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Asking a girl out
So I'm to the point in my friendship with a girl that I'm ready to ask her out, and I think she likes me too although of course I'm nervous anyway. SO I have thought of about 3 ways to do it and I want to know which one I should use.
1) Just straight up tell her my feelings for her. Probably the most risky one in my opinion. Also then "ask" her if she feels the same way.
2) Be funny about it, and make it not a question but more of a command, like "so when are you going to let me take you out on a date?" Like with a smirk, and real direct. To me this seems less risky and less awkward. But of course she could laugh it off and I wouldn't get an answer.
3) Play 20 questions with her, and like for all my questions it would be "do you like a guy," and then ask questions describing myself "is he tall," "does he like sports," etc. and then for the last question I would ask if she wanted to be my girlfriend. This sounds the funnest, but I think it would be really hard to steer the conversation that way.
4) I'll also take any other suggestions, thanks!!!
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1. This IS your best option. Be honest and open with her (she'll respect it and love the confidence). Being open with her and telling her how you feel, straight up, is a good way to start a relationship.
2. This is not a good idea. Honestly? If a guy did this to me, I'd think he was cocky and arrogant. I'd probably just walk away and shake my head.
3. This is a really cute idea, but I don't think it's the best. It probably WOULD be hard to steer the conversation that way, unless you really tried. Maybe you could ask her something like "Does his name start with *first letter of your name* and end with *last letter of your name*?".
4. My best friend made a mix CD for the girl he liked, and with the first letter of each song title spelled out "Will you be my girlfriend?" I thought it was cute, and she said yes ;)
Honestly, though, I think the first option if your best. I know I love a guy that has confidence; I think most girls do. So if you just tell her how you're feeling and ask her out, she'd probably appreciate it.
Good luck!
-Laura (17-f)
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tell her straight up, dont be immature about telling her..let her know how you feel, you got nothing to loose.
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Just tell her you have feelings for her! It's direct, let's her know you're serious, and will probably relieve her that she knows you like her too. Believe me, it makes a girl feel a lot better when guys just ask them out..otherwise, nothing will probably ever happen. I like #2..it's a nice way to go about it. #3...is not a good idea, she'll probably end up getting annoyed with all the questions, just being honest..haha.
Anyway! Definitely try the #1 way. It's great :)
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Number two isn't a good idea because it could send mixed signals. She won't know whether you're being serious or if you're just messing around with her. Then, if she does like you, she'd be more nervous to say it.
Number one is always a good option if you're pretty sure the girl likes you too. But, if you do that, you stand the chance of getting straight up rejected. If I liked a guy, I'd want him to just directly tell me that he likes me. But if I didn't like a guy, I wouldn't want him to do this. It creates a confrontational type situation where you have to give a direct answer or things will turn awkward quickly. If I were you, I probably wouldn't do this.
Number three is probably your best choice in this situation, but I'd do it in a different way. At first, just ask normal questions, you don't want to just jump into 20 questions with, "Hey! You like anyone??" that'll be really obvious.
Instead you should wait until 3 or 4 questions in. Really, it wouldn't be hard to steer the conversation in that direction. It always seems to go in that direction regardless.
Once you've asked a few questions, you can ask her if she likes anyone. If she says yes, say something like, 'Oh, do I know him?' Something cute like that will make it somewhat humorous so it won't be awkward.
The conversation, of course, will just go on from there. If she says you do know him, ask how well. If she says very well, say where do I know him from or something like that. You'll be dancing around the subject and acting totally oblivious, but after a couple minutes, you'll get around to the real questions and get the answers to the questions you've got.
good luck!
Darby(:
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Number one or three would be the best option. Number two is bad because of the fact that you could both just laugh it off and pretend it's a joke. When asking someone out, you should really let yourself be vulnerable.
Number three sounds really cute, but some girls might find it creepy. You probably know her well enough to know how she would respond to this. Number one is really a safe bet. Being straight forward will give you the most direct clear answer.
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