there is a girl that i use to fight with a lot but now i am sick of fights so i'm pretending to be her friend because i'm real good friends with her best friend. The girl i hate is also ignoring her best friend and hanging out with this other girl . her best friend notices but still likes her and still defends her when i try to tell her how i feel about the girl i hate. im sure if i tell her i dont like her bestfriend she wont like me either. how can i get out of being friends with the girl i hate but still be friends with her best
friend and my other friends?
It's probably best to just avoid her right now. If you're out with all of your other friends and she's there, just talk to a couple of the other friends and try to steer clear of her. You could also try staying away from places where she is as much as possible. Try to hang out with that girl's best friend individually.
Have you tried to just forgive and forget? If her best friend is really cool, she's probably somewhat cool, too. The best outcome of this situation is you actually becoming friends with the girl that you hate right now. Unless you have an extremely legitimate reason for hating her, you should try to talk things over and forgive her. Then, all of you will be able to hang out and be closer without having to try to avoid each other.
good luck,
darby(:
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okay so this guy asked me out and my best friend broke up wiht him like 2 months ago...i said yess and now idk if i should break up with him or not ebcuase it seemes liek all my friends are turning on me and stuff becuase either they like him or they feel bad for hiss x(who brokee up wiht him cough cough) now shouyld i brake up with him or stay with him??
It seems to me that your best friend is upset that you're dating her ex boyfriend so she's turning your friends against. You need to talk to your best friend and see how she feels about it. If she tells you that she's upset or she doesn't want you to date him, you should break up with him. Unless, of course, you don't care if you lose all of your friends. For future reference, it would be best to ask your friend first if she's still hung up on your ex. Then you'd avoid the whole angry friends thing.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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alright, well there is this kid nick, i liked him alot, but he wasnt telling me if he liked me or not, and last year this kid eric i liked alot and enough to wait, i ended up waiting 4 months now he doesnt talk to me, but back to nick i just didnt want this happening to me and him, so i gave up. now theres a kid name dillon, hes sweet cute and treats me right. his ex girlfriend jill was mad about me and him talking but she got over it, but her friend carol was told by nick that i played nick out when i didnt, carols mad and wants to fight me shes physco though, she keeps calling and calling me and threatening me i dont know what to do, help...
You need to tell your parents so that they can either contact Carol's parents or the police, or both. I'm guessing you guys are fairly young, just by the way she's reacting. A simple call to the cops will stop her dead in her tracks. Plus, if you contact the police and they tell her to leave you alone (which they will) and she continues to harass you, it will be much easier for you to press charges against her since it will already be on file that she's been harassing you.
Whatever you do, don't stoop to her level and fight her. If you do, you'll both get in trouble. Just have the cops or Carol's parents talk to Carol and see where it goes from there. I'm sure she'll leave you alone once she realises how much trouble she will get in if she continues to mess with you.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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Recently, I just found out that the boy I've liked for 2 and a half years doesn't like me. But I don't know if he was lying because everyone is saying he is lying but I'm not so sure. And I've liked him for this long so I think we are meant to be. Please help me!!! I really do love him and I think I'm in love wit him.
If he directly told you that he's not into you, you shouldn't hold your breath. It would be nice if he was lying about it, but it's so highly doubtful that he'd lie about liking you if he really did like you. Especially since you have liked him for so two years. Even if you didn't directly tell him that you like him, I'm sure he's figured it out by now. If he felt the same way, he'd admit it.
It's possible that people are trying to tell you that he's lying in order to make you feel better because they think that will help. Of course you know that it won't do any good for them to get your hopes up if he really doesn't like you. If you still think he does like you, you could try directly asking him.
But if he told you he doesn't already, I wouldn't push the issue. You'll just end up getting rejected/getting your feelings hurt.
Good luck,
Darby
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my best friend is not half as social as i am. i love to spend most of my time with her. but when im not with her i enjoy hanging out with other people. which is completely normal! but the problem is that she doesn't really have any other friends besides me. and i always feel bad when i want to spend the night out or attend a party of another friends without her because she isn't invited. or if she does tag along i fear she feels like a 3rd wheel. but than again i feel its not really my fault she doesn't have anyone besides me. don't get me wrong i love this girl to death. but i cant hangout with her 24/7! what do u think i should do?
