Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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I have an exboyfriend that I don't like-like but I do like him as a friend. I want to be his friend but every time I get around him I don't want to talk becuz the last time we did he said why did you break up with me. I ran off so I couldn't answer but I broke up w/ him bcuz I think that i was using him. i haven't had a boyfriend in a while so i wanted one real bad so i went out with him. we hugged but didn't kiss and it still didn't feel right. How do I talk to him without hurting his feelings or making him mad? (sorry its so long) (link)
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I really think that you should go on with your life acting the exact same around him than u normally would if u never went out with him..if he brings it up again, roll ur eyes and be like seriously i dont wanna talk about it..and then make it OBVIOUS that u really dont wanna talk about it.....be kool about it not like mean, be just be frank..dont run off if he brings it up!!! hehe thatll hurt him even more, it realy will...
love kristin
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hey my moms friend is having a baby in february and her name is Lindsey. What are some good middle names? (link)
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Lindsey-Ann, Lindsey-Marie, Linsdey-Beth, Lindsey-Rose, Lindsey-May, Lindsey-Nicole...
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ok well i dated this chick and we dated for 3 months thas my longest relationship and she was my first love and well she left me for her ex bf but lately shes been callin me a bunch and flirtin w/ me and actin like were datin again and i dont know wut to do, should i keep this up and see wut happens or should i do sumthin cuz i dont want to be the "other guy" and it kinda looks like thas wuts gonna happen (link)
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I am telling you to NOT TAKE HER BACK and to not continue these stupid mind games shes playing with you..listen, either her and her bf are fighting or he doesnt like her nemmore or if they arent working out, this is the reason why she is comin back and flirting with u..U honestly shouldnt even wanna be her friend cause u dont wanna friend that would ditch you for some1 else.. i know u love/loved her n i KNOW how hard it is, but u really gotta tell her to stop playin you...thats whut i would do if i were you..
love kristin
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Hi, I am a 14 year old female and I am in love with my best guyfriend. We have known eachother for 5 years and we go to the same school and we always sit together at lunch. But, I dont know if he likes me back! He is always sending mixed messeges to me and I can never figure it out! It is really frustrating me and I need to know if he likes me. We always mess around by like tripping eachother in the hallway or hitting eachother with books and stuff. I dont know if its just fun or flirting!I really want to know! Also, the other day, we were talking about who we liked, and i made up some guy and he was wondering who it was, so if that helps and the only reason that he sits with me at lunch is probably cuz im his only friend that goes to Sprayberry! thanks so much! i rate high! (link)
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Hey, I think that maybe he likes you but Im not quite sure because they info you gave isnt enough to tell if he likes you..if i were you i would get tha guts to be like.."would if be weird if i liked you more than a friend?" and take it from there..
love kristin
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What age would you let your Child date?? What would you allow them to do with Him or Her? (link)
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Hi, Im 17/f and I when I was 15 my mom let me date some1 who was 17..Little did I know what guys at that age expected from me..It really depends on how mature your child is, etc, but parents don't realy know they kids at that personal level because there as SOOO many personal things you need to know about a person to see how mature they are, and your child probably doesnt want to talk to you about those personal things...Nowa days, 14-17 yr olds dont get to the movies when they date, they go to parties, drink, smoke, etc..Sorry, but Im just being honest. Sooo many parents are oblivious to this and when theyre kids say, "we are going to the movies Ill be home around 11!"..or if they say "we are going to the movies and then Im sleeping over Sarahs house." that will probably mean they arent going to the movies, but somewhere else liek a party or something..BUT this defintly DOESNT apply to all kids, TRUST ME..Alota of kids also really do goto the movies, mall, etc because they arent really into partying etc..Also nowadays, 13/14/15 yr olds are out having sex. So, if I were you, I would let your child start dating around 15 and I would meet the boy/girl and have them come over the house so they can watch movies, etc, also let her/him go out to the movies but MAKE SURE he/she is home around 11.... Yes, i am 17 yrs old, and i would HATE IT if my mom were taking the advice Im giving you right now, but Im a smart mature 17 yr old who doesnt go out and party, lie, smoke, drink, etc..But there are ALOTA kids out there who are like that and you may be 100% sure your child isnt like that...all im saying is DONT BE BLIND and naive and always expect the worst when your child goes out, because these days, teens are going wild...
