. For example: One night he called (His name's Kevin) to see if we could play late Saturday night, but we already had some other people over so we told him we couldn't play. So his mom got together everyone in the neighborhood and did some picture-taking outside our lawn (our lawn) just to show he had friends too. xD
And recently, he's been having friends over and not inviting us like CRAZY. He keeps wanting to sleep over on weekends when he's over here but his mom won't ever let him. And his birthday was last week. I at least expected to get invited to his birthday party, but nope. He wanted to, or so he claimed, but his mom already picked out the friends who were coming, and I wasn't on the list.
I don't know why it's gotten like this. He just called asking for me to fix a problem with his Xbox so he and his friends he has over can play, and yet I can't go over there. That's using me right there. I want to be his friend so bad, but I think his mom's spreading lies about us and Kevin's hearing them.
What should I do? Should I distance myself? Thanks for any help. :) (link)
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Yeah relationships can be incredibly tricky. The simplest, most effective solution is to lock yourself inyour room and never come into contact with a single living being again.
However, since we must all heel-toe and function within the bounds of "normality" here is the best advice I can give:
It sounds to me like this kid really does still want you around. The asking you to fix his X-box for example- there are many many people he could have asked, I'm sure, and if he still wants to stay over at your house then his mother's the problem.
In which case if both you and this guy still want to be friends don't let his mother get in the way. Is there anyway you can talk to him about it without his mum hearing? If so just request a cut from the crap, saying you understand he loves his mum but you just want to know exactly how he feels about the situation and tell him you really badly still want to be friends. That way all cards are on the table and you can go from there.
If you can bear it, start being especially nice to his mum. Just little things, saying hi when you see her, offering to help her take her shopping in from the car when she's back from the supermarket and hopefully that'll make things a little easier. If your parents can bear it ask them to help you out a little by being nice and civil to her too.
In the meantime you may have to be a little patient-crazy women like this take a while to be won round and sons (i'm presuming of a fairly young age) take a while to be able to stand up to their mothers. If the friendship's worth it, and it seems like to you it is, don't give up on it yet. x
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SO in ethics class last week we learnt that statutory rape is basically when someone has forced sex with a minor (under 16) and it could apply when 2 minors involve themselves, etc, etc. We also learnt that you will immediately go to jail until the trial.
My question is:
When a girl gets pregnant and she had sex but she's say 13 or 14, do they just deliever the baby? I see girls like 15 and 14 with babies and I'm wondering...don't the doctors of nurses ask them questions....cause that's statutory rape right, so can the mother be jailed or the dad? ...does anyone know if this happens or they just deliever the baby no questions? (link)
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There ususally are questions asked but while the girl is pregnant rather than on the delivery table and the questions are not usually asked by the doctor. The doctor and nurses' only realy obligation is to uphold the Hippocratic Oath to preserve life so yes they would just deliver the baby no matter what.
It would be looked at by her school councillor probably pretty seriously but at the end of the day you can't make someone talk or tell you what's happenedwhich obviously limits what they can do and how they can help.
As far as pressing charges for statutory rape (which applies even if the underage person "consents") goes, that decision is usually left to the parents or the minor themselves. It's pretty usual for an outside party to do so purely because if neither the parents nor minor feel that anyone was harmed from the relationship then it would be assumed it was a victimless crime and bringing charges was pretty pointless and none of their business.
Hope that helped a bit
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i have two quetion about my period:
1) i have had my period since jan. 1, 2005(i know, happy new year to me right?lol).i only get my period every 2 months, like i had my period last month, april, 24th, so i shouldnt get it until around may 24th.is this ok?becuase i know most people get their period every month.could i just not be regular yet, or is that how my cycle will most likely stay?
2)yesterday and today i noticed red(blood)in my underwear.i shouldnt get my period until about may 24th, as i said above.it hasnt been nearly enough to put in a tampon, at all(i use tampons).what could this be?could i be starying to get my period every month now or is this not even my period?
please help!thanks!! (link)
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Don't worry I was the same for over 2 years, you're just not regular yet. If it's really a pain ask your mum and/or doctor about going on the Pill which ensures you have a regular period every month so you know when to expect it.
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