I think you should rest assured that you're doing everything you can do. You're right; you can't be with her all the time even if she is your best friend. There's nothing wrong with wanting to go out with other people sometimes. For all you know, your friend might enjoy spending half of her time with you and half of her time at alone. I've gone through long periods where I only hang out with one or two people and spend the rest of my time alone writing or painting. I enjoy the time alone to relax.
If your friend hasn't mentioned feeling like a third wheel, I wouldn't bring it up to her. If she hasn't thought that yet, bringing it up will make her insecure about it. Instead, when she is tagging along say something like, "I'm so glad you came with", that way she'll feel like you really like spending time with her and that she's not a third wheel.
Darby(:
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My senior pictures are coming up soon so i need to know what color shirts i should pick out. i have hazel eyes, fair skin and brown hair with lots of blonde highlights in it. thankss!
It really depends what colour the background of the picture will be. If the background is black or grey, you might want to wear something with a brighter. But if the background is a lighter colour, I think a black shirt would go will with your fair skin tone. If I were you, I'd wear my favourite shirt. You'll feel confident while wearing it and your picture will come out better.
Darby(:
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I am a 22 year old woman dating a 39 year old man. We've been together for almost 2 years now. I love him very much and he loves me.
Can our relationship last despite our age difference?
I agree with the other person that people that are 39 are in a far different stage in their life than a 22 year old. That doesn't mean that you can't make the relationship work though. Each relationship is an individual situation. There is no guidebook on these kind of things. Sometimes age differences have little effect on a couple, and sometimes the age difference tears a couple apart.
As long as you both acknowledge that you are at different stages of your lives and are understanding with each other, things should be okay. It's just a matter of being okay with the other person being in a different place. Don't expect him to be exactly like you, and he shouldn't expect you to be exactly like him. If you remember these things, your relationship has a decent chance at survival.
Darby(:
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So I'm to the point in my friendship with a girl that I'm ready to ask her out, and I think she likes me too although of course I'm nervous anyway. SO I have thought of about 3 ways to do it and I want to know which one I should use.
1) Just straight up tell her my feelings for her. Probably the most risky one in my opinion. Also then "ask" her if she feels the same way.
2) Be funny about it, and make it not a question but more of a command, like "so when are you going to let me take you out on a date?" Like with a smirk, and real direct. To me this seems less risky and less awkward. But of course she could laugh it off and I wouldn't get an answer.
3) Play 20 questions with her, and like for all my questions it would be "do you like a guy," and then ask questions describing myself "is he tall," "does he like sports," etc. and then for the last question I would ask if she wanted to be my girlfriend. This sounds the funnest, but I think it would be really hard to steer the conversation that way.
4) I'll also take any other suggestions, thanks!!!
Number two isn't a good idea because it could send mixed signals. She won't know whether you're being serious or if you're just messing around with her. Then, if she does like you, she'd be more nervous to say it.
Number one is always a good option if you're pretty sure the girl likes you too. But, if you do that, you stand the chance of getting straight up rejected. If I liked a guy, I'd want him to just directly tell me that he likes me. But if I didn't like a guy, I wouldn't want him to do this. It creates a confrontational type situation where you have to give a direct answer or things will turn awkward quickly. If I were you, I probably wouldn't do this.
Number three is probably your best choice in this situation, but I'd do it in a different way. At first, just ask normal questions, you don't want to just jump into 20 questions with, "Hey! You like anyone??" that'll be really obvious.
Instead you should wait until 3 or 4 questions in. Really, it wouldn't be hard to steer the conversation in that direction. It always seems to go in that direction regardless.
Once you've asked a few questions, you can ask her if she likes anyone. If she says yes, say something like, 'Oh, do I know him?' Something cute like that will make it somewhat humorous so it won't be awkward.
The conversation, of course, will just go on from there. If she says you do know him, ask how well. If she says very well, say where do I know him from or something like that. You'll be dancing around the subject and acting totally oblivious, but after a couple minutes, you'll get around to the real questions and get the answers to the questions you've got.
good luck!
