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Running out of options
Okay so like i have this high school ex boyfriend and we dated a couple of months in 2012 then broke up for a while got back together in april 2013 and broke up again in june 2013 and then last year april 2015 we starting speaking and seeing each other again until now august 2015 but just as friends..we startd speaking almost everyday whole day he is way different than wen we dated his acting like boyfriend material..and yes we do have sex we would see each ouher once or twice on a monthly basis,he would always say things like how he wants a baby or when am i getting married or asks questions like how do i think we would end up if we had to meet for the first time,he would b so sweet and everything would just be perfect like we are meant to be but then recently this month (august) things seem to b different he hardly speak to me or even reply to my msgs and i dnt know why he told me he knows that it irritates me cause he does it jo hs other friends aswell but i dont know if its true coz we use to speak almost everyday whole day but now it seems asif that everyday is becoming sometimes only..im so confused really coz he just stopped all off a sudden..i askd hm whats up with the m.i.a buzZ and then he told me he just feels like being alone lately bt then ths past saterday i told hm i miss hm and then he randomly msgs me and told me that hs thing bout going home but thought bout the woman that misses him and then 5mins later he came to fetch me and as always it was perfect he was playn with my hair and hands and was holding me tight..it really feels asif we dating but we not..yday i msg hm bt he ddnt reppond ths mrng i also msgd hm bt then he responded saying 'why so lastag lately" and then i just replied sayn thanx.sorry for being lastag and he must njoy his day dont think hes going to reply anytime soon eventhough it happend before where i kept sending msgs and then stayed quiet and few days later he send me a msg to ask if im stil alive..what i dont get is why the sudden change? We both havent moved on and im like the only girl his seeing that i know of coz i askd him if he wold he tell me if he have a gf one day and he said "probably why but i dont think il feel anythng for anyone anymore" Im so confused..i dont get why he dnt wana speak to me or reply to my msgs lately..do you think he mayb moved on? Do u think he got bored of me coz he always use to say i would be stuck with hm for the rest of my life and look now he dont speak to me..i really ddnt mean to bother him and be lastag i just miss talkin to him like we use to so its hard if i dont hear anything from him..what should i do should i back off and give him space and wait till he shows up coz wen he dropd me at home he told me see u next time but now im not so sure coz he said im lastag..what do you think about this situation?? A year and four months and we hav not moved on yet with otha people we stil with each other eventhough we just friends..why do you think his acting so all of a sudden ths month?? Please help me i dont want to loose him not again but i dont undertand why he nli speaks and replies to me sometimes
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First off, Is it him breaking up or you breaking up, and who gets back together with whom?
My Advice, Dump this guy for good. By the sounds of it he only comes to you when he is lonely. or not dating someone else.
he keeps your hopes up by coming back and then lets you down by leaving. and then hopes up again.. and leaves. Yoou will never be open to real hapiness if you let yourself keep getting hurt by this guy. You need to let him go. so you that you can find your happiness. It is not fair to you at all for him to keep popping up and saying he wants to be with you,. have your baby or marry you when he can't even stay around long enough to have a commited relationship. I would also advise as stopping the sex. again he cant last for a commited relationship,. how is he going to stay around for 9 months or longer if you end up prgnant?
I had a guy exactly like this! I kept me going for three years. He would always pop up to see how i'm doing inbetwen his girlfriends. and say how i miss you babe, and your the only one for me. yet i was never able to fully get over him. because he kept popping into my life making me think it would work out with him..
I feel this guy is doing this to you as well to keep you as an 'option' just in case.
You deserve a guy who wants to be with you. Not a guy who wants to be with you when it's convenint for him..
RED FLAG HONEY
He will probably tell you if he has a gf.. key words.. he has a gf and he is not telling you. But he wants to keep you beleiving every word he says because he doesnt want to leave you as an option.. This guy is a total jerk for even assuming that you should give an eff after how he has treated you.
You will ALWAYS miss his smile, and miss how he treats you. and miss the good ol days. But I learned the hard way.. the good ol days are gone, This is what you have now. Do you want to spend the next 4 years on and off with him, Or do you want to be open to a real guy who will always put you first. who will wake up and make it his mission to make you smile. and will do everything he can just to see you for a moment.
Unfortunatly, even if we don't want to lose some one. It HAS TO BE a two way fight. If you are the only one fighting. then unfortunatly it is a loosing battle.
Best thing for you to do is move one. He has and he is not letting you move on with is completely unfair to you! don't go around playing his game when you deserve REAL Happiness. Not happiness when he feels like it.
Trust me, You deserve so much better.
And yes you may not see it and say I dont want better, But that is because you don't know what better is, because he's all you had.
Try something new and get rid of the old/bad.
Hope this helps!
Let me know if there is
anything else i can help with,
*Jasmine<3
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