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I've been hanging out with this group of people for a while and they're fun to be with but one girl fell out with her previous group of friends, and joined this group of friends but we don't really get along? But the rest of the group are fine with her and she's fine with them, it's just me she doesn't get along with? I used to think she was nice before she began hanging out with this group of friends? (link)
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It is normal for not everyone in a group to click. There will be some people you like more in the group. And there will be some you like less in the group. The most important thing is to not let this new girl come between you and the friends in the group. Understand that you have differences but try to be civil when around her. Or try to find something that you both have in common to talk about to forum a friend ship
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I step out of class for a brief moment, im very focussed on where i was headed too, i was causally listening to music going up the stairs. When i hear a "sphhhh". I look down the stairs and see a boy looking at me at first he had a blank expression and he winked at me. I was flattered and suprissed that someone was calling me just so they could wink. I look down smile and continue to go up the stairs but i stop and look back for one final look and hes grinning and i smile back once again, we didnt breal eye contact at all. It was like the cutest thing, ive never met him but have seen him around my school. Im sort of hoping to see him again, and will he recognize me or even care. I dont know.. (link)
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Next time you see him, go up to him and say Hi my name is -----. I saw you in the hall the other day and i thought id introduce myself. Or possibly we could go for coffee? He will be inpressed by your assertive go get'er confidence.
Good luck
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I don't know if this is teenage hormones or if I'm generally just someone who gets bored super fast but being bored is getting annoying. At home id rather hangout with "friends" but as soon as I hang out with them I get bored and wish I was home then the cycle continues. Nothing really exciting happens in my life and I never get to travel so I'm always stuck in my small little town. I also feel like I never really fit in with people I wouldn't consider myself antisocial but I get annoyed with the people I know really fast. Nobody really texts me unless they want something and when I text them some of them don't even reply, so I just stopped texting people in general but then I get annoyed and bored because no one texts me and then the cycle continues from there. What can I do to stop getting annoyed and bored so easily? I've tried hobbies but they're just boring, being at home is boring, hanging out with "friends" is boring etc (I put quotation marks because some of my friends are fake and don't know me at all but swear they do and others I feel like I don't belong in their group of friends and just feel like baggage, but even my real friends I get bored with) please help, I'm a 17 year old female that has nothing exciting ever happen to her in her life, never had a boyfriend, first kiss, never had a best friend, when I go to parties I just wanna be at home, when I'm home I wanna be anywhere else but home, I literally also feel like a boring person to be around cause all I really do is go to school, and go home then the cycle continues please help (link)
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Being bored is completely normal for teenagers. I have been there many times. I find conversations get boring to listen to. But you have to find some way to tune yourself to your friendsm involve more. I Definetly texty friends wsy more than they text me. Here are a few websites that will hopefully help.
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http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=293&id=2723
Http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/things-to-do-when-youre-bored-boredom-busters/
http://www.thefemininewoman.com/2012/04/what-makes-a-woman-boring-and-how-not-to-be-boring
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12 year old female. There's this girl in my classes (7th grade) who is really cute and nice. I met her this year and we've become friends. I recently started following her on Instagram and she has a picture of her kissing two friends. It's a very edgy photo, one of her friends is in a questionable position. Someone commented that it's a lot like her in the bathroom with *insert the girl's name here*. I sent her a DM asking spam for spam, I figured that could start a conversation. I figured that one of these days I'd post a tbh so she might like it and I could Dm her something (not confessing my crush) and leave heart emojis at the end. Perhaps she'd say something back. But if I want her to like it quickly before I have to "tbh" a bunch of other girls and it'll seem meaningless (granted I'm going to do this over DM) but that will seem suspicious. I am not sure how I should ask for her number. Any ideas? (link)
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If you really want her attention ask hrr in person. Yes i know its scary! But it will show her that your interested. (I gave a boy my number.. scary thing! But it turned out positive :) )
Tell her you would like to go for coffee or activity that you both would enjoy.