Darby(:
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So ive been friends with this girl tanya basically my whole life and last summer we became bestfriends. than towards the end of the year we started being friends with these group of girls..and within the group tanya was just really bitchy and just overall a bad friend so we all decided not to be friends with her..however, a couple monthes later now, im starting to miss her a lott and i want my bestfriend back. so i texted her and she said it would take time before we ever became friends again..but the problem is i dont know where to go from here..do i text her or do i wait it out for her to text me. im so confused! helppp!
Since Tanya has made it clear that this process will take time, you should wait a little while before texting her. You don't want to be too aggressive about it, but you don't want to just sit back for a long period of time and wait for her to do something. It has to be a mutual effort for it to work. If I were you, I'd wait a couple days before texting her again. If she texts you in that time, great! If not, send her a quick text just saying hey or whatever.
Hopefully after that, she'll make a move and text you next. At the end of your next conversation say, 'call or text me whenever you feel like talking'. That leaves it open for her to get in contact with you whenever she feels ready to. After that, give her some space until she texts you.
If more than a week goes by and she doesn't text, I'd try it one last time. Just send another quick text saying hey. If she doesn't make any effort to contact you, I'd give it up for a while. If you try all of that and she's not reciprocating anything, it's obvious that she either doesn't want to be friends right now or she's just not ready for it.
Either way, leave her be for a month or so and see if she contacts you. Hopefully you won't have to do all of that. It would be great if she just started talking to you more now and you both opened up to each other slowly. But if worse comes to worse, you can't force someone into a friendship, so you'll just have to give it up for the time being.
It sounds like she does want to be friends though. She seems cautious, which is expected. Just make sure that if you do become friends again, she understands why you stopped hanging out with her in the first place. You don't want a repeat of what happened before.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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ok so i went on holiday to the beach and meet this guy from another country, we hang out and meet everyday that i was there (5 days) he was going to stay longer , anyway we kissed and more and he said he really wanted to hook up with me , but i said i wouldnt and he was fine with it and stay with me late all night everyday hanging at the beach and just talkin having a good time, kissing and stuff etc anyway after that he asked for my phone and email and he gave me his, anyway i didnt write back or anything and for the next week after i left the place (like right the next day i left where we met ) he was callin me everyday and textin for the whole week while he was there ( it seemed stranged to me cause he was at a beach where he went clubbing everyday and could easily hook up with anyone else), eventhough we know the chances of meetin again are VERY slim if not impossible, anyway so he added me and we've been talking ever since he got back to his country we talk almost everyday for 3 to 4 hours on aim, anyway i found that through one of my friends that was there with me on holiday that this guy has a gf in his country i never asked him but yea i remember his brother sayin he has a gf so thats what i thought and according to me hes been with this girl for about 2 years , also he lives in a small town so probably thats when i though ok maybe he just didnt care cmuch ause maybe hes not into her that much anymore also his town is so small hes probably with her cause hes used to and stuff (cause i know they have the same friends hang with the same peopel)...anyway my question is ..why do you think he asked for my number and email and kept calling me and is still texting me at least once every 2 days and we takl everyday , at first i though ok maybe he did said at the begining id like to stay in touch with you because he wanted me to sleep with him..but that was even after i said i wouldnt, and it was already my last night at the city?....i mean whats the point? at first he was like give me your number and we were at the club and i asked why? you're not even going to call hahaha ..and he was like i swear i will please give it to me to,so he manage to find a pen at the club haha and wrote my number in a very little paper and kept it, and he was like "actually i feel kinda stupid because i know you probably wont keep in touch with me even if i do"......what do you think?
I think you should figure out what's going on with his girlfriend back home before you pursue a long-distance relationship (if that's what you're going for). Ask him first if he does have a girlfriend back home. If he denies it, let him know that your friend had found out on holiday that he did have a girlfriend and that you were just wondering if it was the truth or not.