love kristin
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(*Names changed to protect the innocent)
My Boyfriend *Mickie is the so sweet and nice to me! I really like him...he is also very cute. He treats me like a princess. Well before Mickie asked me out i had a big crush on *Ronnie but Mickie asked me out and i forgot about it for awhile. Lately I find myself flirting with Ronnie, and i like it. I am really drawn to him. But i dont want to break up with mickie...he is so nice. (link)
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It's very hard to have a boyfriend when you are REALLY attractive physically and emotionally to someone else..The thing you should do if I were you, is to end it with your boyfriend. You said he is "so nice," which is TOTALLY good but you want to think of your boyfriend as HOTT PERFECT SWEET ROMANTIC PROTECTIVE SEXY , etc, not just nice you know? Im not saying break up with your boy friend and go for this other guy, i think you should just break up with him and be single until you find a guy who you look at with the above things..maybe itll be that other guy u like? good luck,
love kristin
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Like the title says...
This is just an opinion thing. I'm curious as to what you all think. I'm turning 17 in 5 days, if it matters ^_^.
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and I still feel like I have a crush on him...
Lol I mean, I get nervous before picking up the phone and dialing his number...I get butterflies in my stomach when I see him...I hear his voice and I smile...
We're totally in love, and all that. He's told me he feels the same way, though not quite as strongly as I do (the "crush" thing, not the love thing.) Is it weird that I still have a crush on the guy I've been with for almost a year? (link)
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Hunny, you are SO lucky you still feel those things..Thats such a good thing!!! you know why? because alota times relationships end because one person, or both ppll in the relationship feel like its old news and want change..its not weird at all whut ur feeling..
love kristin
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Two Questions: How can you tell if a guy likes you??
#2- Okay I like this boi Richard. He my friends talk to him alot and they say he says he likes me, but he's shy and he won't tell me, so and I am one of those pplz who are need to be reassured all the time. So it's like my friends are constantly asking him and I know that can push him away. But today my friend Taja asked him if he liked me (and I didn't tell her to) and he said no. And then she was like "Right.....look me in the face and say that" and he couldn't look at her and he didn't say anything....cause he was lying she said. So then I saw him after school today and he had the biggest smile on his face and he was waving at meeh. And also the same morning, he was watching everything I did when I wasn't looking....so how I can tell if he likes me.... (link)
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I personally think he does like you but he doesnt want the whole world knowing you know? If I were you id walk up to him with some ppl who are ur friends and his and just start talking to him that way..Then plan to have them leave you 2 alone, not making it obvious..
love kristin
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i love my boyfriend so much and he says he loves me but we barly talk maybe its because we live far apart i dont know. what should i do? (link)
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Its really hard having long distance relationships and not talking at the same time..I think you should call him more often and tell him to call you more often as well. Maybe set up times where you 2 can talk on the phone/online..Like tell him, "okay so ill be expecting your call around 7", etc..That way you 2 will become closer by talking more..
Love kristin
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Ok i have a sister who is a 13 months apart and she drives me crazy...i am so nice to her i let her wear my clothes and i do favors for her but she is just a brat to me any ideas on how to like make her not be such a brat? i dont know she like finds out things about me from my EX and she knows everything and like she wants to tell the world and its quiet annoying....uhhh yeah so any ideas...?
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If I were you, I'd either one, be a brat right baCk to her and give her a taste of her own medicine, or two, tell her that your really depressed about something {just make something up} and make her feel sorry for you and so she'll stop being a brat for awhile and then eventually itll just turn into a regular basis typa thing..thats whut i did to my sister and now we are alot better
love kristin
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Ok I am a 13 year old girl and I like this boy at school, and he likes me to but only as a friend. He thinks he's to young to be my boyfriend but I realy realy like him and I want him to be my boyfriend, what should I do?? (link)
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thats way confusing..hes older than u but he says hes too young for u? that doesnt make any sense.