Goodluck :)
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i have a very lot of anxiety and i worry a lot in our relationship. how do i detach from him? like i want to still love him, but i want to detach in the way where the things he does won't upset me and i could care less and still love him as much as i do now. he doesnt do bad things, its just he chooses games over me sometimes and doesnt do stuff the way thatll make me feel like im important to him. i dont want to try to chahge him to make me happy, so how can i detach where those things wont bother me? can you please give me steps and tips pretty pretty please??? (link)
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Im assuming your 16-20?. You want to make yourself not care about the things that bother you. Thats not right. If he is treating you like you are not inportant then that is a big red flag.he should be praising you and treating you like a queen.
I would suggest talking to him about how you feel. And being open with him about the things that bother you. You should not have to feel anxiety or stressed eith someone your with
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Why do I hate myself so much ? I'm a thirteen year old girl who can't even stand herself in the slightest. I hate every single thing about myself. I have a hideous face. I don't even like looking in the mirror to see myself or else I'll start to get depressed. I also have very curly and frizzy hair that can't be tamed. To top it all off my body is atrocious. I don't worry about my body too much because I can lose the weight, but my face is an overall disaster. I know I sound weak and ungrateful, but it hurts so much to know that I look this way. I don't think I could every be happy without beauty. I wish so badly that I could look like a model in the near future, but that is something that is hard to achieve. (link)
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At 13 you are in the akward stage. The stage were your body is changing and maturing, learning about your body face beauty etc. This is completely normal. When i was 13 i was a bigger girl Wore glasses, and definitely did not have the latest trends. Even as an adult i struggle with body image. Everone has things that they done like. (For me its ny tummy and thighs)
One think i must strongly impress on you. Is that size 0-2 models is not a healthy goal. Now. I may not have seen you but i can garantee that you are not hideous. You are a beautiful young lady.
Why do you not like your self? What about you do you want to change? Is it because you look different than others? Or your not the skinniest like your class mates?
These are all questions your ladies ask daily. What you must do if know that you are beautiful because you are you. There is no one in the world exactly like you. And that makes you super special and unique. So definetly be proud of who you are and remember you are the best beautiful you that you can be.
Hope this helps:)
Is you have any more questions inbox me :)
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I've been dating my boyfriend for probably about a month now although we've been talking since September. I've only been out with him three times but it was for two days at a time all three times and we talk on the phone for between 3-5 hours every other night or so. On our last date he told me he loved me and I said it back because I do have genuine feelings for him.
I really like him because he's much more intelligent than most of the guys I've dated, he takes care of himself and I really feel like we click. He's also the first man I've dated that I'm actually physically attracted to which is kind of a big deal for me because my last LTR (2.5 years) even though I thought he was attractive I wasn't sexually attracted to him and it put a big strain on our relationship. I also don't want to give myself away to him too quickly though and I'm scared things are leaning that way because he's very touchy.
We have a lot of fun on our dates and they're easily the best I've had with anybody and he says he feels the same way. I miss him when he's not here and I do want to make things work, but there are also some big issues.
I feel like he's very narcissistic and into himself. Although I like that it makes him dress nice, eat healthy, work out, and take care of himself I always feel like I'm competing with his own vanity.
For whatever reason we both seem to touch on each others nerves. I'm usually a very calm collected person, but when I'm with him things become different very quickly. He'll get me wrapped up into heated debates on things I'm passionate about, and I don't like that because I always try to be classy, composed and intellectual. He says he likes it because it's the "unfiltered" side of me and who I really am not the front I put on for others, but I'm more wondering if he's not bringing out the worst in me?
I also feel like I'm giving too much information about myself away to him. I've told him way more about myself than I have to people much closer to me. By doing this I feel as though I'm ruining that chance to come off as who I'm trying to be (classy, smart, pretty, mysterious and funny) by telling him stories from my past that make me seem a bit dramatic, edgy and too passionate about what I believe in. I'm at a point in my life where I'm trying to form the new adult me and get away from the old teenage me so I feel like this is an issue.