If he does have a girlfriend, it's best to stop before you get your feelings involved any more. You'll just be setting yourself up to get hurt. If a guy would cheat on someone he's been dating for two years, what would stop him from cheating on you (a new girl)?
He should have told you that he has a girlfriend back home (if he does). And he definitely shouldn't have tried to hook up with you and kissed you if he does have someone back home.
The only reason I can think of that he would do this is that he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He might have met you and liked you because he was out of his normal small town environment. You have no idea if he will go home and be a good boyfriend to his girlfriend.
Either way, don't let yourself be dragged around like that. He needs to choose to either date his local girlfriend or date you long distance. You need to set things straight with him and let him make his decision.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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if i get red dr marten shoes should i get them in leather or the shiny plastic like ones
Depends what your style is. If you're more of a punk, go with the leather. If you're getting them for a fashion thing, go with shiny plastic.
-Darby
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im planning on getting braces beacuse one of my teeth are growing inward but my question is what are spacers? what do they do? where do they put them? and do they hurt?
,angelica
Spacers are tiny blue rubberband-like things that they put between two teeth to create a space. The space it creates will be used when they put the braces in. You'll have two on the top and two on the bottom, most likely. They are somewhat painful because they create a gap in your teeth. But it's not an all-at-once pain. You have the spacers in for a week, so they create the space slowly. Just take some Tylenol and the pain will subside for the most part.
Darby(:
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Hey darby,
its me Jess again =) the girl who asked you all the questions about that guy dean..thank you for all that its all cleared up now and im over him completely.
However recently I have a few more problems,i was going to ask theese publicly but since you gave me such good advice last time i thought id ask you hope you dont mind.
I don't even know where to start with all this so if it gets to be too long i apologise.
Okay my main problem is my bestfriend dave is treating me like crap basicly. (the one we have established has feelings for me) Him and my cousin laura who lives in a seperate county to us sort of had a thing going on whenever they would see each other,but then he started playing her against this other girl and tried to get a way with hooking up with both. he asked me not to say anything and I told him to pick one or the other.
typical male he didnt.I didnt say anything to laura because i didnt wanna be the one to make her feel like crap.and he should be man enough to do it but he didnt,so then she was talking to me about it a couple of months after she had her suspicions of another girl so i told her everything and she was so upset and mad with him.
then he got mad at me for telling even though she had a right to know and i wasnt going to lie to my own cousin he then tries to tell her that i was in on it the whole time and helped him do it!he apologised then and she forgave him but said theyd stay friends only.
so that was fine,but i invited laura down to spend this week with me because i felt bad for her being stuck at home bored(and her brothers going out with her bestfriend) and we weree going to go to this big theme park. she was really excited and said thanks she couldnt wait..then i get a text from dave saying i hear lauras staying in your house i need a favour..i need to stay in your house one of the days shes down(he rarely asks to stay in my house anymore) she says she misses me..
I text back saying..she misses you..after what you did i ask her down for a week and she misses you.
he said then have you a problem with me all of a sudden,I said i have a problem with being used yes.
he said oh so its okay for you to use me but its different when its the other way around.
i said how have i ever used you,and he said oh asking me for help with your problems with dean and whatever else..
i said you call that using?thats what friends do help each other then i told him i dont want to talk to him im tired and mad.
he said then you know what jess go to sleep for yourself i dont care anymore using you ha you make me laugh big time.
so as of now Im really mad with both of them because if she did say that to him then shes only coming down to get with him again sorry if it seems im over reacting but i dont think thats fair to me.
now onto a more serious issue that is linked to my problems with dave also (god im sorry if this is confusing you!)
a couple of weeks back at my friends 17th birthday we all went out to a nightclub and this guy basicly took advantage of my friend rachael when she was drunk he locked her in the bathroom and forced her to have sex with him.
thursday night i was out with my two older sisters and their friends and this guy started flirting with me then asked me out to the bathroom.. luckily my sister noticed and draged me away because he turned out to be the same guy.
I was really shaken after it so I text dave...he basicly made out that it was my fault.
I said oh so its my fault i went out to have a good time and some sleezebag tries to take advantage of me. he was just being so horrible.
