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My friend has been having these dreams about her friends dying. She's told one of them. He didn't die, but 2 others did. I don't necessarily think it's her dreams...but maybe fate's telling her something.
Rachna is my friend with these dreams. We're both very good friends with Alex, a boy who asked me out and I said yes(Rachna likes him too, but claims she'll get over it).
So, it started last night. She was IMing me telling me "he's dead." I didn't know WHO was. She said, "I killed him" and I got a little frightened and asked who. "Ishan" she said. Ishan is like one of the closest people in Rachna's life. She claimed it was her dreams who killed Ishan.
"I had a dream and maybe if I just told him he wouldn't have died" she was hysterical between sobs. "I told Alex and he didn't die. I didn't tell my cousin and she died." I felt very sorry.
We stayed up for hours and talked about how she can't change her life and attitude. Rachna's Goth, and she's saying "I'll act all happy and wear pink every day".
Especially since we made a deal saying Alex didn't like me and if he did, I'd have to be a Barbie at Rachna's wedding.
Apparently, there's no wedding. Because "Before I ever find love or get married I'll kill myself and be found in a box on the streets".
Ishan was in Ireland when he died (got hit by a drunk driver), and Rachna was in New York. What could she do? Call Ishan and say "Hey I had a dream you were gonna die, stay away from the streets, k bye"?
Thing is, Rachna won't let me tell Alex and she won't tell Alex. But since Alex is my really good friend I just kind of have an urge to tell him.
Rachna's last words on AIM was "I'm sorry Jordan, I really am" and she signed off.
I haven't slept well last night at all, and I feel so terrible. Damn these drunk drivers, causing so many people misery!!!!!
I don't know what to do next. Any advice? (link)
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I have studied Dream Interpretations and from what I know it just means she is going through some kind of change. Whether in her personality or a subconcious change she is unaware of. But all it symbolizes is change. The only way she or you need to be worried about death dreams is if they are really peaceful. Usually if you have a death dream and it means you or someone is going to die it will be peaceful. Usually if it really is a death dream there will be blue, to white lights, and she, or someone will be guided across a bridge. There are occasions when it isn't but that is SUPER rare. It sounds to me that if she talked to someone like a therapist, they could find out how to get rid of these dreams. Her therapist can help her with whatever change she is going through; to make it easier.
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so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f...she really likes me..and i think i like her too...i wanna go out with her...but her parents are way to strict and so are her cousins...she's not allowed to go on a date until she's 18..i can't wait 4 years...wat do i do??? (link)
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Try to talk to her family and let them get to know you. You will have to take things slow at first like you and her should try to see if you can come over for a few hours and hang out. That way her cousins and family can get to know you. Make sure you are respectful and look her parents in the eye. Eye contact is a really important thing. Be sweet and charming, also be yourself. Have your girlfriend talk to her parents about getting to know you, while you two are just friends, then go from there. They will respect that you are taking things slow and giving them a chance to get to know you. I hope I helped.
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I've caught my dad in porn and sex chat rooms so many times. Everytime he talks to me its not the same anymore, we used to be sooo close and now i cant even look him straight in the eye anymore. Hes always out of the house, and my mom works at nightt. I went to his work one day he wasnt there, and then a lot of people called the house asking for him. When he got home I asked him where he was at, he said golfing in the morning with the hugest smerk ever it disgusted me and i wanted to just cry. Then i was like what about later he said he was at work. But those people that called me at like 5pm said he wasnt there. Then he always locks his computer, and one day i caught him using a web cam, then i found lub. and a vibrator. He gets home so late on the nights my mom works. What i want to know is what should i do, cause for all i know he's just a guy looking at porn. (link)
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The best thing for you to do in this situation is talk to someone close to your mom. Tell them what you think and ask them whether or not it is worth bringning up to her. Don't tell your dad because he will try to hide the evidence and he'll just deny it anyways. If your mom doesn't have a close friend to talk to then just talk to your mom. Make sure you know for sure before you do.
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My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"? (link)
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Slowly start to make new friends, that she doesn't hang out with. That way you can get a new best friend and for once be the one ditching her. If she gets mad tell her to get over it! Tell her how she has always done that to you and your done with it. Make sure you have back up friends though. That way you won't end up alone. It'll teach her that it isn't right to treat people that way. Hope I helped.