Other than that I had plans to start at a high end private university in a month and there I was hoping to meet somebody who I go to school with who had connections and maybe came from an established family that could help me build my future. I don't mean to sound like a gold digger at all, but I feel like I need help in that department because I don't come from a well off family and don't have any good connections with to build my future which is important in my major. I do have a lot of skills that I can offer in return. Of course, with him in the picture I can't do that but I really do like him. I feel like his future could go either way. He has big plans and goals including moving out of the country, but he's going to be graduating way before me (hes two years older) and who knows if he's going to stick around? He says he would for me, but I'm doubting that because he's very passionate about his success. However, that's at least a year off in the future anyways.
What should I do?
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I would say that by the sounds of it. This relationship is still in the beginning stages. So if you have haf a rough past LTR, then it is perfectly normal to take things slow. If you are uncomfortable with how touchy-feely he is being then you have every right to say such. Keep that in mind.
If you feel like hes putting more into himself then the relationship that can definetly be a red flag. I think that the fact that he challenges you on subjects you are passionate about it a good thing. It lets you open up to him. However if he is doing it to belittle you thats a huge issue as well that needs considering.
Keepin mind that moms have a super intuition. They can tell a bad situation or person before they have met them. I dont beleive your mom is saying she doesnt want to met him to be harsh or rude. I think she is doing it to protect uou. This relationship is still very very very new. A month is not long. She will warm up once you guys have been together longer.
It kind of sounds like you know he wont be staying around when he graduates. So it id worth it keeping him around like a cat toy. I think you like the idea of him mor then are in love withbjim.
Hope this helps :)
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Im I still virgin if I do fingering? (link)
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Yes, you are still a virgin
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Okay so like i have this high school ex boyfriend and we dated a couple of months in 2012 then broke up for a while got back together in april 2013 and broke up again in june 2013 and then last year april 2015 we starting speaking and seeing each other again until now august 2015 but just as friends..we startd speaking almost everyday whole day he is way different than wen we dated his acting like boyfriend material..and yes we do have sex we would see each ouher once or twice on a monthly basis,he would always say things like how he wants a baby or when am i getting married or asks questions like how do i think we would end up if we had to meet for the first time,he would b so sweet and everything would just be perfect like we are meant to be but then recently this month (august) things seem to b different he hardly speak to me or even reply to my msgs and i dnt know why he told me he knows that it irritates me cause he does it jo hs other friends aswell but i dont know if its true coz we use to speak almost everyday whole day but now it seems asif that everyday is becoming sometimes only..im so confused really coz he just stopped all off a sudden..i askd hm whats up with the m.i.a buzZ and then he told me he just feels like being alone lately bt then ths past saterday i told hm i miss hm and then he randomly msgs me and told me that hs thing bout going home but thought bout the woman that misses him and then 5mins later he came to fetch me and as always it was perfect he was playn with my hair and hands and was holding me tight..it really feels asif we dating but we not..yday i msg hm bt he ddnt reppond ths mrng i also msgd hm bt then he responded saying 'why so lastag lately" and then i just replied sayn thanx.sorry for being lastag and he must njoy his day dont think hes going to reply anytime soon eventhough it happend before where i kept sending msgs and then stayed quiet and few days later he send me a msg to ask if im stil alive..what i dont get is why the sudden change? We both havent moved on and im like the only girl his seeing that i know of coz i askd him if he wold he tell me if he have a gf one day and he said "probably why but i dont think il feel anythng for anyone anymore" Im so confused..i dont get why he dnt wana speak to me or reply to my msgs lately..do you think he mayb moved on? Do u think he got bored of me coz he always use to say i would be stuck with hm for the rest of my life and look now he dont speak to me..i really ddnt mean to bother him and be lastag i just miss talkin to him like we use to so its hard if i dont hear anything from him..what should i do should i back off and give him space and wait till he shows up coz wen he dropd me at home he told me see u next time but now im not so sure coz he said im lastag..what do you think about this situation?? A year and four months and we hav not moved on yet with otha people we stil with each other eventhough we just friends..why do you think his acting so all of a sudden ths month?? Please help me i dont want to loose him not again but i dont undertand why he nli speaks and replies to me sometimes (link)
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First off, Is it him breaking up or you breaking up, and who gets back together with whom?