(we are reporting the guy who did it to my friend btw)
he text me today then saying are you off with me
i replied saying :
Yes i am.dont even ask me why oh and btw the guy who tried to get me into the bathroom with him is the same guy who raped rachael but oh yea i forgot that was all my fault and you don't care anymore I really dont want to talk about shit with you now.
he replied so your off with me for no reason,i text back saying no reason?.look this is it i cant take this anymore.
his reponse whats it take what?.
so you see my problem,my best friend has changed completely this has been building up and similar stuff has happend but i kept overlooking it everyone has said not to talk to him anymore but its so hard to just abondon a friendship like ours,ive known him since I was 6.
im now 16 so thats 10years. his family and mine are super close and if we stop talking it will be so weird but I cant take the way hes being towards me anymore and he doesnt seem to think hes doing anything wrong and reverts everything back to me,he never sees where im coming from anymore or seems to be considerate of my feelings. Im just so confused. any advice would be so much aprciated and Im really very sorry for this ridiculously long bable of my dilemas.
-Jess
Hey Jess,
Okay, I'll address the issue with Dave and Laura first. I really don't blame you for being upset with them for this. It's obvious that (if she said she missed Dave) they probably talked about it and decided that he should come stay at your house when she does. It's especially obvious since, as you said, Dave hardly asks to stay at your house anymore.
That's really not fair to you because you were honest enough to tell your cousin what happened. Dave shouldn't have gotten angry that you told your cousin, I mean, she is your cousin after all. Of course you don't want to see her get dragged about like that. It only makes sense that you would tell her because she is family.
But if she's just going to automatically forgive him and run back to him, I wouldn't give her any more warnings about him. She should already know what's going on because you told her before.
If I were you, I would ask Laura if she told Dave that she misses him. If she admits to it, ask her if she's wanting Dave to spend the night at your house when she does. If she admits to that too, tell her that you think it's wrong of her and Dave to use you for a place to hook up like that, especially after the drama that happened earlier with Dave and the love triangle.
If it comes out that they really are using you just for a place to hang out, I wouldn't let either of them come stay at your place. That's just not right. Laura was supposed to come to your place to go to the theme park with you, not to ditch you for your best friend.
Next, I'm really sorry about your friend and I wish her the best. That's scary and I'm glad it didn't end up happening to you, too. Close call, huh? It's good that you guys are turning him in; he deserves it.
That was really inappropriate of Dave not to show any caring whatsoever towards you when something so bad almost happened. He definitely should have handled that situation better. It would be one thing to say, "Wow, Jess, you really need to be careful" But it's a completely different thing to blame it all on you. He should be more compassionate.
The thing with people, especially guys it seems, they don't understand things that seem like common sense a lot of times. It seems like it would be obvious that he should be more compassionate and caring for you after all this time, but he really might not see anything he's doing as 'wrong' per say. He probably knows that he should be a better friend than he's being right now, but he probably also feels like his behaviour is justified.
I think you need to talk to him about what has been going on between the two of you. I knew that the whole Dean thing upset him a lot, because we've established that he has feelings for you, as you said. But him giving advice about the Dean thing and you giving him a place to hook up with your cousin is a totally different thing.
Tell him that you don't want to throw away your friendship, since you guys have been friends for 10 years. But tell him that you think he needs to be more compassionate. Tell him specifically the things that he's been doing that have hurt your feelings. Start your sentences with something like, "It really hurt my feelings when you (insert something he's done) because I felt like you should have (insert what would have been a better choice on his part/why it hurt your feelings)"
Try to leave out things like, "This is all your fault because ...!" You have to take the blame (what little you have) for some of the things or he'll feel like he's just being attacked. There's nothing wrong with admitting that Dean definitely wasn't right for you and that Dave was right about that. If you do that, he'll at least feel like you're admitting your mistakes and he'll be more likely to own up to a few of the things that he's done.
If he doesn't take to the conversation well and just gets angry or yells, I'd say it's almost time to throw in the towel. It will be awkward because your family's are close, but you don't want him to keep treating you like that. You'll have to take action eventually.