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14|Female...For about two years ever since I found out my dad cheated on my mom...my life has been completely different, i use to feel really confident about my body but now i dont, i feel over weight and ugly (even though im 89lbs)I also have really bad trust issues now..I dont want to be like this anymore I want the old me back, My mom says the best way is for me to talk to someone about it but I cant talk to her because I know that it will upset her about the dad thing and I cant talk to my older sister because she will think im just going through some teenage stage...my mom suggested I see a therapist but i dont know if I want to or not because it just seems weird telling a stranger my feelings...and also I know they cost alot of money so I dont want to just waste money if I am going through a teenage stage but I dont think it is just a teenage stage...Im just really scared I am going to do something crazy if I dont tell people how I feel. So my question is...should I see a therapist or not? (link)
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It sounds like seeing a therapist might be a good idea. Therapy can help with those trust issues and help you to have more self confidence. Also to help raise up your self esteem.
If you are that scared about doing something crazy if you don't talk to someone, then you should talk to someone. If you don't it could lead to bigger problems like stress related, beacuse the more you bottle up your feelings in the end you will get really stressed out. That isn't good. So you should see a therapist to talk out your problems and help you get over them.
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Does anyone know how to get rid of acne scars? or can anyone recommend something to help get rid of them? (link)
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Go to your doctor, or dermatologist and ask about Differin and Benzoyal Peroxide. That should help.
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Does anybody know about those new tanning beds? The ones that are UV protectant?
I want to find out if they are real or not
I dont want to tan if i could get skin cancer (link)
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You can get skin cancer from laying out in your backyard and tanning. I know many people who go to the tanning bed and haven't got cancer, just make sure your first few time your only in there 5 mins. Then go to 8, 11 etc.
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well...so there's this guy named *B* and i liked him ever since i saw him in the 4th grade...i think he likes me too...b/c when he looks at me and then i look at him to see if he's looking at me then he looks away...i want to see if he likes me..and tell him i like him...but i don't know how...i'm friends with his cousin....so i can get his contact...i don't know wat to do??? (link)
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Just casually say to him "Hey, do you want to go to the movies sometime?" Casually like it's no big deal. It can even just be a friend thing at first. The worst that can happen is him saying no.
With your family being overprotective, try to explain to them (and show them) how mature you are. That they can trust you, also tell them you and him are just friends. Let your family meet him and learn to trust him, as you and him are still just friends, then see what they say about you two going out. Don't yell or get upset no matter how much you want to. If they say no handle it in a mature way, that way they will see you really are mature. Then eventually ask again. Be patient though, your family just loves you and is trying to protect you.
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If someone is on birthcontrol (the pill) and they had sex.. whats the likelyness of them getting pregnant. And they've been on the pill for half a month. (link)
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You have to tbe on the pill for 30 days before it is effective. You start taking it from the first day you start your period, then 30 days after that it would be safe to have sex. In that case with any pill there is a 92 to 99% chance you won't get pregnant. So even on the pill to be safe I would recomend using a condom. The pill won't prevent STD's etc. If you take any antibiotics then it lessens the effectiveness of the pill. If you have any more questions feel free to ask.
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My hair is brown with blonde streaks, but i want to change it for summer, please tell me how you dye your hair with kool aid and tell me how much it works i mean how well it works , like if it gives off a realyl good color, or is really weak ...and can you dye your hair with hawaiian punch? (link)
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Kool aid doesn't help dye your hair but it helps brightn it up, if you already have either blonde hair (lemon kool aid), red hair (cherry kool aid), if you have brown hair you can use instant coffee to give it a boost. Otherwise it won't dye your hair. If you put lemon juice in your hair then go out in the sun it will give it highlights. Since you alredy have highlights it should dye it if you use a lot. That's if you want blonde hair. Since your a natural brunette you won't want to go blonde. It usually doesn't look right. You might end up with an orange, to copper red hair also. If you want your hair dyed light brown, red, etc. You will probally have to go to the store and buy regular hair dye, that's your best bet.
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Where do they sell bras that just stick on and there's no strap or anything? NOT a straples bra but like stick on cups? (link)
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They sell stuff like that at Wal-Mart. It's around where you buy the bras though.
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okay so im 16 and i have never made out. i now have a new boyfriend and im nervous. like a part of me doesnt want him to kiss me and i dont know why. am i just nervous or am i still not ready? i mean im fine with the quick peck on the lips but i dont want to make out. i dated a guy for like 6 months without making out.. i know this cant go on forever but ah i dont know... also in a way the whole tounge in the mouth thing grosses me out... and i dont know how kiss so i wouldnt know what to do. everyone tells me to just go with the flow.. but sitll. wont your teeth knock together?
anyways..
what is wrong with me? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you. Different people are ready for different things at different ages. When you make out your teeth don't really knock together. Some guys like to use their teeth though. If you don't feel ready to make out then don't. Try not to make yourself feel pressured either, just because your 16.