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okay i have a problem.... i cut myself... and i dont know how to stop.. its just that i get all jittery and the room spins but as soon as i cut myself i feel normal again and i get a major high off of it.... i want to stop because i know that someone is going to find out and than my life wil be over... so i guess my question is how do i stop without my friends or family ever finding out??? (link)
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put all your faith in God to help you stop doing this to yourself..but, God wont help you unless you help yourself..if u really want to stop, then just STOP..when u feel like cutting, DONT, throw the knife across the room and say FUCK YOU to the knife..no joke itll help you..try and make enemies with things thatll hurt you, like the knife, sissors, razors, or nething else that ull wanna use to cut yourself...you have to help yourself.
love kristin
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i have this friend and he keeps telling me he likes me. He said he was in love with me and that he loved my body. He is really nice. People are always calling him gay and mean things. He keeps asking me out almost everyday. It is getting annoying. I keep telling him no. I try to say like i not being mean. (I'll sorta laugh like it is a joke.) I dont want to hurt his feelings. Today he asked me out. He said, "If you go out with me I'll give you a cell phone! It's prepaid and eveything!" I hate to keep telling him no, that i dont want to go out with him. How can I tell him I only like him as a friend and nothing more without hurting his feelings? I dont want thing to be too weird between us. (link)
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OMG Im going thru that RIGHT NOW..Its getting so annoying! But the way I am handling it, and hes starting to get the hint, is dont laugh about it like its a joke when you respond to him, be serious and even put an annoyed look on ur face and say we are just frienddsss..u arent being mean at all trust me. you are no different than any1 else and have absolutly no obligation to him what so ever,he isnt a child and he should be able to handle you saying nO..
love kristin
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Alright, I highlighted my hair about August 17. Do you think it would be a good or bad for me to highlight it again? It's growing out so I think I should. Altho, I don't want to burn up my hair. (link)
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You should wait until your hair grows up atleast 4 inches be4 doing it again...it really depends on how strong your hair is, it might break up if its not that sturdy..love kristin
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Hi I am Renee and my hubby Ray is working this job and he says it is for a better life for us but he is never home and when he is home all we do is argue, well he has cheated in the past so you know that runs in the back of my mind all the time but I took him back because I believe in my vows and it was great. Well now he works with this girl that is around all the time, and he comes home all hours of the night. My question is how do I make things right between us and get my point across with out fighting and make him understand me? I love him and I think I can trust him but I don't know how much. Please help me and tell me what I can do? (link)
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Thats a really hard situation..Have you two ever seeked professional help? Like marriage counciling, etc? I think that it would be a good idea to go do that. It's kind of an uneasy idea of him getting home that late at night and with that other girl always around..Since there is history or him cheating on you, you might need to watch out a little bit more closely..Remember, don't ever be naive and think that he will never cheat on you again,etc, because men will be men. Im sure you love him with all your heart, and he loves you with all his heart, but if I were you, I would do some checking out of where he really might be at the late hours of the night. That might be a little sneaky, but you think you're going to get the truth out of him if he really IS cheating on you?I dont think so. There is no shame in that..good luck,
love kristin
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Ok, i have a friend, ive known her for a long time, but we just started to talk and get to know each other about a month ago. I'm finding a lot i didnt know about here, and im starting to like her as more than a friend. I told her im really starting to fall for her. She says that she dont think we could have a relationship for 2 reaons. 1. Because she likes someone else, and she doesnt want to get with me to just get over that other guy and hurt me in the process. basicly she doesnt want to use me. and 2. We've known each other for such a long time that she hasnt thought of me like that. The problem is, she still heavily flirts with me and acts like she wants to be with me. So do you think i have a chance? (link)
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Honestly, I think she is kind of playing mind games with you, even if she doesnt realize it. Its not her fault, but shes probably just a really flirtatious typa girl..give it more time, get to know her even more as a friend..one thing i would do is not make it obvious that you like her, etc, because if she sees that you dont like her nemore, she will prolly start liking you because she misses the attention, etc..i do think that you have a chance, but i think that everyone always has a chance to get with anybody, u know what i mean? good luck