Give him a little more time though. I don't think you're overreacting really, but you don't want to stop being friends with him without giving him a couple more weeks to start treating you better.
Once you talk to him and tell him how you're feeling and what you'd like to see him do differently, you'll know that you did what you could do to salvage your friendship. This will especially be so if you give him a couple weeks or so to straighten things out before completely dumping him as a friend.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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so I just asked the question "siblings bringing up ex bf" and my sister (who has an account on advicenators) answered my question, acting like a victim in a "different situation." I rated her a three (which means decent enough advice) because I thought it was horrible how she was lying. she saw I rated her a three and told me she knew the question was from me, and that she was going to file an abuse report, so she did, saying that she didnt know it was my question, and that I was purposely lowering her rating. help?
I have no say on this either, but I think you're right. Three means decent advice. Unless her advice was completely wonderful, she should have let it go. I think that's abuse of the abuse report system.
-Darby
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hi, 17/m, from the UK.
My girlfriend went to the states on the 13th of july. First she went to seattle, and the day she went to sanfrancisco, she text me, and i tried ringing her, but she hasnt picked up since. She went to San Francisco about 4/5days ago. Before that we talked regularly, either texting or talking on the phone- it would cost more but we didnt mind. But now, it goes straight to voice-mail. Like its off, or dead. Any ideas? what could have happened? how do i know if she is ok? i havnt heard from her at all since. thanks a lot.
It sounds like her phone is either dead or broke. She probably either lost her phone charger and is unable to charge her phone or her phone doesn't work anymore. Either way, you should send her a text message or leave her a voicemail telling her to contact you as soon as she gets your message. If you have the mobile numbers of anyone she's on holiday with, try ringing or texting them. If she has an e-mail address or web page you think she might check while she's away, leave her a message on there also. Once you do all that, you just have to sit back and wait for her to get into contact with you.
Darby(:
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This is my story:I have this guy friend who i've known for 3 years but we used to hate each other before we made out and well the other night he came over to my friends house and he brought a friend too and well him and my friend were kinda hooking up but he kissed me and we werer really wasted so i didn't know what i was doing and the next thing i moticed was the lights were out and i was dry humping with him.... does that make me a slut and could i get pregnate from that????
I don't think that makes you a slut. You'd have to be doing a lot more than that to really be considered a slut. And, no, you cannot get pregnant from dry-humping.
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well...my boyfriend. i've given him many many many chances and recently he told me that he got drunk and almost had sex with a girl but stopped bc of me. i dont know wat to do. i would die if i dumped him i really really like him too much. what should i do about him?? ♥ thankks youu
You need to break up with him. Yeah, it will suck for a while and you'll miss him. But anyone who's willing to almost have sex with a girl just cos they're drunk doesn't really care about they're gf all that much. It's good that he stopped for you, I guess? But if he really cared about you, he wouldn't put himself in the position to have to stop for you. He wouldn't have even started for you. I'm guessing this isn't the only problem you've had with him either because you've said that you've given him tons of chances.
If you keep giving him chances, he's going to think that he can do whatever he wants and you'll just give him more chances. I mean, really, it sounds like he just wants to start a fight with you or something. It seems like he wouldn't even bring that up if he hadn't done anything with the girl. And what does it mean to 'almost have sex with someone'? Does that mean they were close to being in the act and they stopped, or they were halfway in the act and they stopped, or they were taking their clothes off and they stopped or does it mean they didn't do anything at all?
Either way, you're probably setting yourself up to be hurt if you're constantly having to give him more and more chances. Save yourself the major heartache and take a break from this guy for a while. At least talk to him and tell him that you're not going to give him any more chances. Tell him that if there's one more incident like this, you'll be breaking up with him.
Good luck,
Darby
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Ok, so I like this guy right?
I didn’t tell anybody that I liked him, so one of my best friends, decides to go out with him
I’m really confused, because now, she’s not talking to me anymore, so I’m thinking that she knew that I liked him and she asked him out during the Mission Trip, that I didn’t go on, to make me jealous. I don’t know why she would want to make me jealous, but I think that what she’s trying to do. I had to find out from 2 girls that questioned him and I overheard, and I think that the fact that she didn’t tell me herself, that she didn’t want me to know about her secret relationship. According to some of my other friends, they’ve been together for a while now. What should I do?