How you do it is, you start out with a regular kiss then let it get a little more until you slide your tongue in his mouth or the other way around.
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ok. so my mom is going to iraq and my dad is moving me from west bloomfield, were my boyfriend lives to clarkston where my dad wants to live. we are moving next week. should i keep going out with him and do that whole long distance thing or should i break it off and explain?
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Long distance things almost never work out. You will just get stressed out trying to make things work, so you should probally break things off. It will only get worse for you, and for him.
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okay i am dark brunette and im thinking i wanna go blonde. okay is that a good idea? and im going to the beach and im gonna be swimming so will that ruin it?? thanx guys (link)
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I also have dark brown hair and I have tried to go blonde, two different colors and it didn't work out. Actually it was completely awful!!! I hated it and everyone around me hated it.
If you want to go lighter try a lighter brown.
Swimming at the beach won't ruin it. I have heard if you have blonde hair Chlorine changes it to a green color, but from what I have seen and my own personal experiances it doesn't.
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why do we cry over a guy?
when i listen to a slow jam its always remind me of the guy i likev and makes me cry so much..... why?
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We cry over them because we care a lot for them. Girls are more emotional then guys, which is why they usually don't cry. They try not to get too emotionally attatched; girls usually do to but it doesn't work! Don't worry you are DEFINATELY not the only one. We have all done it, and most of us will probally do it again.
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k so i'm 14 and i fell for a 16 yr old. He said he liked me and i told him how i felt. We decided that we'd wait a month before we decided anyhting b/c we had met really recently.
Now he says that he doesn't think he'll be ready to date anyone for a while, but he still only likes me. But i dont want to wait. Should i just give up and move on or wait for him? (link)
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You should tell him that you aren't going to wait for him and he needs to make a decision. No guy is worth the wait. Either he wants to be more then friends or not. Don't let him think about it either because it isn't that hard of a decision. Hope I helped.
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i really really like my guy friend we are neighbors and he tottaly gives me mixed messages we see eachother everyday and i just can't stand to be away from him i don't know if he likes me or not should i tell him how i feel or not. pleez help i will rate five no matter wat the answere (link)
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If you REALLY like him then ask him out. There is no harm in that and you won't know until you do. Make sure it's casual like, "Do you want to go to the movies with me sometime?" Something like that. It is a safe way of doing it because while your at the movies if he tries to hold your hand or something you'll know whether he likes you or not; or whether he sees you two as more then friends. If that doesn't work and he's really shy confront him about it.
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my boyfreind and i met on canada day when i was visiting poeple in reddeer it was great he was great and we connected great and all but londg distance is hard do u have any type s to make it easier or should i dump him because of the distance (link)
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I hate to say this but long distance relationships don't usually work out,but long distance friendships do! I guess you need to ask yourself "Am I willing to work to be with him?" and "Is it worth it?"
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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please (link)
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Being 13 and not wanting to loose you virginity is a good thing. He should respect that and if he doesn't then he is only in it for sex. You should tell him that it is immature of him to try to pressure you. If you need someone to talk to i'm here.
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Ok,I'm 13(gal)and i babysit 2 boys 3 times a week for about 4 hrs. There 1-1/2 & 6 yrs. old the 6 yr.old will NOT listen, i tell him not to do something and he still does it. Every time i have a problem i tell the dad when he gets home,but he never does anything.I have been babysitting for around 3 years and I've never run into this problem before. I'm thinking about starting a discipline plan.If he acts up i will tell him to go to his room,if he doesn't do that I'll tell him were not going outside that day etc.(i say what i mean and mean what i say).Then if it still doesn't work after a few days I'll tell his mom i cant babysit him anymore.I just cant handle him.I just need to know if other babysitters like me think this sounds good. thanks. (link)
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When you talk to him no matter how mad he makes you don't yell. The lower your voice is the more he has to listen and he will feel more compelled to listen. Try to keep him busy with different activities: Coloring, playing cars,etc. Make sure you do these activities with him. He is just trying to cry out for attention. If his parents aren't doing anything about what you tell them then the kid probally isn't getting as much attention as he needs. Try not to get mad at him and try to understand what he is going through. He just wants a friend. If you stop babysitting then he will feel really bad, when right now he might need someone to talk to. It is harder for kids to talk to someone so he is acting out. It know I might sound crazy but I know. I have babysat a bunch of kids before, and I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers all younger then me. You might get frusterated but the less anger or frustration you show him even in facial expressions or sending him to his room etc. the more he will learn to respect you. It will just take time, and remember he might be going through a hard time right now even if he is only six.
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