My Advice, Dump this guy for good. By the sounds of it he only comes to you when he is lonely. or not dating someone else.
he keeps your hopes up by coming back and then lets you down by leaving. and then hopes up again.. and leaves. Yoou will never be open to real hapiness if you let yourself keep getting hurt by this guy. You need to let him go. so you that you can find your happiness. It is not fair to you at all for him to keep popping up and saying he wants to be with you,. have your baby or marry you when he can't even stay around long enough to have a commited relationship. I would also advise as stopping the sex. again he cant last for a commited relationship,. how is he going to stay around for 9 months or longer if you end up prgnant?
I had a guy exactly like this! I kept me going for three years. He would always pop up to see how i'm doing inbetwen his girlfriends. and say how i miss you babe, and your the only one for me. yet i was never able to fully get over him. because he kept popping into my life making me think it would work out with him..
I feel this guy is doing this to you as well to keep you as an 'option' just in case.
You deserve a guy who wants to be with you. Not a guy who wants to be with you when it's convenint for him..
RED FLAG HONEY
He will probably tell you if he has a gf.. key words.. he has a gf and he is not telling you. But he wants to keep you beleiving every word he says because he doesnt want to leave you as an option.. This guy is a total jerk for even assuming that you should give an eff after how he has treated you.
You will ALWAYS miss his smile, and miss how he treats you. and miss the good ol days. But I learned the hard way.. the good ol days are gone, This is what you have now. Do you want to spend the next 4 years on and off with him, Or do you want to be open to a real guy who will always put you first. who will wake up and make it his mission to make you smile. and will do everything he can just to see you for a moment.
Unfortunatly, even if we don't want to lose some one. It HAS TO BE a two way fight. If you are the only one fighting. then unfortunatly it is a loosing battle.
Best thing for you to do is move one. He has and he is not letting you move on with is completely unfair to you! don't go around playing his game when you deserve REAL Happiness. Not happiness when he feels like it.
Trust me, You deserve so much better.
And yes you may not see it and say I dont want better, But that is because you don't know what better is, because he's all you had.
Try something new and get rid of the old/bad.
Hope this helps!
Let me know if there is
anything else i can help with,
*Jasmine
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I made a fake email for a tumblr account and now i can't remember it! What do i do? (link)
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First off, Why make a Fake email ^.0
That seems sketchy..
Anywho,. Did you try Forget my password?
You might have to create a second fake email address so that you can get back on tumbler.
Make sure to email your actual email with the info so you don't lose it?
Hope this helps!
Let me know if there is
anything else i can help with,
*Jasmine
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I'm 20 and wore braces four years ago that gave me a smile I'd always wanted. For years after I was told I had to wear a retainer to keep my teeth in the same place.
So I did, except about 6 months ago i lost it. I should have got to the orthodontists then to get a replacement-but was worried it'd not be on the NHS.
So now, six months on due to eating I have a hideously large gap between my front two teeth again and its causing me to cover my mouth when i smile. Like you could easily get a coin through there.
So is there any way without going to the orthodontists to get the gap reduced if not closed?
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Well it sounds like you have gone through a big ordeal in order to avoid this gap. 4 years of braces.. and a retainer and in only 6 months it opened up again?
Can I ask why you hate your space so much? What is it about it that keeps you from liking it?
When I was younger (25 now) Around 16.. I asked about braces my self. As I have a fairly large gap! In the front of my face. I thought omgosh. This is hideous! How is anyone going to like me when i look like a dang beaver..
I was told that even if i had braces and if the space did close.. It will come back. Some people are born with spaces in their teeth like us. or weird freckles all over.. or longer fingers.
The point is.. Is this worth it. Do you want to wear braces for the rest of your life, in order to achieve the model teeth of no gap?