Well, she didn't technically steal your guy because you didn't tell her that you liked him. For all you know, they've been dating longer than you've liked him. You said they've been together for a while now. Maybe she's not talking to you because she thinks that you already knew they were together and she found out somehow that you like him. Or, maybe she knew you liked him and she started dating him and she's not talking to you know because she feels guilty or thinks that you're mad at her.
At any rate, you should talk to her about it. Ask her why she didn't tell you that they started dating. Normally, a close friend would tell you when they start dating someone. She might have a simple explanation for what's going on.
Darby
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OK my friend asked who I think she is going out with?And I told her the person who I think she is!And she wont answer me and I like this boy alot and I have for a long time and she knows that!!! and I dont know if she is lieing or not and if this boy even cares about me?
It could really go either way. We don't know what's going on, so the only advice to be given is that you should tell your best friend that you really like the boy and that you want to know who she's dating. If she's not answering you, it could mean that she's hiding something. Tell her that you want to be able to trust her, but you won't be able to if she's keeping things from you.
Darby(:
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my BFF has this bf....he's ugly, rude, and grr meannn. the other day i said i'd give him another chance. but this was like the 6th time ive said this to her! then friday at a football game me, her and a bunch of our friends went there and her bf had friends there too. it was all fine but then we were joking around and i guess he really can not take a joke. so then he thought my friend [[his gf]] told him to go away, but it was my other friend just kidding. so then he got all mad. then he took her away from us and we thought she was dissing us or something. then they came back. then they went off again. blah blah blah. then it was time to leave. we were standing by a fence so we wouldnt get trampled over then he was all making fun of me and saying i was stupid and somehting about flying pigs? yeah i dont know. so then i asked if he could please stop. but nooooo he kept going on. so then i was saying how he kept looking down her shirt [[clearly everyone could see that and he denied it and called me a lesbo which i am CLEARLY not but he kept going on]] and i told him i was going to kick him if he didnt stop [[cause i'd figure hed stop]] but noooooooooooooooo so i went to "kick" him [[i wasnt going to]] but he put his hand out and i ended up kicking him in the hand? then he was all cussing out trying to be cool :/ and hes like u jammed my finger bitch blah blah blahh... so then i kept going off with my other friend to find this guy i like --hehe-- but we went back and my friends like lets have a talk with u [[me]] and him. yeah, so i was talking to my other friend whispering but all i was saying was inside jokes. then my friends bf kept hugging her and when i mean hugging he was like squeezing so he hugged her once, and then hes like bye, then he hugged her again, then hes like, "one more hug before i go" dude so im talking to my other friend telling her hes only hugging her to get to her boobs. and before all this he was being lazy and just wanted to be with her alone. grrrrrr what do i do summer ive tried everything and everytime i say its okay shes going out with him, everythings fine, then a few days later, everything gets worse then it was before!!!!!! i really dont know what to do anymore
Bottomline is you can't stop your friend from dating who she wants, even if you find that person to be repulsive. The best thing for you to do is hang out with her separately. Don't go hang out with them together. Your friend clearly knows how you feel about him because you've talked about it before. Just say, "I've given him a lot of chances, but I would really rather not be around him anymore."
As much as she doesn't have to break up with him, you don't have to deal with being around him. It's not as though you're jumping to conclusions if you've tried to hang out with him and he's been rude/mean/annoying every time.
If that's the type of person your friend wants to date, you've got to let her do what she wants to do. In your question, I see faults on both of your parts. I think you've probably just got clashing personalities, which is just something that happens in life. It's best to just separate yourself from that person and move on with things.
When their relationship runs its phase and they've broken up, it won't be a big deal anymore. But, until then, he must make your friend happy. It's nice that you've tried to get along with him. But it can't be fun for your friend to have her boyfriend and best friend fighting all the time. It seems to me that it would be easier to step back and let their things run their course, and just hang out with her when he's not going to be involved.
Darby(:
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