love kristin
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(m/14)Ok, I'm going out with this girl, we've been going out for a little over a month now.. shes awesome, I like her a lot.. but unfortunately my parents don't. They really don't want me to have a girlfriend at all, especailly one like her they say. I mean she is a little wild sometimes, but I like that about her, but my parents don't. They want me to break up with her soon, and they're pressuring me to do it everyday. I want more of a long relationship with the girl.. but I don't want love. In my opinion, nothing good can come from love at this time in life. So do I stand up to my parents and tell them I won't break up with her?.. or take their advice and break up with her before this relationship turns into love? thanks (link)
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This happens all the time. But really, usually your parents always turn out to be right because think about it, they ONLY want the absolute best for you, and they see this relationship far from tha best you know? I totally know that its way easier said than done. I really wouldn't break up with her unless you see that its not good for you. If you see that its not good for you, then I would break it off, even if it would be hard. You got to sort out the good stuff out of the relationship, and the bad..If the bad overrides the good,then you know what to do, but if they good overrides the bad, then I would sit down with your parents and talk to them and tell them that its nothing at all serious and its just a casual gf, bf thing.. I know that you do want a serious relationship, but thats something to your just going to have to hide from your parents if you do decide to stay with her...good luck,
love kristin
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i really didnt know what chatigory to put it under but that don really matter.. lately ive been wicked despressed.. a lotta stuff has happened.. mah boyfriend cheated on me.. then i dumped him, went out with anotehr kid, n then he admitted to me that he likes mah best friend... then he got me so fustrated i jus sat and cried for over an hour.. i used to be one of the hyperest, happiest people you could ever meet.. but no.. everyone is noticing it.. that ive changed.. how can i get out of being depressed?
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Im really sorry for what you must be going through. I know how you feel because Ive gone through something sort of like that. It really just takes time..Im not talking about acouple of weeks, im talking bout months or even up to a year or s0..I know that it sucks, something that helped me was writing pOems, etc...getting my feelings out on paper. But something i wouldnt do is make it clear to everyone that u are feeling like this..Meaning, if you have aol instant messanger, dont put depressed little away messages or sad stuff in your profile, then its like youre trying to get attention, and no one wants to help out a person who is trying to get attention you know? If I were you,just wait and give yourself as long as you need to recover from this period of life youre living in..Think about the future, and how good your life is going to be..Everytime you feel sad try tellig yourself this, "this is just a sad period of my life..i cant wait until i get outta highschool and move away and meet my soul mate..everythingll be perfect" and it will be perfect..trust me
lovekristin
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I don't know what's wrong with me... Maybe it's low self-esteem or something but I never think i'm good enough for any guy. There haven't been many guys that I've known liked me. Most of them look right to my friend... So the guy i reaaaallly liked likes her now. But whenever guys flirt with me i never take them seriously because I always think "oh he would never like me" and then I turn kinda mean to the guy... can anyone help me out here? (link)
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i TOTTALLLY think that its low self esteem..have u ever notice the extremly hot guys at ur school will like walk right past girls and not even look at them??? its cause they have REALLY high self esteem, and thats whut makes girls want them even more because they play REALLY hard to get...u gotta start telling yourself that ur beautiful and smart and u have HIGH standards for guyz...once u start doing this, u will see how guyz come to you...u gotta make it seem like YOURE too good for the guyz, etc..trust me thisll work.
love kristin
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There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?
Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it. (link)
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the only way is to kinda ignore her..thats kinda rude, i know but thats the only way it gets thru their head! ive had that happen to me TONS of times, and u just gotta ignore them..like when they call out ur name in the halls just look back and say wutsup and then KEEp walking and if she goes wait! be like no i gotta get to class..make it obvious because to me she sounds really rude and intruding..thats not kool to just barge in ppl...so0 thats whut i would do0 if i were y0u..
lOVe kristin
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