Or would you like to accept yourself gap and all, and not have metal gear in your mouth?
It sounds to me, That you have the same case i did with my teeth and that no matter what you do, your teeth with go back to the way they are.
To answer your question, No there isn't really a way to close that gap as it has opened up again naturally adjusting to how your body is
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How to mek frenz (link)
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This is a hard one. It always has been in sociability and always will be. First off.. Spell english. 'How to make friends"
Second of all. Depending on if you are a guy/girl. You will be interested in different things. And depending on what grade you are in, you will either have many classes or not alot.
Fact is you have to find people with common interests. Say you heard about a concert some where or an event that is happening in your city. As some of the people around you if they are interested in such event and see if they would like to hang. It's not easy. But it can be an opening to being friends.
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Ok I'm sort of the emo of the school along with a few other kids. I got labeled, I never called myself femo, I just dressed and acted the way I like. So now there is this annoying group of girls trying to get with us. If you look at their Instagrams they keep posting depressing pictures where they insult themselves and write "I'm emo." "I have myself because I'm emo." One girl thinks she's soooo emo because she listens to 5 seconds of summer. She also keeps asking me band names, and says she likes BVB (my favorite band) and apparently has been listening to them "since they formed in the 90's" I mean 1. None of us were BORN in the 90's 2. They released We Stich These Wounds in 2010. I told her that and she said,"oh well I know them." I asked her to name a member other than Andy Beirsack and she said,"well I only care about Andy." The others are doing it for attention. This one girl is actually genuine but she is rreeeaaaalllyyy egotistical with a "more emo than you" meanwhile she doesn't even actually listen to the bands she claims to and just looks up songs to name to seem like she knows what she's talking about. And then there's a stampede of annoying 6th graders (I'm in 7th) who think they know everything. Here's what someone said to me and my friends: "I think I'm emo. I mean I dress like it, I listen to the music, and I'm depressed and hate life and want to die." I mean, seriously, emo is not a mental disorder. And I'm pretty sure cutting off some hair except your side bangs, listening to dashboard confessional because "I saw (*insert emo boy*) who's really hot wearing a t shirt for it" and writing "Die" on your leg with sharpie (no joke I saw it with my own eyes) is emo. Me and my friends hang out with the goths and punks too and they have the same problem. So how do get these annoying idiots to leave us alone? (link)
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To be honest. You will find this anywhere you go. You are all at the age where you are trying to define yourself by what you look like. what you say. what you wear and maybe these people actual idolize you and want to be like you.
You as being the older one need to talk to these girl/guys and say. I understand you like being these things. But saying you want to die and saying you hate your life is NOT OKAY. You should be happy with what you have. Tell them they are not being themselves by saying you like this person because a hot guy wears their shirt. I mean common.. That's like saying I like Justin Beiber because Some Toddler was singing his song.. FYI.. I HATE JB.. and that sentence does not make sense at all!.
What these girls/guys need to do. is find out what they like. and be real with what they like. not what everyone else likes... I mean if everyone else was having sex would you do it too.. Society is based on themes of who looks like what celebrity.. Marilyn Manson and who looks like bey once. It's better to be yourself. Stand out for who you are.. not trying to be like every single person is out there.
I hope this helps
and if you have anything else you would like help with, Let me know :)
~*Jasmine
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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I got pregnant very young as well. I was only 17 or 18. Its been a few years now. But you have to think about every single option. and please read averything because I am DEFINITELY not Quilting you. or trying to make you feel bad. I have thought about all of this as well.
First of, was this consensual sex? What was it about this person that made you decide this was a good thing to do. ARe you Ready for a child of your own when you yourself are still a child?
You are only 13. and you are still in school.
I presume you are in grad 7-8 by your age?
Now say you do have this child, How are you going to pay for your child's food? What about their diapers? What about their clothes? How are you going to build a life for this child with no income?
Your step-parents? They are expecting themselves. I am not here to judge you.. but you have to think long and hard. Are you able to provide the life that this child needs or deserves at your age? you are only 13. to legally work in this country ( Canada) You have to be older than 16.
