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I am dating an older man. Will it last?
I am a 22 year old woman dating a 39 year old man. We've been together for almost 2 years now. I love him very much and he loves me.
Can our relationship last despite our age difference?
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Depends on what you want.
Witty has a very good point: If you want children, the age difference is a big problem.
If you want to be a stay-at-home wife or mother, you have a problem. He'll be ready too, and might need to retire.
If the two of you have compatiable goals and plans, maybe you've got a chance. After two years togeather however, don't you know you should the answer to this question yourself?
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I'm a firm believer in love overpowering all and I think that age is just a number. If you really love each other, the age difference won't matter. Sure, it might be a bit strange at first, but if you really want to be with him and he really wants to be with you, you'll get over it.
-Laura (17-f)
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If thats all you have to say on the subject, probably not.
He'll be 60 before your kids were in college. Its not a good idea, personally.
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I have seen (throughout my whole life) SO MANY people, with huge age differences, fall in love. And not only that, they last.
As you said, you are with this man, you love him, and obviously you're going to have stuff in common with him. You don't love him because the two of you are different and have no common ground, but because there is a common factor involved. Therefore the whole "a man his age and a woman your age will be in different stages" is completely irrelevant because you both found similarities in each other already. It's not like you're a 16 year old who is mistaking lust for love. Luckily, you already found love, age shouldn't change that.
My parents (24 year age difference) are still happily married. They said that once they both became comfortable with the age difference, there was nothing that could separate them.
If you believe this man is special, don't let age change your mind.
I wish you luck!
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Only you can ask yourself this question.
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I agree with the other person that people that are 39 are in a far different stage in their life than a 22 year old. That doesn't mean that you can't make the relationship work though. Each relationship is an individual situation. There is no guidebook on these kind of things. Sometimes age differences have little effect on a couple, and sometimes the age difference tears a couple apart.
As long as you both acknowledge that you are at different stages of your lives and are understanding with each other, things should be okay. It's just a matter of being okay with the other person being in a different place. Don't expect him to be exactly like you, and he shouldn't expect you to be exactly like him. If you remember these things, your relationship has a decent chance at survival.
Darby(:
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It's possible it can work out, However there is always a possibly it won't work. Honestly, People of that age difference are normally in different stages in their lives. A man of 39 years has exspereinced a lot more in life than someone of the age 22. The question is DO YOU think it will work? There must be a reason if you asked us on advicenators.
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