I would also talk to the help line for young people. as they can help as well. But you have to consider every single option. If you don't want to abort this child. there is adoption. Which is ALWAYS an option.
I hope this helps.
Please let me know if there is anything else i can do to help :)
Here is the link and phone number for you:
American Pregnancy Helpline
866-942-6466 FREE
Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week
http://www.thehelpline.org
Crisis Call Center
800-273-8255 FREE or text ANSWER to 839863
Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week
http://crisiscallcenter.org/crisisservices.html
Planned Parenthood
800-230-PLAN FREE (7526) - for routing to local resources
Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week
http://www.plannedparenthood.org
Sincerely,
Jasmine
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I have a 4-H project due Monday. I tried a few Diy project and they didn't work. We have to show how to do something. I chose Diy Rainbow roses. Do they work? (link)
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http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Rainbow-Rose
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Hi I'm a thirteen year old girl and for the past 3 years or so, I've been getting yellowy, sticky stuff in my underwear. It wasn't too bad at first but recently it's been getting quite bad - as in a lot - and I'm starting to get worried. I had my first period last summer and haven't had another since. I'm a little bit worried. What if my friends see a little bit and think it's pee when we change for P.E? That would be so embarrassing! Please help. Am I normal like this? (link)
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The yellow stuff your seeing could be normal vaginal discharge. Which is completely normal around your age. Since you did have your first period last summer. and have not had one since, I would definetly go see your doctor, or your parents doctor if you don't have one regarding this issue. It may not be anything. But I always find it is better to be safe than sorry.
You could also talk to your mom about this as she was a young child once and would be able to comfort you through these changes that you are going though.
Hope this helps
:)Jasmine
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Hey honey, You are definetly not alone, and are still very young. You have so many adventures ahead of you. I got my first boyfriend in grade 9 It was the best thing ever. at that time. we broke up as well. You will have many many boyfriends before you find the one you are meant to be with.
(I know i sound like crap. I thought the same thing. But with time you will learn that knowledge on your own.
As for your friends, they will fight, they will argue. Some friendships will not last unfortunately. and some will last forever :)
Just remember you can't control what your friends do and if they get mad at eachother just remember to tell them that you are not choosing sides. You will make new friends in ways you could never imagine.
As for getting bad grades. It happens to everyone. If you just focus and try to remember the stuff in a different way it will definetly help:) I got made fun of in school for being a nerd. and was a bit of an outsider myself. But you must remember that if somethings not right you have the ability to change the ultimate outcome. Changing your grades by studying harder.
What exactly makes you feel so depressed? What is they key factor that makes you feel like you must cut or might do something worse? First step is to talk to someone close to you. If that is not an option there are help lines. These people are trained to help you through these situations.
I beleive strongly in my heart that you will be happy again. There is so much beauty in this world that is sometimes overpowered by darkness. But the light is always most powerful when your moment is darkest.
Just remember you are full of potental and have so much to live for. High school, A first crappy job. A few boyfriends that will end up sucking in the end. but will teach you most valuable life lessons. Love. Marriage. Kids, Kids moments, Grandchildren. There is so much this world has to offer you.
Hope this helps
-Jasmine
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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im.sorry I'm not sure what your question is
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Hi wen i am on my period i get relly horne what shud i do ? O an i am 14 and girl (link)
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Hello, 23/f.
That is perfectly normal. It happens to me all the time. I usually dont do smything on my period cuz i think its gross.
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I am covered under my mom's employer's insurance plan until I'm 26. I developed a lot of serious health issues and require tests and hospital stays. My mom has blue cross/blue shield. It covered 80% of the bills. The 20% out of pocket I have to pay is still expensive. My employer is offering health insurance. I am considering making it my secondary plan. It's an indemnity health insurance plan. I asked for a plan overview and details. What other questions should I ask them? (link)
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Ask them how much they will cover?
What do they coverwhat is the year dates?(jan1 -jan 1?
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